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East Oregonian
Saturday, August 20, 2022
DEAR ABBY
Girlfriend is unimpressed by man’s longtime friends
Dear Abby: My boyfriend has been
hanging out with a group of “friends” since
college. He is now 41. The women in this
group are unfriendly toward me. They don’t
say hello or goodbye or even acknowledge
my existence when I am around them. I have
talked to my boyfriend about this time and
again, and he defends their behavior. He says
I “lack empathy.”
We have been dating for a year and a half,
and I realize the other “friends” he surrounds
himself with are as bad or worse. (They are
heavy drinkers, drug dealers and drug users,
and have low morals, poor values, etc.) When
I give him examples of how these people treat
him poorly and treat me rudely, he brushes
it off , saying their behavior and comments
don’t bother him. What gives? — Looking
For Insight
Dear Looking: What “gives” is this: Your
boyfriend is comfortable with these people
because he is like them. If he had higher clear that this place isn’t going to get me far.
self-esteem and was more highly motivated, My husband is a teacher, but between terms
he wouldn’t be hanging out with
he has the option to leave. When we
those losers. He’d form friendships
married, it was with the understand-
with people who live healthy life-
ing that we would eventually leave,
styles, have gainful employment,
or so I thought. Now he’s talking
high morals and better values. That
about how if I want to move, I’ll
you would spend a year and a half
be going without him because he’s
surrounded by a group like this
happy here, and he’s happy to stay
tells me you must be desperate for
forever.
company.
I feel like the rug has been pulled
JEANNE
Dear Abby: I’m a newlywed, and
out from under me, and I don’t know
PHILLIPS
my husband and I have just hit a big
what to do. I love my husband, but
ADVICE
roadblock. I hate the town we live in.
I love myself, too. I will never be
I always have. The only reason I’m
happy here. I’ve tolerated it for fi ve
here is because of him, but I have always been years, and I’m miserable. How am I supposed
very clear about wanting to move.
to compromise on an absolute? We can’t both
I lost my job, and the market around here move and not move. — Yearning To Flee
is terrible, which has pushed the idea of us
Dear Yearning: Your husband should
moving to the forefront. I don’t expect us to have been honest with you from the begin-
go anywhere now, but it is becoming crystal ning about his feelings and ties to the commu-
nity. Because you know you can’t be happy
there — and he has indicated that he plans
to stay — I think you should do whatever
makes you happy and thank your lucky stars
there are no children involved to complicate
matters.
Dear Abby: I am 24 and being married
soon. My fi ance thinks I’m a virgin, but in
reality, I am far from it. We have been saving
sex for marriage — at least that’s what he
thinks. I don’t know if I should keep this to
myself or tell him. Please give me your expert
advice. — Bride-To-Be
Dear Bride-To-Be: Solid marriages are
built on trust. What do you think the fall-
out will be if this man fi nds out he has been
lied to all this time? He will never again
believe what you tell him, and who could
blame him? The time to level is now, before
the wedding — and if it’s a deal-breaker,
que sera, sera.
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago in the East Oregonian
The race for fi rst honors in the Round-Up queen contest,
being conducted in Pendleton under the auspices of union
labor to help defray expenses of the big Labor Day celebra-
tion which will be held here this year, is waxing warm and
furious. Miss Eva Lundell is still in the lead, according to
the count made last night. Eula McAtee is close behind her.
The offi cial count last night shows the following votes: Eva
Lundell, 9,096 votes; Eula McAtee, 8,117; Mary Morand,
4,341; Bessie Taylor, 3,916. The queen contest will close
Wednesday evening, August 23, with a “queen carnival
dance” at labor hall. After the dance the votes will be imme-
diately counted and the winner announced.
50 years ago in the East Oregonian
The Pendleton Round-Up court Wednesday continued its
busy schedule of pre-Round-Up social events.
Wednesday’s aff air was a pow wow at the Davis and Rugg
cabin at Bingham Springs Members of the court – Queen
Susan Davis, Princesses Mary Hibberd, Becky Raymond,
Betsy Shaw and Shelly Simpson – were joined by Happy
Canyon Princess Darlene Terry for a luncheon and swim-
ming party. Pendleton Round-Up bucking horse charms were
presented to the girls. The members of the court, some of their
mothers and grandmothers, last week attended a coff ee and
a patio brunch. The girls received a photo book and rings to
wear with their party clothes.
25 years ago in the East Oregonian
With the Oregon Legislature unable to pass a plan to fund
road repairs, Umatilla County is considering adopting a fuel
tax to patch the worst of the country’s potholes.
The county Board of Commissioners will meet Tuesday
morning with mayors and city managers from throughout
the county to discuss a possible gas tax.
Pendleton City Manager Larry Lehman said discussions
between the county and the cities have thus far been infor-
mal.
Various rates have been brought up, from one cent to
three cents or more a gallon, he said.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
In 1862, the New York
Tribune published an open
letter by editor Horace Gree-
ley calling on President
Abraham Lincoln to take
more aggressive measures
to free the slaves and end the
South’s rebellion.
In 1866 , President
Andrew Johnson formally
declared the Civil War over,
months after fighting had
stopped.
In 1882, Tchaikovsky’s
“1812 Overture” had its
premiere in Moscow.
