COFFEE BREAK
B6 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
SATuRDAY, JunE 18, 2022
Grown child wants mom to move past divorce
with her. She says he is nicer to
strangers than he is with her.
I don’t want to seem insen-
sitive, but they have now been
divorced longer than they were
married. It’s exhausting, and
it is starting to feel like we are
enabling her. I hate that what hap-
pened has defined the last two
decades of her life. Is there some-
thing I can say to communicate
that it’s way past time to be over
this, but in a nicer way that may
be helpful, and maybe won’t leave
her too much room to tell me I’m
victim blaming? — WHAT’S
PAST HAS PASSED
DEAR WHAT’S PAST: I,
too, am sorry about what hap-
pened to your parents’ marriage.
That your mother has been unable
to move beyond the divorce and
quits therapy the minute a ther-
DEAR ABBY: When my sib-
ling and I were 6 and 10, our par-
ents sat us down and told us they
were getting a divorce because
Dad had an affair. Mom was, to
say the least, incredibly hurt. Her
hurt and resentment haven’t sub-
sided to this day. Dad has never
apologized to her, but he has sup-
ported her financially ever since.
Mom has tried therapy, but the
minute a therapist upsets her, she
stops going. My parents both now
live near my sister to help care
for her twins. Mom is constantly
upset with things Dad does or
that he’s not friendly enough
apist says something she doesn’t
want to hear is very sad — for
her. What you need to understand
is that some people cling to their
“victimhood” for comfort. It buf-
fers them from having to recog-
nize their own contribution to
their failure.
Because you have tried in
the past without success to help
your mother let go of her bit-
terness, I’m advising you to stop
trying. For your own sake, when
she starts complaining about
your father, change the subject,
end the conversation or tune out.
Enabling her isn’t helping either
of you.
DEAR ABBY: My husband
and I have a business and work
together. He takes care of sales,
and I keep the books. I have
raised his children, scheduled all
people are individuals. Human
bodies don’t all function alike.
If he can’t get that through his
head, have your doctor explain it
to him.
Has he considered what it
would cost him to hire someone
else to do all the jobs you are
doing? Perhaps he should con-
sider that before criticizing and
flogging you to do more. Tell him
you’ll spend an extra hour or so at
the office if he agrees to take up
some of the slack at home.
P.S. I can understand why you
“tend to suffer from depression.”
You are married to a slave driver.
appointments and taken care of
everyone’s needs, including the
pets. I also do all the cooking,
cleaning, laundry, shopping, etc.
I tend to suffer from depres-
sion and need at least eight hours
of sleep each night. Because of
this, I work at the office only four
to five hours a day. My husband
cannot understand why I don’t
work eight to 10 hours a day. I get
done what needs to be done. Of
the many other businesses we’ve
known, the wives are expected
to do this. How do I make him
understand? — WORKING
ENOUGH IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR WORKING
ENOUGH: From your descrip-
tion of your weekly activities, you
are not only living up to normal
expectations, but exceeding them.
Explain to your husband that
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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren,
also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was
founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.
Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com
or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
Campground hosts needed at Jubilee, Olive, Bull Prairie lakes
509-520-1410 or Kiyoshi.
fujishin@usda.gov.
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PENDLETON — The
Umatilla National Forest
is looking for volunteers
to spend the summer as
campground hosts at three
mountain lakes — Jubilee,
Olive and Bull Prairie.
A campground host
greets campers, provides
information on the sur-
rounding area, and gener-
ally makes campers feel at
home. Hosts will visit with
campers and day-use vis-
itors, clean and maintain
restrooms, restock sup-
plies, occasionally clean
up after campers and carry
out minor maintenance as
needed. They keep an eye
on things and set a good
example for others in the
campground.
Individuals or cou-
ples can apply to be hosts.
Retirees often apply to the
campground host program.
Hosts need to be friendly,
flexible and responsible.
Host applicants may be
subject to a criminal back-
ground check.
Those who apply will
need to supply their own
trailer, camper or motor
home. Campground hosts
will be provided a camp-
Olive Lake
The campground is 12
miles southwest of Granite
on the east shore of the
90-acre lake. The camp-
ground has 28 campsites,
a 2-mile accessible hiking
trail, boat ramp and two
docks. The campground
usually has a host from
early June through Labor
Day. For more information
on becoming a Forest Ser-
vice volunteer campground
host at Olive Lake camp-
ground, contact Roy Vega
at john.vega@usda.gov.
