COFFEE BREAK
B6 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
THuRSDAY, MARCH 10, 2022
Marriage reeling after family’s horrific loss
place, but as soon as Jeff got home,
he started hitting me and calling
me a cheating slut. We have been
together 20 years, and I have been
faithful. If I go to the store or to
run errands, he gets mad at me
for being gone a little too long.
If I try to explain what held me
up, it’s automatically because I’m
cheating, but Jeff feels he can leave
and be gone for hours, and it’s OK
for him.
I love him, but I can’t take it
anymore. When our son acts out
and starts being mean to me, Jeff
tells him to respect me, but I think
to myself, “How can you tell him
to respect me when you don’t?”
Abby, please help me. — SO
LOST IN THE EAST
DEAR SO LOST: The fire and
DEAR ABBY: Our house
burned down a year ago, and we
lost everything. My husband,
“Jeff,” tried desperately to get to
our 2-year-old daughter, but she
perished in the fire. I managed to
get our 3-year-old son out while he
was trying to save our daughter.
Jeff ended up in a burn unit on a
ventilator for nine days because
he burned his lungs. When he was
released from the hospital, things
got worse.
We lived with my mom and
stepdad for a bit until we found a
I have tried to be unavailable, she
has bullied me into seeing her
anyway. My partner says I need to
break up with her, but I don’t want
to hurt her or have a confrontation.
How can I gracefully exit this rela-
tionship? — STRESSED IN THE
WEST
DEAR STRESSED: There
may not be a graceful way to
exit from a relationship with a
bully. Ask yourself which would
be worse: telling her exactly
what you have written to me, or
allowing yourself to be steamroll-
ered into another exhausting and
frustrating encounter with her.
Once you have the answer to that
question, you will know exactly
what to do, which may start with
blocking her number.
thehotline.org. Do it now.
DEAR ABBY: My high school
friend returns to our hometown
once or twice a year. Her last sev-
eral visits were exhausting. She
talked about herself for hours
without asking one question about
my life. She objectifies men and
calls people weak for expressing
their emotions.
Our friendship has been a long
one. I went to her wedding and did
the flowers for her dad’s funeral.
But the more I understand myself,
the more I see how toxic she is for
me. I have reached the hard reali-
zation that I no longer want to be
around her. I don’t like who she is
or how she makes me feel.
I would like us to simply drift
apart, but she can be a bully. When
tragic death of your daughter has
done more damage to your hus-
band than sear his lungs. It has
also taken an emotional toll. It is
important that you no longer allow
him to take out his anger and frus-
tration with himself on you.
If you have any power at all in
your relationship, insist he seek
help from a licensed mental health
professional. If he refuses, you
cannot remain married to him
because his physical and emotional
abuse may continue to escalate,
and seeing it will affect your son.
Have an escape plan in place
before you confront him. A safe
way to formulate one would be to
contact the National Domestic Vio-
lence Hotline. The toll-free number
is 800-799-7233 and the website is
Realtors to conservatives living in liberal areas: Try Idaho
The Associated Press
SANDPOINT, Idaho
— Linda Navarre moved
to Sandpoint, Idaho, from
Cleveland in 1978, when the
town consisted of people
in the timber industry and
hippies “and they all got
along.”
Now she barely recog-
nizes the small resort com-
munity near the Cana-
dian border that is quickly
growing as people disen-
chanted with big city life
move there. Many are con-
servatives fed up with lib-
eral politics in blue states.
“The division gets wider
and wider,” Navarre said,
adding many of the new
arrivals are changing the
civility of the community.
“My concern is there are so
many people who are not
nice.”
Sandpoint is a four-
season resort town built
along the shores of scenic
Lake Pend Oreille. It had
7,300 residents in the 2010
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against Oregon Attorney
General Ellen Rosenblum
and Real Estate Commis-
sioner Steve Strode, alleging
that forbidding these com-
munications violates their
First Amendment rights.
