COFFEE BREAK B8 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD TuESDAY, MAY 3, 2022 Man’s true colors shock his longtime girlfriend more than one right person for everyone? How long will it take me to recover from a broken heart, if ever? His vandalism and my huge financial loss keep me away from this whack job. How well do you really know anyone? — DISILLUSIONED IN WASHINGTON DEAR DISILLUSIONED: Inform the police that your ex-boyfriend is continuing to retaliate because you reported him. There is no timetable for healing from a broken heart, but take it from me, it does happen. I firmly believe there is more than one “right person” for everyone. You do not truly love HIM. What you love is the fantasy that he’s the only right person for you. DEAR ABBY: I am a 58-year-old, never-married woman with a 22-year blue- collar career. I own a home and will retire with benefits many people dream of. I’ve recently ended a rela- tionship with a man I’ve known since childhood. I truly love him. The problem is that he had been stealing from me. I con- fronted him several times, but finally had to involve the police. Now, he has flattened my tires and repeatedly dented my cars. My question is this: Is there affairs over the years, some she has admitted to and others I have stumbled across. For the most part, they have been physical only, with no emotional attach- ment. Twenty years ago she had a passionate affair with a younger man. It ended when he broke it off to be with someone else. I didn’t know about it at the time. A year ago, she found out he’s single again and invited him back into her life. Now, she’s openly seeing him. She’s telling me they are “just friends” and she “needs his company because only he understands her.” I believe if he had a better job and financial outlook, she would leave me in a minute. I can’t stand the thought of losing the love of my life, but I We get to know the signifi- cant people in our lives — both male and female — by observing them over a long period of time and watching how they treat others. You should not keep your distance from this man only because of his vandalism and the money he has cost you, but also because he has anger prob- lems he seems unable to con- trol. Surely those character flaws showed themselves before he started acting out on you. Think back on the little things you may have chosen to ignore, and you may recognize that I’m right. DEAR ABBY: My wife and I married as teenagers 40 years ago. Our children are adults, and most people consider us a perfect couple. My wife has had several also can’t keep living with her knowing I play second fiddle in her heart. She refuses counseling because she doesn’t see this as a problem. Should I give her more time (a year already) or file for divorce? — CONFUSED IN ILLINOIS DEAR CONFUSED: You have given your wife enough time to come to her senses. You state that she refuses coun- seling and you believe she would leave you in a minute if he made more money. That means she is staying with you only because of the lifestyle you provide. I do think there should be some counseling — for YOU. It will provide insight and emotional support as you contemplate divorce. NEWS OF THE WEIRD 100s of US urban areas will become rural with new criteria The Associated Press MAUSTON, Wisc. — Hun- dreds of urban areas in the U.S. are becoming rural, but it’s not because people are leaving. It’s just that the U.S. Census Bureau is changing the definition of an urban area. Under the new criteria, more than 1,300 small cities, towns and villages desig- nated urban a decade ago would be considered rural. That matters because urban and rural areas qualify for dif- ferent types of federal funding. Some communities worry the change could affect health clinics in rural areas as well as transpor- tation and education funding from federal programs. But leaders in other communities designated to lose their urban status say it won’t make a difference. “We are rural and we feel rural, and that’s how we already identify,” said Randy Reeg, city administrator of Mauston, Wis- consin, a city of 4,347 residents about 75 miles northwest of Madison. Groups like the American Hos- pital Association say the changes, Brennan Linsley/The Associated Press, File A train carries blades for wind turbines bound for another state through Rocky Ford, Colorado, in Otero County on June 30, 2016. Both Rocky Ford and Dawson, Georgia, were classified as urban areas after the 2010 census because they had populations over 2,500 residents. Under new criteria posted this spring by the U.S. Census Bureau, these communities would no longer be designated as urban. The new criteria require places to have 2,000 housing units, which is equivalent to 5,000 residents, to be considered an urban area. which are the biggest being made to the definitions in decades, could cause problems for people who need medical care in rural areas. “Going with the new definition could limit the number of rural health clinics moving forward and have a negative impact on rural access to care,” said Shannon Wu, senior associate director of policy at the hospital association. For starters, the Census Bureau is switching to housing units instead of people as the basis for calculating what should be an weather | Go to AccuWeather.com urban area. Bureau officials say the change will make it easier to update between once-a-decade head counts of the U.S. They also contend that it’s needed because a new privacy method introduces errors into 2020 census popula- tion numbers at small geogra- phies to protect people’s identi- ties. Housing counts stay accurate under the method. A place had to have at least 2,500 people to be urban under old criteria that lasted more than a