8B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD THuRSDAY, MARCH 11, 2021 COFFEE BREAK Former nanny tires of keeping lesbian marriage under wraps DEAR ABBY: I am an out-and- proud lesbian who recently cele- brated 10 years as a couple and three years of marriage to my wife. I worked as a professional nanny for many years, and I’m still extremely close to the first family I worked for. Although we have known each other for years, they still ask me not to mention my marriage when I’m around their kids. They refer to my wife as my “roommate.” It’s all I can do to bite my tongue. I have ignored this for too long. I recently invited them over to see my new home. Because of their conservative views, I warned them in advance about the wedding photos I have dis- played. I’m not ashamed of my life. I am extremely proud of myself and my wife. I am DEAR hurt and offended ABBY by their requests. I feel they only accept certain parts of me. I realize it’s unhealthy to continue this way, but I’m ter- rified of losing them. I’m usu- ally a straightforward person. I feel open communication is important with everyone else in my life. But I have lost relation- ships before because, no matter how respectful I tried to be, hon- played. Why you are terrified that your relationship with them will end because you’re living your authentic life mystifies me. If they can’t handle the truth, you and your wife are better off without them. DEAR ABBY: My husband’s brother has two kids, both of whom are now adults. The older one is in their second year of college; the younger one will graduate from high school this spring. We haven’t missed a single birthday for either one. The only time we see them is when there’s a birthday or it’s Christmas (with a few exceptions, like the occasional funeral). esty can sometimes be hard to hear. How can I be honest without angering this couple, and what’s the best way to start this conversation? — OUTSPOKEN NANNY DEAR NANNY: If your former employers think they can censor their children’s world to omit the fact that perfectly nice people, including one they love, are gay, they’re dreaming. Kids today are very worldly. When the parents started calling your wife your room- mate, you should have corrected them then and TOLD them it was offensive and hurtful. Invite them to your home and leave your wedding photos dis- I think it’s time to stop the annual birthday gifts. We’re not particularly close, and I’m tired of the forced merriment when it’s clear they are only after the gift. How do I tell the parents and the grandparents there will be no more gifts for birthdays without sounding like a stingy old aunt? — GIFTED OUT IN MICHIGAN DEAR GIFTED OUT: Unless you want to make a change immediately, hang in there until the younger child reaches 21. At that point, put the par- ents/grandparents on notice that because “the kids” are now adults, you will be sending cards rather than gifts. News of the Weird EMAILS: FBI WAS LOOKING FOR GOLD AT PENNSYLVANIA DIG SITE DENTS RUN, Penn. — Go for the gold? The U.S. government went for it. FBI agents were looking for cache of fabled Civil War-era gold — possibly tons of it — when they excavated a remote wood- land site in Pennsylvania three years ago this month, according to government emails and other recently released documents in the case. On March 13, 2018, treasure hunters led the FBI to Dents Run, about 135 miles northeast of Pitts- burgh, where legend has it an 1863 shipment of Union gold was either lost or stolen on its way to the U.S. Mint in Philadelphia. The FBI has long refused to confirm why exactly it went dig- ging, saying only in written state- ments over the years that agents were there for a court-authorized excavation of “what evidence sug- gested may have been a cultural heritage site.” In any event, the FBI says, the dig came up empty. But the father-son duo who brought a small army of federal agents to the site remain con- vinced the FBI uncovered some- thing there — and their lawyer, Bill Cluck, is pressing the case, successfully suing for access to government emails about the dig. Those documents, which Cluck provided to The Associated Press, show federal law enforcement was indeed after buried treasure. “We believe the cache itself is in the neighborhood of 3x5x8 (feet) to 5x5x8,” wrote K.T. Newton, an assistant U.S attorney in Philadelphia, in a 2018 email marked “Confidential.” Since the Elk County site was on state-owned land, the FBI had to secure a federal court order to gain access. The legal maneu- vering generated emails between Newton and Audrey Miner, chief Michael Rubinkam/Associated Press, File In this Sept. 20, 2018, photo, Dennis Parada, right, and his son Kem Parada stand at the site of the FBI’s dig for Civil War-era gold in Dents Run, Pennsylvania. Government emails released under court order show FBI agents were looking for gold when they excavated Dents Run in 2018, though the FBI says they found nothing. lawyer for the Pennsylvania Department of Conservation and Natural Resources. On March 13, as FBI agents clambered up a hill to the target, Miner bluntly asked Newton: “Can you please provide the basis upon which the Office of the United States Attorney asserts that the gold, if found, belongs to the federal government?” Newton replied that a federal affidavit in the case was sealed. She instead offered to “dis- cuss this generally