COFFEE BREAK
8B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
THuRSDAY, ApRIL 15, 2021
Wife in long marriage becomes abusive to spouse over time
DEAR ABBY: My husband’s
dad, “Adam,” is very mellow and
can talk to anyone. His mom,
“Eve,” is friendly, but a little
more reserved.
Early in their
marriage, Adam
was a drinker, and
my mother-in-law
has never forgiven
him for the way he
treated her during that time. She
has always treated him disre-
spectfully, but as they get older,
it’s becoming worse.
She has hit Adam when we had
people over because he didn’t do
what she told him to do. I told her
to stop, and my husband told her
she embarrassed him, but Eve for-
gets or doesn’t care and continues
to do it. She talks down to him
constantly. If that’s how she acts
when people are around, I hate
to think what hap-
pens behind closed
DEAR
doors.
When she hits
ABBY
him, Adam sits there
expressionless and
doesn’t react. He’s
not the man he once was, and he
is adored by many people. What
can we do to help my FIL and
make her stop doing this in front
of her grandkids and company?
Eve claims to be a Christian, but
isn’t acting like one.
— FRUSTRATED IN
MICHIGAN
races and sexual orientations. The
website is stopabuseforeveryone.
org.
DEAR ABBY: I met a nice
friend. He’s a widower whose wife
has been gone for three years. My
husband died 10 years ago.
He makes me laugh, some-
thing I haven’t done in a while. I
really like this guy, but he is still
grieving. Some days he’s good,
but others he’s a mess.
I want us to be in a relation-
ship, and I think he could be “the
one.” We’ve only been courting
for a month, but he has been pur-
suing me for a year. Should I give
it more time, or should I move on
with my life? I haven’t been inti-
mate with him, but he still makes
DEAR FRUSTRATED: Your
father-in-law may have had a
drinking problem years ago, but
he has a different problem now.
He is a victim of verbal and phys-
ical abuse. He may have toler-
ated it all these years out of guilt
for what he put his wife through
when he was drinking. He may
also have become so beaten down
that he can no longer protect
himself.
He does need help. With your
and his son’s encouragement, he
can receive it because there are
programs available for male vic-
tims of domestic violence. Stop
Abuse for Everyone (SAFE) is
an organization that helps abused
individuals of all ages, genders,
me feel like a woman, which is
something I’ve missed.
— THINKING IT’S HIM IN
MARYLAND
DEAR THINKING: As you
know, the process of grieving
isn’t a straight line. When a loved
one dies, the survivors have good
periods and ones that are less
so. You are further along in this
grieving process than your friend
because his loss is more recent.
If a relationship (or more) is
what you want, allow him more
time to work through his feelings.
However, if the bad spells don’t
become less frequent, suggest he
talk with his doctor about joining
a grief support group in which he
can safely vent his feelings.
News of the Weird
Woman gets probation
for unlawful sale of
pangolin scales
sands of additional wildlife
items, which Yu agreed to
abandon, prosecutors said.
Her husband, Ken Yu,
said in court they were
never trying to break the
law and they would volun-
teer to help with commu-
nity education and outreach
about the wildlife laws.
PORTLAND — A
woman who illegally
imported pangolin scales
and sold them to an under-
cover officer from her
Southeast Portland store
was sentenced Monday,
April 12, to three years of
federal probation.
Agnes Yu, 53, who has
owned Wing Ming Herbs
with her husband for about
20 years, said the scales are
believed to have medicinal
properties and used to help
promote the production of
breast milk.
Yu admitted to ordering
the scales from an importer
in San Francisco and selling
30 grams of the scales to
the officer for $165 in 2017,
according to a prosecutor.
Personnel at the U.S.
Fish and Wildlife Service
National Fish and Wildlife
Forensics Laboratory con-
firmed the scales were from
a pangolin, a species of
scaled anteater-like mam-
mals endemic to Asia and
sub-Saharan Africa.
Yu pleaded guilty to
reckless sale of illegally
imported wildlife.
The Convention on
International Trade in
Endangered Species of
Wild Fauna and Flora, also
known as CITES, prohibits
all commercial trafficking
in pangolins.
