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East Oregonian
Saturday, July 30, 2022
DEAR ABBY
Wife’s smoking addiction clouds future of marriage
Dear Abby: I have been married to my
wife for 32 years. I love her dearly. Recently,
though, her smoking has been really bother-
ing me. Her father passed away from COPD
fi ve years ago because he was a lifetime
smoker. I thought that would convince her to
stop. She has tried, but she always goes back.
She tries to cover it up by making frequent
trips to the store and other places to get out of
sight to smoke. It infuriates me that she would
lie, but she doesn’t seem to have a problem
with it at all. It makes me wonder what else
she’s been lying about.
My biggest concern, obviously, is that her
health problems are increasing — frequent
colds (she blames “allergies”), coughing
while she sleeps, snoring terribly. We now
sleep in separate beds at times just so I can
get some sleep. When I bring up the subject of
quitting, she gets defensive. Her mother will
no longer talk to her about it, and she wants doing so, which I doubt, she will need profes-
sional help. Nicotine patches and gum could
her to quit even more than I do.
As my wife goes down this road,
aid her in cutting back, but a psycho-
I’m becoming less attracted to her.
logical component will still need to
We don’t talk much anymore when
be addressed.
Interestingly, you didn’t mention
we are by ourselves. We once went
to a marriage counselor who agreed
the eff ect (besides revulsion) her
with me on the subject of quitting,
secondhand smoke is having on
but my wife blew it off . I’m near my
you. This is something you should
limit and thinking of ending our
address with your doctor. Once you
have done that, off er your wife the
marriage. How can I get through
JEANNE
to her without a messy divorce? —
option of treatment. However, if
PHILLIPS
she refuses, you will have to decide
End Of My Rope In Michigan
ADVICE
whether to consult a lawyer.
Dear End: By now it should be
obvious that your wife is display-
Dear Abby: What advice would
ing classic symptoms of an addict. This is you give to one who thinks about and, quite
something she may have inherited from her frankly, is still in love with his high school
father. She has a serious medical (and possibly sweetheart? We never got married. I never
psychological) problem because she cannot married anyone, and our 50th year high
quit on her own. If she’s even interested in school reunion is coming up next year. I
talked with her recently over the phone, and
she’s also going to the reunion. We’re both
looking forward to seeing each other again.
Do you think age plays a big part in how a
person should view things? That is, I’ve seen a
photo of her, and while it’s very diff erent from
how she looked in high school, I still feel the
same about her and want to spend the rest of
my life with her. What’s your advice? — Still
Smitten In Idaho
Dear Smitten: My advice is to keep
talking to your old fl ame, see if she’s currently
attached and whether she feels the same way
about you. If the answer is yes, attending the
reunion will let you begin to know her all over
again before taking the next step. Time can
be a great advantage because you both are
mature adults now and, hopefully, less impul-
sive than you were during your teens. I wish
you luck as you revisit this with her.
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago
in the East Oregonian
A new Oregon state swimming record for the 440 years
reposes to the credit of Harold Hatton, local boy, as the new
time of 5 minutes 51 seconds Saturday afternoon in the Oregon
state outdoor swimming championships held at the Oaks, Port-
land, under the auspices of the Portland News. The old record
was held by Jimmie Egan, the highly touted Portland swimmer
who was forced to take second to Hatton Saturday.
50 years ago
in the East Oregonian
The State Emergency Board Friday approved establish-
ment of an Eastern Oregon mental health center to provide
assistance to local community health centers in the eastern
counties of the state.
The proposal, which will cost $971,000 for the remain-
der of this biennium, was described by Rep. Staff ord
Hansell, R-Hermiston, as “a major step forward” in provid-
ing mental health services to Eastern Oregon, where some
counties have no mental health facilities.
Federal funds will pay 90 per cent of the costs of the
expanded services this year. The federal contribution will be
gradually reduced to 70 per cent after fi ve years.
25 years ago
in the East Oregonian
Folks in Umatilla can start concentrating on the details
now. City, county and agency offi cials have a wish list of
specifi c site development conditions to negotiate with the
Department of corrections. With Senate Bill 6 passed, the
prison bill authorizing the DOC to pay for infrastructure
impacts in communities where prisons are placed, Umatilla
can start fi guring. Presently, about half of Umatilla’s proposed
conditions are directed to Clause A.1 in a document outlin-
ing mandatory general site development conditions. Clause
A.1 directs the DOC to work with the appropriate entities to
address technical components of the prison project. The pris-
oners will be counted as part of the city’s population, which
increases the city’s portion of state revenue sharing.
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tative assembly in America
convened in Jamestown in
the Virginia Colony.
In 1729, Baltimore, Mary-
land, was founded.
In 1864, during the Civil
War, Union forces tried to
take Petersburg, Virginia,
by exploding a gunpow-
der-laden mine shaft beneath
Confederate defense lines;
the attack failed.
In 1916, German sabo-
teurs blew up a munitions
plant on Black Tom, an island
near Jersey City, New Jersey,
killing about a dozen people.
In 1918, poet Joyce
Kilmer, a sergeant in the
165th U.S. Infantry Regi-
ment, was killed during the
Second Battle of the Marne
in World War I. (Kilmer is
remembered for his poem
“Trees.”)
In 1945, the Portland class
heavy cruiser USS Indianap-
olis, having just delivered
components of the atomic
bomb to Tinian in the Mari-
ana Islands, was torpedoed
by a Japanese submarine;
only 317 out of nearly 1,200
men survived.
In 1956, President Dwight
D. Eisenhower signed a
measure making “In God
We Trust” the national motto,
replacing “E Pluribus Unum”
(Out of many, one).
In 1965, President
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measure creating Medicare,
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following year.
In 1980, Israel’s Knesset
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Church
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ing students to wear masks
when the new school year
began. Broadway theater
operators announced that
COVID-19 vaccinations and
masks would be required
when theaters reopened in the
weeks ahead. Japan expanded
a coronavirus state of emer-
gency to four more areas in
addition to Tokyo following
record spikes in infections as
the capital hosted the Olym-
pics. The fi rst fl ight evacuat-
ing Afghans who’d worked
alongside Americans in
Afghanistan brought more
than 200 people to new lives
in the United States; the fl ight
that landed outside Washing-
ton, D.C., carried translators
and close family members.
Today’s birthdays: Femi-
nist activist Eleanor Smeal
is 83. Jazz musician David
Sanborn is 77. Former Califor-
nia Gov. Arnold Schwarzeneg-
ger is 75. Actor Delta Burke is
66. Singer-songwriter Kate
Bush is 64. Movie director
Richard Linklater is 62. Actor
Lisa Kudrow is 59. Actor
Vivica A. Fox is 58. Movie
director Christopher Nolan
is 52. Actor Tom Green is
51. Actor Christine Taylor
is 51. Actor Hilary Swank
is 48. Olympic gold medal
beach volleyball player Misty
May-Treanor is 45. Former
soccer player Hope Solo is 41.
Actor Joey King is 23.
DIRECTORY
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
541-567-6937
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
All Are Welcome
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
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Services 9:00am Sundays
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Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
10:30 - Worship Service
Wednesday Bible Study
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
32742 Diagonal Rd.
Hermiston, OR
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
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Worship: 10 AM
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PENDLETON
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Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
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541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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First Christian
Church
(DISCIPLES OF CHRIST)
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
215 N. Main • Pendleton
In Person worship Sundays
at 10:00 am
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
Hours: M-F 9:00am-1:00pm
201 SW Dorion Ave.
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