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Consistent,
Not too long ago many of the
problems children have growing
up were diagnosed as the result of
mothers working outside the home.
Whincy Wilma, aggressive Albert,
and slow Sam were simply thought
to be lacking Mom's guidance and
attention at home.
T hese assumptions have not held
up under the scrutiny of twenty
five years of research on children of
employed mothers.
In 1970 most women with child
ren under the age of 17 stayed
home. Since then, nearly half the
married women with school child
ren in the United States have taken
jobs.
The growing trend of women
joining the labor force continues,
but acceptance and support of com
bined employment and family respon
sibilities still lags behind the statis
tics. It's hard to erase the long held
suspicions that youngchildren"with
out loving mothers" at home suffer
severe emotional and behavioral
problems.
There is no doubt that aban
doned and neglected children show
personality disturbances. However,
these children are not in the same
league with youngsters who are
looked after by competent care
givers during the day and reunited
with loving parents in the evening.
During the 1970s Harvard Uni
versity pediatrician, Dr. Mary C.
Howell, studied thousands of
children of employed and unem
ployed mothers.
Both groups of children appeared
equally likely to make friends eas
ily or have trouble socially; to
excell in studies or stumble along;
to get into trouble or to show
model behavior; to be well adjusted
and independent, or clingingly depen
dent; and to feel loved or rejected
by their parents, Howell reports.
Since whether a mother is
Cattle information given
Calving:
Use clean equipment.
Have adequate supplies on hand.
Apply strong iodine solution to
each calf's navel immediately after
birth.
Watch for calving problems (dys
tocia). Have extra colostrum on hand to
administer to calves that have not
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Identify calves.
Give selenium and vitamin A and
D injections if needed.
Record birth weight and sex, and
record any treatment given.
Separate cows that have calved
from the rest of the herd if possible.
Nutrition:
Cows should be on a higher plane
of nutrition; they are now able to
eat more since the calf is no longer
taking up room near the rumen
and the cows are now nursing
which requires more feed, both in
quantity and quality.
This is especially important for
Living wills
People who do not want to be
kept alive by machines may sign
living wills documents directing
that life not be prolonged artifi
cally if they have terminal or incu-
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Eoston Yallup, member of the Indian Heritage Club, had a difficult
time deciding what color to use on his hand-crafted belt. Club members
are making belts, hair barrettes and other leather crafts during a class
instructed by Elliott Switzler.
well - balanced
employed is not a crucial factor in a
child's progress, what is important?
There is considerable evidence that
emotional problems of children are
often related to the emotional state
of the mother. It becomes a prob
lem for a child if his or her mother
hates her job, is bitter about her
husband who left her, and feels tied
down by a young child.
In reaction, the child may wet
the bed, stay home from school
complaining of aches and pains,
and constantly clamour tor atten
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There may be considerable dis
statisfaction in the life of a young
mother who yearns to return to her
former job, but is prevented from
doing so by a husband who insists
"a mother's place is in the home."
As a result, the mother becomes
bored, apathetic, restless, and dissa
tisfied. Michigan psychologist, Lois
Waldis Hoffman, found that
employed women who enjoy their
jobs are more affectionate with
their children and less likely to lose
their temper than mothers who are
disenchanted with their stay-at-home
role.
This is surprising in view of the
added stress employment causes.
Contented mothers are more likely
than resentful workers or unhappy
homemakers to have children with
high self-esteem. Children develop
best in families where time, love,
and attention are freely given.
For some mothers the best thing
is to go out and work. For others, it
is best to stay home. Many new
mothers are leaving satisfying jobs
to devote full attention to their
infants.
Mothers weathering the transi
tion from job to homcmaker may
experience periods of restlessness,
first-calf heifers as they are still
growing as well as feeding a calf.
Leadership
training set
The 4-H leadership training will
be held Saturday, March 7 from. 9,
a.m. to 4 p.m. at the Portage Inn in
The Dalles. The theme of the training
is "Bridging the Leadership Gap."