with you on the phone,” according to email records released by the state under court order. The federal government fol- lowed a well-worn path to the woods of northwestern Penn- sylvania, where legendary tales of buried Civil War gold had weather | Go to AccuWeather.com inspired generations of treasure hunters — including Dennis and Kem Parada. The Paradas, who co-own the treasure-hunting outfit Finders Keepers, spent years looking for the long-lost booty before going to the FBI with their evidence in January 2018, saying their sophis- ticated detector had registered a hunk of metal they suspected was the gold of lore. Within weeks, the FBI hired geophysical consulting firm Envi- roscan to survey the hilltop site. Enviroscan’s gravimeter indi- cated a large metallic mass with the density of gold, according to Warren Getler, who worked closely with the Paradas and the FBI. An FBI agent told them the location of the mass was “one or two feet off Denny’s sweet spot,” recalled Getler, author of “Rebel Gold,” a book exploring the pos- sibility of buried Civil War-era caches of gold and silver. “Then I went to ask how big is it. And he said, ‘7 to 9 tons.’ And I lit- erally said, ‘You’ve got to be kidding!’” That much gold would be worth hundreds of millions of dol- lars today — and, assuming it was there, would almost certainly touch off a legal fight over how to divvy up the spoils. The Paradas and Getler pre- viously said they had an agree- ment with the FBI to watch the excavation. Officers instead confined them to their car for most of the dig, then, at the end of the second and final day, escorted them to the site — by AROUND OREGON AND THE REGION Astoria Longview 33/52 Kennewick 27/59 St. Helens 31/59 27/60 30/61 34/59 30/59 Condon FRI SAT SUN MON Plenty of sunshine Mostly sunny Partly sunny A shower in the afternoon 23 52 25 Comfort Index™ La Grande 4 20 47 25 Comfort Index™ 5 52 30 Eugene 9 6 3 32/58 57 27 56 32 48 31 9 6 1 56 33 49 32 9 8 4 6 ALMANAC TUESDAY EXTREMES TEMPERATURES Baker City La Grande Elgin NATION (for the 48 contiguous states) High Tuesday Low Tuesday High: 86° Low: -2° Wettest: 0.89” 48° 20° 46° 25° 50° 25° PRECIPITATION (inches) Tuesday Month to date Normal month to date Year to date Normal year to date 0.00 0.13 0.22 1.08 1.60 0.00 0.02 0.41 5.05 3.18 0.04 0.07 0.69 12.00 6.19 AGRICULTURAL INFO. 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A rating of 10 feels very comfortable while a rating of 0 feels very uncomfortable. 20/50 John Day 22/56 Sisters 32/63 52 29 24/52 Baker City Redmond 34/51 36/53 Halfway Granite 30/58 Newport 57 31 6 26/54 28/57 31/57 Corvallis Enterprise 20/47 22/53 Monument 25/56 Idanha Salem 57 30 5 22 53 25 Comfort Index™ Enterprise 5 Elgin 23/53 La Grande 29/52 Maupin Mainly clear and cold 33/56 Pendleton The Dalles Portland Newberg Lewiston 31/54 Hood River 30/58 TIllamook TONIGHT Forecasts and graphics provided by AccuWeather, Inc. ©2021 Walla Walla 26/62 Vancouver 30/57 33/53 Baker City that time a large, empty hole. The FBI has long been ada- mant that whatever the agents were looking for, they didn’t find it. The U.S. Attorney’s Office in Philadelphia said last week it con- siders the matter to be closed. Three years later, the story is not likely to go away. The Paradas and Getler are planned a news conference Wednesday, March 10, to keep the spotlight on their claims. Residents have told of hearing a backhoe and jackhammer overnight — when the excavation was supposed to have been paused — and seeing a convoy of FBI vehicles, including large armored trucks. “I gotta find out what hap- pened to all that gold,” Dennis Parada said in a phone interview last week. The FBI assertion of an empty hole is “insulting all the cred- ible people who did this kind of work,” he said. “It was a slap in the face, really, to think all these people could make that kind of mistake.” Cluck, meanwhile, is pursuing government material on the case — nearly 2,400 pages, as well as video files, the FBI has prom- ised to turn over in response to his Freedom of Information Act request. All documents in the federal court case about the dig remain sealed. A state appeals judge recently declined to order the Department of Conservation and Natural Resources to give Cluck the federal writ of entry and sei- zure warrant the FBI agents relied on to gain access to the site. In rejecting Cluck’s petition, though, state Commonwealth Court Judge Kevin Brobson left a tantalizing clue. In a footnote of his Jan. 28 opinion, Brobson revealed, for the first time, the name of the sealed federal case: “In the Matter of: Seizure of One or More Tons of United States Gold.” — Associated Press City Lewiston Longview Meacham Medford Newport Olympia Ontario Pasco Pendleton Portland Powers Redmond Roseburg Salem Spokane The Dalles Ukiah Walla Walla FRI. SAT. Hi/Lo/W 54/34/s 59/29/s 51/26/s 63/33/s 51/35/s 56/28/s 56/28/s 60/28/s 58/32/s 59/34/s 61/34/s 56/25/s 61/33/s 57/30/pc 52/28/s 61/31/s 52/25/s 56/33/s Hi/Lo/W 58/36/pc 60/40/pc 56/26/s 66/40/pc 52/42/c 59/38/pc 60/32/s 62/32/pc 62/35/pc 61/41/pc 61/42/pc 62/33/pc 64/40/c 59/40/pc 55/31/pc 62/35/pc 56/28/pc 58/37/pc Weather(W): s-sunny, pc-partly cloudy, c-cloudy, sh-showers, t-thunderstorms, r-rain, sf-snow fl urries, sn-snow, i-ice ANTHONY LAKES PHILLIPS LAKE Plenty of sun Plenty of sunshine 35 23 53 27 MT. 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