COFFEE BREAK
B6 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
SATuRDAY, JuLY 16, 2022
Husband, wife disrespect his parents without remorse
activities” they are having are the
ones that are the most important
and ones he will remember. We
are not invited to participate in
the secondary activities, which
include a hockey game, trip to
the petting zoo and family photos
or videos.
We try to support our son and
daughter-in-law, but we do not
feel respected and loved in return.
When we invite them for dinner,
they arrive an hour or two late
or don’t show up at all. We send
them text messages, but they don’t
respond. We offer to help and are
there for them when they ask us
to be, regardless of our personal
consequence. What can we do?
— OVERFLOWING WITH
LOVE
DEAR OVERFLOWING:
When I read that your daugh-
DEAR ABBY: I have two
sons I’m very proud of. My hus-
band and I have raised them to be
respectful and to make respon-
sible decisions. However, I go to
bed in tears each night feeling we
have failed.
Our elder son is married
and has a son, our grandson,
“Charlie,” who is dear to our
hearts. Charlie is celebrating
his second birthday, and our
daughter-in-law told me they are
having a birthday party for him
and we are invited. She added
that she feels the “secondary
sacrifice less when they snap their
fingers.
DEAR ABBY: I have been
working with a therapist on cre-
ating healthy boundaries with
my family. I moved out of state
with my husband to ensure that
those boundaries are met because
my parents have alcohol and
verbal abuse issues. My younger
sister “Maya” became engaged
recently, and she is at a very
exciting time in her life, planning
her wedding.
Here’s the thing: I have no
interest in hearing about, helping
to plan or being a part of the wed-
ding because Maya and I have
nothing in common other than our
parents. She’s self-absorbed and
rude. Her fiance is an introvert, so
getting to know him is incredibly
difficult. How do I politely convey
ter-in-law told you that you
weren’t invited to the special
events surrounding Charlie’s
birthday, my initial reaction was
that she may have thought they
would be too much for you and
your husband to handle. How-
ever, when you described that
your dinner invitations are treated
like garbage and they don’t have
enough respect to return your
calls and texts in a timely manner,
it occurs to me that you have been
so overflowing with love that you
have been taken for granted.
You may have raised your son
well, but your daughter-in-law
appears to be running the show.
Her parents may take precedence
on the hierarchy of importance,
and if that’s the case, you and
your husband need to clear the air
with your son and his wife, and
this to Maya or (more impor-
tantly) my mother without causing
hurt feelings? — MOVED
AWAY IN THE MIDWEST
DEAR MOVED: You may
not be able to avoid hearing about
the wedding if you are in com-
munication with your mother and
sister. But you have the advan-
tage of living far away from them.
If you are asked to assist in plan-
ning Maya’s wedding, politely,
logically (and regretfully) explain
that your busy schedule as well
as the geographic distance make
your involvement impossible. You
should, however, attend if you’re
invited.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren,
also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was
founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.
Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com
or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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NEWS OF THE WEIRD
US tourist falls into crater of Mount Vesuvius, is rescued
The Associated Press
ROME — An American
tourist had to be rescued
on Mount Vesuvius near
Naples after he apparently
slipped into the Italian vol-
cano’s crater while trying to
recover his fallen cellphone,
news reports and the asso-
ciation of Vesuvius park
guides said.
The tourist and family
members were cited by Car-
abinieri police because they
went off the authorized path
to get closer to the crater
on Saturday, July 9, appar-
ently to take a selfie, the
LaPresse news agency said.
The head of the Con-
fesercenti tourism associ-
ation for Vesuvius, Paolo
Cappelli, said four volcano
guides responded immedi-
ately after one noticed the
tourist had fallen into the
crater and was in “serious
difficulty.”
In a statement, Cappelli
said the guides lowered a
rope 50 feet into the crater,
pulled the tourist out and
provided initial first aid,
after he suffered abrasions
on his legs, arm and back.
Carabinieri park police then
arrived and brought the
American to the police sta-
tion to file the complaint,
Cappelli said.
