8B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD
TUESDAY, OCTOBER 6, 2020
COFFEE BREAK
Women’s friendship mysteriously ends after 30-year relationship
DEAR ABBY: I need help
moving past the end of a longtime
friendship. I don’t know what hap-
pened. My friend, my former col-
lege roommate, just
drifted away.
After school
we continued to
be friends — not
besties, but we
would meet for coffee or dinner a
few times a year. Fast-forward 25
years. She called me the day she
left her husband, 10 years ago, to
tell me the news. I was her emo-
tional lifeline for a few days, and
it was intense. We continued to be
in touch a few times a year.
Then, a few years ago, I sent a
message suggesting we meet soon.
She replied that she was busy
but would get back to me about a
date, but she never did. I waited
six months and again suggested
we meet. She replied
that she had a con-
DEAR
fl ict but would let
me know a date that
ABBY
would work. She
didn’t do it. I didn’t
reach out again and haven’t heard
from her since. It has been three
years, and I know through other
sources she is doing well.
I’m having diffi culty dealing
with being dropped after a
30-year friendship. I can’t think
of anything I did to cause it, and I
don’t understand how a friendship
like that can just be kaput. What
although it may sting, I think you
should do the same.
DEAR ABBY: I have a family
friend who at one time I consid-
ered to be like a sister. The issue
is, my family hosts her family every
Thanksgiving. They are never
invited. They just say they are
coming over. They bring drinks,
more for themselves than for us.
Their kids run around, break
things and behave disrespectfully,
while the parents seem to regard
the behavior as amusing. They
also bring along Tupperware for
leftovers but don’t bother staying
around to help clean up.
When my family told them we
weren’t cooking for Thanksgiving
last year, her response was that
do you think?
— DISAPPOINTED
DEAR DISAPPOINTED:
I fi nd it interesting that when
this woman was in turmoil, she
reached out to you. However,
after her marriage and the emo-
tional dust-up that surrounded it,
I suspect she may have decided to
close that chapter of her life.
You stated that the two of you
didn’t stay in contact other than
“a few times a year.” Think back.
Did she contact you only when
she needed emotional support?
If that’s the case, recognize the
relationship for what it was. Now
that she is doing well, she may
be fi rmly focused on the present
rather than the past, and frankly,
they’d do something just for their
immediate family. I was shocked,
because my family has hosted
them for more than 15 years. I
have kept my distance since, but
I’m still upset about it. How do
I bring up the subject without
anyone getting their feelings hurt?
— RETURNING THE FAVOR
DEAR RETURNING: Why
are you worried about bruising
the feelings of these self-entitled
people? They haven’t shown they
are concerned about your fam-
ily’s feelings. Be glad to be rid
of them. If the subject comes up,
tell her that your family has again
made “other plans” for Thanks-
giving — just YOUR immediate
family.
NEWS OF THE WEIRD
The Observer
would be at the rally.
The Facebook page for
the rally showed 11 people
attended the event, which
ran from 1-3 p.m., but 24
were interested in going.
Dye also stated the
rally coincided with World
Naked Bike Ride Day,
although the website for
that event in Portland
states the annual bike ride
was set for June 27 but
then was canceled because
of the pandemic.
Dye also stated in
the press release it was
“shameful that Libertar-
ians have to do desperate
things in order to get any
media attention,” and that
shame is on the media.
Oregon Libertarians
hold naked rally
PORTLAND — Oregon
Libertarians revealed a lot
more than their party plat-
form Saturday, Oct. 3, in
Portland.
Party members partic-
ipated in a naked rally on
the Interstate 205 Glenn
Jackson Bridge from
Oregon to Washington as
a means to draw media
attention. Gary Dye, the
Libertarian candidate for
U.S. Senate in Oregon,
helped spread word of the
event. He stated in a press
release the rally was nec-
essary because Libertarian
candidates were “getting
zero attention from the
media this year.”
Dye also said prior to
the rally he would attend,
but “whether I am wearing
any clothes remains to be
seen.”
According to the can-
didate’s press release, the
organizer of the event
works in a “strip bar that
is in jeopardy of closing
down permanently because
of the state-imposed
restrictions to her busi-
ness.” She and others at
risk of losing their job
Physicist ‘squares
the numbers’ on
time travel
Ho Vu/University of Queensland
University of Queensland physicist Fabio Costa, left, speaks with undergraduate science
student Germain Tobar in the undated photo. Tobar’s recent mathematical model demon-
strates paradox-free time travel is theoretically possible.
BRISBANE, Australia
— Paradox-free time travel
is theoretically possible,
according to the math-
ematical modeling of a
prodigious University of
Queensland undergraduate
student.
Fourth-year Bach-
elor of advanced science
student Germain Tobar
has been investigating
the possibility of time
travel under the supervi-
sion of UQ physicist Fabio
Costa, according to a press
release from The Univer-
sity of Queensland.
