HOME & LIVING
B8 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 2, 2021
Family friend knows too much about couple’s fi nances
have it.” I understand that might
be the case sometimes, but it hap-
pens all the time.
Pam also secretly borrows
cash from me. She pays it back
late sometimes, but not always.
I talked with Pam and told her
to tell Pete she borrows. I don’t
think she did, and it concerns me.
I’m her enabler but I’m putting
my foot down and not doing it
anymore.
I’m worried because Pete
thinks they have all this money
saved for a house. I’m starting to
think Pam has spent it, or most of
it. How can I tell Pete as a friend
to check the fi nances without
starting World War III? I’d hate to
lose my friends over this, but I’m
afraid the money he is earning is
going somewhere else — where,
Dear Abby: I am friends with
“Pete” and “Pam,” a couple I have
known for more than 20 years.
Pam is keeping secrets from Pete,
and, unfortunately, I’m aware of
it.
I need a way to address my
concerns to Pete. He works full
time in a great job, and his salary
goes into a joint bank account.
Pam handles all the fi nances
and pays the bills — rent, car,
etc. When Pete and I hang out
and he asks Pam (who has the
credit cards) for small amounts of
money, she says, “Sorry, we don’t
I have no idea. Please help. — In
Danger Of Losing Friends
Dear In Danger: Tell Pete
everything you have written to
me. If he is so fi nancially igno-
rant that he doesn’t know how to
check his balances and his credit
rating, he should talk with a CPA
for help ascertaining his fi nan-
cial status. Whether Pam has a
spending problem or some other
type of addiction, he needs to
know. He also needs to know how
long his dreams of homeowner-
ship may need to be postponed if
what you are concerned about is
true.
Dear Abby: I’m a 37-year-old
woman who has had to move
back to my mother’s home after
ending a long-term relationship.
I love her dearly and appreciate
Dear Needing Space: It’s time
for an adult conversation with
Mama. Explain that you enjoy her
company but need some time by
yourself — whether it’s at home
or with your friends. If you don’t
want her beside you all the time
when you’re home, agree on a
place you can retreat to for some
solitude — like your bedroom.
When you’re going out with
friends, be clear that you want
some time with them without her
being present because it inhibits
you. This does not mean she’s
not ever welcome, but maybe half
the time. Encourage her to spend
more time with her own friends.
If she doesn’t have any, help her to
fi nd some. Your problem may be
that your mother is simply lonely
and starved for company.
her letting me stay with her until
I can get back on my feet. The
problem is, I never have any alone
time at home or even out when I
socialize. She’s close with all my
friends and frequently goes to the
same bars and restaurants I do.
When I go out on weekends,
she invariably asks me where
I’m going and then shows up
and sits with me and my group.
I love her, but I really need some
space. I’m single. I want to meet
people when I’m out, and I can’t
do it with her there. When I try to
talk to her about it, she gets upset
and thinks I don’t “ever” want
her around. That’s not true. I just
want my own social life without
her ALWAYS being there. Please
help. — Needing Space In New
Jersey
NEWS OF THE WEIRD
Artist says NYC tribute removed in permit snafu
NEW YORK — Have a heart,
New York!
A giant red heart sculpture
installed last week in Central Park
as a tribute to health care workers
and COVID-19 victims has been
taken down — an apparent casu-
alty of confusion and red tape.
Italian sculptor Sergio Furnari
says he was walking by the park
Thursday, Oct. 28, with friends
when he noticed that his “Heroes
Heart Monument” was gone.
When he went to fi le a police
report, he said, he was bounced
from police station to police sta-
tion until a police offi cer on Oct.
29 showed him video of people
removing the 10-foot-tall, 3,000-
pound monument and placing it
on a truck.
“They literally broke my
heart,” Furnari said when reached
Oct. 29.
Furnari conceded he did not
have a permit to place the heart in
the park but considered a $4,000
grant he received from New
York City’s government to be his
permit for the temporary instal-
Man with knife injures 17
on Tokyo train, starts fi re
Dieu-Nalio Chery/The Associated Press, File
Italian sculptor Sergio Furnari poses for pictures in front of “The Hero Monument”
heart sculpture that he made, a symbol of hope and love dedicated to health care
workers around the world, Monday, Oct. 25, 2021, in in New York. The giant red
heart sculpture installed this week as a tribute to health care workers and COVID-19
victims has been taken down — an apparent casualty of confusion and red tape.
lation. He said he considered
the removal of his memorial “an
abuse of power.”
A message seeking comment
was left with the Central Park
Conservancy, the nonprofi t that
manages the park on behalf of the
city. Furnari said he planned to
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TOKYO — A man dressed in
Batman’s Joker costume and bran-
dishing a knife on a Tokyo com-
muter train on Sunday, Oct. 31,
stabbed several passengers before
starting a fi re, which sent people
scrambling to escape and jumping
from windows, police and wit-
nesses said.
