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Spilyqy Tyrooo, Warm Springs, Oregon
October 30,2003
Nettie Shawaway passed away on
Oct. 20. She was 102.
Mrs. Shawaway has many rela
tives. This was evident by the hun
dreds of people who attended the
services following her passing.
Her relatives include the follow
ing people:
Johnnie George, who married
Dora Meanus. Their daughter Dor
othy P. George passed away earlier
this year.
Daughter Betty L. George Lucio
who married Charles Jackson. Their
children are Wando C Holum, Lalovi
L. Jackson, Inman Casey Jackson,
and Gregory N.Jackson, who passed
away in 1984.
Betty later married Frank Lucio,
and their daughter is Esther D. Lucio.
Mrs. Shawaway's brothers and sis
ters preceded her in death. They are
May Queahpama John, Matilda
Queahpama Mitchell, Oscar
Queahpama, Clayton Queahpama
and Sylvia Queahpama Wallulatum.
Matilda Queahpama married
Loius Mitchell, and their children are
Freda M. Wallulatum, Roma Jean
Mitchell Joe, Pierson Mitchell (who
has passed away), Patrick Mitchell,
Jameson Mitchell and Darlene M.
Foster.
Bighorn: more tags expected
(Continued from page 1)
On occasion, big horn tags are auc
tioned off and they can for as high as
eighty thousand dollars.
"We started requesting tags two
years ago," says Luther.
Support for the tribes getting big
horn tags was high in Portland and Bend
offices of Fish and Wildlife, but the
tags didn't come through for the hunt.
"We really didn't say much about it,"
says Luther.
VOCS: offering hope for victims of abuse
(Contniued from page 1)
woke later, all my clothes were off
me...
I didn 't know what to do. Yon hear about
these things, but it always happens to some
body else. You never think it might happen
to you.
I just wanted to get out of there. I lo
cated my clothes and sneaked out of the
house.
The only way the cycle of violence
stops is to intervene. This might involve
friends or family. It could include a
trusted spiritual person or the police.
Most often, the first hesitant step in
changing a violent life includes the Vic
tims of Crime Services.
In 1997 the program provided help
to 37 victims. This increased to 634
victims between 2000-2002, The fig
ures are staying high with 61 victims
seeking aid in the last four months.
Marie Calica, manager of Victims of
Crime Services (VOCS), figures that
almost half of all women over 18 years
of age on the reservation have sought
or are seeking safety with the Victims
of Crime Services.
To be fair, some of the increase in
numbers is in the reporting.
"People come here to report things
that they may not report to the police
department, because they feel more
comfortable here," says Glen
Dunsbcrgcn. "They believe, based on
their experience, that we will do some
thing for them."
"I'm seeing a lot more victims reach
out because they've known the people
who work here (at VOCS) for years,"
says Queahpama. "They're beginning
to understand they don't have to be
ashamed. They're understanding they
don't have to stay in that situation.
They're trusting the staff more and
realizing something will get done - to
the best of our ability."
The relationship between the VOCS
staff and the victims of violence on
the reservation is growing daily - some
times victims even call staff members
at home.
The reasons for abuse and violence
in the community are many, and they
can be particularly bad at this time of
thc year. Winter is hard because the cold
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Oscar Queahpama married Irene
Quaempts. Their children are
Antoinette Q. Pamperien, Ralph
Queahpama, Rafael Queahpama,
Kathleen Q. Spaulding, and Madeline
Q. Spino.
Clayton Queahpama married Helen
Sohappy. Their children are Katherine
Queahpama, Clera Queahpama, Sybil
Queahpama, Allie Christine
Queahpama, and George Queahpama.
Sylvia Queahpama Wallulatum mar
ried Foster Sahme. Their children are
Sylvester Sahme Sr., Jim Sahme, Milton
This year was a different matter.
This year's tags came through, late, in
an emergency move by the statewide
Fish and Wildlife Commission. They
are good for one year.
According to Luther, even though
this was a one time situation, the odds
of more bighorn sheep tags being is
sued to the tribes for next hunting sea
son are very good.