“Classical dynamics
says if you know the state
of a system at a partic-
ular time, this can tell us
the entire history of the
system,” Tobar said in the
release. “This has a wide
weather
range of applications, from
allowing us to send rockets
to other planets and mod-
eling how fl uids fl ow.”
Tobar explained if we
know the position and
velocity of an object falling
under the force of gravity,
we can calculate where it
will be at any time.
“However,” he con-
tinued, “Einstein’s theory
of general relativity pre-
dicts the existence of
time loops or time travel
– where an event can
be both in the past and
future of itself — theoret-
ically turning the study of
dynamics on its head.”
Tobar said in the release
a unifi ed theory that
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Condon
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NATION (for the 48 contiguous states)
High Sunday
Low Sunday
High: 107°
Low: 15°
Wettest: 1.00”
81°
35°
80°
37°
82°
36°
PRECIPITATION (inches)
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7.71
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13.39
11.70
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0.14
26.04
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AGRICULTURAL INFO.
HAY INFORMATION WEDNESDAY
Lowest relative humidity
Afternoon wind
Hours of sunshine
Evapotranspiration
25%
S at 6 to 12 mph
10.4
0.14
RESERVOIR STORAGE (through midnight Monday)
Phillips Reservoir
Unity Reservoir
Owyhee Reservoir
McKay Reservoir
Wallowa Lake
Thief Valley Reservoir
54/77
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21% of capacity
42% of capacity
43% of capacity
12% of capacity
6% of capacity
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Moonrise
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WED.
6:57 a.m. 6:58 a.m.
6:23 p.m. 6:21 p.m.
8:56 p.m. 9:34 p.m.
11:38 a.m. 12:40 p.m.
MOON PHASES
STREAM FLOWS (through midnight Sunday)
Grande Ronde at Troy
Thief Valley Reservoir near North Powder
Burnt River near Unity
Umatilla River near Gibbon
Minam River at Minam
Powder River near Richland
The highest daily total rainfall ever for
Canada occurred on Oct. 6, 1967, at
Ucluelet Brynnor Mines, measuring 19.61
inches.
718 cfs
17 cfs
14 cfs
46 cfs
70 cfs
22 cfs
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Diamond
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Klamath Falls
32/81
Lakeview
28/81
McDermitt
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Bend
Boise
Brookings
Burns
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Corvallis
Council
Elgin
Eugene
Hermiston
Hood River
Imnaha
John Day
Joseph
Kennewick
Klamath Falls
Lakeview
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81/44/s
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81/53/pc
83/48/s
84/47/s
78/43/s
82/50/s
81/34/s
81/32/s
Hi/Lo/W
63/53/c
77/44/pc
82/52/pc
63/54/c
79/32/pc
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67/46/c
77/42/pc
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81/50/pc
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Arock
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Medford
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Boise
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Juntura
41/85
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Chiloquin
53/64
Ontario
41/79
29/82
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Beaver Marsh
Grants Pass
Huntington
44/78
Burns
Brothers
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43/80
46/83
Oakridge
Roseburg
Powers
Rome
Lakeview
Seaside
WEATHER HISTORY
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Seneca
50/80
53/64
OREGON
High: 91°
Low: 30°
Wettest: 0.02”
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Council
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John Day
Bend
Coos Bay
Death Valley, Calif.
Walden, Colo.
Bremerton, Wash.
42/76
43/84
Elkton
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Redmond
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Granite
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Newport
51/77
75 41
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Enterprise
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Idanha
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Portland
Newberg
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Lewiston
50/81
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could reconcile traditional
dynamics and Einstein’s
Theory of Relativity was
the holy grail of physics.
“But the current sci-
ence says both theories
cannot both be true,” he
said. “As physicists, we
want to understand the
universe’s most basic,
underlying laws and for
years I’ve puzzled on how
the science of dynamics
can square with Einstein’s
predictions.”
Still, he wondered if
time travel was mathemati-
cally possible.
Tobar and Costa said
they found a way to
“square the numbers,” and
Costa said the calculations
could have fascinating
consequences for science.
“The maths checks out
— and the results are the
stuff of science fi ction,”
Costa said in the press
release.
“Say you travelled in
time, in an attempt to stop
COVID-19’s patient zero
from being exposed to the
virus,” he explained. “How-
ever, if you stopped that
individual from becoming
infected — that would
eliminate the motivation for
you to go back and stop the
pandemic in the fi rst place.”
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Olympia
Ontario
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EAGLE CAP WILD.
EMIGRANT ST. PARK
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Warm with sunshine
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WALLOWA LAKE
MCKAY RESERVOIR
Warm with sunshine
Mostly sunny; warm
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THIEF VALLEY RES.
RED BRIDGE ST. PARK
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