century. Now, it will need at least AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION Astoria Longview 43/58 Kennewick 43/71 St. Helens 45/72 44/78 Condon 47/77 47/71 Maupin WED THU FRI SAT Cooler Periods of rain Colder with a little rain Baker City 33 67 44 Comfort Index™ La Grande 5 33 68 45 Comfort Index™ 3 Eugene 8 0 0 42/72 61 48 60 40 47 35 7 3 0 45 35 8 2 0 ALMANAC NATION (for the 48 contiguous states) High Sunday Low Sunday High: 98° Low: 15° Wettest: 3.33” 56° 33° 55° 34° 61° 36° 0.02 0.02 0.03 1.95 2.91 0.01 0.01 0.07 3.79 6.52 0.16 0.16 0.07 10.03 10.36 PRECIPITATION (inches) Sunday Month to date Normal month to date Year to date Normal year to date AGRICULTURAL INFO. HAY INFORMATION WEDNESDAY Lowest relative humidity Afternoon wind Hours of sunshine Evapotranspiration Powers 43/73 35% SSE at 7 to 14 mph 1.7 0.17 RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Monday) Phillips Reservoir Unity Reservoir Owyhee Reservoir McKay Reservoir Wallowa Lake Thief Valley Reservoir 10% of capacity 83% of capacity 46% of capacity 94% of capacity 48% of capacity 99% of capacity STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Sunday) Grande Ronde at Troy 3980 cfs Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder 32 cfs Burnt River near Unity 1 cfs Umatilla River near Gibbon 560 cfs Minam River at Minam 424 cfs Powder River near Richland 35 cfs The Dalles Crater Lake Rome Ronald Reagan’s horse in the T.V. series “Death Valley Days,” Sinbad the Sailor, was struck and killed by lightning on May 3, 1982, at Kanab, Utah. SUN & MOON TUE. WED. 5:37 a.m. 8:02 p.m. 7:45 a.m. none MOON PHASES First May 8 Full Last New May 15 May 22 May 30 Jordan Valley 32/65 Paisley 38/78 Frenchglen 37/72 City Astoria Bend Boise Brookings Burns Coos Bay Corvallis Council Elgin Eugene Hermiston Hood River Imnaha John Day Joseph Kennewick Klamath Falls Lakeview Hi/Lo/W 58/47/pc 81/47/s 68/49/s 61/46/c 71/42/s 63/42/s 70/45/s 68/43/pc 71/45/c 72/48/pc 77/56/pc 78/51/pc 72/50/pc 72/45/pc 67/45/s 76/58/pc 76/43/s 74/42/pc Hi/Lo/W 55/47/sh 61/47/c 68/50/pc 54/50/c 63/43/c 55/48/sh 58/49/sh 64/47/c 58/48/c 59/51/sh 67/53/c 61/51/sh 63/48/c 64/48/c 59/44/sh 68/52/c 61/46/c 64/46/c Diamond Grand View Arock 36/71 38/70 36/71 38/74 Klamath Falls 34/76 Lakeview 34/74 McDermitt Shown is Wednesday’s weather. Temperatures are Tuesday night’s lows and Wednesday’s highs. THU. Boise 39/68 Fields 43/80 WED. 36/75 Silver Lake 35/76 Medford Brookings Juntura 31/71 41/84 46/61 Ontario 41/74 Burns 35/79 36/70 RECREATION FORECAST WEDNESDAY REGIONAL CITIES WEATHER HISTORY 5:38 a.m. 8:01 p.m. 7:07 a.m. 11:24 p.m. 43/77 Grants Pass OREGON Sunrise Sunset Moonrise Moonset Beaver Marsh Chiloquin El Centro, Calif. Yellowstone, Wyo. Plant City, Fla. High: 74° Low: 23° Wettest: 0.39” Brothers 35/78 31/74 Roseburg Huntington 31/69 38/81 Oakridge Council 37/68 42/71 Seneca 41/77 Coos Bay SUNDAY EXTREMES TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin 36/72 Bend Elkton 42/63 Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable. 35/71 33/67 John Day 35/80 37/79 42/74 59 37 10 Sisters Florence 43/61 Halfway Granite 31/65 Baker City 50 30 59 45 Monument 39/76 Redmond 42/57 62 37 10 36/71 40/74 44/72 Corvallis Enterprise 33/68 41/70 Newport 62 45 10 36 71 50 Comfort Index™ Enterprise 2 Elgin 34/71 La Grande 42/72 44/79 Idanha Salem Increasing clouds; warmer 45/72 Pendleton The Dalles Portland Newberg 43/72 Lewiston 45/72 Hood River 43/75 42/63 Partly cloudy Forecasts and graphics provided by AccuWeather, Inc. ©2022 Walla Walla 46/76 Vancouver 44/73 TIllamook TONIGHT the bureau’s urban areas form the cores of metro and micro areas, and its definitions provide the basis for how other agencies classify urban and rural areas in determining eligibility for federal funding. The bureau reviews the definitions every 10 years after a census, and the urban population has grown from about 45% of the total U.S. population in 1910 to more than 80% a decade ago. “We’ve heard people say 2,500 was too low. That was the impetus for the increase,” said Michael Ratcliffe, a senior geographer with the Census Bureau. Different federal programs use different definitions of urban and rural, and some communi- ties qualify for rural funding for some programs and not others. But any changes “will have signifi- cant implications for many groups and communities,” said Kenneth Johnson, a senior demographer at the University of New Hampshire who studies rural issues. “Another likely concern for many rural communities is that if many existing urban areas are redefined as rural, competition for the limited rural funds will increase,” Johnson said. 2,000 housing units, the equiv- alent of about 5,000 people. A revised list of urban areas won’t be released until later this year, but a third of the areas deemed urban a decade ago would be knocked into the rural category under the new criteria. Places with 50,000 residents or more were considered “urban- ized areas,” compared with “urban clusters” having between 2,500 and 49,999 residents in the past. But those distinctions will be eliminated and all will be called urban areas under the new definition. Some communities worry that the switch to housing units will cause some areas to be underesti- mated if the Census Bureau uses the U.S. average of 2.6 people per household for its calculations. For instance, Madera County, Cali- fornia, has 3.3 people per house- hold, and the change “would not fully represent the community,” Patricia Taylor, executive director of the Madera County Transpor- tation Commission, said in a letter to the bureau last year. The Census Bureau says the new definition should be used for statistical purposes only. 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