COFFEE BREAK B6 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD SATuRDAY, OCTOBER 9, 2021 Generous friend ready to cut off assistance I do not want to continue enabling her. I have tried sug- gesting she move closer to her sister, seek better care, etc., but she doesn’t have the motivation. I have a hard time saying “no” to people. I got married recently, and I don’t want this situation to neg- atively affect my relationship with my wife. In my friend’s current emo- tional state, I’m afraid if I end my friendship with her, she’ll never recover from the emotional trauma. She even tattooed my name on her wrist so she’d see it every time she wanted to cut her- self, like she used to do before we met. What should I do? — Tied To Her Dear Abby: I have a long-dis- tance friend I met online 10 years ago. I took pity on her because she was nearly destitute, and I have been helping her pay her bills. She’s visited me a number of times, and I care about her a lot. However, her constant requests for money are starting to make me uncomfortable. (She can’t work for health reasons, and there’s a major scarcity of social services or competent care in her Rust Belt locality.) Dear Abby: My husband and I have good friends who winter every year in another state, halfway across the country. For years they asked us to come for a visit. Last winter, we were vaca- tioning about six hours from where they were staying. We called and asked if they were available and if it would be con- venient for us to come for three days. They assured us they had no commitments and would love for us to come, which we did. In the early morning of the third day, they announced they had been invited to go to a ball- game with a friend and would be leaving almost immediately, adding it was an hour’s drive Dear Tied: Start researching assertiveness training programs for yourself, because you sorely need more help than I can give you in one column. Discuss this with your wife for additional emotional support, because you are right — continuing to give your online friend financial help will destroy your marriage. After that, tell this needy woman you won’t be sending her more money, and that you do not want her to contact you until she has moved closer to her sister so she can find the help she needs. Do not feel guilty for doing this. You have been extraordinarily gen- erous to have let this go on for a decade. away and they would be gone all day and returning early evening. They said we were welcome to “just hang out” and wait for them to return. We said we would head home the same time they left for the ballgame. I was stunned and felt they were incredibly rude. Am I overly sensitive, or was this an acceptable way to treat guests? — Taken Aback In A Cold State Dear Taken Aback: I agree that it was rude. Your friends had a choice, to fulfill their duties as gracious hosts, or be selfish and go to the game. By choosing the latter, they damaged a longtime friendship. I can see why you were “taken aback.” NEWS OF THE WEIRD Thai riverside restaurant finds silver lining in floods By TASSANEE VEJPONGSA Associated Press NONTHABURI, Thai- land — A flood-hit river- side restaurant in Thailand has become an unlikely dining hotspot after fun- loving foodies began flocking to its water-logged deck to eat amid the lap- ping tide. Now, instead of empty chairs and vacant tables, the Chaopraya Antique Café is as full as ever, offering an experience the canny owner calls “hot-pot surfing.” If you like your food washed down with plenty of water, this is the place for you. Shortly after the water tops the parapet, the first diners arrive. Before long, the deck is crammed with carefree customers happily tucking in as if dining in a deluge is the norm. The wait staff — some clad in rubber boots — step gingerly through the swirl that quickly rises to more than 20 inches. The restaurant, in Non- thaburi near Bangkok, opened in February in a riverside location that per- fectly complements its antique architecture and décor. But a recent severe tropical storm and heavy monsoon rains combined to raise the river’s water level. Add in the tides and the result has been daily inundation. Coming straight after Photos by Sakchai Lalit/The Associated Press Customers of the riverside Chaopraya Antique Café enjoy them- selves despite the extraordinary high water levels in the Chao Phraya River in Nonthaburi, near Bangkok, Thailand, Thursday, Oct. 7, 2021. a monthslong coronavirus shutdown, it could have spelled disaster. Instead — boosted by publicity in the Thai media — it’s now so popular that customers need to make reservations. “This is a great atmo- sphere. During this flood crisis this has became the restaurant’s signature attraction. So I wanted to challenge myself and try out this new experience,” 24-year-old Siripoj Wai- inta said as he munched his food with the water creeping up his shins. The owner has dubbed the experience “hot-pot surfing.” When a pas- senger boat motors past you find out why. The delighted scramble to avoid a soaking from the wave is the moment everyone waits for, and with one passing every 15 Three Webinars November 2, 4 & 10 minutes, no one goes home disappointed. It’s TV presenter Tit- iporn Jutimanon’s first restaurant venture. He says he was worried what would happen when the floods came. “It turns out the cus- tomers have a great reac- tion. They are happy. We can see the atmosphere of customers enjoying the experience of eating in the water. So a crisis has turned into an oppor- tunity. It encourages us to keep the restaurant open and keep customers happy.” Best of all, he says, it means he can keep his staff happy by keeping them employed. So, even amid harsh economic times, the only thing that needs a bailout is the restaurant itself. weather | Go to AccuWeather.com November 10th: Eastern Oregon topics Anticipating 4 credits per webinar. • Herbicide Resistance Management For all Pesticide Applicators • Taking the Confusion out of Respiratory Protection • Pollinator Protection • Chlorpyrifos Phase-Out • ODA Roundup of Laws & Regs And More! 503-370-7024 info@oacfa.com Register at OACFA.com AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION Astoria Longview 49/56 Kennewick 50/55 St. Helens 51/58 TIllamook 52/57 52/63 53/58 49/58 Condon SUN MON TUE WED Turning cloudy Cloudy, a shower; cool Showers around Sunny and cold Mostly cloudy and cold Baker City 33 57 31 Comfort Index™ La Grande 8 Comfort Index™ 8 0 2 2 49/60 46 29 50 27 49 27 0 3 2 48 30 0 3 2 2 TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin NATION (for the 48 contiguous states) High Thursday Low Thursday High: 99° Low: 24° Wettest: 3.33” 61° 30° 61° 23° 68° 24° Thursday 0.00 Month to date Trace Normal month to date 0.11 Year to date 3.58 Normal year to date 6.97 0.00 Trace 0.22 7.38 12.22 Trace Trace 0.31 16.41 17.18 PRECIPITATION (inches) 48/57 HAY INFORMATION SUNDAY 45% WNW at 7 to 14 mph 4.0 0.07 RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Friday) N.A. 9% of capacity 10% of capacity 24% of capacity 1% of capacity 0% of capacity OREGON High: 70° Low: 20° Wettest: 0.01” Ontario Meacham Troutdale On Oct. 9, 1804, a hurricane in New England caused massive damage. 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