Spilyay Tymoo
Warm Springs, Oregon
July 28, 1989 PAGE 11
Child-parent separations
Fear of separation from parents normal reaction
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I car ol separation from a parent
is a normal reaction lor a child.
Although thisi fear is usually most
intense between one and two years
of age, the anxiety can also occur
for older children. If there has been
a stressful event (change in routine
or trauma within the family), a
child may feci temporarily insecure.
Parents should also realize that
separation fears will be more intense
in children who arc temperamen
tally "slow-to-warm-up"and have
difficulty making transitions or
entering new situations.
Separation from or loss of a fam
ily member will trigger fears of
being abandoned. Sensitive ques
tions followed by assurance can
usually ease separation fears.
f ar from serving as an "emo
tional crutch" that increases
dependency, the research on tran
sitional objects suggests that their
appropriate use will increase con
fidence and security in young child
ren. The research shows that child
ren given transitional objects'cry
less when they are seeparated from
parents. Probably because of the
increase in security, these children
also are able to explore their envi
ronment more actively. In addi
tion, children with transitional ob
jects focus on and learn new tasks
better than those without them.
Otten parents feel guilty and dis
tressed about their child's natural
protest to separation and may
unwittingly prolong and reinforce
a separation reaction. You can err
in both wav leaving too soon or
not leaving enough. It lakes judg
ment, can't leave without saying
goodbye. And don't anxiously lin
ger when it is lime to leave. Reas
sure y our preschooler through verbiil
and nonverbal behaviors that ev
erything will be fine in your absence.
1 . Before you leave, tell the child
you are leaving, and when you will
return. It may help to say some
thing like "...and 111 pick you up at
1 1 o clock just like last week. In
order to bear separation, the child
must know the parent will return.
2. After you say you arc leaving,
then I.CAVr. II you linger because
of the child's whining, then you are
teaching the child to whine to get
what he she wants.
3. Expressing affection for your
child is appropriate, but separation
is made more difficult if the parent
verbally or nonverbally cxpicssex
ambivalence, guilt, worry, uncei
tainty. etc. about leaving the child.
1 he parent's emotional response to
separation is a common cause of
the child's emotional response.
4. Don't be late to pick your
child up! Be early or on time.
Children can get very distressed
when all the other children have
been picked up.
5. If your child is slow to adapt
to new situations, then give this
advice a few weeks to work. Make
the transition easy.
6. Separation anxiety is norma!.
On rare occasions, however, it may
indicate a problem. Talk to your
child anu your Oav care niovuicr
about what your child experiences
at day care. Perhaps your child is
teased by other children, or afraid
ol a class pet, or the teacher looks
like mean Uncle Albert. In cases
like this,. when separation anxiety
persists, you must seek the cause
yourself because it will be unique
to your situation.
Parents sometimes threaten lit
tle children with "going away." It's
true this often results in "good
behavior," since the possibility ol
losing his parent is so upsetting to
the child that he w ill do anything to
avoid it. But these threats may. at
the same time, produce such anx
iety that the child believes that his
parent Will, disappear, ami at
any time. A bad act. he thinks,
might cause his parents to desert
him forever.
A girl of 5. whose mother sud
denly had to go to the hospital,
connected this event to her own
"badness." She thought she was
responsible lr her motlici's
illness, mic nccame shy and timid
and lost her spontaneity in a con
stant effort to be a "good girl,"
A girl ol 6 had a similar expe
rience. Her mother became ill and.
at the same tune, a maid who had
cared for her since birth left the
family. I his double separation
resulted in a long-time anxiety lor
the child. I'venat 12. she refused to
goto school until her mother wrote
down where she would be at every
hour while she was in school.
Occasionally she would run home
from school to make sure her mot her
was there. It's eary to see what a
crippling fear this was.
Parent can diminish a great deal
of childhood anxiety by protecting
their children from feeling they are
in danger of being separated from
them. To children, separation is
the most threatening of all
situations.
Children need to feel you are
dependable. Your preschooler
needs to know he or she can count
on you to do as y ou say you w ill uo.