Bull Prairie Lake
umatilla national Forest/Contributed Photo
Jubilee Lake is about 12 miles northeast of Tollgate on the Umatilla National Forest.
Jubilee Lake
site, usually near the main
entryway to the camp-
ground. Though the host
program is a volunteer pro-
gram, a food allowance
and propane is offered, and
personal vehicle mileage
associated with hosting
duties is reimbursed.
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Their plumage boasts a tinge of stormy
blue with a coal-black cap and tailfeather
tips punctuating their otherwise modest
appearance.
My difficulty in pinning down the bird
for a few photos educated me to their elu-
siveness being partially owed to their dark
coloring and propensity to inhabit the
weather
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as late as mid October
depending on fall weather.
For more information on
becoming a Forest Service
volunteer campground
host at Jubilee Lake camp-
ground, contact Kiy-
oshi Fujishin at the Walla
Walla Ranger District
trail around the 92-acre
lake. This campground
is very popular for over-
night camping as well as
day-use activities. Camp-
ground hosts are typically
on-site from early July
through mid September,
with potential to work
The campground is 12
miles northeast of Tollgate
and is the largest devel-
oped campground on the
Umatilla National Forest
with 53 campsites, four
picnic areas and a 2.8-
mile accessible hiking
densest, shadiest parts of the riparian. Cat-
birds prefer shrubby trees like dogwood,
hawthorn, cherry, elderberry, and viny
plants like honeysuckle and blackberry for
nesting. Their summer food sources consist
of insects, fruits and berries, and I assume
the increase in chokecherry and blackberry
on the homestead have been the main draw
to the catbird in recent years.
According to the Cornell Lab of Orni-
thology, females build open-cup nests made
of twigs, straw, bark, and mud which have a
CATBIRD
finely woven inner lining of grass, hair, root-
lets, and pine needles. Clutch sizes range
from one to six and females can have two to
three clutches per year. Eggs are turquoise in
color and occasionally have red spots (which
I have unfortunately never seen). Males
aggressively defend their territory, even in
winter, which is unusual among songbirds.
Next time you find yourself up a brushy
Blue Mountain draw, keep an eye peeled
for a flash of gray and an ear out for a raspy
“mew.” Aside from being unassumingly
Astoria
Longview
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Vancouver
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Condon
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TUE
WED
Becoming
cloudy
A shower in the
afternoon
Warmer
Clouds and sun;
warmer
Delightful with
sunshine
68 42
73 46
78 47
Eugene
10
10
9
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75 49
76 50
9
10
7
La Grande
46 60 46
Comfort Index™
Enterprise
3
3
40 55 41
Comfort Index™
2
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73 49
10
10
10
0
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Thursday
Low Thursday
High: 117°
Low: 21°
Wettest: 3.14”
78°
42°
75°
48°
79°
46°
0.00
0.46
0.67
4.44
5.01
0.00
2.32
0.85
8.68
9.54
0.00
3.21
1.10
17.38
13.78
PRECIPITATION (inches)
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
HAY INFORMATION SUNDAY
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
50%
WNW at 8 to 16 mph
3.6
0.12
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Friday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
24% of capacity
97% of capacity
42% of capacity
100% of capacity
41% of capacity
103% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Thursday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
11500 cfs
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder 580 cfs
Burnt River near Unity
83 cfs
Umatilla River near Gibbon
388 cfs
Minam River at Minam
2190 cfs
Powder River near Richland
624 cfs
Death Valley, Calif.
Afton, Wyo.
Rockingham, N.C.
OREGON
High: 91°
Low: 32°
Wettest: 0.07”
Rome
Howard Prairie
Astoria
WEATHER HISTORY
On the morning of June 18, 1992, a severe
thunderstorm in Indianapolis, Ind., caused
one-inch hailstones and a 62-mph wind
gust. A tornado was spotted northwest of
the airport.
SUN & MOON
SAT.
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
SUN.
5:04 a.m. 5:04 a.m.
8:43 p.m. 8:44 p.m.
12:11 a.m. 12:39 a.m.
9:52 a.m. 11:10 a.m.
