COFFEE BREAK
B8 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
TuESDAY, OCTOBER 26, 2021
Child of recovering addict still harbors raw resentment
I have apologized many times
and tried to show her I don’t treat
her siblings differently. I schedule
“us” time, but this is an ongoing
battle, and I’m at a loss about how
to fix it. How do I show her there’s
no difference in the way I treat
any of them? How do I reassure
her that her feelings are validated?
This has caused me many tearful
nights. — Wanting Serenity
Back
Dear Wanting: Your daugh-
ter’s sense of deprivation has
probably caused her many tearful
nights as well. Your years of
active addiction kept her from
having the mother she needed as
Dear Abby: I’m the mother of
a 36-year-old daughter. She claims
I treat her younger brothers better
than I treat her. I am a recovering
addict — clean for 20-plus years.
I was in active addiction for nine
years when she was a teenager,
and she has never let that go. She
constantly tells me how “unfair”
I am, that I never make time for
her and that I don’t validate her
feelings.
I have since distanced myself
for several reasons. 1) I won’t
waste my breath trying to explain
to my parents; they won’t believe
a word I say. Also, my parents
are the most judgmental people
I know. 2) I have no tolerance
for other people’s jealousy or
envy because I don’t envy or get
jealous. 3) I don’t want to be sur-
rounded by negative energy and
emotional pain.
My sister is trying to get the
family together again in spite of
everything. I need her to respect
my boundaries and my decision to
stay away. I don’t want to have to
discuss this when I have a conver-
a teen. I’m sorry to say that it may
have created an emptiness in her
you may not be able to fill. You
can’t “fix” her anger and feelings
of deprivation, but that doesn’t
mean she can’t do it herself. It may
involve her joining a 12-step pro-
gram, or seeking emotional coun-
seling — if she’s willing — but
until she finds a way to stop trying
to punish you, she will remain
stuck in her anger and jealousy.
Dear Abby: How do I tell
my sister I no longer wish to
be included in family gather-
ings (birthdays, holidays, etc.)?
What happened on my brother’s
birthday was the last straw.
sation with her. I no longer wish
to attend gatherings because they
always end up in disruption of
some kind, and then I have to take
that energy home with me. Please
help. — Seeking Peace In Illinois
Dear Seeking Peace: Your
sister is not a mind reader.
Because you don’t want her to
“bring this up” when she has a
conversation with you, take the
bull by the horns, explain that
you won’t be attending family
get-togethers and state your rea-
sons. And when you do, tell her
your mind is made up and you
do not want to discuss it further.
Good luck.
NEWS OF THE WEIRD
For sleepy Hong Kong residents, 5-hour bus tour is a snooze
HONG KONG — Trav-
el-starved, sleep-deprived
residents might find a new
Hong Kong bus tour to be a
snooze.
The 47-mile, five-hour
ride on a regular dou-
ble-decker bus around the
territory is meant to appeal
to people who are easily
lulled asleep by long rides.
It was inspired by the ten-
dency of tired commuters to
fall asleep on public transit.
“When we were brain-
storming new tours, I saw a
social media post from my
friend saying that he was
stressed out by his work, he
couldn’t sleep at night,” said
Kenneth Kong, the mar-
keting and business devel-
opment manager of ulu
travel, the organizer of the
bus tours.
“But when he was trav-
eling on the bus, he was
able to sleep well. His post
inspired us to create this
tour that lets passengers just
sleep on the bus.”
Tickets cost between
$13 to $51 per person,
depending on whether they
Kin Cheung/The Associated Press
Passengers sleep on the upper deck of a double-decker bus in Hong Kong, Saturday, Oct. 16, 2021. Trav-
el-starved, sleep-deprived residents might find a new Hong Kong bus tour to be a snooze. The 47-mile,
five-hour ride on a double-decker bus around the territory is meant to appeal to people who are easily
lulled asleep by long rides.
choose seats on the upper or
lower deck. A goodie bag
for passengers includes an
eye-mask and ear plugs.
