COFFEE BREAK
B8 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
TUESDAY, APRIL 19, 2022
Woman runs out of patience with boyfriend’s addiction
The smell of stale tobacco is
unappealing. It’s not exactly a
breath freshener, and the health
consequences are dire.
Am I within my rights to put
my foot down? I brought up quit-
ting this week in response to him
lamenting that he looks aged
beyond his years (which is true).
He became very defensive and
made me seem like a monster for
asking for a real timeline about
quitting. He struggles with anx-
iety and thinks trying to quit will
send him over the edge, and I
would be the one pushing him.
How do I navigate future con-
versations? — CHOKING IN
PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR CHOKING: Tell your
boyfriend you care about him
and about his health, but you can
DEAR ABBY: I have been
with my boyfriend for fi ve years.
We do not live together, nor do
we share any children (we have
three grown kids from previous
marriages). He has been a smoker
since he was very young, and
when we got together, he said he
would like to quit. Well, it still
hasn’t happened.
As the child of an addict
(alcohol) I understand how diffi -
cult quitting can be. Luckily, my
father quit cold turkey 20 years
ago and never relapsed. Abby, I do
not want a future with a smoker.
no longer tolerate watching him
damage it because of his tobacco
addiction. If he doesn’t already
know that the smell on his breath,
body and clothing is off ensive,
point it out, and also that second-
hand smoke is unhealthy for you.
Then tell him he has a choice to
make: It’s the smoking or you.
The decision is his. There are
many eff ective smoking cessation
programs available, and he should
discuss them with his physician,
who may be delighted to know he
is interested.
P.S. In this day and age many
women — and men — simply
“swipe left” if they encounter a
smoker.
DEAR ABBY: I am cur-
rently in a relationship that is
approaching the seven-year mark.
We dated in our 20s and rekindled
in our 40s. We live together, but
I’m afraid we are growing apart.
Due to health issues, I don’t work;
he works second shift. I cry easily
and have always been an emo-
tional person.
When there are disagreements,
we can usually work it out. My
problem is, I think about the dis-
cussion later and have more to say
or ask. He then tells me we have
already talked about it and he’s
not discussing it again. He says I
“overanalyze everything.” It’s not
that. I just have another question
or something I left out.
His refusal to talk makes me
feel as though things are unre-
solved. He just downright won’t
talk about something we have
already discussed! Please help
me to understand if I am too
demanding and should just leave
it alone. — UNANSWERED IN
ILLINOIS
DEAR UNANSWERED: It
isn’t “too demanding” to want
to discuss something further. If
revisiting the issue would rekindle
the disagreement, your partner
is far too controlling. If you have
a question, there’s no reason
why you shouldn’t be able to ask
without it leading to confl ict. To
deny you that opportunity seems
disrespectful.
Give it more time after a dis-
agreement and decide if it’s really
necessary to revisit the sub-
ject. When you do, avoid reap-
proaching it in a way that could
be perceived as an invitation to
another argument.
NEWS OF THE WEIRD
Multnomah County moves to ban for-profi t displays of human remains
The Associated Press
PORTLAND — The Mult-
nomah County Board of Com-
missioners in Portland, Oregon,
has unanimously moved to ban
the for-profi t display of human
remains.
The move came Thursday,
April 14, after the body of a Lou-
isiana World War II veteran —
whose wife thought she donated
his body to science — was dis-
sected in front of a paying audi-
ence at a Portland hotel, The Ore-
gonian reported.
The ordinance is expected
to be formally approved next
week and institutes a $1,000 fi ne
per violation, per day. County
attorney Rob Sinnott said those
who violate the ordinance must
also turn over any resulting
profi ts.
Displays of human remains for
“legitimate ceremonial and educa-
tional purposes” are exempt.
Kimberly DiLeo, the county’s
chief medicolegal death inves-
tigator, led eff orts to draft the
ordinance after she unsuccess-
fully tried to prevent the Oct. 17
The Associated Press, File
The Multnomah County Board of
Commissioners unanimously moved
April 14, 2022, to ban the for-profi t
display of human remains after the
body of a World War II veteran — whose
wife thought she donated his body to
science — was dissected in front of a
paying audience at a Portland hotel in
October 2021.
for-profi t autopsy at the Portland
Marriott Downtown Waterfront.
