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APRIL 1,2010
Youth Ed slates Literacy Night
Tribal Youth Education will hold a K-5 Literacy Night from 5:15 to
6:30 p.m. Thursday, April 15, in the Tribal Community Center.
Literacy Night in designed for kindergarten through fifth-grade families
and families that receive tutorial services.
To RSVP, contact Elementary Tutor Emily Hanes at 503-8792318 or
Emily.hanes4igrandronde.org.
Youth Education Family Night
Friday, April 2, from 5:15-7 p.m. in the Tribal gym. Dinner will be pro
vided. RSVP to Emily Hanea at 503-879-2318.
Are you interested in finishing
your bachelor's degree?
Find out how on Thursday, April 15 - 3:30-4:30 p.m.
George Fox University offers adult students the ability to dramatically
change their lives and improve their futures. Finish your degree in 16
months. Classes are designed for working adults and meet once each week
from 6-10 p.m. and one full-day Saturday class per 16-week semester.
ClassesPrograms are located in PortlanoVTigard, Salem and Boise.
George Fox University Degree Completion
Program information session
Where: CTGR Adult Education Building Classroom 126
For more information on the information session, call 503-879-1478.
For more information on the George Fox University Adult Degree
Completion Programs: go to www.georgefox.eduspsindex.html or call
Jeremy Stephens at 503-554-6168.
Addictions can affect our relationships
In an effort to inform and assist the community at large, Smoke Signals publishes
a monthly article addressing various mental health issues written by a member of
the Behavioral Health Department at Health & Wellness. They welcome e-mails,
letters and questions from people with mental health-related questions at torn.
bendergrandronde.org. .
By Tom Bender
Tribal Mental Health counselor
A little over five years ago, I quit smoking.
Growing up, everywhere I looked was an adult in my life with a cigarette in their
mouth parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings everyone.
I wa9 puffing away by fifth grade. Years later, during my most passionate days
as a smoker, if someone I cared about had asked me to quit it would have been
touch-or-go which would have won out the relationship or my addiction.
Working in social services, I have witnessed much of the beauty as well as much
of the woundedness that is part-and-parcel of the human experience.
Many of us choose our partners to teach us how to love, but also to point the
way to where we need to heal. In that way, relationships are wonderful mirrors
reflecting the levels of intimacy we are willing to go, but also where we balk or
get scared.
One sure block to true intimacy is when we bring a third party along, a hitch
hiker that has a profound effect on the depth and quality of our relationships
addiction.
I have spoken with many people who minimize the effects addiction is having
on their lives and in their relationships. The most obvious culprits, of course, are
drugs and alcohol.
If we are usingabusing substances, our primary relationship is not with the
person sitting across from us at the dinner table, but with the substance itself. If
you doubt this, ask yourself if you'd be willing to quit your drug of choice rather
than lose your relationship.
The above is true for all forms of addiction computer games, pornography,
compulsive eating, workaholism, compulsive gambling, control anything we do
in a persistent way despite the repetitive, negative effects it has on our lives.
Addiction leaves little breathing room for relationships to flourish. Oftentimes
we are trying to self-medicate to avoid feeling our emotions or coming to terms
with the past.
At home, our bodies may be physically present with our families, but if we are
engaged in addictive behavior we have created emotional and spiritual distance.
(This is true for even the so-called "benign" drugs like marijuana. I have encoun
tered many people who chose continuing to get high over their jobs, their partners
and even their own children.)
Beneath most addictive behavior is the desire to be happy, whole and loved.
How does one begin to move from unconscious acting out to a place of freedom
and emotional connection?
It starts, of course, with us. As challenging as some of our emotions can be (sad
ness, hurt, anger, loneliness), it takes even more energy not to feel them. It is a
radical and loving act to gently lay down our addictions and channel that energy
toward our own healing. We do so for the sake of our highest good, and we do it
for those whom we love.
LIBRARY HOURS:
Monday - Friday: 9 am. - 6 p.m.
(closed Monday Friday: noon - 1 rM.)
Saturday: 10 a.m. - 2 p.m.
- Tiny Tots' Program; Sessions are held the first Monday of each
month. Next session is April 5, from noon - 1 p.m. in the library. This
program is for parents, grandparents and or caregivers of babies 0 2.
Please join us.
National Poetry Month: April is National Poetry Month. The library
will feature a bulletin board display of poets and their work and informa
tion on different kinds of poems.
National Library Week: April 11 - 17. Honorary Chair is Neil
Gaiman,, the winner of the 2009 Newbery Medal for The Graveyard Book,
and is a bestselling author for readers of all ages. The Graveyard Book
is available at the library for checkout. The Library will be sponsoring
literary trivia and drawings for library visitors during National Library
Week.
Evelyn Sibley Lampman Award: Oregon author Roland Smith is the
recipient of the 2010 Lampman Award that was presented on March 5.
The Lampman Award is Oregon's most notable and prestigious award for
library service to children and is given to a living Oregon author for their
significant contribution to Oregon in the fields of children's literature
and library services. The Tribal Library has several of Mr. Smith's books
available for checkout. Titles include: B is for Beaver, S is for Smithso
nian; N is for Nation 8 Capitol and Z is for Zookeeper for children and
The Captain f8 Dog; Cryptid Hunters; Thunder Cave; The Last hobo for
pre-teens & teens. Smiths' fast paced adventures and fascinating facts
stories have drawn many readers, reluctant and otherwise, over the
years. The Tribal Library also has a small collection of Evelyn Sibley
Lampman books available for checkout. Two popular Lampman books
include historical fiction Witch Doctor's Son, a story of establishing the
Grand Ronde Reservation, and Treasure Mountain, a story about two
Siletz youth seeking the Neakahnie Mountain treasure to help save their
great aunt Delia's Indian homeland.
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National forests
2010
SUMMER EMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNITIES
The USOA Forest Service is recruiting students and US Citizens far
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Firefighter
Recreation
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Interpretive guide andor visitor information
Botany
Engineering
Fisheries
Wildlife
Archaeological
Duty Station Locations
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Willamette National Forest
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