B6 THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD • TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 22, 2022
COFFEE BREAK
Relationship with boyfriend is now a dangerous nightmare
wear leggings and tank tops). He has
monitored Zoom meetings that I go
to.
All of the watching and following
is without my permission or knowl-
edge. He usually tells me about it later,
saying he only does it “out of love.”
This has been going on for a few years.
Why do I put up with it? I have tried to
break up. It started after a few months
together. But he guilted me into stay-
ing, saying he’d be all alone. Or he’d kill
himself. Then I found out he filmed us
having sex a few times, and he’s threat-
ening that if I don’t stay, people will
see it.
Please tell me what to do. I have no
self-esteem left, and yes, I feel like the
slut that I am made out to be. I’m not
DEAR ABBY: I am in a relationship I
can’t get out of. I was told by my “boy-
friend” that what he’s doing is normal.
He says it’s what people who love each
other do, and he loves me more than
anyone has ever loved me. I have told
him repeatedly that I don’t love him.
He drives by my house and follows
me to work. He has also watched to
make sure I’m going where I said, like
to the gym and the store. He tells me
that every man wants to have sex with
me, and that I dress too sexy (I mostly
sure what you can do to help me. I have
no one to talk to. — ANONYMOUS
PRISONER
DEAR PRISONER: This person
doesn’t “love” you. Your boyfriend is
an abuser, a stalker and an extortion-
ist. You are right that you need some-
one to talk to. Actually, I can think
of more than one. Pick up the phone
and call 800-799-7233. It’s the toll-free
number of the National Domestic Vi-
olence Hotline. A counselor there will
be happy to offer suggestions on how
to deal with your abuser. During the
conversation, ask whether his threat
to make the sex tape public should
be reported to the police. (I think it
should be.)
P.S. And please stop feeling guilty. If
DEAR MOURNING: Please accept my
deepest sympathy for the death of your
son. Because you have no one to con-
fide in, it’s important you start talking
with a grief counselor about the dou-
ble loss you have experienced. It will
take time to work through the sadness
you are feeling in the aftermath of your
son’s passing. While no one can blame
you for your anger at your wife for her
poor timing, once your sadness lessens,
you may realize how fortunate you are
to finally be freed from a 41-year un-
happy marriage.
you are worried that he might kill him-
self if you end the relationship, don’t
be. He has no intention of following
through.
DEAR ABBY: Our son died suddenly
a month ago. It was a terrible shock.
That same day, his mother (my wife)
announced, “We are done!” as a cou-
ple. We’ve been married 41 years, but
our relationship has always been rocky.
She hasn’t spoken to me since then.
I have two areas of deep grief and no
one to talk with to share the agony of
losing a son and a marriage simulta-
neously. Family members and close
friends have been sympathetic, but
most don’t know what to say. Any ad-
vice would be welcomed. — MOURN-
ING IN TENNESSEE
Turkey
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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren,
also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded
by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear
Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box
69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
2 tablespoons salsa verde
Drain coleslaw. Mix salsa verde
into the coleslaw. Divide between
two dinner plates.
Yield 2 servings.
Per serving: 243 calories (62%
from fat), 16.8 g fat (3 g saturated,
no monounsaturated), 15 mg
cholesterol, 1.8 g protein, 23.5 g
carbohydrates, 3.3 g fi ber, 495 mg
sodium.
Coleslaw and salsa verde
combine to make a spicy side dish
for your turkey quesadilla.
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TURKEY
QUESADILLA
saturated, 3.9 g monounsat-
urated), 117 mg cholesterol,
55.7 g protein, 17.7 g carbo-
hydrates, 6.5 g fiber, 711 mg
sodium.
Recipe by Linda Gassenheimer
2 8-inch light whole wheat
fl our tortillas
3/4 cup shredded low-fat
pepper jack cheese
10 ounces cooked turkey
breast (cut into thin
strips) (about 2 cups)
1/4 cup sliced pimento
1 tablespoon seeded, sliced
jalapeno pepper
cheese to the tortillas, covering
half of each one. Add the
turkey over the cheese and
then the pimento and jalapeno
peppers. Fold each tortilla
over. Heat a large skillet over
medium heat. Add the folded
tortillas and cover the skillet
with a lid. Turn the heat down
Place the two tortillas on a
countertop. Divide all the
ingredients in half. Add the
to low and cook 2 minutes.
Turn the folded tortillas over
with a wide spatula. Cover the
skillet with the lid and cook
another 2 minutes. Watch to
make sure the tortillas don’t
burn. Place each tortilla on a
dinner plate and serve with the
coleslaw.
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Yield 2 servings.
COLESLAW
WITH SALSA
VERDE
Per serving: 411 calories
Recipe by Linda Gassenheimer
of over 30 cookbooks, including her
newest, “The 12-Week Diabetes
Cookbook.” Listen to Linda on
www.WDNA.org and all major
podcast sites. Email her at Linda@
1 1/2 cups deli coleslaw
(33% from fat), 15.2 g fat (7 g
Linda Gassenheimer is the author
DinnerInMinutes.com.