Eighteen sessions will be offered
including market livestock feeding
for performance and carcass con
tests, leadership communication,
Oregon record books, pair contest,
basic sewing projects, teaching stra
tegies for 4-H club management
and assertive discipline for 4-H
leaders.
Transportation will be provided.
Registration is due by February 20.
Please contact the Warm Springs
extension office now if you plan to
attend.
instruct family members in
rahlft illness or miurv.
The primary purpose of living
wills is obvious. They allow per
sons to state formally just how they
feel about the prolongation of life,
lives essential for children
but many find they like the flexibil
ity of more spare time and time to
spend with their children.
Balancing work and family is
never easy, especially if mothers do
all the juggling. Having to contend
with a husbands opposition or indif
ference makes the situation twice
as difficult. In such circumstances,
a wife may tell her husband, "I like
being married to you, but I cannot
take care of you, the baby, and a
job all alone."
It takes time but fathers in general
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Take time to listen to and talk
with your children from birth, but
don't push them.
Don't talk babytalk. Children
need to learn the proper way to
speak.
Don't expect perfect speech from
children: speech mistakes should
be expected because children are
still learning developing.
Have your child's hearing tested
if you suspect hearing problems,
e.g. If you have to repeat yourself
often, if your child seems to ignore
what you are saying, if you have to
talk loudly to get your child's atten
tion. Nonverban communication emo
tional support are important. Too
much pressure or lack of love may
affect a child's speech language
development.
Teach kids how to handle $$
We feel that some things like
behavior and school grades, for
instance, should never have a price
placed on them.
Children can learn different con
cepts at different ages. Toddlers
begin observing how money is used
in the supermarket. Parents can
help children learn about choices
and the value of money by asking
them to choose a small toy or treat
from a group of items for which
Give proper care to house plants
Your warm cozy home may be
killing those house plants you
received as gifts over the holidays.
Low humdity, excess salts from
fertilizers or improper watering may
cause symptoms in house plants
that are similar to those caused by
various disease organisms.
Sudden loss of leaves is frequently
caused by rapid temperature
changes, dry air, cold drafts, fur
nace fumes or a change from a
sunny to a dark location. Unnatu-.
rally small leaves are usually the
result of insufficient light. This is
especially common when outdoor
plants are brought inside.
Begonias, African violets and
ferns are especially sensitive to low
humidity. Plants moved from a
cool, moist greenhouse or florist's
shop to a warm, dry home are
especially vulnerable.
The low humidity in most homes
may cause spotted or scorched
looking leaves. It may also cause
and to sav so while still healthy.
Living wills ease the burden on
family members, to relieve them of
any guilt they might otherwise feel
in making the decision themselves.
Another purpose is to protect
the doctor, who might otherwise be
cntized or even held legally liable
for letting death take its natural
Allowance
KiHe tnHav sav thev can't live
without money. Many parents
even those who grew up with more
marbles than cash in their
pockets seem to agree. But how
much money should kids have?
Should they have to work for it?
How hard? In the home or elsewhere?
Ian, age 16, earns about $750
moving sprinkler pipes during the
summer. He also does odd jobs on
Saturdays during the school year.
His parents ask him to contribute
$5 a week toward household
expenses. He resents these demands
because his freinds and aren't
expected to help with family
expenses.
Sarah, 13, receives a weekly
allowance from her parents but
deductions are made if her house
hold chores are not done on time.
With the allowance she pays for
school lunches, recreation, incid
We're still here!!
Just a reminder to let you know
we still exist. Our new location is
down in the old Park Area in
Trailer Five. (Across from the
Community Center.)
