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SriLYAV Tymoo Warm Springs, Oregon June 3, 1988 PAGE 5 Fathers more involved in child-rearing With Father 'i Day approaching, 'Dad'ii on many a family member's mind. This Father's Day, we can all celebrate that fathers, at last, are being recognized for more than bringing home the bacon. At the same time let's recognize that social shifts giving fathers more freedom to enjoy and care for their children do not provide fathers with a "how-to-do-it" kit. Most fathers learn to care for their child ren through trial and error, but mothers have long faced pretty much the same challenges. Mothers appear to know more about child care because most little girls have tenderly cared for dolls. Also, daughters more closely imi tate their mother's actions with children. This trend now appears to be changing. Today's fathers, and their sons, are experiencing a more involved father role in child-rearing. And, both mothers and fathers are reading about raising children these days rathers than just mothers. More and more children are being fed, diapered, bathed, encouraged, and nutured by both parents. Although fathers in the past loved their children, they were by and large money makers and discipli narians with a rare dab of playful ness. Modern fathers have changed their lifestyle to allow time and energy for the demands of caring for children. The pay-off is a closer relationship to the child and greater exposure to the wonderment of a child's expanding world. Here are a few discoveries fathers make: Infants love only themselves; they become bonded and attached to those who feed, clean, fondle, and love them. But it's not within their ability to understand parental needs for a good night's sleep or undis turbed privacy. To your toddlers and preschool ers you've read and told the same stories a million times. Reading and talking with them is enlighten ing and fun. You've shivered on park benches while they ceaselessly ran and swung, climbed, and then ran some more to have tun. In the middle years of childhood you get into learning "jags." Things you thought you never needed to know about dinosaurs, bats, and how they build the Panama Canal have caused special trips to the library. You set boundaries for freedom and teach responsiblity. You learn to correct misbehavior without da maging a child's self-esteem. You discover that more than anything, children want to please you, and that a child gaining his or her own independence is a trial and error process for both parent and child. Neither fathers nor mothers are prepared for the typical adolescent confusion between independence and dependence. You learn to "hang in there" for eight years (between thirteen and twenty-one) while your son or daughter become liberated. You learn the rules of the game fle xibility, and the terror of the adven tureand you ask the question, Is this behavior normal? You learn to rely on "common sense"in determ ing whether your adolescent's beha vior is detrimental to health and safety or just an inconvenience to you. And you learn a lot about tolerance magic socks that must never be washed, and lovely hair turned streaky and spiked. Fathers are a model for what their sons will become, and father's qualities become characteristics that daughters will value in men. Fathers will do a good job if their model is an active part of their life. Even the busiest father can spare a half-hour a day, and more on Saturday and Sunday. If you're busy on weekends, take your child ren with you on errands. The hard ware store, grocery, or laundromat are an adventure especially if child ren are with you. Absent fathers are more impor tant to their children than they realize. Bridge the distance with phone calls or a postcard that says you are thinking of your children. They will thank you for it in many different ways. The (EXTEMSIOM) AGRICULTURE4-H Clay Penhollow HOME EC4-H Mollie Marsh FAMILY LIFE4-H Arlene Boileau 4-HYOUTH AIDE Joni David People ZUUUM. OFFICE MANAGEMENT Eraina Palmer 2126 Warm Springs Street 553-1161, extension 238 Dust rose bushes for rust and blackspot Every year rose gardeners must battle the plant fungus diseases rust and blackspot if roses in the home landscape are to look their best. Cool, camp weather favors the establishment of both these plant diseases. Wet weather in May is usually responsible for the esta blishment of rust and blackspot in many gardens. Rust infection on roses is char acterized by the appearance of small orange-colored spots on the top and bottom surfaces of leaves. The presence of black spot on roses is indicated by the circular black spots that show up on plant leaves. These spots often grow and join together to make large irregu lar spots when weather is especially damp. Early summer chemical spray or dust applications should bring these diseases under control. For control of rust, use sulfur ferbam dust or wettable sulfur spray. Phaltan spray will help control black spot. Be sure to follow all label direc tions when using any garden chemicals. Tips for bedding plants Tips on mowing lawns When operated carelessly, a lawn mower can be a very dangerous machine. Both small lawn mowers and the larger four-wheel tractor-mowers must be handled carefully or injur ies to the operator or bystanders may result. We recommend the following checklist for safe lawn mower opera tion. For the mower: Inspect for loose nuts and bolts, and make sure all fuel line fittings are