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East Oregonian
PEANUTS
COFFEE BREAK
Tuesday, August 23, 2022
DEAR ABBY
BY CHARLES M. SCHULZ
Husband isn’t putting in
the work to fix marriage
FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE
B.C.
PICKLES
BEETLE BAILEY
BY LYNN JOHNSTON
BY MASTROIANNI AND HART
BY BRIAN CRANE
to suddenly pick up the ball.
Dear Abby: My husband and
Once you are stronger emotion-
I have been together for 12 years
ally, schedule those sessions with
and our relationship has started
a licensed marriage and family
to suffer. We no longer have
therapist.
dates, we don’t spend any time
Dear Abby: My fiance and I
talking with each other unless
have a child together. I’m 31, and
it’s about the kids, and the inti-
he’s 16 years older. Sometimes I
macy has faded.
J EANNE
don’t know if our relationship
A year ago, I asked him to go
P HILLIPS
will work out in the long run be-
to a counselor with me. I asked
AD Ice
ADv
cause he’s so stubborn and set in
him to be the one to set it up, as
his ways.
I’m always in charge of doctor
What is bothering me the
appointments, bill paying, etc. I
wanted him to show he was “all in” to most right now is his mother constantly
help fix our marriage. I have reminded asks him for money. It’s not just for little
things; it’s for roof and furnace repair and
him to do it several times, but he hasn’t.
He claims to love me and to want our problems with her water heater, washer/
marriage to thrive, yet he does nothing. dryer, stove and A/C. She’s married, and
Now that the intimacy is completely her husband works. He should be able to
gone, he all of a sudden wants to work provide her with the things they need.
I have tried talking to him about it,
on things. Go figure. I feel hurt and re-
jected and like throwing in the towel, but but it just ends up in an explosive argu-
we have built a life together and I do love ment. It’s like, why should I even try to
him. I don’t think therapy will work be- save for our family’s future and the things
cause I’ll feel like I manipulated him to we need for our house if he’s going to
keep giving it to his mother every time
get there by withholding the intimacy.
The man I married is gone, replaced she asks? Please help. — All For Mama
Dear All: You wrote that YOU are
by this person who is just going through
the motions and using me to take care of trying to save for your family’s future. Is
his kids and clean his house. Please ad- your fiance giving his mother money that
you have been earning, or is it his? If it is
vise. — On Hold In Arkansas
Dear On Hold: Ask your doctor for his, he can do with it as he pleases — at
a referral to a psychologist and make an least until after the wedding. If he is fis-
appointment — for YOURSELF — for cally responsible, he should also be try-
help rebuilding your sagging self-esteem. ing to save for the future. However, if he
Because you long ago assumed the role isn’t, recognize that the pattern he has es-
of organizer-arranger in your marriage, tablished may not be a sound one for you
it was unrealistic to expect your husband and your child, and plan accordingly.
BY MORT WALKER
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago
in the East Oregonian
GARFIELD
BLONDIE
BY JIM DAVIS
BY DEAN YOUNG AND JOHN MARSHALL
Wallowa Lake, nestling in the heart of
the snow covered peaks of the Blue Moun-
tains, is the mecca of scores of Pendleton
people during the July and August, accord-
ing to the word received from Wallowa Lake
Park, the center of attraction in the land of
the Wallowa. Winding between the slopes
of the deep, cool canyon of the Wallowa and
Minam rivers, and fi nally emerging into the
sunlit greenness of the Wallowa valley, the
new highway, nearing completion, rivals in
scenic beauty the Columbia highway. Fish-
ing in the high mountain lakes has been
attracting large numbers of people since
summer and the abundance of game in the
way of grouse and deer is causing a number
of local sportsmen to begin loading their
cars and cleaning the old gun in prepara-
tion for a raid on Wallowa County’s game
supply.
50 years ago
in the East Oregonian
The six-day Morrow County Fair and
Rodeo officially opened today, but there
was excitement at the fairgrounds Monday.
Many animals, both 4-H and open
class, were brought in. Young owners will
bed down for the next three days, caring
for their stock.
Two good-sized steers broke loose
and Kate Healy, ranch wife from Butter
Creek, showed her style in real cowboy
work as she brought them roped, balking
and jumping back to the stalls.
Morrow County Agent Harold Kerr said
that from early appearances, this year’s
entries again would tax facilities for live-
stock. These were enlarged last year, but
there are many more entries coming.
25 years ago
in the East Oregonian
The construction of a footbridge across
the Umatilla River is up next as workers
continue to complete parks department
projects in Pendleton.
The 8-foot-wide path will cross the
Umatilla River at Southwest 18th Street,
linking the Round-Up grounds to the high
school and swimming pool area. The city
council unanimously awarded the project to
K2 Construction of Portland for $425,401
during Tuesday’s meeting. The council
approved the design of the 510-foot-long
path earlier this summer.
TODAY IN HISTORY
DILBERT
THE WIZARD OF ID
LUANN
ZITS
BY SCOTT ADAMS
BY PARKER AND HART
BY GREG EVANS
BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN
On Aug. 23, 1973, a
bank
robbery-turned-
hostage-taking began in
Stockholm, Sweden; the
four hostages ended up
empathizing with their
captors, a psychological
condition now referred
to as “Stockholm Syn-
drome.”
In 2003, former priest
John Geoghan, the con-
victed child molester
whose prosecution sparked
the sex abuse scandal that
shook the Roman Catho-
lic Church nationwide,
died after another inmate
attacked him in a Massa-
chusetts prison.
In
2004,
Presi-
dent George W. Bush crit-
icized a political commer-
cial accusing Democratic
nominee John Kerry of
inflating his own Viet-
nam War record, and said
broadcast attacks by out-
side groups had no place
in the race for the White
House.
In
2008,
Demo-
cratic presidential can-
didate Barack Obama
introduced his choice of
running mate, Sen. Joe
Biden of Delaware, before
a crowd outside the Old
State Capitol in Spring-
field, Illinois.
In 2013, a military
jury convicted Maj. Nidal
Hasan in the deadly 2009
shooting rampage at Fort
Hood, Texas, that claimed
13 lives; the Army psychi-
atrist was later sentenced
to death. Staff Sgt. Rob-
ert Bales, the U.S. soldier
who’d massacred
ed 16 Af
Af-
ghan civilians, was sen-
tenced at Joint Base Lew-
is-McChord, Washington,
to life in prison with no
chance of parole.
In 2020, a white po-
lice officer in Kenosha,
Wisconsin, shot a Black
man, Jacob Blake, seven
times as officers tried to
arrest Blake on an out-
standing warrant; the
shooting left Blake par-
tially paralyzed and trig-
gered several nights of
protests. (Blake, who was
shot as he was about to
get into an SUV with a
pocketknife that had fall-
en from his pants, later
said he’d been prepared
to surrender after putting
the knife in the vehicle.
Officer Rusten Sheskey
was not charged.)
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
BY DANA SIMPSON
BIG NATE
BY LINCOLN PEIRCE