Mount Vesuvius, which
erupted in AD 79 and dev-
astated the nearby town of
Pompeii, is a popular spot
for hiking.
Pet caught after weeks
on the run at airport
BOSTON — A fami-
ly’s beloved pet cat that’s
been dodging airport per-
sonnel, airline employees,
Gregorio Borgia/The Associated Press, File
Clouds hang over the Vesuvius volcano in Pompeii, southern Italy, Jan. 25, 2021. An American tourist had to be rescued on Mount Vesuvius near Naples after he apparently slipped
into the volcano’s crater.
and animal experts since
escaping from a pet carrier
at Boston’s Logan Interna-
tional Airport about three
weeks ago was finally
caught Wednesday, July 13.
“Whether out of fatigue
or hunger we’ll never know,
but this morning she finally
let herself be caught,” an
airport spokesperson said of
the cat named Rowdy in a
statement.
Rowdy was given a
health check and will be
returned to her family.
“I’m kind of in disbe-
chase, as her getaway set off
a massive search involving
airport and Lufthansa
personnel, construction
workers, and animal wel-
fare advocates, as well as
the use of wildlife cameras
and safe-release traps.
Despite numerous sight-
ings, Rowdy always eluded
her pursuers — but now,
a little calm has been
restored.
“It was such a commu-
nity effort,” said Sahli, who
is originally from New
Hampshire and is moving
lief,” said her owner, Patty
Sahli. “I thought, ‘What
are the odds we’re actually
going to get her back?’ But
I got a call this morning and
I am just so shocked.”
Rowdy’s time on the lam
began June 24, as Sahli and
her husband, Rich, returned to
the U.S. from 15 years in Ger-
many with the Army. When
their Lufthansa flight landed,
the 4-year-old black cat with
green eyes escaped her cage,
in pursuit of some birds.
Soon Rowdy herself was
on the receiving end of a
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to Florida. “We’re just so
grateful to everyone who
helped look for her.”
Couples derailed by
virus get mass ‘re-
wedding’ in New York
NEW YORK — Hun-
dreds of couples whose
weddings were derailed
or scaled back due to the
COVID-19 pandemic got
a do-over at no less than a
New York City landmark.
The Lincoln Center for
the Performing Arts hosted
“Celebrate Love: A (Re)
AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION
Astoria
Longview
56/67
Kennewick
54/75
St. Helens
57/78
59/80
55/80
Condon
62/86
58/80
SUN
MON
TUE
WED
Clear
Sunny and nice
Sunny and
pleasant
Sunny and very
warm
Warm with lots
of sun
83 45
92 53
94 52
Eugene
9
7
6
53/82
86 54
93 61
94 60
8
6
5
La Grande
59 88 52
Comfort Index™
Enterprise
7
6
8
54 86 49
Comfort Index™
5
92 59
93 59
7
5
3
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Thursday
Low Thursday
High: 121°
Low: 28°
Wettest: 4.48”
91°
48°
94°
57°
101°
48°
0.00
0.01
0.29
4.47
5.73
0.00
0.22
0.34
8.98
10.40
0.00
0.32
0.39
17.76
14.91
PRECIPITATION (inches)
Thursday
Month to date
Normal month to date
Year to date
Normal year to date
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
HAY INFORMATION SUNDAY
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
25%
NNW at 7 to 14 mph
14.0
0.32
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Friday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
21% of capacity
82% of capacity
34% of capacity
96% of capacity
17% of capacity
83% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Thursday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
2630 cfs
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder 124 cfs
Burnt River near Unity
95 cfs
Umatilla River near Gibbon
69 cfs
Minam River at Minam
659 cfs
Powder River near Richland
17 cfs
Death Valley, Calif.
Bodie State Park, Calif.
Auburn, Ala.
OREGON
High: 103°
Low: 42°
Wettest: none
Ontario
Meacham
WEATHER HISTORY
Lightning struck a man in Barry’s Landing,
Wyo., on July 16, 1978. The lightning trav-
eled from his shoulder to his feet, blasting
off his clothes and burning holes in his
socks. The lucky victim survived.
SUN & MOON
SAT.
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
SUN.