tight. Check the mower blade for dul lness, nicks and imbalance. Service the mower regularly in accordance with instructions in the owner's manual If a problem arises take the mower to an authorized serviccperson. For safe operation: Know the rules of safe operation recommended for your mower. Read the owner's manual. Do not refuel a hot engine. Always fill the mower gas tank before start ing to mow. Clear the area to be mowed of children and pets and do not allow children to operate the mower. Keep hands and feet clear when starting and operating the mower. When mowing, do not pull the mower towards you, always push it. If wheeling the mower from one surface to another, leaving the mo wer unattended, or if the mower becomes clogged, turn mower engine off. Stop the engine and disconnect the spark plug wire when repairing or cleaning the mower. With a small walk-behind mower, mow steep slopes sideways. With a riding mower, mow steep slopes up and down. For safe grounds: Clear the lawn of any rocks, bones, toys or other small objects that could get caught in the mower blades. Avoid mowing very steep slopes. Operators of tractor mowers are advised to look behind before back ing, up to be careful of traffic near roadways, to disengage the mower mechanism before crossing drives and walks, and to avoid carrying passengers. Planting transplants, whether they be of the vegetable or flower var iety, is a quick way to get results in ' the garden flower bed. Here are some tips for bedding plant success. Dont plant outside until the sea son in your area has warmed enough for the plants to grow. Select plants that are well-established in their containers, but are not overgrown. Bedding plants often transplant better if they are not yet blooming. Allow plants to harden off (adjust) to outside conditions before plant ing. Bring the plants home and set them outside in a protected place, but exposed to temperature and humidity conditions, for several days. Protect the bedding plant roots from drying until planted. When planting, set plants at the recommended spacing. Plant in late afternoon or early evening. Plant into moist soil. Plant bedding plants at the same depth at which they were previously growing. Retain as much soil on the roots as possible. Firm the soil around the roots when planting, then water. Protect the young plants from drying until they are established. A day or two after planting, water with a booster fertilizer solu tion to give the plants a little push. Positivenegative aspects of teens jobs Most adults believe part-time jobs are good for teenagers, but recently completed research studies challenge this notion. Today teenagers staffing fast food counters and department store cash registers are a familiar sight. Adults approve of teenagers work ing, believing that it teaches the meaning of money, builds charac ter, and keeps them out of trouble. However, two researchers from the universities of Wisconsin and California, Laurence Steinberg and Ellen Greenberger, question this belief. A five-year survey of 1 5-1 7 year olds in California working more than 15 hours a week showed that their school grades dropped and their use of drugs and alcohol rose. Also, the survey revealed that teens working in service jobs such as fast-food restaurants and retail stores tended to become more cyn ical about work than their non working classmates. A generation ago over half the nation's teen workers held jobs on farms, in factories, or skilled trades that led to adult employment. The majority of jobs now held by teens offer few opportunities for advance ment or learning. Many of the required skills teens already know, and the jobs are so routine that training takes no more than a half hour. Few service jobs provide chan ces to use skills learned in school. Most of the teen workers studied spend an average of five minutes of each hour using reading, writing, or math skills. The number of teens holding jobs has steadily increased in the last 40 years, according to the spe cialist. Today's teen workers are predominantly surburban families not in need of extra income. The bulk of their earnings go for clo thing, stereo equipment, records, movies, hobbies, and car-related expenses. Few teens save for education or pay toward family living expenses. More than 80 percent reported sav ing little or none of their earnings. The effects of work on teens are not all bad. but parents need to be aware of both the positive and neg ative aspects of juggling work and school responsibilities. There is evi dence that working improves a youngster's social skills, improves work habits, and that girls become more self-confident. To help their teens gain benefits from work parents are advised to place a 15-hour-of-work-per-week limit on teenagers during the school year and to offer guidance in the saving and spending of money earned. Parents seem to think they have no control over a youngsters earn ings and how they are spent. How ever, parents are advised to help children set a savings target. It only makes sense that since parents are footing the bill for board and room they can guide spending patterns. : Without a savings plan teens learn a pattern of spending for "wants." They may have a difficult time changing this pattern later in their lives. Perhaps the most impor tant learning experience teens get from working a routine job is how to control their spending and set time-use priorities. Budgeting Share facts with teen Children need at least