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Spilyay Tymoo Warm Springs, Oregon December 16, 1988 PAGE 7 Try discipline through natural consequences While raiting thcirchildrcn. many fathers and mothers discover thai traditional reward and punishment methods do not always work well in disciplining children, and in fact, may even lead to strong resistance in the child. An alternative to traditional dis cipline, is discipline by natural con sequences. As parents try to leach responsi bility and maintain family routines, situations frequently arise in which children must be disciplined. The battles disciplinary measures can cause are discouraging for both parent and child. These conflicts hinder a parent's enjoyment of children and the children's feelings of self-confidence. Giving up the discipline of your children to keep the peace is not the solution. Children need parental discipline and guidance to prepare them to live in the social world they will gradually enter. Parents use a variety of discipline methods to give children the guid ance they need to achieve self control and learn the difference between appropriate and unaccep table behavior. One simple and effective method is to let the natural and logical con sequences of an action occur. For example, a natural consequence of not coming to the dinner table would be that the child dues not cut dinner that evening. Later, the par ent can handle complaints casually by saying, "I 'm sorry you are hungry now, but since you decided not to come for dinner 1 'II need to fix you an extra large breakfast." In the dinner example it is im portant that no one in the family provides snacks to the child. And, in all natural consequence disci pline, it is important for the parent to avoid making a federal crime out of the incident. Some child behaviors are incon venient; others are dangerous and require alternative strategics for control. In the case of a child climbing a tree, a parent would probably call the child down instead of waiting for the natural conse quence an accidental fall to take place. In this case, the parent, in a cas ual way, should take the child away from his or her perch into the house saying, "Since you don't like playing on the ground, you cannot be outside. Let me know when you are ready to play outside again." Because climbing a tree or fence is dangerous lor young children it's not prudent to allow them to do it. Teach children that some actions are off-limits if they want to play outside. Expect that it may take several experiences before it sinks in with children that you mean it. Consider little Henry for exam ple. He cried every time things did not go his way. After repeated tries atexplainingand preaching, Mother decided to leave the room or busy herself with something else when he turned on the tears. Before long Henry discovered the natural con sequence of his behavior and stopped the crying jags. The natural consequence tech nique is a good way to help child ren become more self-directed. They learn that their actions have conse quences and that it's to their advantage to behave in more ap propriate ways. It's important for a parent using natural consequences to maintain a friendly casual attitude. After all. natural consequences arc an op portunity for the child to expe rience the results of an action they have chosen. For example, when Sara fails to put her dirty clothes in the laundry hamper they don't get washed. Here's where the hard part comes in. Rather than coaxing, threaten ing or punishing to force obedience, Sara now wears soiled, rumpled clothes to school. When she com plains. Mother casually says,MSorry about that but you'll probably fig ure out what to do." Information on this page provided by the by the Warm Springs Office of the Oregon State University Extension Service Phone: 553-1161, ext. 238 or 239 Yummy recipes for holiday treats Christmas Cheese Log Tips offered to help make life a little easier Coupons and refund offers can help reduce food expenses, but it takes careful planning to be sure you are saving money. Coupons ; don't take the place of careful food shopping, which includes planning menus, making a grocery list and comparison shopping. To use cou pons effectively, ask yourself: Do I need the item? ; Do I have enough storage? Is the price, minus the coupon value, the lowest price for the item? Homemade baked goods and candies are excellent holiday gifts to share with friends and family. When deciding what foods to give as gifts, consider: Amount of time you have. Who the gift is for. Your cooking abilities. Equipment necessary. Always taste your food gifts before giving them to make sure they taste perfect! Storage tips. Protect food from air and moisture by storing in air tight containers or by tightly wrap ping in plastic