"This issuing of big horn tags has
set a precedent," says Luther. "Why
The staff of Victims
weather forces people to come indoors
and be in confined spaces together. This
, aggravates preexisting tensions like a
poor economy, joblessness or control
issues in the family.
"When families get together for spe
cial occasions such as birthdays,
Thanksgiving or Christmas, and they
have pre-existing tension between
them," says Dunsbcrgen, "then you add
some alcohol and it could be (ripe) for
a family disturbance."
Staff members at VOCS recom
mend a person leave the area if they
feel the situation is getting violent.
"You can't fight with somebody if
they're not in the same room," says
Dunsbergen.
The decisions each individual makes
are very important in a potentially vio
lent situation - they can calm things
down or make them much worse...
really Hied him when I first met him.
He sand me from getting beat up by my
first husband. 1 should have known better.
The second to the worst time he beat me
up was before we got married. Me and him
and a bunch of friends were riding around
in his pickup. We 'd been drinking all day.
We pulled up to another friend's house
and he dragged me inside and started yell-
ing at me. He told me I'd messed up his
pickup. I asked him what he meant and
he started hitting me and hitting me.
remember the pain and the tone of
his voice. But I especially remember the look
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Sahme and Gene O. Sahme.
Mrs. Shawway was one of seven
children. At age 7 she started school
at Simnasho. Later, she attended the
Warm Springs boarding school, and
then to Chemawa Indian School.
After school she lived in
Pendleton for about four years.
When she moved back home to
Warm Springs she worked at cook
ing, cleaning and washing for a
woman named Mrs. Willowdale.
Then in 1939 she married Will
iam McCorkle, and that same year
adopted Johnny and Betty Lou
George.
She then worked at the Warm
Springs clinic, eventually working in
the kitchen.
She also worked at the boarding
school. Her second marriage was to
Alba Shawaway, of Yakama.
They made their home in
Yakama. Nettie moved back to
Warm Springs in 1968, after Alba
passed away.
Mrs. Shawaway was one of the
founders of the Lincoln's Birthday
Powwow at Simnasho.
She had been living at High
Lookee Lodge during the final years
of her life.
wouldn't we get them? Why would you
provide them one year and not an
other?" Luther feels the issuing of these two
bighorn tags is an acknowledgement by
the Oregon Fish and Wildlife Commis
sion of the tribes treaty rights and the
populations of animals can withstand
the harvest.
"I expect we're going to be receiv
ing these tags from now on," he said.
D. "Bing" Bingham
of Crime Services.
in his eyes. I knew I better keep quiet.
When he finished hitting me, he dragged
me out to the pickup with his friends. I
remember feeling like a stupid fool siting
there with all his friends and I was all
beaten up. 1 le told me I deserved it. I be
lieved it. I didn V see a mess in his pickup.
I just assumed he 'd cleaned it up.
One day a friend came by and pleaded
with me to leave the relationship. She begged
me. I stared her right in the eye, plumb
sober, and said 'no '. This kept up for years
- the drinking and the beatings.
It seemed like nothing I did was right.
I tried to do what he wanted. It didn't
work. I didn 't deserve it - I just didn 't
know what to do.
Safety is a big issue with battering
victims. But the victim needs to pause
and consider what she really wants. Is
temporary safety enough? Or does she
want something long term. I 'or that she
needs to break the cycle of abuse.
Domestic abuse comes in all shapes,
colors and sizes.
It can be found in the poorest or
wealthiest neighborhood. It involves
women beating men or people of the
same sex. It might not involve batter
ing or sexual assault. Sometimes it's
about emotional abuse.
This next storv is told bv a woman
'ho has never been beaten or raped in
her life. I ler parents weren't violent and
she taught her children not to be vio-
lent. Still she's abused - emotionally.
Liaison: liking new job
(Continued from page 1)
Leonard transferred from Hous
ing to become a secretary for the
Public Safety Branch.
A year later she returned to the
courts to work in the Prosecutor's
office, where she spent the past five
years.
When the school district commu
nity liaison job was open for appli
cations, Leonard's husband Andy
initially applied for the position. But
when the deadline arrived, he de
cided to continue with his job at the
Recreation Department, where he
works with the youth of Warm
Springs.
