HOME & LIVING B6 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD TUESDAY, OCTOBER 19, 2021 Rape victim has kept it a secret for decades leaves this Earth. I want him to understand and hopefully for- give me for the events that drove us apart. The need to tell him is so strong, I cry about it. Please advise me on this. — Still Not Over It In Maryland Dear Still Not Over: If it will bring you comfort, reveal the secret you hid from your ex-husband. However, before you do, I urge you to fi rst dis- close it to someone trained to help victims of rape. If there’s a rape treatment center near you, please make an appointment. If there isn’t one, a referral from your doctor to a licensed mental health professional would also be benefi cial. Trust me on that. Dear Abby: Thirty-fi ve years ago I was raped by a stranger. He told me he would kill me if I ever told anyone. I never told my husband (now ex), mostly because I was afraid if I did he would never touch me again. So I lived with the secret. It eventu- ally tore our marriage apart and we divorced. Although we have both moved on and remarried, we have remained in touch. I am 60 now and he is 64. I yearn to tell him the story before one of us Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married a year and a half, although we’ve been together off and on for more than 13 years. I sometimes get the feeling that he married me only because he was tired of being alone. He often compares me to his late wife, and he always commemorates both her birthday and the day she passed away. What I have a problem with is, every year he posts happy birthday, and her name, on Face- book, but he never mentions my name on Facebook. Should I bring this up to him or just let him con- tinue? — Current Wife In Texas Dear Current Wife: The basis of a solid marriage is com- munication. By all means bring it up — all of it — and tell him how it makes you feel. He may be trying to keep his late wife’s memory alive by wishing her happy birthday on Facebook, but as far as Facebook’s reach may be, I’m pretty sure the messages don’t reach the great beyond. That he would mention her birthday and not yours is insensitive. And com- paring you to her, unless the com- parison is favorable, is more of the same. Dear Abby: We invited friends over to enjoy our bounty from a successful fi shing trip. They live about an hour away. They accepted our invitation, then fol- lowed up with, “Can you put us and our two dogs up overnight if we drink too much?” I replied that we meant the invitation for humans only this time. They replied, “We’re sorry you don’t want our well-behaved ‘girls’ in your newly remodeled home.” And, Abby, they didn’t come! Was I wrong? Should I have handled this better? I’m kind of feeling like they were wrong. — Animal Lover, But ... Dear Lover: I’m also kind of feeling they overreacted. If you preferred they not bring uninvited guests, whether of the two-footed or four-footed variety, you were within your rights to refuse to have them. Please stop second-guessing yourself. NEWS OF THE WEIRD More than 90 snakes found under Northern California home By OLGA R. RODRIGUEZ The Associated Press SAN FRANCISCO — Al Wolf is used to clearing one or two snakes from under houses but recently was called by a woman who said she had seen rattle- snakes scurry under her house and was surprised to fi nd more than 90 rattlesnakes getting ready to hibernate. Wolf, director of Sonoma County Reptile Rescue, said he crawled under the mountainside home in Santa Rosa and found a rattlesnake right away, then another and another. He got out from under the house, grabbed Sonoma County Reptile Rescue via The Associated Press This Oct. 2, 2021, photo shows a group of rattlesnakes which were found under a home in Santa Rosa, California. buckets, put on safety gloves, and went back in. He crawled on his hands, knees and stomach, tipping over more than 200 small rocks. “I kept fi nding snakes for the next almost four hours,” Wolf said Friday. “I thought ‘oh, good, it was a worthwhile call’ but I was happy to get out because it’s not nice, you run into spider webs and dirt and it smells crappy and it’s musty and you’re on your belly and you’re dirty.” But the work paid off . He used a 24-inch snake pole to remove 22 adult rattlesnakes and 59 babies when he fi rst visited the home in the Mayacamas Mountains on Oct. 2. He returned twice since and collected 11 more snakes. All the snakes were Northern already because of the babies, and the amount of females I found,” he said. Rattlesnakes usually hibernate from October to April and look for rocks to hide under and warm places and will return to the same place year after year. The home- owners didn’t remove any rocks when they built the house, making it an attractive place for the rep- tiles, Wolf said. “The snakes found the house to be a great place for them because the rocks give them protection but the house, too, gives them pro- tection from being wet during the winter so, it’s double insulation for them,” he said. Pacifi c rattlesnakes, the only ven- omous snake found in Northern California, he said. Wolf, who has been rescuing snakes for 32 years and has been bitten 13 times, said he responds to calls about snakes under homes in 17 counties and has seen dozens of them in one place in the wild but never under a home. He said he releases the rat- tlesnakes in the wild away from people and sometimes in private land when ranchers request them for pest control. 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