DiLeo said she contacted
the Portland Police Bureau and
Oregon Medical Board, but both
agencies said they lacked the
authority to stop the event.
A Portland police spokesperson
previously said detectives con-
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sulted with the Oregon Depart-
ment of Justice, Oregon State
Police and Multnomah County
District Attorney’s Offi ce and
determined no crimes were com-
mitted during the autopsy.
In a statement last year, Martin
McAllister, the hotel’s gen-
eral manager, said his staff was
“grossly misled” about the event.
Seventy people gathered, some
paying up to $500 a ticket, to
watch the autopsy of 98-year-old
David Saunders, who had lived
with his wife, Elsie, until he died
from COVID-19. The “Cadaver
Lab Class” was hosted by Death
Science, a media company with
no professional credentials, DiLeo
said.
Death Science did not imme-
diately respond to a request for
comment from the newspaper.
Elsie Saunders didn’t learn
what happened to her husband
until after KING-TV published
footage that showed her husband’s
name printed on an arm band still
attached to his wrist.
Elsie Saunders said by phone
during the county meeting that
she is still haunted by the images
of the public autopsy.
“The vision in my mind of his
naked and defenseless body being
dismembered like a butcher pre-
paring an animal carcass for sale
… I have to live with it until I
die,” she said.
Elsie Saunders said her eff orts
to donate her husband’s body to
Louisiana State University for
medical research failed because
of pandemic restrictions, so she
donated it to Med Ed Labs, a Las
Vegas-based company she thought
would use his body for medical
research.
But, some “ambiguity” was in
the contract she signed, according
to East Baton Rouge District
Attorney Hillar Moore, who also
spoke at the meeting by phone.
Med Ed Labs spokesperson
Obteen Nassiri said the com-
pany was told the body would be
used to train people involved in
death sciences and was unaware
tickets were being sold to attend
the event.
Since the dissection, Med Ed
Labs has taken “very extreme pre-
cautions” to protect their donors’
identities and screens its clients
AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION
Astoria
Longview
42/53
Kennewick
42/53
St. Helens
40/55
43/53
Condon
40/59
43/56
TONIGHT
WED
THU
FRI
SAT
An afternoon
shower
Cloudy with a
shower
Clouds, a little
rain
Cloudy
28 53 33
52 30
52 31
55 30
Eugene
2
2
2
39/53
52 34
51 36
55 33
2
0
5
La Grande
33 55 38
Comfort Index™
Enterprise
1
2
26 52 36
Comfort Index™
1
48 28
49 33
3
2
3
1
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Sunday
Low Sunday
High: 104°
Low: 0°
Wettest: 3.47”
49°
22°
52°
25°
53°
30°
0.00
0.50
0.44
1.17
2.50
0.00
0.50
0.98
2.88
5.60
0.22
2.28
1.39
9.47
9.25
PRECIPITATION (inches)
HAY INFORMATION WEDNESDAY
50%
SSE at 10 to 20 mph
1.1
0.08
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Monday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
OREGON
High: 61°
Low: 10°
Wettest: 0.07”
The Dalles
Meacham
Tillamook
WEATHER HISTORY
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
Del Rio, Texas
Walhalla, N.D.
Troy, Ala.
10% of capacity
74% of capacity
43% of capacity
76% of capacity
42% of capacity
99% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Sunday)
Snow began to fall in Watertown, Ohio,
on April 19, 1901. Watertown received 45
inches the next day. This was the greatest
24-hour snowfall in state history.
SUN & MOON
TUE.
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
6:00 a.m.
7:43 p.m.
11:59 p.m.
7:42 a.m.
WED.
5:59 a.m.
7:45 p.m.
none
8:27 a.m.
