COFFEE BREAK
B6 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
THuRSDAY, OCTOBER 14, 2021
Mother’s judgement hinders daughter’s recovery
help from my mother because
of how horribly she shames me
about my addiction. In fact, I
have realized that having her in
my life at all is a massive trigger
because she constantly puts me
down for not being financially
stable as an adult. She also con-
stantly compares me not only to
herself when she was my age, but
to others in my generation.
How can I tell her I no longer
want her in my life for the sake
of my mental health and addic-
tion recovery? — Pulling Back
In Texas
Dear Pulling: I’m not sure if
you are already aware of it, but
many people use shopping as a
Dear Abby: I’m a woman
in my mid-30s without much
family. I’m an only child and
have no relationship with my
father. The relationship I have
with my mother is extremely
toxic.
I have suffered my entire life
from a severe shopping addic-
tion. I recently relapsed, and
I’m trying to recover finan-
cially. I can’t afford counseling
right now, and I can’t ask for
Dear Not Well: Please accept
my sympathy for the loss of your
dear friend. The circumstances
of your loss make it more dif-
ficult, but it is not insurmount-
able. Because there is no “place”
you can go to mourn her, you
might find closure by writing her
a letter telling her all the things
you weren’t able to say before
her death. Then choose a pri-
vate site you both used to enjoy,
read it aloud to her and burn it,
knowing she will always be alive
in your heart. If this is not suffi-
cient, consider asking your phy-
sician or religious adviser about
a grief support group to help you
work this through.
so don’t worry. We will talk
eventually.”
Dear Abby: I lost my best
friend of 32 years in a car acci-
dent three months ago. She was
the best friend a person could
possibly have. She would not
only give you the shirt off her
back, but she would then ask
what else you needed. We had
been through so much together.
This would be the kind of thing
I would turn to her for comfort
while going through. She was
cremated, and I didn’t see her
before that, so I didn’t get clo-
sure. I feel so empty and unfin-
ished. What do I do? — Not
Well In The South
way of coping with depression.
You may be one of them. Before
taking on that difficult conversa-
tion, do some research and find
out what county mental health
services may be available in your
area. They are usually offered on
a sliding fee scale.
There are also 12-step pro-
grams for compulsive shop-
pers that you might find helpful.
Please go online and research
some of them as well.
As to what to say to your
mother, try this: “Mom, I know I
need help for my shopping addic-
tion. I am seeking it now. While
I am in recovery, you won’t be
hearing from me for a while,
NEWS OF THE WEIRD
Bosnian makes rotating house a monument of love for his wife
only one of Kusic’s three
children not to fly the nest,
a son, got married and his
parents decided to let him
live on the top floor of their
family house while they
moved to the ground floor.
“Once again, this time
on the ground floor, I had
to start tearing down some
walls, at which point, to not
wait for her to change her
mind again, I decided to
build a new, rotating house
so that she can spin it as she
pleases,” Kusic said.
Kusic, who did not
have a chance to go to col-
lege, designed and built his
rotating house by himself,
using electric motors and
the wheels of an old mili-
tary transport vehicle.
“Now, our front door
also rotates, so if she spots
unwanted guests heading
our way, she can spin the
house and make them turn
away,” he joked.
In Bosnian, his wife’s
name means “loved
one.” She declined to be
interviewed.
The Associated Press
SRBAC, Bosnia-Herze-
govina — It’s not exactly
on par with India’s Taj
Mahal, but a family house
in a small town in northern
Bosnia is in its own way a
monument to love.
The house in Srbac
was designed and built by
72-year-old Vojin Kusic.
With a green facade and red
metal roof, it can rotate a
full circle to satisfy his wife
Ljubica’s shifting desires as
to what she would like to
see when she looks out of
its windows.
“After I reached an
advanced age and after
my children took over the
family business, I finally
had enough time to task
myself with granting my
wife her wish” to be able
to change the position of
rooms in her house when-
ever she wants, Kusic
said.