Time was short, and Leonard
made the decision to apply for the
Fire: rumors were unfounded
(Continued from page 1)
"We went back over the area of
the Booth Fire and eliminated all other
causes," says Randy Wight.
The B&B Complex fire began last
summer about the time President
Bush visited Central Oregon, and there
were many rumors about the possibil
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I am an old woman and have lived a
good life. I have many children, grand chil
dren and great grand children. I practi
cally raised my nephew. He used to come
running to me and hug me. He would whis
per, 'I love you' into my ear. I would tell
him the same.
hater, I first suspected my nephew was
on drugs when his circle of friends changed.
Before he had been a clean cut, nice look
ing boy who was always polite.
He became less careful about his ap
pearance. When he came to my house, he
wasn 't willing to sit and visit. Sometimes
he would draw the drapes as soon as he
walked in the door. He lost weight fast
and never wanted anything to eat and no
longer acted like a regular, layy teenager
who loves to sit around.
That's when money started to come up
missing. First it was twenty dollar bills,
then it got to be as much as five hundred
dollars. After that my checks were stolen
and he used my credit cards.
If I brought it up, he would get mad
and go away for a while. When he was
gone, my money was always there. When
he came back, more money was missing.
Every time he returned, I suffered.
I didn't know what to do.
Domestic abuse crosses all levels of
society, all races and geographic areas.
Facing this tidal wave of violence, it's
easy to lose hope and do nothing,
Not so, say the staff members at
VOCS: "You're not going to stop do
mestic violence a hundred percent,"
says Glen Dunsbergen. "You're going
to help each victim and each situation,
one at a time."
For that person, at that time, a ray
of hope in their difficult life means a
lot. Sometimes, simple hope is not
enough. People need tools to keep that
hope alive. "We want to focus on how
we're going to help these families be
more empowered (to break the cycle
of violence)," says Marie Calica, "to
enable the family to learn some skills
that are lacking."
And so that's how the staff at VOCS
keeps hope alive on the reservation -one
family at a time. And maybe some
day the cycle of violence will be bro
ken in more places than not and there'll
additional hope to go around.
liaison position. She was chosen for
an interview, and ultimately chosen
for the job. Leonard enjoys her new
line of work. And because she
coached basketball for the middle
school she knows many of the stu
dents there. At the high school she
is learning names and faces and get
ting comfortable.
There are some things that
Leonard misses now that she works
in Madras instead of Warm Springs.
"What I miss the most is going to
my mom's house for her lunches,"
she said. She used to eat lunch with
her sisters at their mother's house.
"Now I'm here in Madras during
lunch hour wondering what my mom
cooked for the day," she concludes,
ity of eco-terrorists starting the fires
to gain publicity, or that someone
started it to further the president's log
ging agenda.
"Those rumors are pure specula
tion," says Randy Wight. "There is no
evidence to suggest those scenarios."
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Recognizing
abuse, inside
and out
Signs of excessive control or
isolation are the hallmarks of an
abusive relationship. Listed are
some indications to look for:
Sudden changes in personality.
A great deal of difference be
tween a person's public and pri
vate face.
Increasing and excessive de
mands for control. Constant ques
tions like, "Where are you going?
Who are you seeing? How long
will you be gone? What did you
say?"
Quiting work suddenly. Some
one may be too embarrassed to
show up with black eyes or they're
being isolated by an abuser.
Unexplained injuries. Just how
many black eyes can a person
have in a year?
Constant control of where
abouts. Is someone always check
ing on where you're going or who
you're seeing?
Excessive jealousy or charm.
Is he saying things like, "I'm only
jealous because I care about you
so much" or "Why are you dress
ing up so well again, arc you try
ing to get someone's attention?"
F.motional battering, Is some
one saying, "Gee, you're starting
to look old," or "See that woman,
she sure looks good" or "You've
got those kids, you'll never find
anyone but me."
Plays the victim. Says to his
friends, "Did you sec what she did
to me?"
Minimizing what really hap
pening. I le plays the abuse down
and so do you.
someone hurting you? You
don ' have to live that way. Call
the police at 911 or the Victims
of Crime Services at 553-2293
and get some help.