a general understanding of their family's finances. Letting teens help bal ance the family checkbook, partic- Teens who have a part-time job and an allowance may end up with enough money to warrant a sav ings plan. Help teenagers with this by encouraging them to find the savings account that suits their needs and resources. Also encour age teens to consider long-term goals that require regular savings, such as paying for college or buy ing a car. A record-keeping system helps the teenager keep better track of money going in and out. Some parents use money as an excuse. They may tell a child he can't have a motorbike because its too expensive, when really they have other reasons. Then the kid gets a job and earns enough money for the motorbike and they've got a problem. ipate in discussions about insurance policies and help keep records for expenses. Parents may be reluctant to share financial information about bills, income and savings with the child ren but often the details are not as important, as the trust developed between parent and the children. It's also important to explain to kids how such changes as a divorce or unemployment will affect the family's budget. If they don't under stand shifts in the family's spend ing, children may decide their being punished by cuts in allowances and treats. Magazines available Young weeds try to take over shrub and flower beds in the spring. Keep weeds under control by hoe ing or mulching. The back side of an iron rake will wipe out young weed seedlings quickly and efficiently. Then follow up with an inch or so of barkdust mulch to shade the ground. A granular herbicide, Caso ron, can be used to eliminate weeds in beds where only woody shrubs and trees are growing. Be sure to follow all label directions for use of this herbicide. Reduce moth damage to trees The codling moth will soon make its spring appearance. Control mea sures used now to stop this pest will help ensure a worm-free crop of home-grown apples in the fall. The codling moth is the adult stage of worm that infests apples and pears. The adults lay eggs throughout the summer, thus mak ing control difficult. Several insecticides provide excel lent control. Diazinon should be applied to apple and pear trees now and repeated at three week inter vals through the summer. No completely effective organic methods of controlling codling moth have been found. Some techinques may reduce damage. Parasitic wasps may be available, but may not be practical for the homeowner. T-shirts can be neat Do some of your T-Shirts look as if they were the rope in a tug-of-war contest? That lopsided fate is not inevitable for every T-shirt. It is possible to detect a T-shirt's potential for fabric sagging and distortion before you buy it. On many t-shirts distortion occurs along the side seams of the shirts after they are washed. This defect affects many knit garments, but it . occurs most often in t-shirts. The problem is partially caused by the way some knits are made in a tube like a sock. This causes the grain of the knit to pull a little to the right or left. Real problem seams, those that wrap around the body, are generally the result of poor fabric finishing, incorrect cut ting of the garment, and or poor construction. To identify the problem, hold the t-shirt up by the shoulders and shake it gently. Notice how the seams hang. If they hang toward the center when new, they proba bly will pull ever more after being laundered. Also, look at the loops of the knit. If they are stretched to one side, the seams probably will become more distorted when the shirt is washed. One easy way to avoid seam dis tortion in a t-shirt is to select t shirts that do not have side seams. Some manufacturers use knits that come in small, medium, and large tubes. This allows them to make t-shirts with side seams. 4-H Summer Camp June 20-25 4-H camp registrations soon begin pouring into 4-H OLYMPICS will the Extension office. Another out standing camp is planned for this year, so, if your are plan ning to attend 4-H camp or know of someone who may be inter ested in doing so, it would be wise to get an application in as soon as possible. Campers will be limited to 90 and applica tions will be taken on a first come, first served basis. 4-H Summer Camp is held at Round Lake Christian Camp near Sisters June 20-25, 1988. High school aged counselors are in charge of the cabin groups and received training at the May 20and21 camp counselor train ing. The theme for this year's camp is "4-H Olympics." Camperships are available on a financial need basis. Cost for the camp this year is $55. Appli cations are due June 10 at the Warm Springs Extension Office. Cooking quality foods Home cooks of the80's are return ing to basics, both in the foods they prepare and in the cooking methods they use. According to a recent survey on food preparation and dining trends, specific patterns are emerging that are likely to be in the forefront of American cooking and dining trends for some time to come. Cooks of the 80's are more know ledgeable and adverturesome, wil ling to try new cooking methods and ingredients. They are exposed to many more superior quality foods than were known even a generation ago. Fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains and simply prepared meals, fish and poultry are becom ing the cornerstones of contem porary cuisine. Cooking Dining preferred by the 80's cooks. Fresh, in-season foods are pre ferred, both for their nutritional value and cost effectiveness. Whole grains are making a come-back as are "from-scratch" meals. However, high quality convenience products have also found a niche in the con temporary kitchen. One-dish meals, a combination Buying clothes tips.... The fit counts The following magazines are avail able at the Extension office. If at any time you would like to read one of these, please feel free to come in and check one out. Consumer Reports, Changing Times, Simplicity & McC'all Patt ern Books, Sew News, Parents, 1001 Home Ideas, Organic Gar dening, The Lariat, Oregon Farmer Stockman, Agri-Times and Hay and Forage. 