E Coosh EEWA: The W3y it is Pqge 4 Spilyay Tymoo November 11, 2004 Veterans to be honored this week By Selena Boise Mnitigemeiit Successor This week we will be celebrat ing Veterans Day with an unveil ing, a parade and end with a din ner at the longhouse.lt is al ways a sight to see the Veterans in their uniforms and hearing the ceremonies take place with their commands and stuff. I like to see these things hap pen and so do my kids. In fact my son was involved in JROTC for four years and liked it a lot. I would hear that lingo from time to time from him and lis ten to his plans to join the ser vice when he finishes school. I envy him and the way he makes these plans for himself at this young age. Well, I hope that everyone will thank a veteran this week, for serving our country the way they did. I mean all veterans, from all wars and service. I used to see the list of veter ans when Spilyay staff helped him gather names of veterans for records. There are so many vet erans who served our country proudly. Currently there are veterans still serving in Iraq. These veter ans are commended for their service to this country and the war on terrorism. I saw this passage on an email from a soldier who feels that people are angry about the war to begin with and he spoke his peace. He was proud of the changes that have taken place in this country where he is. There were so many things changed in this country that he feels the war on terrorism is worth the effort. But he serves with pride because he sees this change. Victims Sarah J. Frank Victims of Crime advocate Warm Springs Victims of Crime Services, Jefferson County Victims Assistance, Tribal Prevention, Warm Springs Police Department, Central Or egon Battering and Rape Alliance (COBRA) and some local com munity members closed Domes tic Violence Awareness month with a Joining Hands at Deschutes Bridge. The event was held Oct. 30. We would like to share some the messages we received throughout the month of Oc tober. More than a few good men Jack Katz was the guest speaker at the Sixth Annual Abuse Awareness Workshop held in Gresham on Oct.16. Jack is the producer of Tottghguise, a video focused on how media contributes to vio lence. He spoke to the men encour aging them to speak out against violence. "It's time for men to step forward. Violence against women is not just a women's is sue. Men have daughters, nieces, grandchildren and even moth ers who have been violated. Men also suffer from violence, usually at the hands of other men." He continued, "Do what you have to do, so you can look yourself in the mirror and say, 'I am doing what I can.' If you really care about women and you haven't spoken out yet, it's not too late. Some men will not respond positively to you, partly Spilyay Speaks Hurts everyone When a person breaks into a home, car or business, it hurts everyone in the community. A home should be the one place you feel safe. A car is how most of us get to work or school and our things should be there when we get back to our car. A busi ness has to sell products in or der to make money to order more products to sell to the com munity. Today (Nov. 8) Warm Springs Market was broken into again. We had to remain closed until 10 a.m. To our loyal cus tomers, we are sorry for the in convenience. Now we will have to cut back on product, employ ment (we have 10 tribal mem bers working here), and won't be able to donate to some of the local programs. It will take months to make back the $8,000 of products that were stolen today, as well as $5,000 stolen two months ago. Now that some may lose their jobs, they won't be able to pay for their car or house be cause somebody thought it would be fun to break into the store. We all are a part of this com munity, so it hurts everyone, no matter if it is a home, car or a business. If we are unable to keep the market open, it will cause a hardship on those who don't have access to a car. Next time, think how it may hurt your mom, dad, grandparents, friends. Have a safe one out there. Robert and Rosa Macy. Circle of Hope I wanted to take this oppor- , turiity to thank Cece Whitewolf and Circle of Hope Cancer Sur vivors for their time, energy and love they gave for the Native people who have cancer, survi advocate shares because they don't want to hear someone challenge their behav ior." Jack Katz challenged the men to step up and be honest. "We'll reach more people if we're hon est, it takes more guts to admit than to deny. We need to rede fine courage. It's more than physical courage, it's moral cour age, it's the 'right' thing to do. Take risks, you could break down barriers. It's an act of in tegrity for men to speak against violence for young men to hear." A lot of men in prison or jail are in there because of external actions - they broke the law -and because of internalized trauma. Men build an iron shell to protect themselves from get ting hurt. They are like "cast iron marshmallows." Jack used The Wizard of 0 metaphor for "pulling back the curtain" to reveal the true person behind the huge wizard. This training was the sixth annual event sponsored by the Portland Metro Church of Christ, as their contribution to Domestic Violence Awareness Month. This was not a Christian-based event. However the church does have a ministry team-response to domestic vio lence against women and chil dren. For more information see their website at www.metrocofc.org or call (503) 667-0773. Jefferson County Juvenile Justice Services and Victims of Crime Services staff are plan ning to view the Toughguist video on Tuesday, Nov. 23 from 1 1:30 a.m. to 1:30 pm, at the Family vors, family members, caregivers and all those involved. A very big thank you