COFFEE BREAK
B8 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
THuRSDAY, MAY 26, 2022
Abuse victim can’t get mother to see truth
etc. The idea of seeing him makes
me sick, and I’m terrified for his
children.
I went to therapy as a young
adult to work out my issues with
him and what happened. The
abuse has affected my ability to
hold on to relationships, and I
fight depression often, which I am
good at hiding. She keeps saying,
“but you were so close as kids.” I
don’t think she understands what
“grooming” is. Can you please
explain it in a manner that doesn’t
make me feel like it was all my
fault? — GETTING BEYOND
IT
DEAR GETTING: Your
fault? NONE of what happened
was your fault! Predators groom
DEAR ABBY: One of my sib-
lings was abused as a child. In
turn, he abused me when he was
a pre-teen and into his teens. It
stopped when he got a girlfriend
at the age of 14. This was news to
my parents.
Now that the cat is out of the
bag, I have tried to explain to
my mom that I don’t like being
around him. She has heard me,
but she pretends like it didn’t
happen and still tries to get
everyone together for holidays,
victims by first establishing a
close relationship with them,
telling them they are “special,”
that their bond is special, that the
usual rules of behavior do not
apply to them, bestowing time,
attention and gifts, and pledging
them to secrecy. Please show this
to your mother. I hope it will help
her understand that getting the
family together is not in the cards
now or ever.
I am concerned by your state-
ment that the abuse has caused
you to be depressed, which you
are “good at hiding,” and which
prevents you from forming rela-
tionships. Those issues might be
resolved if, as an adult, you con-
sult another licensed psychother-
apist. While it may not be some-
thing you wish to revisit, I hope
you will consider it.
DEAR ABBY: I am a woman
who is engaged to a wonderful
woman who has a busy life. We
met online 18 months ago and felt
an instant connection. She has two
grown children, a 16-year-old son,
two grandchildren and one on the
way. We live five hours apart and
see each other every three weeks.
My concern is that we talk only
once or twice during the week and
maybe text once a day. It is not
enough for me. I have expressed
how I feel, but I think she’s just
too busy. She plans on moving in
with me once we are married. I
recently purchased a brand-new
home. Because she is so involved
in her family’s lives, I can’t see
her leaving them to live with me.
What should I do? — NERVOUS
IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR NERVOUS: You
and your fiancee need to have a
serious, in-depth conversation
about how this will work. It is
important you two clarify how she
plans to divide her time between
you and her family because, right
now, you are getting the short end
of the stick. Will the 16-year-old
live with you? Because you aren’t
getting what you need from this
relationship despite the fact that
you have explained what your
needs are, it may be time to
rethink this romance.
Gunman kills 19 children, 2 teachers in Texas school
string of mass killings at
churches, schools, stores
and other sites in the United
States. Just 10 days earlier,
10 Black people were shot
to death in a racist rampage
at a Buffalo, New York,
supermarket.
In a somber address to
the nation hours after the
bloodshed in Uvalde, Pres-
ident Joe Biden pleaded for
new gun restrictions.
“As a nation we have to
ask: When in God’s name
are we going to stand up
to the gun lobby? When in
God’s name are we going to
do what has to be done?” he
asked. “Why are we willing
to live with this carnage?”
But the prospects for any
reform of the nation’s gun
regulations appeared dim.
Repeated attempts over
the years to expand back-
ground checks and enact
other curbs have run into
Republican resistance in
Congress.
Before the attack, Ramos
shot and wounded his grand-
mother, then fled the scene,
crashing his truck near the
school and entering the
building, authorities said.
Inside the barricaded
classroom, he “just began
shooting anyone that was in
his way,” Olivarez said.
A tactical team forced its
way into the classroom and
was met with gunfire from
Ramos but shot and killed
him, according to Olivarez.
Earlier, a law enforce-
ment official said one
Border Patrol agent who
was working nearby when
the shooting began rushed
into the school without
waiting for backup and shot
and killed the gunman. The
official spoke on condition
of anonymity because he
was not authorized to talk
about it.
Attack is the
deadliest shooting
since 2012
By ACACIA CORONADO
and JIM VERTUNO
The Associated Press
UVALDE, Texas — The
18-year-old gunman who
slaughtered 19 children and
two teachers at a Texas ele-
mentary school barricaded
himself inside a single
classroom and “began
shooting anyone that was
in his way,” authorities said
Wednesday in detailing the
latest mass killing to rock
the U.S.
