COFFEE BREAK
B6 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
SATuRDAY, OCTOBER 23, 2021
Wife in new marriage seeks balance with mother
started dating four years ago and
were married last summer.
Eric knows Mom and I have
always considered ourselves to be
each other’s best friend. He also
knows we have taken many trips
together, and Mom was hoping
we’d continue after my wedding.
She has recently begun discussing
a vacation, and Eric wants to tag
along. She, however, wants it to
be a “just us girls” trip. I’m not
sure how to handle this. Mom
and Eric are the most important
people in my life. Must I really
choose between one or the other?
Who comes first? And how do I
break the news to whoever comes
second? — Torn In Illinois
Dear Torn: You are a
Dear Abby: My mom and I
have always been close, but since
I got married, I have been having
a hard time setting boundaries.
My parents divorced when I was
12, and Mom went through a
string of boyfriends — including
an abusive one. She hasn’t dated
anyone seriously in the last five
years. My father is a pilot. While
I was growing up, it was mostly
Mom who raised me. It was the
two of us against the world, until
I met my husband, “Eric.” We
newlywed, married only a short
time. For your mother to expect
you to leave your husband and
vacation with her at this point is
insensitive and unrealistic. When
people marry, their spouse is sup-
posed to take precedence. Tell
your mother you would love to
take girls trips with her in the
future, but not during the first
year of your marriage.
Dear Abby: Can you help
to illuminate people on what is
proper etiquette after the passing
of a loved one? We recently had
a death in our family. As we
were trying to say our goodbyes
and get in touch with immediate
family, the word got out.
Within an hour of the passing,
kindly offer your condolences and
maybe an apology. — Mourning
In Michigan
Dear Mourning: Please accept
my sympathy for your loss. I am
sure that feelings are raw because
people are hurting, but please
realize that because of social
media, news travels like wild-
fire. For a friend to be told and
then to post the sad news wouldn’t
be unusual these days. However,
to head something like that off
before it happened, the person
who spilled the beans should have
asked the friend to keep the news
private until all family members
were personally informed.
That said, since there were hurt
feelings, apologies are in order.
the news was all over social
media. We barely had time to
react, let alone inform all our
family members. Many of them
learned about it from these posts.
Imagine finding out a loved one
passed away from a non-family
member’s social media posting. It
made an already painful situation
even more so. People were hurt
that they weren’t informed before
it was all over the internet.
Could you also point out that if
you are the person who made the
post from which someone found
out about the death of a family
member, rather than get defen-
sive and say, “I’m not the only
one who posted it!” or, “I wasn’t
the first to say something,” just
NEWS OF THE WEIRD
Police answer 4-year-old’s call, confirm toys are cool
As school cheerleaders
wrapped up their routine, about
30 students and faculty members
dressed as drag queens and kings
— or a bit of both — walked
out onto the field and the crowd
started to chant, “Drag Ball.”
Performers paraded and
danced to show support for
LGBTQ people. They also lip-
synced to singer Todrick Hall’s
“Rainbow Reign.”
Andrew LeValley, an English
teacher and alliance adviser at the
school, came up with the idea.
“We had some people that are
pretty involved in theater come in
and talk about how you put on a
persona,” he said.
LeValley joined students on
the runway, dressed in a Shake-
spearean burgundy gown and
a wig. He said he was inspired
by Lady Macbeth and Marie
Antoinette.
“I was just really hoping to
give our students — who are both
out and the students that were in
the stands who are not out — a
moment to shine and feel loved,
and know that there is a place for
them in public schools,” LeValley
said.
Athletic Director Quaron
Pinckney suggested that the show
be held at homecoming.
Pinckney, who is Black, said
that the school gave him the space
to “uplift my voice” and that he
was able to reciprocate and “uplift
the voices of another marginal-
ized group and share a space in
the athletics realm that doesn’t
normally get shared.”
Lauren McBride, principal of
Burlington High School, said she
heard a dad talking to his two
sons at the game who didn’t know
that the drag ball was going to be
the halftime show.
She heard him explaining
to them what dressing in drag
means, “and it was like, ‘This is
really cool,’” she said.