Many years ago when
they married, Kusic had
built another, typical house
for himself and his wife
in which they raised their
three children. At the time,
his wife wanted their bed-
rooms to face the sun, so
they did. But this meant
their living room faced
away from the road. After
a while, he says his wife
complained that “she could
not see people entering our
front yard” and Kusic had
to remodel everything.
“I had to tear down the
wall between our two bed-
rooms to turn them into a
living room and move all
(electrical) installations. It
was a very demanding task,
it took a lot from me, but I
did what she wanted,” he
said.
Then six years ago, the
Radivoje Pavicic/The Associated Press
Vojin Kusic’s stands in front of his rotating house in a town of Srbac, northern Bosnia, Sunday, Oct. 10,
2021. The house designed and built by 72-year-old Vojin Kusic, with its green façade and red metal roof,
can rotate a full circle to satisfy his wife’s shifting desires as to what she should see when she looks out of
the windows of her home.
the Michigan high school
record of 10 goals in a game
set by Karl Trost of Che-
boygan in 2003. He also
set a national record, the
Record-Eagle reported.
of another team’s dignity
was a little uncalled for,”
Kingsley coach Tim Van-
Wingerden said. “Soccer is
not the right place for that.
Soccer is a gentleman’s
sport.”
The Kingsley school
board planned to discuss
the issue Monday night, the
Traverse City Record-Eagle
reported.
“If high school sports
degenerates into, ‘Let’s try
to hang the most points we
can,’ and taking advan-
tage of people when they’re
down, we’re really missing
the mark and need to
reevaluate why we’re doing
this,” said Kingsley Super-
intendent Keith Smith.
The Stags have had a
rough season: They were
0-15 after another loss last
week, according to a sum-
mary of game results.
Hubbell easily broke
School unhappy after
soccer opponent sets
record for goals
KINGSLEY, Mich. — A
high school soccer player
in northern Michigan broke
records for most goals in a
game, but not everyone is
cheering.
Kevin Hubbell of Benzie
Central, one of the best
players in the state, scored
16 goals against Kingsley.
The Sept. 29 game was
declared over at halftime —
a 17-0 wipeout of a winless
team.
That’s why some people
are upset.
“To go after a personal
record like that at the cost
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Hubbell and Benzie Cen-
tral coach Chris Batchelder
knew the records were pos-
sible and discussed them
during the game.
“We are in a society
Astoria
Longview
50/61
Kennewick
47/60
St. Helens
46/63
Baker City
29 60 31
Comfort Index™
La Grande
The Dalles
Portland
Condon
45/68
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1
33 61 38
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63 30
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Eugene
8
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57 32
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TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Tuesday
Low Tuesday
High: 101°
Low: 11°
Wettest: 1.78”
51°
27°
53°
32°
55°
17°
PRECIPITATION (inches)
Tuesday
Month to date
Normal month to date
Year to date
Normal year to date
0.00
0.04
0.20
3.62
7.06
0.00
0.03
0.42
7.41
12.42
Trace
0.10
0.57
16.51
17.44
HAY INFORMATION FRIDAY
30%
S at 7 to 14 mph
3.9
0.11
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Wednesday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
N.A.
9% of capacity
10% of capacity
22% of capacity
2% of capacity
0% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Tuesday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
Burnt River near Unity
Umatilla River near Gibbon
Minam River at Minam
Powder River near Richland
Zapata, Texas
Bodie State Park, Calif.
Dodge City, Kan.
OREGON
High: 61°
Low: 16°
Wettest: 0.11”
Ontario
Meacham
Astoria
On Oct. 14, 1984, 42 separate accidents
occurred on I-94 around Milwaukee, Wis.,
in dense fog. A cloak of fog combined
with impatience on highways can be
hazardous.
SUN & MOON
THU.
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
7:07 a.m.
6:09 p.m.
4:05 p.m.
12:14 a.m.
FRI.
7:09 a.m.
6:07 p.m.
4:35 p.m.