In 2018, a U.S. Fish and
Wildlife Service under-
cover agent purchased from
Wing Ming Herbs giant sea
horses and fins from scal-
loped hammerhead sharks
under the protection of the
Endangered Species Act,
prosecutors said.
The federal agency
searched the store with a
warrant and seized thou-
was planning to give one to
his dad.
“I think he just needs to
go and put some ice on,”
he said. “Maybe I’ll auto-
graph a bag of frozen peas
for him.”
Maine couple celebrates
bicentennial with
hidden treasure
Fore, dad! McIlroy sends
errant Masters shot off
his father
BANGOR, Maine — A
pair of Mainers have hidden
$20,000 somewhere in the
state and they’re inviting
treasure seekers to come
and get it.
The creators of the trea-
sure hunt and the company
behind the hunt, Dirigo
Treasures LLC, are Kurt
and Kelly Stokes of New-
castle, the Lincoln County
News reports.
The couple spent three
years exploring locations
around the state before cre-
ating an elaborate hide-
and-seek game.
“We created the game to
celebrate Maine’s 200 years
of statehood,” Kurt Stokes
told the newspaper. “What
better way to celebrate
Maine than to get people
out of the house, out of their
town and exploring parts of
the state they never knew
existed?”
Finding the Dirigo trea-
sure will involve solving
a secret, a riddle and a
puzzle. Getting started
means ponying up for a
deck of cards or flash cards
for $19.99 or $39.99, with
a dollar from each sale
going to the Maine Cancer
Foundation. The couple
ensured that the quest for
the hidden treasure is legal,
ethical and environmentally
responsible.
“We abided by the prin-
ciples of leaving no trace,”
Kurt Stokes said.
— Associated Press
AUGUSTA, Ga. — Rory
McIlroy hit his approach on
the seventh hole Thursday,
April 8, at the Masters right
where he was aiming.
Problem was, he was
aiming at his father.
Gerry McIlroy was
standing near the right side
of the green, watching his
son play his second shot
from off to the left of the
fairway. The ball wound up
hitting Gerry McIlroy in the
left leg.
“It was a perfect shot,”
Rory McIlroy said.
Well, kind of. He wound
up making bogey, which
was his third consecutive
one at that point.
“It was dead straight,”
Rory McIlroy said. “But I
think he was OK. He didn’t
limp away. He walked away
pretty swiftly, so that was
all right.”
Gerry McIlroy is a pretty
good golfer himself. He
introduced his son to the
game long ago, and has
developed quite a following
among his fellow members
at his home course, Semi-
nole Golf Club in Florida.
There’s a tradition of
sorts in golf that when
someone gets struck by
an errant ball, the golfer
signs a glove and presents
it to the person as a part-
apology, part-souvenir.
McIlroy didn’t seem like he
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Rory McIlroy of Northern Ireland hits out of the rough on the sixth hole during the first round of the Masters golf
tournament on Thursday, April 8, 2021, in Augusta, Georgia.
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Astoria
Longview
45/73
Kennewick
43/81
St. Helens
46/78
46/72
42/79
48/80
48/79
Condon
FRI
SAT
SUN
MON
Clear and cold
Mostly sunny
and pleasant
Sunny and mild
Mostly sunny
and pleasant
Mostly sunny
and cooler
70 31
73 38
65 34
Eugene
10
10
9
41/79
69 37
73 40
63 36
10
9
10
La Grande
32 63 31
Comfort Index™
Enterprise
9
10
27 57 33
Comfort Index™
9
68 40
57 36
10
10
10
9
ALMANAC
TUESDAY EXTREMES
TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin
NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Tuesday
Low Tuesday
High: 99°
Low: 5°
Wettest: 4.41”
55°
28°
56°
35°
57°
30°
PRECIPITATION (inches)
Tuesday
0.00
Month to date
Trace
Normal month to date 0.33
Year to date
1.09
Normal year to date
2.53
0.00
0.02
0.64
5.71
4.87
0.00
0.10
0.85
13.27
8.55
AGRICULTURAL INFO.