Need any information in lives
tock, agriculture or 4-H call Clay
Penhollow or Mark Stillwell. who
works here on Monday and Wed
nesday mornings. Home Ec, Fam
ily living, or 4-H call Mollie Marsh
or Arlene Boileau. 4-H Informa
tion on clubs, meeting times, and
are discovering they enjoy spend
ing more time getting to know their
children, having less money prob
lems, and a more stimulating mar
riage partnership.
Much has been said about the
mother child attachment, but recent
studies show that one and two-year-olds
are just as attached to
fathers as mothers, says Howell.
Children simply want and need
consistent, loving adults who pro
vide a stable, predictable environ
ment in which to grow.
In 4-H, you
learn to. . . .
Share Everything.
Play Fair. Don't Hit People.
Put things back where you found
them. Clean up your own mess.
Don't take things that aren't
yours. Say you're sorry when you
hurt someone.
Wash your hands before you eat.
Warm cookies and milk are good
for you.
Live a balanced life. Learn some
and think some and draw and paint
and sing and dance and play and
work some every day.
When you go into the world
watch out for traffic, hold hands,
and stick together.
they have money to buy only one.
Once children learn numbers and
money denominations, parents may
experiment with allowances to see
if children are ready to learn more
advanced skills. Whether kids earn
their cash or get a flatrate allo
wance parents need to spell out
how the money can be spent and
how much of it children can spend
at will. They also should make it
clear what kids can't buy and why.
blossoms and leaves to fall off. You
can increase the humidity around
potted plants by setting them on a
brick or inverted post over a large
pan of water. You can also place
them in a planter filled with moist
sphagnum moss, sand, vermiculite
' or perjite. ,
The yellowing of lower leaves is
another common problem with house
plants. This may be caused by a
root rot condition, improper water
ing or too little light. First, check to
see if the drainage hole in the pot is
plugged or if the plant is standing
in water. Excess water causes oxy
gen starvation and will contribute
to root rot.
Next, tap the root ball from the
post and examine it carefully. If
soil and roots are in good condi
tion, fertilizer may be needed. Select
a food containing trace elements as
well as nitrogen, phosphorus and
potassium.
Where a root rot condition exists,
case of terminal illness
course rather than using all availa
ble means to preserve it.
A living will should not be signed
lightly, and the possible consequences
should be considered carefully. Dis
cussions with appropriate family
members and advisers are recom
mended. The validity of living wills, like
essential for kids today
entals and eifts. Recently her par
ents decided to start a system of
charging 10 percent interest when
she borrows additional money from
them. Sarah says the system is
totally unfair and unreasonable.
A college education is a top
priority for Tommy, so he puts all
of his earnjngs from a paper route
into a savings account.
Other than an occasional babys
itting job Debbie, 14, earns no
money but her parents give her
money as she needs for expenses.
She says she has to do some terrible
chores like scrub the toilet, wash
dishes and vacuum and sometimes
babysit younger sisters to earn this
privilege.
All of these youngsters are learn
ing about money management but
they may not be learning the skills
and good managing practices their
parents would like them to learn.
registration call Joni David.
Watch the Spilyay Tymoo for
workshops and local goings-on in
our community. Signs are posted
at Macy's Store and in the Tribal
Administration building lobby.
If you have any questions or
develop a problem in your home
please call, even if we cannot answer
your questions, we will call our
resources in order to help you. The
number to call is 553-1 161, ext
238239.
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Mercy Suppah, right, attempted to "re-learn" knitting techniques from
Mary Smith at a 4-H knitting class held Thursday in the basement of the
boys dorm. The class is open to anyone interested in learning to knit.
Check your spending habits
Recent statistics indicate that,
on the average, household debt is
increasing and household savings
nrune off infected, discolored roots
If the area just above the roots
known as the crown, is rotten, you
may as well discard the plant.
The lower leaves on house plants,
such as the rubber plant, philoden
dron and dumbcane, naturally yel
low and drop off as they become
older. Whe'ri the plant becomes too
bare of bottom leaves, air-layer the
top portion and create a new plant.