wrap. For quick breads, wrap in foil and store in the freezer. For can dies, keep in a tightly covered con tainer and store in the refrigerator. Separate layers of candy with waxed paper. To freeze candy, place in airtight freezer bags. When remov- ing from the freezer, let come to room temperature before unwrap ping to prevent moisture from developing on the candy. One compensation for growing older is that you have developed immunity to a large number of cold viruses. Thus by age 60, most peple have only one cold per year, if any. Holly, poinscttas and mistletoe are poisonous if eaten, so keep them away from children and pets. from the OSU Extension Staf f : Clay, MoJlie, Arlene, Det, k Frama Making wreaths at home equals family fun An important part of any holi day decoration scheme is the ever popular Chrisfmas wreath." Do-it- yourself wreaths are easy and fun lo make, r. . .... The basic wreath materials aren't Do these sound familiar? If your financial situation makes you feel uneasy you are not alone. Changing income patterns doesn t necessarily mean disaster. A financial checkup will reveal if there are potential problems. Read each statement. Check yes or no. YES NO . 1 . You tend to be late in paying bills; you shuffle them around, paying some cred itors this month and others next month . 2. You take out a loan to pay off old ones thereby extending the payment time . 3. You're spending more than 20 percent of your takehome pay to pay off debt (excluding mortgage payments). . 4. You have no reserve cash or liquid assets to meet emergencies. 5. You depend heavily on extra income bonuses, overtime, moonlighting to get you over rough spots. 6. You find it harder and harder to save Your passbook shows more withdrawals than deposits; you cash in savings bond long before they mature. 7. You don't have enough reserve to tid you over a major upset like a pay cut. You aren't prepared to replace big items like household equipment. 8. You use credit to purchase things like clothing that you should have anticipated the need for and that you previously bought with cash. 9. Bills once paid promptly are now shuffled to the bottom of the pile. You wait a longer and longer time to pay them. 10. You rob Peter to pay Paul. For example, you dip into funds accumu lated for insurance premiums to pay the water bill. II. You cant figure out where your money goes. You don't believe you spend it foolishly, but there's not much to show for all your outlay. 1 2. You have lost track of what your debts add up to. You have to scrounge for money to make monthly payments, and because you use a lot of credit, the balan ces owed don't seem to decrease much 13. You pay only the minimum amount due each month on yourcharge accounts You have accounts all over town. 14. If your checking account has an over draft loan feature, you use it frequently. 15. Some of your creditors have started sending you reminders about overdue payments. 16. You write many checks but have not developed a system to show the correct balance. 17. You don't discuss money with your family because you feel uncomfortable or are afraid it will start an argument. 18. Your financial situation makes you feel depressed. 19. You've had to borrow money from parents or other close relatives just to meet basic living epentev costly. Home-made wreaths may be .simple Styrofoam and ribbon circles, or the more traditionalever green, ribbon and pinecone works of art. The following suggestions will get you started. A base is important. All wreaths require a base of some sort to which decorations can be attached. Bases can be made from a variety of materials including cardboard, plywood, straw, chicken wire or Styrofoam. The type of base de pends on the type of materials that will be attached. Heavy wreaths of evergreen boughs require a sturdy base of wire or straw, while Styrofoam bases work nicely for ribbon wreaths. Also consider the location for the finished wreath. An evergreen wreath used indoors should have a source of moisture to keep it from dropping needles. Cut greens may be inserted into a wire frame filled with wet sphagnum moss. Wreath materials can vary and include just about anything, such as small wooden toys, dried flow ers and herbs, lace twists, fabric, cones and nuts and evergreens. Evergreens traditionally used include ivy, cedar, boxwood, rho dodendron, spruce, fir and white pine. Decorations for the wreath base may be purchased or made at home. Ideas include ribbons, bows, glass balls, pinecones, little figurines or pieces of fruit (often made of paper mache.) Wire is most often used to attach materials to bases of straw or wire, while glue or pins can be used on Styrofoam. Wreath-makers should be careful to check the compatibil ity of glue type used with the Styro foam. Some types will cause