The Associated Press
WELLINGTON, New Zea-
land — An emergency call made
by a 4-year-old New Zealand boy
asking for police to come over
and check out his toys prompted
a real-life callout and confirma-
tion from an officer that the toys
were, indeed, pretty cool.
Police shared audio of the
call on social media this week
along with a photo of the
smiling boy sitting on the hood
of a patrol cruiser, noting that
while they don’t encourage
children to call the emergency
number, the incident was “too
cute not to share.”
The call begins all business:
“This is police, where is the
emergency?”
There’s a pause as the uniden-
tified boy hesitantly says, “Hi,”
and then “Police lady?”
“Yes,” the dispatcher says,
switching to a friendlier, sing-
song tone. “What’s going on?”
“Um, can I tell you some-
thing?” the boy asks, and after
being told he can, says “I’ve got
some toys for you.”
“You’ve got some toys for
me?” says the dispatcher.
“Yep. Come over and see
them,” the boy replies.
A man then gets on the phone
confirming the call was a mis-
take, saying the 4-year-old
had been helping out while his
mother was sick.
A police dispatch call then
goes out, giving the address:
“There is a 4-year-old there who
is wanting to show police his
toys, over.”
“Yeah, I’m one-up, I’ll attend
to,” responds an officer.
Police said the officer, who
they identified only as Constable
Kurt, was shown an array of toys
at the boy’s house in the South
Island city of Invercargill.
They said the officer was also
New Zealand Police via The Associated Press
In this photo released by New Zealand Police, an officer identified only as Constable Kurt sits on his patrol car with a 4-year-old
boy who is not identified, in the South Island city of Invercargill, New Zealand, Friday, Oct. 15, 2021. An emergency call made by
the 4-year-old New Zealand boy asking for police to come over and check out his toys prompted a real-life callout and confir-
mation from an officer that the toys were, indeed, pretty cool
able to have a “good, educational
chat” about the proper use of the
emergency number, which is 111
in New Zealand.
“He did have cool toys,” Con-
stable Kurt reported back after
attending the callout, according
to police. They added that: “The
lucky kid also got to see the
patrol car and the officer put the
lights on for him, too.”
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Hail, Mary! High school’s
halftime show is a
drag pageant
rainbow colors to cheer them on.
“Things went amazing,” Ezra
Totten, student leader of the
Gender Sexuality Alliance at
Burlington High School, said
of the Friday night event, which
also included participants from
South Burlington High School.
“The stands were completely
packed. ... It was just so heart-
warming to see.”
BURLINGTON, Vt. — A Ver-
mont high school homecoming
football game turned into a “drag
ball” runway at halftime, with a
mix of students and faculty mem-
bers parading in gowns, wigs and
makeup — and a big crowd in
AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION
Astoria
Longview
48/58
Kennewick
48/55
St. Helens
51/58
TIllamook
47/57
47/57
51/59
49/58
Condon
SUN
MON
TUE
WED
An evening
shower or two
Rainy times
Cloudy with a
few showers
Cloudy with
showers
Showers
possible
55 37
49 38
51 36
Eugene
3
0
3
51/58
55 40
53 45
52 42
1
0
5
Comfort Index™
La Grande
0
42 53 45
Comfort Index™
Enterprise
0
0
0
37 51 40
Comfort Index™
5
51 43
47 43
3
0
6
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Thursday
Low Thursday
High: 96°
Low: 9°
Wettest: 3.37”
70°
45°
71°
40°
71°
36°
0.00
0.04
0.39
3.62
7.25
0.00
0.07
0.92
7.45
12.92
0.02
0.21
1.22
16.62
18.09
PRECIPITATION (inches)
HAY INFORMATION SUNDAY
60%
SSE at 15 to 25 mph
0.4
0.08
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Friday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
N.A.
10% of capacity
11% of capacity
19% of capacity
3% of capacity
0% of capacity
High: 79°
Low: 29°
Wettest: 0.97”
Ontario
Burns
Brookings
On Oct. 23, 1991, northerly winds sent
cold air into the Dakotas. Bismarck had
7 inches of snow. Simultaneously, south
winds sent record warmth into the East;
Buffalo, N.Y., had a record high of 77.