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AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION
Astoria
Longview
43/54
Kennewick
43/54
St. Helens
42/54
39/52
38/52
44/54
40/55
Condon
WED
THU
FRI
SAT
An evening
shower or two
Variably cloudy;
milder
Partly sunny
Sun through
high clouds
Morning snow
showers
45 25
44 28
45 26
Eugene
3
2
2
43/54
47 33
45 34
46 31
3
2
0
Comfort Index™
La Grande
3
30 47 29
Comfort Index™
Enterprise
0
0
5
31 43 31
Comfort Index™
1
47 35
44 30
8
5
0
3
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Sunday
Low Sunday
High: 82°
Low: -16°
Wettest: 4.70”
38°
5°
39°
22°
41°
11°
0.00
0.55
0.48
6.26
7.96
0.00
2.74
1.28
13.67
14.86
0.00
5.13
1.96
25.52
20.99
PRECIPITATION (inches)
Sunday
Month to date
Normal month to date
Year to date
Normal year to date
HAY INFORMATION WEDNESDAY
45%
S at 4 to 8 mph
0.3
0.05
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Monday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
1% of capacity
28% of capacity
10% of capacity
27% of capacity
9% of capacity
9% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Sunday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
Burnt River near Unity
Umatilla River near Gibbon
Minam River at Minam
Powder River near Richland
SUN & MOON
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
TUE.
WED.
7:00 a.m.
4:16 p.m.
5:27 a.m.
3:29 p.m.
7:01 a.m.
4:16 p.m.
6:48 a.m.
4:00 p.m.
MOON PHASES
70 cfs
0 cfs
8 cfs
61 cfs
N.A.
19 cfs
Grants Pass
Brookings
New
Nov 23
First
Nov 30
Full
Dec 7
Last
Dec 16
Jordan Valley
29/41
Paisley
14/37
Frenchglen
27/42
Klamath Falls
26/46
Hi/Lo/W
54/38/c
51/33/c
46/25/c
60/45/c
39/13/pc
59/36/c
54/36/sh
40/21/c
45/29/c
54/35/sh
51/30/c
52/36/c
45/27/c
45/31/c
41/31/c
49/27/c
46/21/c
39/15/pc
Hi/Lo/W
56/45/pc
59/41/s
44/30/pc
60/45/pc
47/20/s
59/42/pc
56/36/pc
43/24/pc
48/35/s
57/38/pc
42/29/s
49/34/pc
49/41/s
54/32/s
53/35/s
39/27/s
52/26/s
48/18/s
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28/51
RECREATION FORECAST WEDNESDAY
City
Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
WED.
THU.
Hi/Lo/W
45/33/c
54/37/sh
43/28/c
55/35/c
56/40/c
53/33/sh
43/27/c
49/27/c
51/30/c
54/39/sh
61/39/c
53/31/c
53/37/sh
55/36/sh
36/28/c
52/36/c
44/29/c
51/30/c
Hi/Lo/W
51/34/s
54/40/pc
49/36/s
56/37/s
60/43/pc
56/37/pc
43/25/pc
42/27/s
46/33/s
54/38/pc
62/44/s
56/37/s
58/41/s
57/39/pc
43/33/pc
49/33/s
53/37/s
40/32/s
Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain,
sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice
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Grand View
Arock
31/46
Lakeview
16/39
REGIONAL CITIES
City
Astoria
Bend
Boise
Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
Diamond
27/39
Fields
Shown is Wednesday’s weather. Temperatures are Tuesday night’s lows and Wednesday’s highs.
THU.
Boise
28/46
32/50
37/55
WED.
23/39
Silver Lake
27/44
Medford
42/60
Juntura
20/39
43/59
Brookings
Lakeview
From John Winthrop’s Journal, Nov. 22,
1641, at Boston: “A great tempest of wind
and rain from Southeast all night, as fi erce
as a hurricane....”
43/53
Ontario
23/43
Burns
21/42
Chiloquin
OREGON
WEATHER HISTORY
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
42/61
Anaheim, Calif.
Yellowstone N.P., Wyo.
Opa Locka, Fla.
High: 60°
Low: -8°
Wettest: none
19/38
Roseburg
Powers
Brothers
23/43
Beaver Marsh
42/59
Huntington
28/42
29/51
Oakridge
24/40
25/43
Seneca
41/55
Coos Bay
SUNDAY EXTREMES
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
29/45
Bend
Elkton
Council
25/45
John Day
29/53
29/51
Florence
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
ALMANAC
Sisters
43/56
52 34
25/41
Baker City
Redmond
40/56
44/59
Halfway
Granite
29/41
40/53
44/55
Corvallis
36/47
41/54
Newport
Enterprise
31/43
30/47
Monument
33/48
Idanha
Salem
TONIGHT
25 45 20
Elgin
33/45
La Grande
35/46
Maupin
Baker City
38/51
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
44/56
36/45
Hood River
36/51
TIllamook
Lewiston
Walla Walla
31/49
Vancouver
40/52
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ANTHONY LAKES
PHILLIPS LAKE
Variable clouds
Variable clouds
33
20
42
24
MT. EMILY REC.
BROWNLEE RES.
Mostly cloudy
Variable clouds
39
30
45
26
EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
Mostly cloudy
Variable clouds
34
17
41
27
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
Variable clouds
Mostly cloudy
41
31
48
33
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
Not as cold
Milder
45
20
47
29
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