Law enforcement offi-
cers eventually broke into
the classroom and killed
the gunman, who used
an AR-style rifle. Police
and others responding
to the Tuesday, May 24,
attack also went around
breaking windows at the
school to enable students
and teachers to escape, Lt.
Christopher Olivarez of the
Texas Department of Public
Safety said on NBC’s
“Today” show.
Olivarez told CNN
that all of the victims
were in the same fourth-
grade classroom at Robb
Elementary.
The killer “barricaded
himself by locking the door
and just started shooting
children and teachers that
were inside that classroom,”
he said. “It just shows you
the complete evil of the
shooter.”
Dillon Silva, whose
nephew was in a nearby
classroom, said students
were watching a movie
when a bullet shattered a
window. Moments later,
their teacher saw the armed
William Luther/The San Antonio Express-News
A woman cries as she leaves the Uvalde Civic Center on Tuesday, May 24, 2022, in Uvalde, Texas. An 18-year-old gunman opened fire at a Texas
elementary school, killing multiple children and a teacher and wounding others, Gov. Greg Abbott said.
assailant walk past the door.
“Oh, my God, he has a
gun!” the teacher shouted
twice, according to Silva.
“The teacher didn’t even
have time to lock the door,”
he said.
Investigators did not
immediately disclose
a motive but identified
the assailant as Salvador
Ramos, a resident of the
community about 85 miles
west of San Antonio.
Ramos had hinted on
social media that an attack
could be coming, sug-
gesting that “kids should
watch out,” according to
state Sen. Roland Guti-
to belong to the gunman
shared a photo of two
AR-style rifles.
Officers found one of
the rifles in Ramos’ truck,
the other in the school,
according to the briefing.
Ramos was wearing a tac-
tical vest, but it had no
hardened body-armor plates
inside, lawmakers were
told. He also dropped a
backpack containing sev-
eral magazines full of
ammunition near the school
entrance.
The attack in the heavily
Latino town of Uvalde
was the deadliest school
shooting in the U.S. since
errez, who said he had been
briefed by state police.
Ramos legally brought
two AR-style rifles just
days before the attack, soon
after his 18th birthday, state
senators briefed by law
enforcement said.
One of the guns was
purchased at a feder-
ally licensed dealer in the
Uvalde area on May 17,
according to Sen. John
Whitmire. Ramos bought
375 rounds of ammuni-
tion the next day, then pur-
chased the second rifle on
May 20.
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a gunman killed 20 chil-
dren and six adults at Sandy
Hook Elementary in New-
town, Connecticut, in
December 2012.
Families in Uvalde
waited hours for word
on their children. At the
town civic center where
some gathered, the silence
was broken repeatedly by
screams and wails. “No!
Please, no!” one man yelled
as he embraced another
man. On Wednesday, May
25, volunteers were seen
arriving with Bibles and
therapy dogs.
The attack was the latest
in a seemingly unending
AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION
Astoria
Longview
51/58
Kennewick
52/64
St. Helens
56/66
TIllamook
56/66
54/67
Condon
60/73
56/67
FRI
SAT
SUN
MON
Cloudy, a
t-storm late
Cooler with a
few showers
A shower in the
afternoon
Cloudy, a
shower; colder
Cloudy with a
few showers
60 40
49 38
56 36
Eugene
2
0
1
54/69
60 44
49 43
58 41
4
0
0
Comfort Index™
La Grande
8
52 63 48
Comfort Index™ 10
Enterprise
8
3
47 63 43
Comfort Index™
8
47 41
54 40
3
1
0
8
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Tuesday
Low Tuesday
High: 108°
Low: 17°
Wettest: 4.61”
68°
35°
69°
41°
76°
39°
Tuesday
Trace
Month to date
0.64
Normal month to date 1.10
Year to date
2.57
Normal year to date
3.98
0.00
1.44
1.70
5.22
8.15
0.05
3.24
1.85
13.11
12.14
PRECIPITATION (inches)
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
HAY INFORMATION FRIDAY
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
55%
NW at 7 to 14 mph
1.7
0.11
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Wednesday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
55/64
13% of capacity
99% of capacity
45% of capacity
100% of capacity
47% of capacity
100% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Tuesday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
5110 cfs
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
64 cfs
Burnt River near Unity
76 cfs
Umatilla River near Gibbon
304 cfs
Minam River at Minam
1070 cfs
Powder River near Richland
34 cfs
Death Valley, Calif.