The first “Sleeping Bus
Tour” on Saturday, Oct. 16,
sold out. Some passengers
came prepared, bringing
their own blankets and
He said that the tour
was a good idea and
“more interesting” than he
expected.
On the Oct. 16 tour, the
bus stopped so passengers
could take photos at scenic
spots on the city’s Lantau
Island. One stop was the
changing their shoes to slip-
pers, while others brought
travel pillows.
“I have been suffering
from insomnia so I am here
to try and get some sleep,”
said 25-year-old Anson
Kong, one of the passengers
on the first bus tour.
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Ed Sheeran has COVID,
will do performances
from home
NEW YORK — British
pop star Ed Sheeran said
Sunday he has tested pos-
itive for COVID-19 and
AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION
Astoria
Longview
50/58
Kennewick
49/56
St. Helens
51/58
50/59
Condon
51/60
51/59
A couple of
showers
Baker City
38 55 36
Comfort Index™
La Grande
2
2
Comfort Index™
2
Turning cloudy
Variable
cloudiness
Salem
Eugene
7
5
3
51/61
66 47
60 35
53 38
10
8
5
52 38
10
10
6
3
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High: 99°
Low: 16°
Wettest: 10.30”
52°
43°
54°
47°
56°
37°
PRECIPITATION (inches)
Sunday
Month to date
Normal month to date
Year to date
Normal year to date
0.11
0.74
0.46
4.32
7.32
0.08
0.77
1.10
8.15
13.10
0.02
0.88
1.47
17.29
18.34
HAY INFORMATION WEDNESDAY
40%
W at 6 to 12 mph
0.3
0.08
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Monday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
54/63
N.A.
10% of capacity
11% of capacity
19% of capacity
3% of capacity
0% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Sunday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
Burnt River near Unity
Umatilla River near Gibbon
Minam River at Minam
Powder River near Richland
SUN & MOON
TUE.
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
WED.
7:23 a.m. 7:25 a.m.
5:49 p.m. 5:47 p.m.
9:40 p.m. 10:39 p.m.
1:21 p.m. 2:07 p.m.
MOON PHASES
762 cfs
0 cfs
17 cfs
46 cfs
75 cfs
3 cfs
Grants Pass
Last
Oct 28
New
First
Nov 4
Full
Nov 11
Nov 19
Silver Lake
Jordan Valley
43/52
Frenchglen
Paisley
40/57
42/54
42/55
Brookings
Diamond
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
42/56
37/52
McDermitt
42/53
Shown is Wednesday’s weather. Temperatures are Tuesday night’s lows and Wednesday’s highs.
RECREATION FORECAST WEDNESDAY
REGIONAL CITIES
City
Astoria
Bend
Boise
Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
THU.
Hi/Lo/W
58/50/r
60/48/c
58/44/pc
61/53/c
57/32/pc
62/55/c
57/52/c
53/35/pc
53/42/c
61/53/c
63/49/pc
58/50/r
55/44/c
56/43/pc
50/38/c
65/51/pc
56/36/c
52/30/c
Hi/Lo/W
60/48/r
70/47/pc
64/50/pc
65/51/pc
64/36/pc
67/52/pc
64/49/c
58/38/c
66/47/c
66/51/c
77/56/pc
64/56/c
64/52/pc
67/49/pc
61/44/pc
72/55/c
63/38/pc
63/34/s
42/62
44/58
Fields
51/61
WED.
Grand View
Arock
42/55
44/56
Medford
53/61
Boise
45/58
54/63
Hermiston
Crater Lake
Klamath Falls
Days after a raging fi re hit the Oakland,
Calif., area, the fi rst rainstorm of the sea-
son drenched the region on Oct. 26, 1991.
The fi re scene received 2 inches of rain.