Information on this page provided by the
by tho Warm Springs Office
of the Oregon State University
Extension Service
Phone: 553-1161, ext. 238 or 239
Heat stress dangerous
Heat can be a real danger to
many people. Heat stress is caused
by the body's inability to adjust to
sudden increases in temperature. and
the elderly are especially vulnerble.
It puts a dangerous strain on the
heart and blood pressure and can
lead to heat exhaustion, heart fail
ure and stroke.
Signs of heat stress include the
following: dizziness, rapid heart
beat, diarrhea, nausea, cramps,
throbbing headache, dry skin (no
Forestry agent hired by OSU
OSU Madras office hires new
home economics, 4-H agent
Good things happen to those
who wait. Jefferson County is for
tunate to have Lynne Breese apply
and be accepted for the Extension
Agent position in the Madras office.
She will be responsible for home
economics and 4-H Youth projects.
Breese comes with a strong back
ground in extension having worked
Zimmerman
retires
We will be losing a valuable
Extension educator when Martin
Zimmerman, Jefferson County Ex
tension agent, retires this month.
Zimmerman started his Exten
sion career in 1 960 as a Weed Con-"
trol Extension Agent in Sherman
County. In 1966 he took a sabbati
cal leave to pursue a Master's degree
in Weed Science at Oregon State
University. He moved to Gilliam
County in 1971 and to Jefferson
Coutny in 1979.
Through the years, Zimmerman
has developed his education pro
gram to. where he is now consi
dered the specialist in Oregon for
many of the diverse crops grown in
Jefferson County.
A replacement for Zimmerman
is expected to be on the job by late
August. Any questions concerning
crops will be answered using var
ious OSU Extension specialists.
in Deschutes, Union and Washing
ton counties. She also worked out
of the state 4-H and Home Eco
nomic offices doing special projects.
Since leaving Extension in 1974
Breese has taught school in Hun
tington, Oregon. In 1987, Breese
and her husband, John, moved to
Prineville. Since then she has
worked at Farwest Federal Bank in
Prineville.
With a desire to get her feet wet
again in Extension, working with
youth and adults in Jefferson county
is a way to get that accomplished.
During Mollie Marsh's mater
nity leave, Breese will be working
with the Warm Springs staff to
cover questions related to Home
Economics. She may be availabe in
Warm Springs one day per week in
the near future.
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Steve Fitzgerald
Protect valuables from sun
With last year's assignment of
Steve I itzgcrald to the Deschutes
County office of the OSU Exten
sion Service in Redmond, the cen
tral Oregon counties of Deschutes,
Crook and Jefferson, for the first
time, have a forestry Extension
agent to call their own. Before this.
Extension Forestry educational
programs w ere delivered exclusively
to this area by specialists working
out of the Corvallis campus.
This is not a new position for
Forestry Extension, but rather an
internal reallocation of personnel,
resources and effort to meet grow
ing need for multiple use forestry
education in the tri-county central
Oregon area. A portion of the sup
port for it comes from Oregon's
share of the federal Renewable
Resources Extension program.
Steve was selected for the posi
tion from OSU'a current Forestry
Extension cadre following a na
tional search. He leaves the Coquille
Extension office after four years of
active and highly effective service
to the forestry community of Coos
and Curry counties. His exceptional
work with the Society of American
Foresters and Small Woodlands
Association groups there earned him
Widespread respect. Before that, he
was a forester at the University of
Idaho Experimental Forest in Mos
cow, Idaho. In that position, he
assisted University of Idaho faculty
in conducting research and teach
ing activities in forest management
and timber harvesting.
Steve received a master's degree
in Forestry from the University of
Idaho in 1982. His bachelor's degree
in forest biology was awarded in
1978 at the Syracuse University of
New York's College of Environ
mental Science and Forestry.