Daniel, Wyo.
Brownsville, Texas
OREGON
High: 83°
Low: 30°
Wettest: 0.01”
Medford
Prineville
McMinnville
A devastating tornado ripped through
Illinois on May 26, 1917. The storm killed
70 people as it tracked along a damage
path 293 miles long for a period of seven
hours and 20 minutes.
SUN & MOON
THU.
5:12 a.m.
8:27 p.m.
3:34 a.m.
4:49 p.m.
FRI.
5:11 a.m.
8:28 p.m.
3:53 a.m.
5:56 p.m.
MOON PHASES
New
May 30
First
Jun 7
Full
Jun 14
Beaver Marsh
56/68
Last
Jun 20
Jordan Valley
Paisley
Frenchglen
50/72
City
Astoria
Bend
Boise
Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
Hi/Lo/W
58/48/sh
64/44/c
76/53/c
58/47/c
69/42/c
61/49/c
66/48/r
68/49/c
63/44/sh
69/49/r
71/55/pc
66/54/c
68/50/r
67/46/c
63/42/r
74/57/pc
70/44/pc
70/46/c
Hi/Lo/W
57/47/sh
61/44/sh
65/47/c
56/45/sh
62/40/sh
57/49/sh
61/47/r
61/43/sh
59/43/c
62/50/r
67/52/c
62/52/sh
61/46/sh
62/43/sh
55/40/sh
68/54/c
62/37/c
59/36/sh
Grand View
Arock
60/78
51/75
49/75
Klamath Falls
43/70
Lakeview
43/70
McDermitt
Shown is Friday’s weather. Temperatures are Thursday night’s lows and Friday’s highs.
SAT.
Diamond
49/70
Fields
55/73
FRI.
Boise
49/72
47/70
41/66
Medford
Brookings
53/75
60/76
54/74
49/58
Juntura
46/69
Silver Lake
Chiloquin
Grants Pass
Ontario
61/77
Burns
46/68
48/75
RECREATION FORECAST FRIDAY
REGIONAL CITIES
WEATHER HISTORY
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
50/62
41/62
Roseburg
Powers
Brothers
52/63
Coos Bay
Huntington
47/64
54/64
Oakridge
56/68
59/73
Seneca
Bend
Elkton
Council
50/67
52/67
52/63
Florence
TUESDAY EXTREMES
ALMANAC
46/60
John Day
50/67
Sisters
52/61
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
52/70
Baker City
Redmond
49/57
51/58
Halfway
Granite
53/66
Newport
54/66
57 38
50/64
53/60
55/68
Corvallis
Enterprise
47/63
52/63
Monument
57/67
Idanha
Salem
TONIGHT
50 67 43
Elgin
50/63
La Grande
51/63
Maupin
Baker City
56/65
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
59/70
Hood River
54/66
49/59
Lewiston
Walla Walla
59/74
Vancouver
54/65
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City
Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
FRI.
SAT.
Hi/Lo/W
70/53/t
64/47/r
62/47/c
73/52/c
57/48/sh
63/45/r
77/53/c
75/54/pc
66/50/sh
67/54/r
64/50/c
67/44/c
68/54/c
68/51/c
66/44/c
73/53/c
59/43/t
65/52/sh
Hi/Lo/W
61/49/c
57/51/r
59/43/c
68/48/c
53/45/sh
58/46/r
69/49/c
68/53/c
64/49/c
60/52/r
60/50/sh
62/41/sh
66/51/sh
62/49/r
56/44/c
64/54/sh
58/40/c
63/47/sh
Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain,
sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice
ANTHONY LAKES
PHILLIPS LAKE
Cooler
Cooler
43
28
63
41
MT. EMILY REC.
BROWNLEE RES.
A few showers
A shower; cooler
50
39
68
51
EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
A few showers
A few showers
47
32
56
39
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
Showers around
Showers around
63
42
64
48
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
Cooler
A few showers
67
43
63
48