52/60
43/60
40/57
Chiloquin
OREGON
WEATHER HISTORY
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
Powers
Juntura
36/57
44/56
38/55
Roseburg
Ontario
44/64
Burns
Brothers
Beaver Marsh
53/62
Huntington
37/52
48/60
Oakridge
42/53
44/59
Seneca
49/56
Coos Bay
Zapata, Texas
Hibbing, Minn.
Emigrant Gap, Calif.
High: 64°
Low: 31°
Wettest: 0.62”
45/56
Bend
Elkton
SUNDAY EXTREMES
High Sunday
Low Sunday
42/59
Council
38/55
John Day
46/57
Florence
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
ALMANAC
Sisters
53/59
61 38
43/55
Baker City
Redmond
53/59
Halfway
Granite
40/49
48/53
50/57
53 32
63 46
45/59
49/57
Newport
Enterprise
42/49
45/54
Monument
51/57
Idanha
51/59
Corvallis
58 35
4
42 49 38
SAT
59 41
5
45 54 43
Comfort Index™
Enterprise
Mostly cloudy, a Clouds and sun;
shower
warmer
FRI
Elgin
44/53
La Grande
48/53
Maupin
THU
48/60
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
50/57
Lewiston
50/59
Hood River
49/59
51/58
WED
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Walla Walla
53/65
Vancouver
48/58
TIllamook
TONIGHT
will do interviews and per-
formances from his house
while he self-isolates.
Sheeran, 30, broke the
news on social media days
before his new album is due
out.
“Quick note to tell you
that I’ve sadly tested pos-
itive for COVID, so I’m
now self-isolating and fol-
lowing government guide-
lines,” Sheeran wrote on
Instagram. “It means that
I’m now unable to plough
ahead with any in person
commitments for now, so
I’ll be doing as many of my
planned interviews/per-
formances I can from my
house. Apologies to anyone
I’ve let down.”
Sheeran had just been
announced as the musical
guest on NBC’s “Saturday
Night Live” on Nov. 6.
Representatives did not
say which performances he
is canceling and which he
will carry out from home.
Sheeran’s website lists no
performances before April.
The four-time Grammy
winner’s new studio album
is called “=,” which is pro-
nounced “Equals.”
aircraft maintenance area
near Hong Kong’s airport,
where passengers can snag
selfies with aircraft in the
background.
The tendency to fall
sleep on public transport
is a type of conditioning,
according to Dr. Shirley Li,
the principal investigator of
the Sleep Research Clinic
and Laboratory at the Uni-
versity of Hong Kong.
“People in Hong Kong
don’t have enough time to
sleep,” Li said. “That’s why
we have to kind of use other
times to sleep, which is our
daily commute, especially
when we are traveling on
public transport.”
“For some people, they
may tend to associate public
transport with their sleep.
And that’s why they found
it easier to fall asleep on the
bus,” she said.”
The Associated Press
City
Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
WED.
THU.
ANTHONY LAKES
PHILLIPS LAKE
Hi/Lo/W
59/48/pc
56/48/r
53/43/c
61/47/c
57/51/c
56/48/r
64/40/pc
64/49/pc
59/48/pc
59/52/c
63/57/c
59/46/c
60/52/c
59/54/r
52/42/pc
60/48/c
52/43/c
60/48/pc
Hi/Lo/W
66/49/c
63/53/r
65/48/c
69/48/pc
61/51/c
58/49/r
67/44/pc
69/53/pc
76/51/pc
64/54/c
71/51/pc
70/45/pc
70/52/c
65/53/c
58/45/c
63/52/c
67/47/c
67/50/c
A.M. snow showers
Mostly cloudy
Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain,
sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice
32
28
51
37
MT. EMILY REC.
BROWNLEE RES.
A shower
Showers around
42
39
56
38
EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
A.M. snow showers
A p.m. shower
36
29
48
39
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
A morning shower
Breezy in the a.m.
50
38
58
46
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
Rather cloudy
A stray shower
55
36
54
43
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