In his new job, Steve will serve
the diverse needs of three neighbor
ing but significantly different coun
ties. His time will be split between
the three counties with about 60
percent in Deschutes and 20 per
cent in each of Crook and Jeffer
son. In Deschutes County, he'll be
helping with problems associated
with forests near and within the
much-discussed "urban fringe." In
Crook County, there's a broad
spectrum of more conventional
needs in harmonizing management
strategics and practices for timber,
livestock and wildlife. Jefferson
County offers the special land
managemnt and economic devel
opment challenges unique to Warm
Springs tribal lands.
sweating), chest pain, weakness,
mental changes, breathing prob
lems and vomiting. If you expe
rience any of these, call a doctor
immediately.
Here are some ways to avoid
heat stree.
Use air conditioners if you
have them, or go someplace that
does, such as a library, shopping
mall, senior citizen center or movie
theater.
Ifyoudon't haveanair condi
tioner, use a fan to draw in cool air
at night and to keep air moving
duringtheday. Whilctheairmove
mcnt during the day may be hot, it
will still help your body to keep
cool by speeding up the rate sweat
evaporates.
Take cool baths or showers.
They provide relief from heat
because water removes extra body
heat 25 times faster than cool air.
Wear light weight, light colored,
loose fitting clothes, and wear hats
or use umbrellas to keep out of the
sun.
Drink more water during hot
weather; don't wait until you are
thirsty. (If you are under a doctor's
care, check to see how much water
you should bedrinking.) Butavoid
alcohol. It acts as a diuretic, result
ing in faster water loss. In addition,
alcohol can promote a sense of
well-being, making you less aware
of the danger signs of heat stress.
Avoid hot foods and heavy
meals. Digesting them adds heat to
your body.
Finally, curtail physical activ
ity during extremely hot weather as
activity adds to heart strain.
To learn more about heat stress
and how to avoid it and how to
prevent cold stress (hypothermia)
when the weather gets cold, send
for a free copy of Hypothermia -Heat
Stress, Consumer Information
Center, Dept. 590R, Pueblo, Colo
rado 81009.
Summer sun may brighten your
spirits, but it may also damage
your possessions.
The sun may dictate where you
place prized possessions. For exam
ple, a sunny spot is not the best
place to show off your art collec
tion. Sunlight can crack oil pig
ment, fade watercolors and deteri
orate paper and canvas in a short
time.
And don't overlook accesories.
Some finishes on ceramic lamps
may crack after long exposure to
Food facts push safety
Raw kiwi fruit and raw pineap
ple should not be added to geletin.
They contain enzymes that prevent
jelling. When cooked, these
fruits will not cause a jelling prob
lem. Contrary to common practice,
it's not safe to thaw meat and poul
try on the kitchen counter. Bacte
ria can multiply dangerously in the
outer layers before inner layers are
thawed. Instead...
Take meat our poultry out of the
freezer and put it on a refrigerator
shelf a night or two before you
need it. Small cuts will usually
thaw in the refrigerator overnight.
Keep bacteria (salmonella) on
raw meat and poultry from spread
ing. Wash your hands again after
working with raw meat or poultry
before handling other foods.
Orange juice or eating an orange
at the same meal as cereal increases
the absorption of iron in the cereal?
A solution of four tablespoons
of baking soda in one quart warm
water is perfect to clean the inside
of your microwave.
A typical small ladle at a salad
bar holds about two tablespoons of
dressing, so two ladlefuls of Ital
ian, French or blue cheese dressing
contains about 300 calories, almost
all of them derived from fat. In
comparison, hot fudge has slightly
fewer calories and far less fat.
More Americans died from injur
ies inflicted by firearms during 1984
and 1985 (62,897 total) than in the
entire Vietnam war.
At least two dozen 1989 car
models come with air bags as
standard or optional equipment.
The word "aerobics" turned 20
last year. First appearing in 1 968, it
entered the Oxford English Dic
tionary and defined as "a method
of physical exercise for producing
beneficial changes in the respira
tory and circulatory systems by
activities which require only a
modest increase in oxygen intake
and so can be maintained."
the sun.
Although sun damages many
forms of art, sun is perfect of others
kinds. Stained glass can give bright,
non-fading color to a space. A few
plants, strategically place accord
ing to light requirements, can add
softeness and interest to an area.
What about fabrics? Almost any
fabric color will fade to some degree.