very much. I have learned how to live with cancer. I have a better un derstanding of it, I'm not angry about it and not stressed about it. At first, I was still learning to understand it, and why? I was angry but after accept ing it, I'm enjoying life to the fullest. I don't feel sorry for myself, there's enough of that going around the rez. I pray a lot more every day. I wanted to thank the ladies from all over the country who came, for their encouraging words, so comforting and under standing of what I'm going through; especially auntie Bernice Mitchell for helping me through this. Listening to her talk with her soft voice, I feel better about "living with cancer, not dying of cancer." I also wanted to say thank you to the pool league for the memorial tournament they had for our sister Pebbles, auntie Patches, and friend Louie. I know I wasn't there all the time, but just being there with faces I miss, I'm very grateful for those who were all there to play, and enjoy themselves. I know it's not about winning all the time, it's about playing with a good heart, enjoying yourself, concentration and stroking. Today, I'm still clean and so ber with almost 15 months. Just doing it one day at a time, still have time to work my program, pray, laugh, joke around and enjoy life. I'm starting my radia tion, chemo next week (for 6-7 weeks), then rest, then surgery, rest period and more chemo. I'm praying that more women and men get themselves checked so this doesn't happen to them. It'll save your life to check. Resource Center. Watch for fly ers or announcements on KWSO. A discussion will follow the viewing. Reservation violence and anger resolution This was the theme of a workshop held at the Commu nity Center, sponsored by the Community Counseling Center. Arlie Neshkahi was the right person to do this conference. He spoke from his heart to the many participants: Violence on the reservation has increased and it's time that we come to gether and say "we've had enough." We can no longer stand quietly on the wayside. Thank you Arlie and Com munity Counseling staff for this awesome workshop. Thank you Captain for the laughter and to the brave people who told their funny stories. This is a very brief report of this workshop. Indian Child Welfare Victims of Crime Services staff also participated in the Indian Child Welfare training in Pendleton. Keynote speaker Kathy Everly commented that every one has his or her own idea of what "is in the best interest of the child." She told a story of a time when she believed it was not in the best interest of her grand children to return to the reser vation to live with their other grandmother. "After all, there is not even a Wal-Mart on the rez." (The crowd laughed.) She later learned that her grandchildren were happy on the Letters to the Editor I'm happy that the doctors found my cancer in time. So, I'm not afraid to talk about cancer, I feel better and people need to be edu cated about cancer. Thank you. Linda Mcanus, Lamoosh. Great tourney Wow, what a wonderful weekend the memorial tourna ment brought to the friends and families of the three great people it honored. When we walked through the (Dirty Moc) Rialto Billiards Hall, the walls hadn't seen some of those faces for years. What a beautiful sight to behold. Our families merged into the biggest event the place has ever held. There was a lot of hard work behind the scenes before it came to be. The people respon sible were greatly rewarded by the turnout, and the kind words of appreciation are many. I would like to thank all of you involved. Tony and Seegray Littleleaf, Tia Bean, her father Jim, Mrs. Betty Bagley, Mr. Jerry Bagley, Karla Bagley, the family of Dorothy Pebbles George, Ms. Joanne Bryant, Wayne for allowing the event to be held in the home away from home for a lot of shooters in our small area, and lifting the 86's which made it possible for the teams to return for the best jackpot Friday they have ever seen. Forty shooters started the week end which took part of them to another site. I understand Chief Smith took the honor of walking away with the money. Way to go, congrats to the champ. The Washington teams brought out their best shooters and they made every stroke count. Play ing pool is a sport and there are good, and there are great play ers. Lucky for us all of the ones a message of hope rez with their grandmother, where they received love and comfort. Kathy spoke of how it is im portant to involve the families in case planning. For 20 years the focus was on rescuing child victims from incompetent par ents, and the parents were la beled. She encouraged her au dience to think outside the box and to strengthen the families. Social problems are not solved by expertise. What is in the best interest of the children and families? Family centered practice is at the heart of the Indian Child Welfare. In her workshop, Working with Indian Children and Fami lies, Kathy compared the old practice of conventional child welfare to the new practice of family-centered practice. She told her audience (DHS, Social Service caseworkers, etc.) "If you are not sincere, you shouldn't be here." During the grief and trauma panel, Vaun Miller said that un resolved grief could lead to ad diction as a form of self-medication. Kids run from the pain because they don't have some one to help them. Jim St. Mar tin, Alvina Huesties and Ronald Pond also shared. While in Pendleton, one of the staff had the opportunity to visit a tribal leader who re minded her "God is Love." Though the trials are many and the heart is heavy, we must always remember, God is Love. Wie each have a job to do to help each other and to help the wounded. on the sidelines got to