4-H Summer Schedule Jane 13-18 4-H Summer Week in Corvallis June 20-25 Round Lake 4-H Camp near Sisters, Oregon Come by the office to pick up a registration form. Or for more information call 553-1161, ext. 238. Attend 4-H Summer Week Each year 4-H Summer week on the Campus of OSU offers new and exciting opportunities for 4-H mem bers from Jefferson county. 1 1 dele gates from Warm Springs, eight delegates from Madras and 21 dele gates from Crook County will be attending the exciting and fun filled week. The tuition is SI 20.00 for the 4 H Summer Week, per person. There are scholarships available. Ever passed up the chance to buy an article of clothing you liked because the garment's number size on the item's tag told you the dress, shirt, or whatever was too large or small? If so, don't let numbers throw you. It's the fit that counts. Remember, a size is just a number. What's important in clothing is how it feels and how it looks. In fact, clothing size vary greatly and reflect outdated body types rather than any absolute ideal figure. The number sizes clothing manu facturers reflect standard measure ments developed in the 1 940s. They are average measurements taken from a general survey of people. But bodies have changed since the '40s. Americans today tend to be a little taller than they were 40 ' years ago. That's the good news. In addition, Americans today also are a little heavier, reflecting 40 years' dependence on autos and other amenities of modern life that save time but burn few calories. The clothing industry is consid ering updating clothing measure ments to more accurately reflect the sizes of today's consumers. Until that happens, consumers should be aware that how a garment fits is more important than the size on the label. Clothing size may also be unre liable because sizing varies from manufacturer to manufacturer. Each manufacturer decides how much "ease" will be built into a garment. Inexpensive clothing, for example, may have less ease in it because the manufacturer keeps costs down by using a minimum of fabric. Expensive clothing, on the other hand, may have ample ease. Some manufacturers have learned to appeal to people's vanity by making cloths that are, perhaps, larger than the label size indicates. The question of how much eae may be built into a garment explains why you can wear a size 10 from one manufacturer but you have to go to a 12 or 14 with another. Realizing that sizing can be some what arbitrary should help reas sure consumers who are size-conscious. It's a big mistake to equate size with self-esteem or good looks. And it's a bigger mistake to insist on wearing a too-tight garment just to prove you can still wear a certain size. Clothes that are too tight don't look as attractive as comfortable, well-fitting clothes do, she says. Being vain about a small size may impair your appearance, not help it. Here are some tips to remember when shopping for clothes: Stick with brands that have fit well in the past. Always try on garments. Don't assume that one manufacturer's size 12 will fit as well as another's. When shopping from a catalog, use the body measurements the company includes in the catalog. These body measurements reflect your measurements, not the ease built into the clothes. If you shop from a catalog but have a specific body area that is sometimes hard to fit, such as a large waist, avoid ordering clothes that are tightly fitted in that one area. For example, look for dresses or elasticized waists. If a garment is too small but you still decide you want it, check to see if the seam allowances are great enough for you to let out the gar ment. Seam allowances, like sizes, vary from manufacturer to manufac turer. Dont cling to old sizes. People change as they age. Periodically, check to see if the size you rou tinely wear is the one that truly looks and feels the rest to you. of complex carbohydrate, such as rice, vegetables and a protein source are still high on the list of favorite cooking styles. Elaborate meals are passe' for the everyday menu, being reserved for special occasion and weekend entertaining. Fast, simple, light and nutritious are the keys to weekday cooking for busy families who have little time to spend on meal preparation. ..They often make use of the "career cooking" idea in which enough food is prepared at one time for two meals. Half is eaten and the other half is refrigerated or frozen for a later meal. Less "division of labor" is seen in today's households; frequently no one person is responsible for the cooking. Often the first person home begins preparing the evening meal. Many cooks are making a con scious attempt to cut down on fat, sodium and calories in the foods they prepare. They are finding that "healthful eating" means foods brim ming with flavor and excitment, that are not more difficult or time consuming to prepare than other foods.