In 1910, a series of forest
fi res swept through parts of
Idaho, Montana and Wash-
ington, killing at least 85
people and burning some 3
million acres.
In 1940, exiled Commu-
nist revolutionary Leon
Trotsky was assassinated
in Coyoacan, Mexico by
Ramon Mercader. (Trotsky
died the next day.)
In 1953, the Soviet Union
publicly acknowledged it had
tested a hydrogen bomb.
In 1955, hundreds of
people were killed in anti-
French rioting in Morocco
and Algeria.
In 1964 , President
Lyndon B. Johnson signed
the Economic Opportu-
nity Act, a nearly $1 billion
anti-poverty measure.
In 1968, the Soviet
Union and other Warsaw
Pact nations began invading
Czechoslovakia to crush the
“Prague Spring” liberaliza-
tion drive.
In 1986, postal employee
Patrick Henry Sherrill went
on a deadly rampage at a post
offi ce in Edmond, Oklahoma,
shooting 14 fellow workers to
death before killing himself.
In 1988, a cease-fi re in the
war between Iraq and Iran
went into eff ect.
In 1989, 51 people died
when a pleasure boat sank in
the River Thames (tehmz) in
London after colliding with
a dredger.
In 2020, accepting the
Democratic presidential
nomination, Joe Biden vowed
to move the nation past the
chaos of Donald Trump’s
tenure and return it to its
leadership role in the world;
capping a virtual conven-
tion amid the pandemic,
Biden spoke to a largely
empty arena in Delaware.
Russian opposition leader
Alexei Navalny became ill
on a fl ight to Moscow from
Siberia and was hospital-
ized in a coma. (Navalny
would spend fi ve months in
Germany recovering from a
nerve agent poisoning that he
blamed on the Kremlin; he
was arrested after his return
to Russia.)
Ten years ago: In a
historic change at one of the
world’s most exclusive golf
clubs, Georgia’s Augusta
National invited former
Secretary of State Condo-
leezza Rice and South Caro-
lina fi nancier Darla Moore
to become the fi rst female
members; both accepted.
Comedian Phyllis Diller,
95, died at her Los Angeles
home.
Five years ago: Actor,
comic and longtime telethon
host Jerry Lewis died of heart
disease in Las Vegas at the
age of 91.
One year ago: President
Joe Biden pledged to bring
all Americans home from
Afghanistan, along with all
Afghans who aided the U.S.
war eff ort there; his prom-
ise came as thousands more
Americans and others seek-
ing to escape the Taliban
struggled to get past crush-
ing crowds and Taliban
checkpoints at the airport.
San Francisco became the
fi rst major city in the nation
to require proof of full vacci-
nation against COVID-19 for
people dining inside restau-
rants, working out in gyms
or attending indoor concerts.
China changed its Population
and Family Planning Law to
allow couples to legally have
a third child; the change
came just six years after the
law was changed to allow a
second child amid a plum-
Church
Solid Rock
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love God, love people, and make
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140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
meting birthrate. Tom T.
Hall, the singer-songwriter
who composed “Harper
Valley P.T.A.” and sang about
life’s simple joys as coun-
try music’s consummate
blue collar bard, died at his
Tennessee home at 85.
Today’s Bir thdays:
Boxing promoter Don King
is 91. Former MLB All-Star
Graig Nettles is 78. Broadcast
journalist Connie Chung is
76. Musician Jimmy Pankow
(Chicago) is 75. Actor Ray
Wise is 75. Actor John Noble
is 74. Rock singer Robert
Plant (Led Zeppelin) is 74.
Country singer Rudy Gatlin
is 70. Singer-songwriter John
Hiatt is 70. Actor-director
Peter Horton is 69. TV weath-
erman Al Roker is 68. Actor
Jay Acovone is 67. Actor Joan
Allen is 66. Movie director
David O. Russell is 64. TV
personality Asha Blake is
61. Actor James Marsters is
60. Rapper KRS-One is 57.
Actor Colin Cunningham
is 56. Actor Billy Gardell is
53. Rock singer Fred Durst
(Limp Bizkit) is 52. Actor
Jonathan Ke Quan is 52.
Actor Misha Collins is 48.
Rock singer Monique Powell
(Save Ferris) is 47. Actor Ben
Barnes is 41. Actor Meghan
Ory is 40. Actor Andrew
Garfi eld is 39. Actor Brant
Daugherty is 37. Actor-singer
Demi Lovato is 30.
DIRECTORY
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
541-567-6937
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
PendletonPresbyterian.com
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
All Are Welcome
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
JOIN OUR INCLUSIVE
CONGREGATION
ON OUR JOURNEY WITH JESUS
Services 9:00am Sundays
In-person or streaming on
Facebook or Zoom
201 SW Dorion Ave.
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
The Salvation Army
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
10:30 - Worship Service
Wednesday Bible Study
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Facebook.com/PendletonPresbyterian
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
COME AS YOU ARE
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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PendletonLighthouseChurch
First Christian
Church
(DISCIPLES OF CHRIST)
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
215 N. Main • Pendleton
In Person worship Sundays
at 10:00 am
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
Hours: M-F 9:00am-1:00pm
To advertise in the Church Directory, please contact Audra Workman
541-564-4538 or email aworkman@eastoregonian.com