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Warm Springs, Oregon
January 27, 1989 PAGE 7
Babies can create conflict in new families
Understanding a new baby ii
challenging, However, an aware-
ncss of chunget in altitudes, rcla
I tionshipi and goals that occur in
; partners as they make the transi
, tion lo parenthood is equally
' important.
! While planning for and antici-
pating their first baby, most young
. parents are unaware of the changes
, that will occur within themselves
and in their marital relationship.
, Sociologist Alice Rossi suggests
young parents are tragically unin
formed about how parenthood
brings more abrupt changes in life
style and personal values than any
other previous life adjustments such
as marriages or work. Most other
changes, including a new job, allow
time to learn the tasks and parac
tice the skills needed. Parenthood
arrives in a matter of hours.
Books, articles and classes for
parents place children at the center
of attention. While a child's need
for adequate parenting is total and,
at times, demanding, there's equal
need for parents to continue their
development as interesting, pro
ductive adults.
Developmental psychologists
now say life is a scries of transi
tions. A transition occurs when an
event, such as parenthood, causes
sharp changes in your usual rou
tines. In all transitions some things
are lost. New responsibilities and
feelings about the self are gained. A
transition docs not mean abandon
ing everything from your old life,
but some things will lose their
importance in your new status.
there are individuals and mar
riages that strengthen with the bond
provided by children. Others buckle
under the strain of an added
dependent person. For one thing,
baby creates a triangle in which
time and attention must be divided.
The coming of baby complicates
the parent's role. An enormous
amount of physical energy has gone
into pregnancy and delivery. The
never-ending tasks of baby care are
fatiguing, leaving parents irritable
and often depressed. Before long,
baby's presence makes them feel
trapped at home; they miss talking
with other adults. Being on call
with baby 24 hours a day, 365 days
a year, was not their life's goal.
Children bring other problems
too. They interfere with casual con
versations and spontaneous loving
moments parents previously en
joyed. Important conversations are
interrupted or postponed by baby's
screams. One young father said, "1
wonder if 1 11 ever sleep the same in
my bed again." Babies have no
respect for privacy, a good night's
sleep or your free time.
One of the most serious difficul
ties partners encounter revolves
around "pet ideas" about child
rearing. Most of these beliefs do
not surface before children arrive.
Ideas about who's in charge, disci-
filine, punishment, money and child
rccdoms arc major causes of mari
tal conflict. While baby is still
young, discuss how you feel about
the folio... .: statements:
Questioning and disagreement
between parents and child should
be encouraged.
Spare the rod, spoil the child.
Children should not be frus
trated. Children learn more by what
parents say than what they do.
What can you expect while you're
in the transition to parenthood?
Here are a few symptoms you can
discuss with your spouse or friends
to relieve anxiety:
Chronic tiredness
Loss of income of the mother
and increased economic pressure
on the father
Additional household work
Guilt in not being a better
parent
Worry over sclf-appcaranceand
body changes
Information on this page provided by the
by the Warm Springs Office
of the Oregon State University
Extension Service
Phone: 553-1161, ext. 238 or 239
The scoop on oils
Be prepared for winter storm
Listed below are items that you
should carry in your car in case you
are stranded by a winter storm.
I. Sleeping bag. or two or more
blankets. A box of newspapers can
Relaxation is key to potty training
Modern practices for "potty
training" young children have
changed from the days of our grand
parents. Anthropologists report that early
generations of Americans expected
toileting control at younger ages
than any other culture in the world.
Those early Americans made more
fuss abut toilet-training.
Children were expected to be
toilet-trained before they were
physically able to achieve control
over basic bodily functions.
Fortunately the present relaxed
approach to toilet-training in the
U.S makes life more pleasant for
both toddlers and parents. Most
children will train themselves when
they are ready and have the oppor
tunity to observe and imitate the
behavior of other children and
adults.