MOON PHASES
Grande Ronde at Troy
2450 cfs
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
1 cfs
Burnt River near Unity
5 cfs
Umatilla River near Gibbon
195 cfs
Minam River at Minam
298 cfs
Powder River near Richland
23 cfs
Last
Apr 23
New
First
Apr 30
May 8
Full
May 15
30/52
Beaver Marsh
Powers
44/53
42/54
Silver Lake
Jordan Valley
30/54
Frenchglen
Paisley
32/55
31/52
32/47
Klamath Falls
33/47
McDermitt
Hi/Lo/W
53/43/r
55/36/c
60/43/pc
50/43/r
52/30/c
53/43/r
54/41/r
56/39/r
53/35/c
53/42/r
64/45/sh
55/44/r
57/41/c
52/34/sh
50/37/c
62/43/c
47/32/sh
49/30/c
Hi/Lo/W
55/40/r
53/33/c
56/38/pc
52/42/r
53/26/c
55/44/r
55/39/r
55/32/pc
50/33/c
57/43/r
62/35/c
59/40/sh
57/33/pc
50/28/c
49/31/sh
63/36/c
48/29/r
45/27/r
30/59
RECREATION FORECAST WEDNESDAY
REGIONAL CITIES
City
Astoria
Bend
Boise
Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
33/69
Lakeview
30/49
Shown is Wednesday’s weather. Temperatures are Tuesday night’s lows and Wednesday’s highs.
THU.
Grand View
Arock
32/60
Fields
40/55
WED.
Diamond
30/53
31/60
Medford
Brookings
Boise
37/60
42/57
45/50
32/59
29/51
Chiloquin
Grants Pass
Juntura
26/52
30/52
32/43
Roseburg
Ontario
36/63
Burns
Brothers
36/54
Coos Bay
Huntington
24/49
33/55
Oakridge
33/56
35/57
Seneca
Bend
Elkton
SUNDAY EXTREMES
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
Sunday
Month to date
Normal month to date
Year to date
Normal year to date
Florence
Council
28/53
John Day
30/55
30/53
43/53
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
ALMANAC
Sisters
42/53
49 31
32/55
Baker City
Redmond
42/52
44/52
Halfway
Granite
26/44
36/51
41/54
Corvallis
35/56
37/54
Newport
Enterprise
26/52
33/55
Monument
38/59
Idanha
Salem
Showers around
early
1
Elgin
31/53
La Grande
37/56
Maupin
1
38/57
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
41/51
Lewiston
38/62
Hood River
38/60
41/52
Comfort Index™
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Walla Walla
40/62
Vancouver
42/53
TIllamook
Baker City
more strictly to ensure they’re
“legitimate,” Nassiri said.
Moore said he accompa-
nied David Saunders’ nephew
to identify the body after it
was returned to a Baton Rouge
morgue. In his experience
attending thousands of autopsies,
Moore said the body was not
treated like any body is treated in
a legitimate autopsy.
“This was completely diff erent
and separate in a very macabre
way than any other autopsies
being conducted,” he said.
Moore said he was dismayed
that there were few Oregon and
Louisiana restrictions preventing
for-profi t autopsies. He hopes to
introduce a similar ordinance in
Baton Rouge.
Multnomah County Commis-
sioner Lori Stegmann during the
meeting asked about criminal
sanctions for ordinance violators.
“I would urge that we make
this a criminal issue and that we
talk to our state legislators, our
other counties, so that a family
never has to go through this
again,” Stegmann said. “It is truly
a violation of our humanity.”
City
Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
WED.
THU.
Hi/Lo/W
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53/44/r
52/37/c
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54/39/r
63/42/c
61/43/c
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54/41/r
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Hi/Lo/W
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57/36/sh
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52/43/r
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58/42/r
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54/33/sh
61/42/c
50/28/c
57/36/sh
Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain,
sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice
ANTHONY LAKES
PHILLIPS LAKE
Snow, 1-2”
Rain and drizzle
30
22
46
30
MT. EMILY REC.
BROWNLEE RES.
A shower
Cloudy, a shower
40
31
57
37
EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
A bit of p.m. snow
A shower
35
29
47
32
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
A p.m. shower
A shower
50
37
60
42
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
A p.m. shower
A shower
53
33
55
38
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