The Tokyo Fire Department
said 17 passengers were injured,
including three seriously. Not all
go to the organization on Nov. 1
to fi nd out what happened to his
heart.
Furnari said he wanted the
sculpture to be a place for emo-
tional and spiritual solace in the
bustling city and not just a pop-
ular spot for selfi es, though he
AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION
Astoria
Longview
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Kennewick
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St. Helens
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cloudiness
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showers
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49 30
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Eugene
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La Grande
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Enterprise
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Comfort Index™
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TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High: 94°
Low: 2°
Wettest: 2.88”
48°
25°
43°
28°
46°
29°
Sunday
Trace
Month to date
0.77
Normal month to date 0.62
Year to date
4.35
Normal year to date
7.48
Trace
1.02
1.58
8.40
13.58
0.00
2.10
2.16
18.51
19.03
PRECIPITATION (inches)
HAY INFORMATION WEDNESDAY
45%
SSE at 8 to 16 mph
1.2
0.09
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Monday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
N.A.
11% of capacity
12% of capacity
15% of capacity
5% of capacity
0% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Sunday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
Burnt River near Unity
Umatilla River near Gibbon
Minam River at Minam
Powder River near Richland
SUN & MOON
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
TUE.
WED.
7:33 a.m.
5:38 p.m.
4:33 a.m.
4:52 p.m.
7:34 a.m.
5:37 p.m.
5:51 a.m.
5:15 p.m.
MOON PHASES
788 cfs
0 cfs
18 cfs
45 cfs
100 cfs
8 cfs
Grants Pass
Brookings
New
Nov 4
First
Nov 11
Full
Nov 19
Last
Nov 27
Juntura
33/60
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Silver Lake
Jordan Valley
39/61
Paisley
36/63
Frenchglen
40/63
Diamond
42/62
37/64
Fields
45/66
37/63
Klamath Falls
36/60
Lakeview
30/60
McDermitt
36/61
RECREATION FORECAST WEDNESDAY
REGIONAL CITIES
City
Astoria
Bend
Boise
Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
Grand View
Arock
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Boise
43/63
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36/61
Medford
55/62
Salem
Baker City
Madras
On Nov. 2, 1861, a hurricane in the
Carolinas sank two Union ships. Despite
the loss, Union forces managed to capture
Port Royal, S.C., fi ve days later.
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Ontario
43/63
Burns
49/69
OREGON
High: 66°
Low: 25°
Wettest: 0.05”
Beaver Marsh
Chiloquin
Zapata, Texas
Cut Bank, Mont.
Bangor, Maine
WEATHER HISTORY
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Evapotranspiration
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Brothers
43/59
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Roseburg
Huntington
37/55
44/63
Oakridge
Council
38/60
45/57
Seneca
49/67
50/66
SUNDAY EXTREMES
High Sunday
Low Sunday
42/61
Bend
Elkton
Powers
40/59
37/57
John Day
41/62
43/59
Coos Bay
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
ALMANAC
Sisters
Florence
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Halfway
Granite
39/53
Baker City
Redmond
51/60
49/66
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Monument
42/63
47/64
48/58
Corvallis
45/60
46/58
Newport
Enterprise
La Grande
41/55
43/55
Idanha
Salem
TONIGHT
5
Elgin
41/61
38/59
Condon
Maupin
Comfort Index™
42/56
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
Lewiston
46/62
Hood River
42/55
TIllamook
37 57 43
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Walla Walla
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Vancouver
47/60
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Baker City
of them were stabbed and most of
the other injuries were not serious,
the agency said.
The attacker, identifi ed as a
24-year-old man, was arrested on
the spot and was being investi-
gated on suspicion of attempted
murder, NHK said. His motive
was not immediately known.
Nippon Television reported
that the suspect told police that he
wanted to kill and get a death pen-
alty, and that he used an earlier
train stabbing case as an example.
Witnesses told police that the
attacker was wearing a bright
outfi t — a green shirt, a blue suit
and a purple coat — like the Joker
in Batman comics or someone
going to a Halloween event,
according to media reports.
Tokyo police offi cials said the
attack happened inside the Keio
train near the Kokuryo station.
Television footage showed a
number of fi refi ghters, police offi -
cials and paramedics rescuing
the passengers, many of whom
escaped through train windows.
In one video, passengers were
running from another car, where
fl ames were gushing.
said he was cool with that, too.
The work was an extension of
another piece he created earlier in
the pandemic: a life-size sculpture
of a health care worker kneeling
with arms stretched to the sky.
In an interview prior to the
sculpture’s removal, the artist
explained his vision for the piece.
“Everybody suff ers in diff erent
ways and needs all diff erent types
of comfort,” Furnari said. “I hope
this heart helps them remember
their loved ones and cope with
the grief. For a moment, they can
forget about their problems.”
The Associated Press
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