According to reliable observa
tions, the average age at which
children learn to use the toilet for
bowel and bladder elmination is
around 2'A-Generally toddlers will
achieve day-time control between two
and three and night-time control
between three and four-and-a-half.
r. But nobody can tell you exactly
when your child will have the mus
cle control to open and close the
small valves regulating the bowls
and bladder. Trying to initiate toilet
training before ths time is only
frustrating for parents and creates
tension in children.
Getting rid of wet, messy diapers
is desirable for parents but not
necessarily for toddlers. However,
a child's eagerness to please you
and be grown up is powerful help.
Around the age of three, child
ren begin to dislike being soiled
and wet and want to wear under
wear like older children.
For training, some parents prefer
to use a "potty chair" that sits on
the floor. Others prefer a seat that
fits the toilet. Potty chairs are con
venient because children can help
themselves. A toilet-top seat should
have arms, a back-rest and foot
rest so children feel comfortable
and secure.
You can try putting a child on
the toilet right after meals, before
and after naps, before bedtime and
when facial expressions predict a
bowel movement. They are not
likely to perform the first or even
the second time on the toilet. If
they do, it's probably an accident.
Keep the child on the seat only a
few minutes. Never insist children
stay on the scat until they have
done something. Remember, they
simply cant turn it off and on.
Expressing exasperation or shame
only confuses and hurts children
and often leads to bitter struggles
attecting the entire training process.
A great deal of parental patience
and self-control is necessary in toilet
training. Overly-anxious parents
simply need to keep in mind that
every child eventually becomes
potty trained. Success for the child
is less likely to come from scolding
and punishment than from build
ing the child's feeling of confidence
and parental approval.
All children who are dry during
the day-time are equally ready to
stay dry at night. Be sure they go to
the toilet before bedtime. Also limit
their intake of liquids before bed
time. If, by the age of five, your child
has not achieved day and night
control, you should seek advice
from your doctor. Physical prob
lems are seldom the cause of bed
wetting. The cure for bedwetting
may be as simple as withholding
drinks before bedtime or clearing
up emotional problems such as
fear or over-excitement. Children
frequently wet if they are cold, too.
provide layers of insulation and
make a good substitute.
2. Two empty three-pound cof
fee cans with lids. One may be used
for sanitary facilities and the other
to burn candles for heat.
3. Matches and candles.
4. Winter clothing, including
caps, mittens and overshoes.
5. Large box of facial tissue.
6. First aid kit with pocket knife.
7. Flashlight with extra batteries.
8. Small sack of sand.
9. Tow chain (about 20 feet).
10. Shovel.
11. Food supply of high-calorie,
non-perishable food (candy, canned
nuts, raisins, etc.).
12. Tools pliers, screwdriver,
adjustable wrench.
13. Plastic scraper.
14. Transistor radio, with extra
battery.
15. Battery boster cables.
Parts can be lifesaversl
If you don't happen to have a
winter storm kit in your car, parts
of your car can be useful and may
even save your life.
1. A hubcap or sunvisor can be
substituted for a shovel.
2. Seat covers can be used as
blankets.
3. Floor mats can be used to shut
out wind and cold air or for a
wrap-around.
4. Engine oil burned in a hub cap
creates a smoke signal visible for
miles.
5. Full tank of gasoline; always
drive on upper half.
Oil
ICanola Oil (Puritan)
Safflower Oil
Sunflower Oil
Corn Oil
Soybean Oil
Olive Oil
Palm Oil
Coconut Oil
Unsaturated
94
91
88
86
85
83
50
8
Saturated
6
9
12
14
15
17
50
92
Fat-watchers should watch for fats that are low In
saturated and high in unsaturated fats.
A gram of fat... Is a gram
otfat.Js a gram of fat...
but how many calories are in
a gram of fat? On a per weight
basis, fat has 2V4 times the calor
ies that carbohydrate or protein
dishes out.
When reading labels remem
ber: 1 gram fat equals nine calor
ies 1 gram carbohydrate equals
four calories
In food figures remember:
1 tsp. oil (5 grams of fat)
equals 45 calories
1 tsp. sugar (5 grams of
carboydrate) equals 16
calories.