Hernández’s legal
opinion acknowledges Ore-
gon’s “long and abhorrent
history” of racist housing
discrimination. He points to
laws that outright prohibited
people of color from owning
Ruth Fremson/New York Times News Service, File
A guitarist plays in downtown Sandpoint, Idaho, a town of 8,900 on
the shores of Lake Pend Oreille. The mayor of Sandpoint and many
residents worry that the trend of a growing number of real estate
companies advertising to conservatives that they can help people
move out of liberal bastions like Seattle and San Francisco and find
homes in places like rural Idaho is not good for their community.
trend, a growing number of
real estate companies are
advertising themselves to
people on the right, saying
they can take them out of
liberal bastions like Seattle
and San Francisco and find
them homes in places like
rural Idaho.
Census, but grew 21% in
the decade to about 8,900 in
the 2020 Census. In addi-
tion to the natural beauty,
“people come here because
it’s a red state,” said long-
time resident Gail Cam-
eron, 67.
To capitalize on that
masking,” Chabot said.
Idaho has been the
fastest growing state in the
nation for five years run-
ning, growing 2.9% in 2021,
mostly from in-migration.
But the influx of people
to places like Idaho has
made it harder for some
long-time residents. People
struggle to find housing
in Sandpoint, with many
houses sold the same day
they are listed, after bidding
wars, Cameron said.
Many of those homes
are converted into vacation
rentals, which tightens the
market for people who live
in the area, Cameron said.
Carolyn Knaack, asso-
ciate director of the Lake
Pend Oreille Waterkeeper
conservation group, has
lived in town for a year.
She said the confluence
of the coronavirus pan-
demic and politics “has cre-
ated a divisiveness among
folks.”
“I’ve been applauded
and belittled for wearing
a mask,” she said. “I have
Sandpoint-based Flee the
City is a consortium of four
businesses that specialize
in selling property to con-
servatives in northern Idaho
and western Montana. The
company calls itself “a real
estate firm for the vigilant.”
Flee the City has part-
nered with a company
that provides “sustainable
homes design with inte-
grated ballistic and defen-
sive capabilities.”
Todd Savage, whose
Black Rifle Real Estate
firm is part of Flee the
City, said in a brief email
exchange that his busi-
ness is booming, thanks to
“insane” left wing politics.
One of the bigger players
among right-leaning real
estate companies is Con-
servative Move, based
in a suburb of Dallas.
Founder and chief execu-
tive Paul Chabot said blue
states have only themselves
to blame for driving out
conservatives.
“People are tired of out-
of-control crime and forced
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Hernández suggests two
alternatives that were orig-
inally included in Pacific
Legal Foundation’s legal
claim. Lawmakers could
allow love letters but require
real estate agents to edit out
any information that could
reveal the buyer’s race, reli-
gion, sexual orientation or
marital status. On top of
that, lawmakers could pro-
hibit buyers from providing
personal photos to sellers.
With this preliminary
injunction, HB 2550 can’t
be enforced until Hernández
makes a final decision.
land in Oregon, as well as
governmental policies and
industry practices that con-
tinue to enable housing dis-
crimination to this day.
Even so, Hernández
says he doesn’t think HB
2550 could stand against a
First Amendment claim in
court, mostly because it’s
too broad. Instead of spe-
cifically prohibiting “love
letters,” the law bans all
written communication out-
side of “customary docu-
ments.” The law doesn’t
specify what “customary
documents” include.
friends who refused to get
vaxxed.”
Savage was asked if it
was desirable for people to
segregate themselves by
political ideology.
“I don’t agree with the
term ‘segregate,’” he wrote.
“Folks simply ‘vote with
their feet’ relating to issues
such as crime, taxes, home-
schooling, gun laws, mask
and vaccine mandates,
Orwellian laws and out of
control tyranny in the sanc-
tuary states.”
Not everyone is a fan of
what Savage and conser-
vative real estate agencies
are doing in Sandpoint and
elsewhere.
Mayor Shelby Rogn-
stad, a Democrat, worries
real estate firms that serve
only conservatives “pushes
Idaho more and more into a
playground for extremism.
“It doesn’t bode well for
our sense of community
here,” said Rognstad, who
is mounting a campaign for
governor. “It’s a challenge
to civility.”
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