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SIUSLAW NEWS ❚ WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 19, 2015
Want to boost your daughter’s self image? Don’t go for bust
those without a blow torch.
Ned
While Franklin’s parents
Hickson say their “gift” is meant to
When I first read about
Jenna Franklin, the British girl
whose parents are giving her
$8,000 breast implants for her
16th birthday, I was shocked
by the notion of a father will-
ing to be part of anything that
would make his teenaged
daughter more enticing to
teenaged boys.
Looking ahead to my own
daughter’s sweet 16, I’ve
begun saving up for a special
birthday ensemble that
includes sheet-metal pants and
a turtleneck sweater made of
chain-link. And possibly a
make-up kit to go with it, de-
pending on whether she wears
her metal visor up or down.
I have no doubt my daugh-
ter will thank me later for add-
ing a degree of difficulty to
the courtship process, which
will eliminate those who aren’t
persistent. Or, at the very least,
boost their daughter’s self
esteem, I don’t think going for
bust is the answer. Even
though Kay and Martin Frank-
lin are cosmetic surgeons
themselves, and say they only
want the “breast” for their
daughter, they have to see how
the need for self-image “im-
provements” won’t end there.
It’ll be a tummy-tuck at 17,
then higher cheekbones and a
thinner nose for her 18th birth-
day. At 21, she can get those
pouty lips she always wanted,
and maybe a little eye work.
Perhaps touch up those pointy
ears she used to get teased
about in grade school. Event-
ually, it will be time to tighten
that sagging 23-year-old chin.
Then finally, when she’s
completely unrecognizable
and can’t pass through airport
security without an X-ray of
her head from the luggage
machine, Jenna will be happy
— and confident that she can
lose her parents in a crowd,
which is really what the whole
thing is about.
I have three teens at home. I
can tell you the things that
either empower or implode
their self-confidence — and
what they identify as being
important to them — can liter-
ally change from moment to
moment. On more than one
occasion I have started a
harmless conversation over
breakfast on, let’s say, why I
like Fruitloops, and found my-
self the unwitting participant
in what felt like an interview
with Gary Busey. Between the
Molotov cocktail of hormones
coursing through their veins,
the constant flux of influences
in their lives thanks to social
media, the tether of cyber-
space and the occasional
friend you wish your child
never met, the road our sons
and daughters must navigate
to define themselves is full of
swerves and near misses.
It’s our job as parents to not
only be there on those rare
occasions when they actually
stop to ask for directions, but
also to close the road when we
know they don’t have the skill
to navigate what’s ahead.
At age 16, I’m sure many
girls believe larger breasts will
boost self-esteem. And for the
record, most 16-year-old boys
would agree with them.
But will she feel the same
when she’s a 35-year-old busi-
ness woman tired of men
looking at her self-esteem
boosts instead of sales figures
during staff meetings? Is a 16-
year-old capable of under-
standing how her body will
change and how breast
implants will im-pact those
changes?
Can a 16-year-old even get
through the week with the
same set of “best” friends they
had on Monday?
As parents, we need to rec-
ognize this and intervene
when it comes to decisions
that have long-term conse-
quences, even when our kids
don’t agree or understand.
In all honesty, I’m glad the
situation with the Franklins
arose. It has prompted me to
try even harder to ensure my
daughter’s self-confidence and
self-image are grounded in
who she is — not how she
looks. Besides, I’d also like to
avoid the cost of breast
implant surgery.
The fact is, I’m flat busted.
Ned is a syndicated columnist
with News Media Corporation.
Write him at nedhickson
@icloud.com.
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