A fat fact...
One plain tour-inch doughnut
has as many calories as lour
slices of bread with jam about
400 calories. Half the calories in
a doughnut come from fat, but
only 10 percent of the calories
in toast and jam are from fat.
Gardening classes set
Registration is now open for the
I989 Master Gardener Training
course. The course will be organ
ized out of the Deschutes County
Extension Office for Central
Oregon.
Master Gardeners are given an
intensive training program in Home
Horticulture by OSU Extension
staff and veteran Master Gardeners.
Training will consist of 45 hours
of classroom and hands-on training.
Dates for the 1989 classes are:
February 27, March, 1,3,6, 8, 10,
1 3 and 15. All training is scheduled
Various methods available Organize your personal papers
to treat spots, stains, soils
- Special treatment may be neces
sary! Some spots, stains, or heavy
soils may not be removed by wash
ing alone, so a special treatment
before laundering may be neces
sary. Basically, there are three pro
cedures from which to chose
dependent on the kind or extent of
staining.
Soaking is especialy helpful for
loosening heavy soils and can be
done in a basin, laundry sink or
washer. There are special presoak
products for treating generalized
staining or an all-purpose laundry
detergent for heavy soils.
Prewashing takes less time than
soaking. The prewash cycle on a
washer provides agitation for loads
with heavy or greasy soil that may
not come out in a single regular
wash. Use an all-purpose laundry
detergent in the prewash as well as
in the regular wash. Some washers
may advance automatically to the
regular wash cycle. Check your
appliance booklet for use instruc
tions. Pretreating involves treating and
sometimes completely removing dif
ficult spots and stains prior to
Beadwork clubs
scheduled soon
4-H leader Caroline Tohet will
be starting a 4-H Beadwork Club
February 7, 1989. This club will be
limited to six to eight children from
the third to sixth grades. The club
will meet at the Community Center
at 4 p.m. sharp.
Tohet will also be leading a 4-H
Beadwork Club for Jr. High age
students. This club will be held
February 13, 1 989 at the Commun
ity Center beginning at 4 p.m. Par
ticipants need to bring their own
containers for beads. Parents are
encouraged to attend along with
their children.
Slidesvideos help
Slides videotapes are available
through the Exension office and
add a lot to club meetings. Come
look through the video list and see
what meets your club's needs. We
can photocopy pages from our list
for you. You must order the slides
two to four weeks ahead of when
youll need them. Please plan ahead.
They can be mailed to you or you
can pick them up at the Warm
Springs Extension office. The videos
are in the office for preview.
laundering. Methods and products
vary depending on the type of
stain. Referral to a stain removal
chart for specific stains and treat
ment is advisable. Prewash soil and
stain removal products, available
in aerosol, pump spray or liquid
forms, are particularly effective on
man-made and permanent press
items with oil and greasy stains.
They also are designed to pretreat
heavily soiled and stained areas.
Soil lines on collars and cuffs
respond to pretreatment by dam
pening the soiled areas and rub
bing in a liquid detergent, a paste
of water and powdered detergent,
or bar soap.
Take advantage of the beginning
of the new year to organize your
home filing system and personal
papers.
No matter what your income,
every family has financial records
and family data and should keep a
file of valuable papers.
Families can prepare their own
individual inventory by organizing
their records under four categories:
personal, assets, obligations and
benefits.
Personal papers include copies
of wills, birth certificates for all
family members, death certificates,
marriage certificates, divorce
decrees or any other papers neces
sary to establish family relation
ships. Include names and current
addresses of family members and
beneficiaries.
Also record the name, address
and telephone number of the future
executor of your estate, your law
yer, life insurance agent, accoun
tant, investment counselor and
other financial advisors.