MOON PHASES
Last
Jun 20
New
Jun 28
First
Jul 6
Full
Jul 13
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Brothers
48/63
39/56
Beaver Marsh
32/59
Roseburg
50/69
Jordan Valley
39/59
Paisley
33/64
Frenchglen
38/61
Klamath Falls
33/63
Hi/Lo/W
60/51/sh
62/42/c
69/48/c
65/50/s
62/36/pc
60/50/c
65/48/sh
64/43/c
59/45/c
67/50/c
73/56/pc
63/52/c
62/49/r
59/45/c
56/40/r
75/56/pc
63/34/pc
62/33/pc
Hi/Lo/W
63/54/c
72/45/s
71/51/pc
71/52/s
69/41/pc
65/49/pc
69/48/c
70/47/c
68/45/pc
71/48/pc
78/54/s
71/52/pc
69/49/sh
69/41/pc
61/43/pc
79/58/s
73/40/s
70/39/s
Grand View
Arock
50/70
39/63
Lakeview
31/62
McDermitt
36/63
RECREATION FORECAST SUNDAY
REGIONAL CITIES
City
Astoria
Bend
Boise
Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
Diamond
36/60
38/63
Shown is Sunday’s weather. Temperatures are Saturday night’s lows and Sunday’s highs.
MON.
Boise
48/69
Fields
51/73
SUN.
41/67
Silver Lake
33/61
Medford
Brookings
Juntura
36/62
47/74
47/65
Ontario
50/73
Burns
31/64
Chiloquin
Grants Pass
Huntington
36/53
Bend
Coos Bay
46/64
48/67
Seneca
43/62
Oakridge
Council
40/59
41/59
44/61
Elkton
Powers
43/63
38/53
John Day
42/64
Sisters
Florence
52/59
Halfway
Granite
Baker City
Redmond
50/57
THURSDAY EXTREMES
ALMANAC
Monument
48/65
Newport
Enterprise
40/55
46/60
49/57
52/64
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Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
Thursday
Month to date
Normal month to date
Year to date
Normal year to date
Corvallis
51/65
63 43
Elgin
44/59
La Grande
47/62
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Idanha
Salem
MON
51/65
50/67
Pendleton
The Dalles
53/63
50/62
Lewiston
Walla Walla
Hood River
Portland
Newberg
SUN
1
Forecasts and graphics provided
by AccuWeather, Inc. ©2022
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TONIGHT
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Brad Trumbo is a fish and wildlife biologist and outdoor
writer in Waitsburg, Washington. For tips and tales
of outdoor pursuits and conservation, visit www.
bradtrumbo.com.
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Maupin
Comfort Index™
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Kennewick
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St. Helens
TIllamook
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stunning, the catbird’s photography chal-
lenge is worth pursuing as they move from
tree to tree and branch to branch. If you
stick with them, you just might nab a pass-
able photo and hear their complex song
long enough to realize you’ve been had by a
master of mimicry.
AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION
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Baker City
The campground is 36
miles south of Heppner
and has 30 tent/trailer sites,
12 picnic areas and four
floating fishing docks on the
28-acre lake. There is also
a 1.5-mile paved trail. The
campground usually has a
host through mid-October,
also a shorter duration is
possible. For more informa-
tion on becoming a Forest
Service volunteer camp-
ground host at Bull Prairie
Lake campground, contact
Roy Vega at john.vega@
usda.gov.
City
Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
SUN.
MON.
Hi/Lo/W
65/53/r
62/50/r
59/45/sh
73/50/pc
57/50/c
62/48/c
73/49/c
73/55/pc
67/53/c
63/52/r
64/52/c
64/38/c
69/52/c
64/52/sh
63/48/c
70/53/pc
56/41/sh
67/52/c
Hi/Lo/W
69/52/pc
64/51/c
68/44/pc
78/52/s
58/49/pc
66/48/c
75/51/pc
79/54/s
73/54/pc
69/54/c
70/51/pc
71/43/s
74/52/pc
68/51/c
68/49/c
75/54/s
67/42/pc
72/53/pc
Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain,
sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice
ANTHONY LAKES
PHILLIPS LAKE
A p.m. shower
A shower or two
37
31
56
37
MT. EMILY REC.
BROWNLEE RES.
A shower or two
Cloudy, a shower
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39
64
45
EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
Rain and snow
Cloudy, a shower
42
30
55
38
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
Rain and drizzle
Cloudy and cool
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40
66
52
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
Clouds and breezy
A p.m. shower
59
40
60
46