Check for the term "sun resistent"
on the label when looking for cur
tain or slipcover fabric. "Sun resist
ant" indicates that the dye resists
fading. It is not a guarantee against
fading unless the label says so.
If fading will be a problem,
choose light to medium neutral
earth colors because they don't
show fading as quickly as-bright,
vivid colors. Light colors also reflect
heat more than dark colors. That's
vital to remember because heat
absorption increases fabric deterioration.
Your car can see 100,000 miles
Ever wonder how some people
keep their cars running for years,
and never seem to have many repair
problems? It's not just luck. They
perform the kind of preventive
maintenance chores we all know
we should, but often just don't get
around to. Here's a list of some of
the more important ones.
OIL The manual typically
recommends changing the oil every
7,500 miles or six months. But
many auto experts think that's too
long for dirty oil to be wearing
away your engine. They suggest a
3,000 mile interval. An inexpensive
way to baby your power plant.
OTHER FLUIDS At every
other oil change, check the level
and quality of transmission fluid (it
should look bright red; if it's brown
or orange, change it) and brake
fluid. If brake fluid is down, look
for leaks in hoses. Check coolant
level weekly; change antifreeze at
least every three years sooner if it
looks discolored.
FILTERS Oil filters should be
changed at every oil change. (It
doesn't make sense to filter clean
oil with a dirty filter.) Replace air
filter every 5,000 miles, or sooner if
you drive in dusty conditions. Fuel
filter: every 12,000 miles. That may
be more than the manual recom
mends, but a fuel filter is cheap.
The consequences of a clogged one
aren't.
ELECTRICAL SYSTEM
Conservative auto owners get com
plete tune-ups every 10,000 miles.
This should include checking the
ignition coil (the spark it produces
should be bright blue); distributor
cap and rotor (replace if they look
worn); replacing plugs, points and
condenser; checking for cracks in
spark plug wires; and setting the
timing on spark plugs (if necessary).
GREASE FITTINGS Lube all
fittings at every oil change.
OTHER MAINTENANCE
MEASURES Rotate tires every
5,000 miles. Change brake fluid
every 15,000 miles. Check brakes
at 25,000 miles and every 10,000
miles thereafter. Replace all belts
at 30,000 miles and perform manufacturer-required
chores that your
car might require beyond the ones
we've mentioned here. Every penny
spent on preventive care will save
you a bundle in repairs, and your
car will serve you for years.
Tempting recipes tickle your taste buds
Try grilling vegetables
When it comes to outdoor grill
ing, don't settle for just steaks and
burgers. Barbecuing is a versatile
and convenient cooking
method, ideal for nutritious garden
vegetables and even fresh fruit des
serts. Cut eggplant, zucchini, summer
squash or onions into one-inch sli
ces, urusn witn ngnt Italian dress-
tender, approximately 30 to 40
minutes.
Peel back husk of corn, remove
silk and replace husk to cover cob,
securing loose husk tips with a
string. Soak tied ears in cold water,
then drain and cook on the grill 20
to 25 minutes. Corn is done when
husks are browned all over.
Quick and Easy Tacos
1 lb. ground beef
1 can ( 14'i oz.) whole peeled toma
toes, undrained and coarsely chop
ped 1 medium green pepper, finely
chopped
1 envelope Onion, Onion-Mushroom
or Beefy Mushroom soup
1 Tbsp. chili powder
3 drops hot pepper sauce
8 taco shells
Taco toppings
In medium skillet, brown
ground beef over medium-high heat;
drain. Stir in tomatoes, green pep
per, onion recipe soup mix, chili
powderand hot pepper sauce. Bring
to a boil, then simmer 15 minutes
or until slightly thickened. Serve in
taco shells with assorted taco top
pings. Makes about four servings.
Taco toppings: Use shredded
cheddar or Monterey Jack cheese,
shredded lettuce, chopped toma
toes, sliced pitted ripe olives, sour
cream or taco sauce.
Microwave directions: In two
quart casserole, heat ground beef
with green pepper, uncovered at
high (full power) four mintucs.