List all assets, including check
ing and saving accounts, life insu
rance policies, real estate, stocks
and automobiles. Include the loca
tion of any deeds, titles, policies,
certificates, or passbooks needed
to prove ownership of your pro
perty. When listing obligations, include
not only outstanding debts on real
estate or autos, but also list regular
expenditures for taxes, insurance
premiums and utilities.
The benefits section of your
inventory should include veterans
benefits and health, accident and
burial insurance.
And what about your Social
Security or Civil Service benefits?
If you don't know what these bene
fits are, it's not too soon to find
out.
This simple inventory of all val
uable papers, family data, and finan
cial status will help organize your
present plans as well as simplify
future estate settlement.
To help you get started, see the
OSU Extension publication "Do
You Know Your Valuable Papers"
EC 1234. It is available at no
charge from the Warm Springs
Extension office.
Vegetables can add life to winter meals
There's more to the winter blahs
than just sun-less days, cold and
rain. Sometimes even the food we
eat during winter months may seem
boring.
If you've felt that way it's proba
bly more than your imagination.
Winter menus tend to become ho
hum because there is not the abun
dance of fresh vegetables there was
during the harvest season.
Remember the fresh green beans
and the crisp tasty pea pods? You
won't find those items plentiful
now, but there are suitable substi
tutes. Winter vegetables can add
the crunch and flavor needed to
enliven everyday meals.
Next time you're in a foodstore
look at the vegetable counter for
inspiration. The best buys are the
"winter" vegetables including pota
toes, onions, cabbage, broccoli, car
rots and winter squash. While im
ported "out-of-season" vegetables
are available, they are expensive
and no more nutritious than their
canned or frozen cousins.
How about a crunchy coleslaw
featuring red cabbage? The vinegar
in the dressing will reserve the red
color and add a tang to your meal.
Cabbage and other cruciferous
vegetables, broccoli, brussel sprouts
and cauliflower, contain substan
ces that inhibit cancer at certain
sites in the body.
High intake of carotene is also
associated with a lower incidence
of some kinds of cancer. Winter
vegetables that contain high
amounts of vitamin A include win
ter squash, carrots and broccoli.
There are great recipes for soups
and stews that include carrots.
Broccoli can be steamed alone or
with cauliflower or stir-fried with
carrots, cabbage and onions.
You can also add those little bits
of left-over vegetables to a stir-fry.
Stir-fry the fresh vegetables to
tender crisp, then add the drained
left-over green beans or corn at the
last minute, continue cooking just
enough to heat the left-overs. For a
colorful stir-fry, add canned toma
toes at the last minute and be sure
to cook until the tomatoes are hot.
There are many varieties of win
ter squash from the most common
Hubbard variety to Acorn to But
ternut. The flavor varies from bland
to nutty. Try several varieties and
decide which is your favorite.
Squash is often served as a vege
table, a substitute for potatoes, or
as a part of a holiday meal. Try
baking it with apples, or sausage or
look for squash soup some are
spiced with nutmeg for a different
taste.
You might not think of dried
peas, beans and lentils as vegeta
bles because they are often used as
alternates to meat, fish and poul
try. These vegetables keep well and
supply fiber, B-vitamins as well as
add variety to winter meals.
Many people remember Mom's
ham and navy bean soup or Grand
mother's chili as great winter meals.
They are simple to fix and inexpen
sive if you plan ahead. All you have
to do to save half the cost of the
recipe is to soak the beans over
night instead of using the canned
variety.
Look for recipes that feature len
til or split pea casseroles or salads.
Many new recipe books include
tasty ideas for using these foods in
creative ways.
Winter time can challenge the
good cook. Add variety, taste and
good nutrition to your meals by
using traditional winter vegetables.
Easy recipes offer taste delights
Any Season Blueberry
Walnut Cobbler
The ultimate comfort food! This
cobbler teams old-fashioned favor
itesblueberries and walnuts with
convenient baking mix.