A general leaf yellowing at the
top of the plant could indicate lack
of light or lack of minerals for
nutrition. Provide more light or
fertilizer, depending on which dis
order is causing the problem.
Water high in salts may cause
leaves to yellow or burn along their
edges. Correct this situation by
occasionally flushing the plant's
soil with water. You can also change
the potting soil as salts start to
accumulate.
regular wills, depends on state laws.
About half the states have specific
statutory rules on the subject, and
the only way to be sure to consult
an attorney.
For further information, write
or call Concern for Dying, 250 W.
57th St., New York, N.Y. 10107;
telephone (212) 246-6962.
rhildren aren't born knowing
about money; they have to be taught
what it is, how to spend it, how to
save it, and roughly where their
own family falls on the scale of rich
to poor, says an Oregon State Uni
versity home economist.
Alice Mills Morrow says there is
no formula for teaching these things,
but there are some general common
sense principles that can guide par
ents. The main thing children need
to do is make financial decisions
and then live with the consequences.
Parents can help their children
become wiser money managers by
helping them develop budgets and
letting youngsters get involved in
family financial management.
"Sometimes it's hard for parents
to allow their children to make
mistakes. It's better for kids to
make little mistakes now if it helps
them avoid a big mistake later."
Morrow said. Parents who plan
learning experiences will help
children develop more competence
in money management than par
ents who simply trust that children
will learn through observation.
While experts are not in total
agreement, some suggest that at
about third grade level parents
should encourage children to do
extra tasks for money. This will
help develop a positive and respon
sible attitude about finances. Most
authorities, however, discourage
rewarding all work with money or
making allowances dependent on
household tasks because children
need to learn that they have obliga
tions to help as members of families.
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are decreasing. What is your lami
ly's debt and savings pattern?
Are your spending patterns help
ing you avoid serious financial pro
blems? Find out by taking time to
determine the percentage of your
take-home pay used to pay consu
mer debts and the percentage left
for savings.
The first step in this analysis is to
determine your monthly take-home
pay. This is monthly income less
state and federal income taxes and
social security taxes. If your income
varies from month to month, use
, average monthly income. ., ,
Then add up the amount of
money used each month to repay
consumer debt. Consumer debt does
not include mortgage payments; it
does include most of your other
debts such as credit cards, auto
mobile loans and installments loans.
The amount of money needed to
repay consumer credit payments
should not exceed 20 percent of
yourmonthlytake-home pay. Using
15 percent of your income for con
sumer debt is usually okay. How
ever, if your income is very low or
your mortgage debt very high, 10
15 percent may be too much for
you.
If your credit payments are 15
20 percent of your take-home pay,
you may not have serious financial
trouble, but you should not acquire
additional debt until you pay off
some of the existing debts.
To determine the percentage of
take-home pay saved, add up month
ly savings. If savings are irregular,
use an average monthly amount.
Savings divided by take-home
pay and then multiplied by 100
equals the percent of monthly take
home pay saved. This should be
five to 10 percent. If you are saving
less than this, look at your expenses
and see if expenses can be reduced
to increase savings.
Two OSU publications. Finan
cial Planning: How to Prepare a
Networth Statement, EC 1230 and
Financial Planning: How to pre
pare and Income Expense State
ment, EC 1229, are available in the
Extension office.
Here's a recipe!
1 cup mixed fresh fruit cut in
I -inch chunks such as apple, banana,
pineapple, peach, melon, etc.
Vi cup fruit flavor lowfat yogurt.
Skewer three or four pieces of
fruit on a toothpick. Serve with
yogurt as a dip.
Yield: one portion.
Per portion: 181 mg. calcium.
203 calories.
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Erslm Palmr Secretary
Jonl David Program Aide
Arlene Boileau
Extension
Intern
Extension
Agent
Extension
Agent
Mollie Marsh
Clay Penhollow
Extension Service provides
equal access to all its activities
and programs.