8B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD COFFEE BREAK TUESDAY, MAY 26, 2020 Coronavirus stalls work to keep Dinner parties dominated by woman’s nonstop talking alive a rare rhino subspecies By Joe Mwiha and Kheled Kazziah DEAR ABBY: I am part of a couples group that gets together on a regular basis for dinner. The problem is one of the women takes over the conversa- tion, and it becomes her monologue. She just won’t stop! She goes into minute detail about every aspect of her life for the last couple of weeks (or months or years!) and the lives of her family, friends, friends of family and friends of friends. These are people we don’t know and don’t care about! We have tried to redirect the conversation by asking someone else a specifi c question. Before they can hardly comment, she jumps right in again. She’s a nice person, and a friend. Can you suggest a kind way we can fi x this, or do we just have to exclude them from these dinners? — EARS HURTING IN OHIO DEAR EARS HURTING: The woman may not realize how her efforts to be entertaining are perceived by the rest of you. Someone — pos- sibly you — has to summon up the courage to tell her how off-putting her mono- logues are. It may not DEAR be an easy conversa- ABBY tion to have, but it would be better than excluding her with no explanation. If, however, she is unable (or unwilling) to change her behavior, the solution would be to stop inviting her. DEAR ABBY: I just turned 51 and have been diagnosed with cancer for the second time. Why is it that when I tell someone I have cancer, their fi rst response is to tell me about every person in their life who has had cancer and all the gloomy stories? One family member actu- ally pulled out pictures to show me her SIL’s hair growing back. Why do they think this is an appro- priate response? It’s the last thing I want to hear. It is diffi cult to remain 73rd Anniversary SALE Value at Every Price Be safe, practice social distancing. positive, and I struggle with letting people in. The more this happens, the more I shut down. Your thoughts? — TRYING IN SALEM, MASS. DEAR TRYING: It might help to remind your- self that these individuals may be trying to show you they identify with what you and their relatives have experienced. The family member who showed you that pic- ture may have thought she was being encouraging by showing you a posi- tive outcome — that after chemo, your hair may grow back. If someone starts a con- versation along these lines, it is perfectly acceptable to tell the person you would rather not discuss the sub- ject right now — or ever. Please don’t allow the fact that some people are inap- propriate to isolate you. As I am sure you are aware, there are cancer support groups in which you can receive emotional support. If you need to fi nd one, visit cancer.org. Associated Press NANYUKI, Kenya — It’s not quite a case of coitus interruptus, but efforts to create a very spe- cial baby are defi nitely on hold. Blame the pandemic. Groundbreaking work to keep alive the nearly extinct northern white rhino subspecies — popu- lation, two — by in-vitro fertilization has been stalled by travel restric- tions. And time is running out. The two northern white rhinos are female. The goal is to create viable embryos in a lab by inseminating their eggs with frozen sperm from dead males, then transfer them into a surrogate mother, a more common southern white rhino. As of January, three embryos had been cre- ated and stored in liquid nitrogen. But further key steps now have to wait. “It has been disrupted by COVID-19, like every- thing else,” said Richard Vigne, managing director of Ol Pejeta Conservancy in Kenya, home of the two Swivel Rockers $ Five Drawer Chest 299 499 $ • Free Delivery • In-Store Credit • 70 Store Buying Power • Decorating Assistance 1520 ADAMS AVENUE La GRANDE, OREGON 97850 remaining rhinos. “That is, the process of col- lecting more eggs from the females as well as the process of developing the technique to introduce the northern white rhino embryo into the southern white rhino females.” It’s an international effort that includes con- servationists from Kenya, the Czech Republic, Ger- many and Italy — many affected by closed borders or restricted travel. For those involved in the effort, acutely aware of time, the delay can be painful. The procedure to create viable embryos has proven to be safe, they say, and can be performed reg- ularly before the animals become too old. In January, the transfer of the embryos to surro- gates had been planned for the coming months. In March, the plan had been to collect another round of eggs from the two remaining females. Because those eggs are limited, scientists are working with embryos from southern white rhinos until they can establish a successful pregnancy. Seven or eight transfers so far have failed to take hold. A receptive female is needed, along with the knowledge of exactly when she ovulates. “We know time is working against us,” said Cesare Galli, an in-vitro fertilization expert based in Italy. “The females will age and we don’t have many to choose from.” He hopes restrictions on international travel will loosen in the coming weeks so key steps can resume in August. “The problem is quite serious,” he said. “ Certainly as soon as international travel is resumed, it will be the fi rst priority to go” to Kenya and collect more eggs from the two females. Even when travel can resume, another problem looms. 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