COFFEE BREAK B8 — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD TUESDAY, AUGUST 31, 2021 Friend’s constant advice on all things begins to grate the “friendly” reminders are beginning to come across as condescending. Some examples: If I mention what I’m making for dinner, I’ll be reminded to make sure the chicken is cooked to the correct temperature. I have a vacation planned, and I was just reminded that in order to go I need to have fl ights booked. I’m afraid I may be overre- acting, which is why I haven’t said anything. However, these constant reminders are frus- trating and leave me with the impression that my friend thinks I’m stupid or incapable of taking care of myself. What’s your advice on how to handle this? — Dear Abby: I have a friend from college I’m really close to, but they have begun an annoying habit I need help addressing. We live more than 1,000 miles apart, and over the past six months, I’ve noticed that my friend has been giving me unsolicited advice on daily tasks that don’t concern them. At fi rst it didn’t bother me. Now it’s happening three or four times a week. I think they mean well, but a very stressful time for her family. My sister calls me in tears every night because of the hurtful things her daughter has said to her. Until now, they had a good relationship. I know weddings can be a nightmare for families, even those who are close, because the bride can turn into a “bridezilla.” It is her wedding, although my sister is paying for everything. Her daughter and the fi ance are in their 30s and have well- paying jobs but are very happy to have my sister foot the bill. Sometimes I want to shake my niece and tell her to grow up and show some respect. Is there any- Not A Kid And Not Stupid Dear Not: A way to handle it would be to ask your friend why the advice was being off ered. If you say you’re making chicken for dinner and you are advised to be sure it’s cooked to an internal temperature of 165 degrees, calmly ask why the person felt it was necessary to say it. The same goes for your travel plans and any other unsolicited advice you receive. If you ask the ques- tion, you may fi nd that your old friend isn’t questioning your intelligence, but simply trying to be helpful. Dear Abby: My niece is get- ting married. This has been thing I can do to help my sister other than listen and be there for her? I’m getting worried about her health because of the stress, and she refuses to take care of herself. — Feeling Helpless in the East Dear Feeling Helpless: I am sure you are aware that most couples in their 30s who have well-paying jobs foot the bill for their own weddings. Your sister has created this monster with her checkbook. At this point, the most helpful thing you can do for her is what you have been doing — letting her vent so she doesn’t blow a gasket from the pressure. NEWS OF THE WEIRD Jersey Shore landmark Lucy the Elephant to get new skin MARGATE, N.J. — The beach-side land- mark, Lucy the Elephant, is having all of its metal skin replaced because more than 50% of its exte- rior has degraded beyond repair. The six-story high elephant statue in Mar- gate, New Jersey, will close Sept. 20 after archi- tects determined it would be more cost eff ective to replace the metal siding than to try to restore it, according to Richard Hel- fant, executive director of the Save Lucy Committee. Built in 1881, Lucy was saved from demolition and moved a short distance from its original location in 1970. The National His- toric Landmark on the Jersey Shore is one of the oldest roadside attractions in the country. The new overhaul will cost $1.4 million and is funded in part by a grant from the Preserve New Jersey Preservation Fund administered by the New Michigan truck hauling bee hives crashes, unleashing swarm Ben Fogletto/The Press of Atlantic City People gather for the lighting of Margate N.J. landmark “Lucy the Elephant,” Oct. 29, 2013. The board- walk fi xture is having all of its metal skin replaced because more than 50% of the exterior has degrad- ed beyond repair. The executive director of the Save Lucy Committee, Richard Helfant, said the six-story high statue in Margate will close Sept. 20. Parents must pay $30,441 for getting rid of son’s porn cache Jersey Historic Trust, Hel- fant said Tuesday. During restorations, a weatherproof scaff olding will be built around Lucy. The target for reopening is Memorial Day 2022, Helfant said. weather BOYNE CITY, Mich. — A truck hauling bee hives crashed and overturned along a northern Michigan roadway, unleashing a big swarm of bees, police said. The truck overturned about 2 p.m. Wednesday, Aug. 25, and dumped its load of bee boxes along a Charlevoix County road, getting rid of his pornog- raphy collection. U.S. District Judge Paul Maloney’s decision this week came after David Werking, 43, won a lawsuit against his parents. He said they had no right GRAND HAVEN, Mich. — A judge has ordered a western Michigan couple to pay $30,441 to their son for | Go to AccuWeather.com AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION Astoria Longview 50/65 Kennewick 48/73 St. Helens 48/77 50/75 51/81 52/75 47/76 Condon TONIGHT WED THU FRI SAT Sunny and beautiful Sunny and pleasant Sunny and pleasant Mostly sunny 77 37 79 40 82 46 Eugene 10 9 7 45/78 77 43 80 51 82 53 10 9 7 La Grande 42 71 43 Comfort Index™ 10 Enterprise 10 38 70 42 Comfort Index™ 10 79 48 78 44 10 9 6 10 NATION (for the 48 contiguous states) High Sunday Low Sunday High: 119° Low: 23° Wettest: 8.95” 89° 36° 91° 40° 87° 42° 0.00 0.65 0.40 3.11 6.39 0.00 0.42 0.63 6.54 11.29 0.00 0.42 0.63 15.79 15.86 PRECIPITATION (inches) Sunday Month to date Normal month to date Year to date Normal year to date HAY INFORMATION WEDNESDAY 20% NW at 6 to 12 mph 12.3 0.19 RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Monday) Phillips Reservoir Unity Reservoir Owyhee Reservoir McKay Reservoir Wallowa Lake Thief Valley Reservoir N.A. 23% of capacity 16% of capacity 43% of capacity 0% of capacity 0% of capacity STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Sunday) Grande Ronde at Troy Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder Burnt River near Unity Umatilla River near Gibbon Minam River at Minam Powder River near Richland SUN & MOON TUE. 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Local fi refi ghters sprayed water on the boxes to keep the insects cool in the heat of the day until beekeepers could arrive and begin retrieving the hive- fi lled boxes and loading them onto trucks that hauled them away, he said. Vondra said it’s esti- mated that several hundred thousand bees never made it back into the boxes. But bee boxes were placed Aug. 26 at the crash site in hopes that some would fl y back into those boxes, he said. No residents were stung by the bees, but Vondra said some beekeepers got stung while they were collecting and loading the boxes onto trucks at the scene. to throw out his collection of fi lms, magazines and other items. Werking had lived at their Grand Haven home for 10 months after a divorce before moving to Muncie, Indiana. The judge followed the value set by an expert, MLive.com reported. Werk- ing’s parents also must pay $14,500 to their son’s attorney. 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