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ing or melted margarine. Barbecue MCQ f Qf thfi "eClCI-SeDtlOna GOO
ine occa- - j j
directly on the grill, turning occa
sionally, 20 minutes or until veget
ables are tender.
Wrap hearty vegetables such as
potatoes, winter squash, carrots
and onions in foil and place directly
on heated coals great for camp
fires. Cook vegetables until fork
They're fine for dogs and cats
...they add essential fats and other
nutrients to their diets.
Birds will find a hard-cooked
yolk a welcome treat.
Egg yolk is the perfect natural
conditioner for your hair. Just be
sure to rinse w ith lukewarm -water
or youU turn into an egg-head!
Mix with dry tempera paint
powder for the best paint. ..used by
ancient artists on objects still
around today.
stirring once; drain. Stir in toma
toes, then onion recipe soup mix
blended with reserved liquid, chili
powder and hot pepper sauce. Heat
uncovered, stirring occasionally,
seven minutes or until heated
through. Let stand uncovered five
minutes. Serve as above.
Chicken Teriyaki
1 pound boneless, skinless chicken
breasts, cut into l"xl Vi" chunks
13 cup teriyaki sauce
V cup chicken broth
2 tsp. cornstarch
Cooked frozen oriental vegetable
blend
Place chicken chunks in one
quart glass casserole. Stir in teri
yaki sauce. Cover with plastic wrap.
Refrigerate 20 minutes to marinate
Drain marinade; reserve. Cover
with vented plastic wrap. Micro
wave at high (100 power) for
three minutes. Pour off drippings.
Combine reserved marinade, broth
and cornstarch; stir into chicken.
M icrowave covered at high ( 1 00
power) two to two-and-one-half
minutes more or until thickened;
stir once. Let stand covered two
minutes. Serve over cooked orien
tal vegetables.
Makes four servings.
Potato and Blueberry Salad
I pound new potatoes (10 to 14
little ones)
1 cup blueberries
13 cup diced onions
Wi Tbsp. vinegar
Vi Tbsp. orange juice
14 tsp. dry mustard
Dash of nutmeg
Vi tsp. freshly grated orange peel
Slice potatoes and steam all of
them for seven to nine minutes
until tender. (They're done when a
f ork can easily pierce the flesh.) Let
potatoes cool, then put them in a
large bowl with blueberries and
onions.
In small bowl, combine vinegar,
c range juice, mustard, nutmeg and
orange peel. Add to potato salad
and toss gently.
Yield: Four servings, 108 calories.
Stress is normal reaction
Stress is your body's reaction to
the demand ol day to-day living.
To feel stress is notm.ii. However,
the amount ol stress each ot us can
handle Jitters lioni person to
person.
Any event cm hcsiicsslul. Things
like mov ing to a new house, losing
a job. having too many hills, or
getting man iid are examples. It is
how YOU view oi led about an
event that determines whether or
not it is stressful lor vou.
I HI RISKS
Stress is not the eause of illness,
but it gicallv adds to it. some ol the
health piohlcms related to stress
are headaches, nci k and back pain,
ulcers, cancel, hcot disease, dia
betes, mental illness ami suicide.
Your body will send mil ceilain
signals when vou are Iccling
stressed. Some ol the signs to
watch lot ate: mcicascd smoking,
alcohol use oi cillcmc use. no
appetite or eating too mm h ups.t
stomach, lack ot sleep, tccili grind
ing rueu.
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pit VI
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discontent with vour hie.
WHAT YOU ( DO
Build up extra energy to help
you cope with stress: lake time to
relax each day. get regular exer
cise, eat a balanced diet, take
turns with youi spouse watching
the children so each ol vou has lime
alone and or oiler to babysit
neighbors friends in exchange t or
the same service.
Dropouts lose out
One out of four ninth graders
won't graduate high school. What
happens to them? One third don't
get jobs at all. Those who do find
jobs earn half the salary that grad
uates earn.
Dropouts can't compete in a job
market that requires high-tech
skills. Staying in school is more
important that ever before. In our
changing society , low -level jobs end
up overseas and dropouts end up
on the streets.