SUN & MOON
SAT.
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
SUN.
7:19 a.m. 7:21 a.m.
5:53 p.m. 5:52 p.m.
7:32 p.m. 8:07 p.m.
10:25 a.m. 11:28 a.m.
MOON PHASES
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Thursday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
Burnt River near Unity
Umatilla River near Gibbon
Minam River at Minam
Powder River near Richland
OREGON
WEATHER HISTORY
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
Zapata, Texas
Angel Fire, N.M.
Crescent City, Calif.
568 cfs
0 cfs
17 cfs
44 cfs
52 cfs
3 cfs
Last
Oct 28
New
Nov 4
First
Nov 11
Full
Nov 19
40/55
40/57
54/60
38/51
Beaver Marsh
36/47
Roseburg
Powers
Brothers
49/56
Coos Bay
53/57
Burns
Jordan Valley
39/49
Paisley
39/52
Frenchglen
41/54
Klamath Falls
41/49
Hi/Lo/W
58/49/r
54/41/r
57/48/sh
59/46/r
54/38/sh
58/51/r
56/48/r
49/46/sh
54/44/sh
58/48/r
65/47/sh
57/46/r
54/48/r
55/45/sh
47/41/r
65/48/sh
49/36/r
48/31/sh
Hi/Lo/W
57/49/sh
52/43/sh
56/42/sh
55/50/r
54/33/sh
57/50/sh
54/47/sh
51/38/sh
55/40/sh
56/49/sh
67/52/c
56/46/sh
54/42/sh
53/39/c
49/36/sh
65/51/c
47/38/r
45/33/r
Grand View
Arock
44/55
42/56
Lakeview
38/48
McDermitt
39/51
RECREATION FORECAST SUNDAY
REGIONAL CITIES
City
Astoria
Bend
Boise
Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
Diamond
38/53
41/52
Shown is Sunday’s weather. Temperatures are Saturday night’s lows and Sunday’s highs.
MON.
Boise
46/57
Fields
49/58
SUN.
39/58
Silver Lake
40/48
Medford
Brookings
Juntura
34/54
51/57
51/59
Ontario
45/56
37/51
Chiloquin
Grants Pass
Huntington
34/49
44/54
Oakridge
42/49
46/55
Seneca
Bend
Elkton
Council
38/50
John Day
43/59
Sisters
Florence
52/58
41/50
Baker City
Redmond
50/56
THURSDAY EXTREMES
ALMANAC
Thursday
Month to date
Normal month to date
Year to date
Normal year to date
Newport
Halfway
Granite
37/45
47/57
49/58
52/58
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
43/56
48/56
52/57
50 36
0
Corvallis
Enterprise
37/51
42/53
Monument
45/59
Idanha
Salem
TONIGHT
38 50 39
Elgin
38/54
La Grande
45/56
Maupin
Baker City
48/59
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
46/59
Hood River
45/59
49/58
Lewiston
Walla Walla
46/65
Vancouver
49/58
Forecasts and graphics provided
by AccuWeather, Inc. ©2021
City
Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
SUN.
MON.
ANTHONY LAKES
PHILLIPS LAKE
Hi/Lo/W
59/47/sh
55/49/r
52/45/sh
58/44/r
56/47/r
55/47/r
56/50/sh
63/47/sh
59/48/sh
59/50/r
60/50/r
59/38/r
57/49/r
58/50/r
52/42/r
57/45/r
52/41/sh
59/47/sh
Hi/Lo/W
58/48/sh
56/49/sh
55/40/sh
56/47/r
53/48/sh
55/47/sh
62/45/sh
64/49/c
61/48/sh
57/51/sh
55/49/r
57/41/sh
55/50/sh
57/50/sh
54/43/c
59/48/c
52/40/sh
59/48/c
Snow and ice, 1-3”
Cloudy, showers
Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain,
sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice
34
25
46
39
MT. EMILY REC.
BROWNLEE RES.
Windy with showers
A few showers
43
36
52
48
EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
A snow shower
Cloudy, showers
37
30
46
40
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
Rain
A few showers
47
41
59
47
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
Windy
Rainy times
50
39
53
45