2 12-ounce packages unsweetened
frozen whole blueberries
1 cup walnut pieces
13 cup plus 3 tablespoons sugar
2 tablespoons each lemon juice and
water
2 tablespoons butter or margarine
I'i cups buttermilk baking mix
xh cup milk
Preheat oven to 400 degrees. In
9-inch square glasss baking dish
combine blueberries, walnuts, 13
cup sugar, the lemon juice and
water. Dot with butter; set in oven
w hile preparing topping. In mixing
bowl combine baking mix and
remaining three tablespoons sugar.
Mix in milk with fork just until
blended. Remove blueberry mix
ture from oven; drop batter by
spoonsful over blueberry mixture.
Sprinkle with additional sugar, if
desired. Return to oven; bake 30 to
35 minutes until filling is bubbly
and topping golden. Serve warm
with whipping cream or ice cream.
Make six servings.
Lightning Chile Cheese
Cornbread
Walnuts, green chiles and cheese
liven up an ordinary cornbread
mix. Serve this zesty bread with
steak and salad for a chuckwagon
dinner.
I package (15 ounce) cornbread
mix
V cup chopped walnuts
I can ( 1 7 ounces) cream-style corn
13 cup milk
I egg
Vi cup canned diced green chiles
V cup sliced green onions
4 ounces (about 1 cup) shredded
Monterey Jack or cheddar cheese
In mixing bowl combine corn
bread mix and walnuts. Add re
maining ingredients; mix just until
blended. Spread in greased 8-inch
square baking pan. Bake in 425
degree oven 35 to 45 minutes until
golden andd pick inserted into cen
ter comes out clean. Cool. Cut into
3-inch squares.
Makes 9 servings.
Have a question?
Ask Extension!!
from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. on the desig
nated dates at the Deschutes County
Fairgrounds in Redmond.
A new training notebook has
been provided for the 1989 class
that will be used statewide. There is
no class registration fee but a mate
rials charge of $ 1 5 will be made to
cover the cost of printing for the
490 page training notebook.
The Master Gardener Program
is a voluntary educational program
designed to meet the gardening
needs of the local community.
Volunteers receive training from
Extension professionals in plant
science, horticulture and gardening.
Following the 45 hours of train
ing, Master Gardeners agree to
volunteer an equal number of hours
helping others with gardening prob
lems. Jefferson County and Warm
Springs residents interested in being
a Master Gardener or wanting more
information should contact Clint
Jacks at 475-3808 by February 1 . A
local meeting will be organized to
provide more information.
Various flours
are available
All-purpose flour This white
flour is made from a mixture of
had and soft wheat flours. It is
enriched to compensate for the re
moval of the germ and bran. All
purpose flour is chemically bleached
to speed up the normal whitening
process that occurs when freshly
milled flour loses its yellowish cast
through aging. As its name implies,
all-purpose flour can be used for all
purposes pies, breads, cakes and
cookies.
Unbleached flour Unbleached
flour is all-purpose flour that hasn't
been chemically bleached. It's not
as white as all-purpose flour and
can be used interchangeably with
it.
Whole Wheat, Whole Meal or
Graham flour This flour is made
with the entire kernel endosperm,
germ and bran. It contains all the
nutrients that are milled out of
white flour.
Bread flour or hard wheat
flour Made from winter wheat,
this flour is richest in gluten. The
resulting bread has superior tex
ture and better flavor.
Cake flour This soft wheat flour
contains more starch and less gluten
to give baked goods a Ighter tex
ture. To substitute all-purpose flour
for cake flour, use two tablespoons
less per cup of all-purpose flour.
Self-rising flour This soft wheat
flour has salt and baking powder
mixed in.
Pastry flour This soft wheat
flour, low in gluten, is finely milled
for tender quick breads and pastries.
Stone-ground flour The kernel
is coarsely crushed between heavy
stones to produce coarse flour.
Bran Bran is sold as flour or in
buds, among other forms, and is a
good source of fiber.
Wheat germ Powdered or
w hole, wheat germ should be very
slightly toasted before adding to
dough.