1:27 a.m.
MOON PHASES
568 cfs
1 cfs
17 cfs
45 cfs
54 cfs
3 cfs
Full
Oct 20
Last
Oct 28
New
Nov 4
42/68
First
Nov 11
Jordan Valley
29/57
Paisley
26/68
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Frenchglen
30/63
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Brookings
38/73
City
Astoria
Bend
Boise
Brookings
Burns
Coos Bay
Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
SAT.
Hi/Lo/W
61/51/c
73/41/pc
63/39/s
62/46/s
63/24/s
63/44/pc
65/40/pc
60/30/s
63/34/pc
67/43/pc
68/40/pc
67/44/c
63/45/pc
66/36/s
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70/39/pc
69/25/s
65/24/s
Hi/Lo/W
64/49/c
78/41/pc
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63/36/s
67/36/pc
70/47/pc
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66/46/pc
72/40/pc
74/31/s
72/27/pc
Grand View
Arock
30/62
26/60
28/61
Klamath Falls
24/69
Lakeview
19/65
McDermitt
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FRI.
Diamond
27/62
Fields
Medford
45/62
Boise
36/63
Silver Lake
Chiloquin
Grants Pass
26/65
22/68
25/57
RECREATION FORECAST FRIDAY
REGIONAL CITIES
WEATHER HISTORY
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
44/69
TUESDAY EXTREMES
ALMANAC
Beaver Marsh
Juntura
21/63
31/67
23/66
Ontario
32/64
Burns
Brothers
41/71
Roseburg
Huntington
26/61
Bend
Coos Bay
33/60
33/60
Seneca
35/73
Oakridge
Council
29/60
34/66
32/72
Elkton
Powers
32/59
30/59
John Day
30/70
Sisters
Florence
44/62
Halfway
Granite
Baker City
Redmond
45/59
42/63
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
Monument
34/69
40/65
Newport
Enterprise
33/61
36/63
39/68
44/65
Corvallis
40/67
66 41
33/63
La Grande
41/64
41/67
Idanha
Salem
Partly sunny
5
36 63 40
Comfort Index™
Enterprise
2
Elgin
Pendleton
39/66
Newberg
Lewiston
42/66
45/65
Hood River
44/67
Maupin
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Vancouver
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A stray evening Partly sunny and
shower
warmer
where negative speaks
before positive,” Batchelder
said. “I knew everyone
wouldn’t agree when he
broke the record. I knew
there’d be some people
upset with it.”
If there’s any criticism,
he said it should be directed
at him, not his player.
“I want this to stop, and
I want to get back to appre-
ciating soccer,” Batchelder
said. “All that noise is just
noise.”
Trost said he recalled
criticism when he set the
previous record during a
20-0 blowout game, but it
was before social media.
“People get on their
computers or their phones
and just go wild. It’s really
sad. I hate it for this kid,”
Trost said of Hubbell. “I
really do. I wish it wasn’t
like this.”
Hubbell figures his 16
goals will be surpassed at
some point.
“That’s going to be
pretty incredible,” he said.
“I just hope it doesn’t
happen too soon.”
City
Lewiston
Longview
Meacham
Medford
Newport
Olympia
Ontario
Pasco
Pendleton
Portland
Powers
Redmond
Roseburg
Salem
Spokane
The Dalles
Ukiah
Walla Walla
FRI.
SAT.
Hi/Lo/W
66/43/pc
60/45/c
62/35/pc
73/41/s
59/47/c
59/48/c
64/34/s
68/38/pc
66/41/pc
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68/43/pc
65/45/c
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sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice
ANTHONY LAKES
PHILLIPS LAKE
Not as cold
Milder
42
32
59
34
MT. EMILY REC.
BROWNLEE RES.
Partly sunny; cool
Mostly sunny
51
36
63
35
EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
Mostly sunny
Milder
44
33
57
31
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
Milder
Milder
59
40
69
42
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
Mostly sunny
Warmer
60
31
63
40