reac tions with the foam, producing noxious fumes. Any lightweight wire can be used. Some are coated with brown or black paint to help them blend in. Florists' green tape can be used with wire to help it blend with greenery. I 8 oz. pkg. cream cheese I 5 oz.jar Kraft Old English cheese (sharp) I lA oz. of Roquefort cheese I tsp. Worchestershire sauce I small clove garlic, mashed Let cheeses sit at room tempera ture for easy handling. Blend together with fork or hands. Shape into log or ball and roll in chopped nuts. Refrigerate until ready to use. Carrot Cake VA cup oil 2 cups sugar 4 eggs 2 cups flour I tsp. baking powdcr(omit if using self-rising flour) I tsp. salt 2 tsp. soda 2 tsp. cinnamon 2 cups raw grated carrots I cup chopped nuts Mix oil and sugar together. Add dry ingredients and eggs. Mix well. Add carrots and nuts. Bake at 325 degrees for 1 hour, 10 minutes. Top with Philadelphia cream cheese frosting. Frosting recipe: Vi lb. powdered sugar XA cup margarine 1 4 oz. cream cheese Vi tsp. vanilla Vi cup chopped nuts Mix all ingredients well and spread on carrot cake. Bunelos Bunelos are Christmas fritters, a Mexican tradition, eaten at mid night for good luck. 2 cups flour tsp. salt 'A tsp. baking powder 1 Tbsp. sugar I egg, slightly beaten Va cup milk 2 Tbsp. melted shortening Knead dough on floured board for three minutes. Roll pieces the size of walnuts into balls and let stand covered with cloth for 30 minutes. Roll out on board to very thin cir cles. Fry in hot oil until golden brown. Drain on paper towels. Syrup (optional) 2 cups brown sugar 1 cup water 1 stick cinnamon Boil 'A hour. Dip bunelos in syrup, serve in bowl with extra syrup. milk Bon-Bons I cube butter 1 can sweetened condensed (Eagle brand) 1 large pkg. flaked coconut 2 cups chopped nuts 1 tsp. vanilla I lb. powdered sugar Melt butter, add rest of ingredients. Chill. Make into balls, using I cup powdered sugar to help from sticking to hands. Freeze or chill about 2 hours. Dip in 12 oz. pkg. chips and !4 bar parafin that have been melted together in a double boiler. Use chocolate or butter scotch chips. Mints 1 8 oz. pkg. cream cheese 2 lbs. powdered sugar Few drops of flavoring Few drops of coloring to go along with the flavoring Soften cheese. Blend in flavorings, color and powdered sugar, until dough is pliable but not sticky. Form a small ball of dough, dip into granulated sugar. Flatten or mold them into desired shapes. Idea: Flatten, cut into I" circles, dip into sugar, press with a fork for an unusual design. Easy Fudge I can Borden's Eagle brand milk 1 6 oz. pkg. butterscotch chips 1 6 oz. pkg. chocolate chips 1 cup nuts Combine first three ingredients. Cook in a double boiler until mix ture starts to thicken. Add nuts. Set aside for 1 to I XA hours. Pour out into a foil-lined pan and put in refrigerator to set up. Fantasy Fudge 3 cups sugar cup margarine 23 cup evaporated milk 1 12 oz. pkg. semi-sweet chocolate 2 cups Kraft marshmallow creme I lA cup raisins 1 tsp. vanilla Combine sugar, margarine and milk, bring to a rolling boil, stir ring constantly. Boil 5 minutes, over medium heat, stirring con stantly. (Mixture scorches easily.) Remove from heat. Stir in choco late pieces until melted. Add marsh mallow creme, raisins and vanilla. Beat until well-blended. Pour into 13"x9"pan. Cool. Cut into squares. Fruit Cake 3 cups flour 1 cup dates 1 2 cups sugar 2 cups boiling water 13 cup melted shortening Vi tsp. soda 1 egg 2 tsp. cinnamon 1 tsp. cloves 1 tsp. salt 1 cup chopped nuts I cup raisins, dried apricots or other dried fruit Put raisins, dates, sugar and boil ing water in a covered pan and cook slowly for 20 minutes. Cool. Add dry ingredients to the cooled mixture. Add egg and shortening and mix well. Pour into two loaf pans lined with max paper or oiled brown paper. Bake at 325 for 2 hours. Makes 2, 1 yA lb. loaves. Fudge 3 Tbsp. butter or margarine 14 cup milk 1 pkg. Betty Crocker creamy frost ing mix Heat butter in milk over low heat until butter melts and mixture just begins to simmer. Remove from heat. Stir in frosting mix (dry). Heat over low heat, stirring con stantly until smooth and elastic (1 to 2 minutes. Don't overcook. Pour into a 9"x5" pan lined with foil. Chill until set. Gold Rush Brownies 2 cups crushed graham crackers 1 15 oz. can sweetened condensed milk (Eagle brand) 1 pkg. chocolate chips Mix all ingredients together. Put in a greased 9"x9" pan. Bake at 350 for 35 minutes. Honey Coconut Bars Pound cake Soft butter or margarine Honey Coconut Cut cake into I" slices. Cut each slice into three bars. Spread top and sides with butter, then honey Put some coconut into a shallow pan. Roll bars in the pan until a covered with coconut. Arrange on a greased cookie sheet. Bake at 375 for about 7 minutes. Remove from sheet and cool. Sugar