5:20 a.m. 5:21 a.m.
8:37 p.m. 8:36 p.m.
11:03 p.m. 11:25 p.m.
8:47 a.m. 10:05 a.m.
MOON PHASES
Last
Jul 20
New
Jul 28
First
Aug 5
Beaver Marsh
53/72
Full
Aug 11
56/82
Silver Lake
Jordan Valley
60/95
Paisley
49/94
50/91
Frenchglen
58/99
61/91
Klamath Falls
50/91
McDermitt
61/99
RECREATION FORECAST SUNDAY
MON.
Hi/Lo/W Hi/Lo/W
67/55/pc 71/56/pc
90/51/s 92/56/s
100/64/s 93/64/s
69/53/s 70/54/s
96/47/s 91/51/s
68/53/pc 70/54/s
80/53/pc 85/55/s
95/58/s 91/56/s
88/53/s 85/57/s
82/51/pc 85/56/s
92/57/s 91/57/s
80/57/s 93/63/s
92/59/s 84/57/s
93/50/s 87/52/s
87/52/s 81/56/s
93/60/s 91/60/s
91/49/s 94/53/s
93/47/s 94/52/s
67/103
Lakeview
46/93
REGIONAL CITIES
City
Astoria
Bend
Boise
Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
Grand View
Arock
59/102
58/99
Shown is Sunday’s weather. Temperatures are Saturday night’s lows and Sunday’s highs.
SUN.
Diamond
57/99
Fields
Medford
Brookings
Boise
67/100
58/87
53/69
60/101
46/92
Chiloquin
Grants Pass
Juntura
52/96
51/88
47/90
Ontario
68/101
Burns
Brothers
54/81
Roseburg
Huntington
52/92
Bend
Coos Bay
62/95
67/98
Seneca
51/90
Oakridge
Council
51/89
53/93
51/89
Elkton
THURSDAY EXTREMES
ALMANAC
51/86
John Day
51/88
Sisters
Florence
Powers
57/96
Baker City
Redmond
51/65
52/67
Halfway
Granite
53/80
Newport
53/68
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
57/89
53/80
56/80
55/80
83 55
7
Corvallis
Enterprise
54/86
59/88
Monument
57/84
Idanha
Salem
TONIGHT
7
Elgin
57/88
La Grande
57/79
Maupin
Comfort Index™
63/86
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
Lewiston
64/91
Hood River
62/90
TIllamook
51 89 49
Forecasts and graphics provided
by AccuWeather, Inc. ©2022
Walla Walla
63/93
Vancouver
56/75
52/71
Baker City
Wedding” for 500 couples
on Sunday evening in the
pavilion outside the center.
Lincoln Center’s web-
site calls it “a special day
for newlyweds, those whose
weddings were canceled or
diminished, and people who
want to recommit their love
to their partners and the
city we love.”
It featured a multicul-
tural ceremony — not
legally binding — as well
as music, dancing and
remarks from New York
City Mayor Eric Adams.
City
Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
SUN.
MON.
Hi/Lo/W
91/60/s
75/53/c
85/49/s
91/58/s
65/51/pc
72/50/c
101/67/s
93/59/s
90/57/s
80/56/pc
72/52/pc
88/46/s
82/56/pc
80/54/pc
85/56/s
86/57/s
81/45/s
86/60/s
Hi/Lo/W
87/60/s
80/57/s
84/50/s
98/64/s
66/52/s
81/51/pc
96/62/s
92/59/s
89/60/s
87/61/pc
76/56/s
93/53/s
88/60/s
87/59/s
82/60/pc
95/61/s
83/48/s
85/61/s
Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain,
sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice
ANTHONY LAKES
PHILLIPS LAKE
Mostly sunny
Mostly sunny
71
43
88
48
MT. EMILY REC.
BROWNLEE RES.
Sunny and nice
Mostly sunny
74
48
95
59
EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
Mostly sunny
Sunny and pleasant
76
42
78
40
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
Mostly sunny
Sunny and nice
87
52
88
54
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
Breezy in the p.m.
Sunny and nice
89
49
88
52