witness some very good shots, the ones we wish we could make. Effortless natural smooth strokes I remember seeing Louie make, time after time. He was one of the biggest fans of the table. He always said left handed people had the advan tage over the balls, watching him and trying the same shots I be lieved him. It was sometimes impossible to do. I'm sure you had the opportunity to play against him while he coached you along. The lines he saw were clean, always standing out. As I sat there I felt sad that he wasn't there. My heart sank knowing he could not walk around the tables. He was the real reason I ever picked up a cue stick, to be a part of his world. Where we grew up, the Golden Cue is where he started to play. When I first went in I could not even see over the rails, but he was already making magic at a young age. One of the men there took him under his wing and taught him. Louie loved to share his knowledge. Hopefully all of us will keep it moving to new gen erations as they enter the excit ing game. I am sure he would be very proud, if he knew he had such an influence on us. If we never said it out loud to him, in his heart he knew he was very respected. Thank you for par ticipating in such a successful tournament. Sunday's meal was a big hit, thanks to cooks Linda Bagley, Joann, Betty, Jerry for the pa per and plastic ware. Thank you everyone who contributed to the meal. I don't know you by name but if it were not for you the day would not have been the same. The day and night went in Methamphetamine Sheilah Clements, prevention coordinator, held a one-day "meth" training at the Commu nity Center Social Hall. Meth is a huge problem in the U.S. The presentor, Eric Martin, showed videos with stories of meth ad dicts. Some of the pictures were moving and definitely gave the audience something to think about. Meth can cause serious prob lems for the addict. Eric encour aged people not to lose hope for meth addicts: If you don't have any hope for them, how could they have hope for themselves? He educated the audience on the effects meth can have on the brain. A panel discussion was held at the end of the day's events. During the U.S. Attorney's meth summit in Portland in Sep tember, a comment was made that "we can't arrest our way out of this problem." The meth epidemic is so strong that it will take coopera tion from many resources to help both the victims and those addicted to meth. There are many people in Warm Springs who have quit using meth. Share your story to encourage those still bound to their addiction. If you would like to help fight the meth problem in Jefferson County, consider join ing the Meth Task Force. They meet at noon the first Wednes day of every month at the Jefferson County Sheriff s Of fice. The Willow Creek House For Women Monday morning. Die-hard is ' the term for what it took to get ' through the last of the games. ! Congratulations to Washington. ' They took home first, second 1 and third places. Next time, Oregon. You let 'em know you 1 were there this time. With re- 1 spect, the Medina family. ? At the bridge ; I am writing this letter of thanks to all those who partici- -pated in the Joining at the Bridge i ceremony. There ceremony was ' very beautiful with the closing -of Domestic Violence Aware- ' ness month. There was a com- ' ment made by one young girl who asked, "Did we bless the ' bridge?" All I could answer was yes, that is one way of putting it. Next year we plan on getting the word out sooner so people from sides of the "river" can make their stand. Domestic vio lence affects everybody. Re spectfully, Martha A. Winishut, office assistantadvo cate, Victims of Crimes Services. A thank you On behalf of Jason Tyler 3 Smartlowit, I would like to take this time to thank the following people who traveled to i Toppenish, Wash., to play in the Gene Smartlowit Memorial 1 Tournament: T.J. Foltz, Shawn t Harry, Ray Anderson, Willis Anderson, David White and ) Tray Leonard. And also to each of your family members who went with you. This meant a lot to Jason, and he will remember it always. Jason received a lot of ; support and encouragement throughout the weekend from ' players, referees, family and ! spectators. Each and every one I of you played hard and for that I am grateful. Thank you. ; Marcie Stacona for Jason ; Smartlowit. After months of prepara tion, the Willow Creek House For Women in transition will celebrate their opening with a dedication ceremony and open house on Nov. 22. They are issuing a special in vitation to our faith-based com munity to actively participate in this dedication ceremony. If you are interested please call Jamasa Tello at 475-0301. The house will provide a safe, stable, healthy, environment for women integrating back into society after being in jail, prison or treatment. The home is lo cated at 63 SE 11th Street in Madras, and can house six cli ents and one resident manager. The resident manager position is vacant. Room and a monthly stipend are included with com pensation. Good communica tions skills and attention to de tail are necessary. The manager coordinates local services and volunteer classes. If you are in terested, please contact Jamasa at 475-0301. Are you a single female drill sergeant with a heart to help? This may be the job for you. Victims of Crime staff gen erally work with domestic vio lence and sexual assault victims. Increasing our knowledge on what causes violence is key to help prevent abuse. We look for creative ways to empower women affected by domestic violence and sexual assault We are always looking for help as we work toward our goal. If you are interested in volunteering for Victim's of Crime please call us at 553-2293. 1 t