Cookies I 'A cup sifted powdered sugar I cup butter or margarine I egg 1 tsp. vanilla 'A tsp. almond extract 2XA cup flour 1 tsp. soda I tsp. cream of tartar - , . ... t-ream sugar ana outtcr. Mix in egg, vanilla and almond extract Blend in dry ingredients. Store in retngerator two to three hours. Roll 3 16 thick and cut intodesired shapes. Sprinkle with sugar. Place on lightly greased cookie sheet. Bake at 375 for 7 to 8 minutes. Easy Macaroons 2 8oz. packages shredded coconut 1 15 oz. can of sweetened condensed milk (Eagle brand) 2 tsp vanilla Mix ingredients. Drop from a tea spoon onto a well-greased cookie sheet or glass cake pan. Bake at 350 degrees for 10 to 12 minutes. Cool slightly then remove to rack. Makes about four dozen cookies. Cream Wafers 1 cup softened butter 13 cup whipping cream 2 cups flour Granulated sugar Mix butter, cream and flour well Cover and chill. Roll about 13 of the dough at a time, keeping remaining dough retngerated until ready to roll. Roll XA" thick and cut into l'A" circles. Put circles into grandulated sugar, covering both sides. Place on ungreased cookie sheet and prick with a fork about four times. Bake 7 to 9 minutes or just until set (not brown). Pair the cookies, with the cream filling between. Cream filling: !4 cup butter A cup powdered sugar 1 tsp. vanilla Cream until smooth and fluffy Tint with a few drops of food color ing. Add a few drops of water if necessary for proper spreading con sistency. Cranberry Punch 4 I -lb. cans chilled cranberry sauce 10 cups cold water l'2 cups chilled lemon juice 1 6 oz. can chilled orange juice con centrate, undiluted 1 Tbsp. almond extract 1 qu. chilled ginger ale Crush cranberry sauce in the can, turn into a large bowl. Add water and beat until smooth. Stir in jui ces and extract. Pour over a few ice cubes in a punch bowl. Gently add ginger ale. Garnish with mint and cloves. Baking hints help ensure quality Tender yeast breads, moist and chewy cookies and high, handsome cakes this is the stuff dessert dreams are made of. And here are tips to make those dreams come true. Plan ahead. Before starting, read the recipe thoroughly and make sure you have all ingredients and equipment needed. Do any advance preparation required. Remember, baking, in many ways, is a science, and the best results come from fol lowing a recipe carefully. Use shiny metal pans, or those with a non-stick finish. If you use glass baking equipment, lower the oven temperature by 25 degrees. Recipe for a good self-concept 1 cup of BELIEF (in yourself) cup of PRIDE (in what you can do) 2 T. of "I CAN" Mix together with courage tc do your best. Sprinkle the top with a little of your relationship with others. Warm with positive thoughts and actions, then serve with open heart and hands. Watch how you relax Many of the activities that peo ple consider to be relaxing are not relaxing at all. Following are some popular ways of temporarily alle viating stress. Unfortunately, these methods to not provide lasting, rejuvenating relaxation; in fact, they actually produce more stress instead of reducing the original stress problem. Talking about job problems during work breaks or dinner is generally counterproductive. Be sides, you're missing a lot if you don use these times more pleasur ably. Having a cup of coffee or tea- Caffeine arouses, rather than quiets, the central nervous system. Smoking keeps the body in a chronic arousal state and chroni cally stressed. Skipping breakfast triggers low blood sugar causing fatigue, ner vousness and other bodily stresses. Sweet snacks high in refined sugar and (lour also invite sudden drops in the blood sugar level. Alcohol and sedatives disrupt the nervous system, disturb normal sleep patterns and use up reserves of B vitamins and other valuable nutrients the body nerds tocombat stress. Use the right shortening for the job. Cake batter made with butter is hard to blend and the cake comes out heavier and flatter than one made with shortening. An econom ical new shortening choice is Butter Flavor Crisco. which makes chewy cookies and lighter, higher, finer textured cakes with a delightful plus a rich, buttery taste without sodium and cholesterol. This new shortening is ready to use from the pantry shelf, and can be substi tuted in any recipe listing butter, margarine or shortening as an ingredient. Uont overcrowd the oven. If you are baking three cake layers, arrange them so no pan is directly over another. Also, don't use a cookie sheet that is too large for the ovc I. Allow two inches on all sides to permit heat circulation. Often, baked foods must cool a bit before being removed from pans. Donlt be impatient follow direc tions so the food leaves the pan easily without sticking. Put these tips to work on your next baking project youll be pleased ith the results.