HAY INFORMATION FRIDAY
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
35%
NE at 8 to 16 mph
9.3
0.16
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Wednesday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
22% of capacity
95% of capacity
60% of capacity
92% of capacity
65% of capacity
99% of capacity
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Tuesday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
4600 cfs
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
78 cfs
Burnt River near Unity
61 cfs
Umatilla River near Gibbon
295 cfs
Minam River at Minam
349 cfs
Powder River near Richland
185 cfs
Death Valley, Calif.
Daniel, Wyo.
Acadiana, La.
OREGON
High: 70°
Low: 20°
Wettest: Trace
Brookings
Meacham
Medford
SUN & MOON
THU.
6:07 a.m.
7:38 p.m.
7:58 a.m.
11:32 p.m.
FRI.
6:05 a.m.
7:40 p.m.
8:30 a.m.
none
MOON PHASES
First
Apr 19
Full
Apr 26
Last
May 3
Elkton
Beaver Marsh
Powers
44/76
43/82
Silver Lake
New
May 11
Jordan Valley
30/58
Paisley
30/63
29/66
Frenchglen
29/63
Medford
Grand View
Arock
38/63
31/61
32/63
Klamath Falls
30/67
Lakeview
28/64
McDermitt
Shown is Friday’s weather. Temperatures are Thursday night’s lows and Friday’s highs.
30/61
RECREATION FORECAST FRIDAY
SAT.
City
Hi/Lo/W Hi/Lo/W
Astoria
73/48/s 74/46/s
Bend
67/36/s 72/37/s
Boise
64/40/pc 66/40/s
Brookings
61/46/s 61/46/pc
Burns
66/27/s 68/29/s
Coos Bay
67/43/s 66/42/s
Corvallis
78/44/s 81/45/s
Council
62/33/s 63/32/s
Elgin
64/32/s 69/37/s
Eugene
79/42/s 83/44/s
Hermiston
76/37/s 78/38/s
Hood River
72/46/s 77/46/s
Imnaha
65/35/s 72/40/s
John Day
66/35/s 71/38/s
Joseph
56/32/s 63/40/s
Kennewick
76/38/s 80/38/s
Klamath Falls 67/31/s 69/33/s
Lakeview
64/28/s 66/29/s
Diamond
29/61
Fields
43/80
43/61
Boise
38/64
43/85
Brookings
31/67
28/66
Chiloquin
Grants Pass
Juntura
29/66
29/63
29/64
Roseburg
Ontario
38/69
Burns
Brothers
42/76
Coos Bay
Huntington
30/62
35/67
Oakridge
35/62
40/68
Seneca
Bend
FRI.
Silver Lake, Colo., had 75.80 inches of
snow on April 15, 1921. This was the most
intense 24-hour snowfall in United States
history.
Sunrise
Sunset
Moonrise
Moonset
Florence
Council
29/64
32/66
33/66
REGIONAL CITIES
WEATHER HISTORY
29/57
John Day
30/70
Sisters
41/67
Comfort Index takes into account how the weather will feel based on a combination of factors. A rating of 10 feels
very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable.
34/66
Baker City
Redmond
44/68
42/66
Halfway
Granite
44/78
Newport
41/80
65 38
32/70
40/69
43/78
Corvallis
Enterprise
27/57
32/63
Monument
40/69
Idanha
Salem
TONIGHT
10
Elgin
33/64
La Grande
36/67
Maupin
Comfort Index™ 10
41/72
Pendleton
The Dalles
Portland
Newberg
Lewiston
41/72
Hood River
38/71
TIllamook
29 64 29
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Walla Walla
43/76
Vancouver
45/81
44/74
Baker City
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Roseburg
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79/44/s 80/45/s
61/29/s 69/33/s
72/43/s 75/47/s
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ANTHONY LAKES
PHILLIPS LAKE
Mostly sunny
Mostly sunny
39
25
60
28
MT. EMILY REC.
BROWNLEE RES.
Mostly sunny
Mostly sunny
49
31
65
39
EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
Mostly sunny
Mostly sunny
44
20
58
27
WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
Mostly sunny
Plenty of sun
56
32
69
38
THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
Nice with sunshine
Nice with sunshine
64
29
63
31