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East Oregonian
Saturday, July 16, 2022
DEAR ABBY
Husband, wife disrespect his parents without remorse
Dear Abby: I have two sons I’m very
proud of. My husband and I have raised them
to be respectful and to make responsible deci-
sions. However, I go to bed in tears each night
feeling we have failed.
Our elder son is married and has a son,
our grandson, “Charlie,” who is dear to our
hearts. Charlie is celebrating his second birth-
day, and our daughter-in-law told me they are
having a birthday party for him and we are
invited. She added that she feels the “second-
ary activities” they are having are the ones
that are the most important and ones he will
remember. We are not invited to participate
in the secondary activities, which include
a hockey game, trip to the petting zoo and
family photos or videos.
We try to support our son and daughter-
in-law, but we do not feel respected and loved
in return. When we invite them for dinner,
they arrive an hour or two late or don’t show have been taken for granted.
up at all. We send them text messages, but
You may have raised your son well, but
they don’t respond. We off er to help
your daughter-in-law appears to be
and are there for them when they ask
running the show. Her parents may
us to be, regardless of our personal
take precedence on the hierarchy of
consequence. What can we do? —
importance, and if that’s the case,
Overfl owing With Love
you and your husband need to clear
Dear Overflowing: When I
the air with your son and his wife,
read that your daughter-in-law told
and sacrifi ce less when they snap
you that you weren’t invited to the
their fi ngers.
special events surrounding Char-
Dear Abby: I have been work-
JEANNE
ing with a therapist on creat-
lie’s birthday, my initial reaction
PHILLIPS
was that she may have thought they
ing healthy boundaries with my
ADVICE
would be too much for you and your
family. I moved out of state with
husband to handle. However, when
my husband to ensure that those
you described that your dinner invitations boundaries are met because my parents
are treated like garbage and they don’t have have alcohol and verbal abuse issues. My
enough respect to return your calls and texts younger sister “Maya” became engaged
in a timely manner, it occurs to me that you recently, and she is at a very exciting time
have been so overfl owing with love that you in her life, planning her wedding.
Here’s the thing: I have no interest in hear-
ing about, helping to plan or being a part of
the wedding because Maya and I have noth-
ing in common other than our parents. She’s
self-absorbed and rude. Her fiance is an
introvert, so getting to know him is incredi-
bly diffi cult. How do I politely convey this to
Maya or (more importantly) my mother with-
out causing hurt feelings? — Moved Away In
The Midwest
Dear Moved: You may not be able to
avoid hearing about the wedding if you are in
communication with your mother and sister.
But you have the advantage of living far away
from them. If you are asked to assist in plan-
ning Maya’s wedding, politely, logically (and
regretfully) explain that your busy sched-
ule as well as the geographic distance make
your involvement impossible. You should,
however, attend if you’re invited.
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago
in the East Oregonian
Persons who deface road, trail, and other signs posted by
the Umatilla National Forest service for the convenience of
campers, tourists and other forest users, as well as forest offi -
cials, are to be prosecuted, according to an announcement
made today by J.C. Kuhns, supervisor. Mr. Kuhns announced
today that Ellis McCoy, J.B. McCoy, John Schmidt, and Cleve
McNeal, all of Stanfi eld, and W.G. Miller and C.E. Lawrence
of Pendleton, have been reported to him as having defaced
signs. Action is to be taken at once.
50 years ago
in the East Oregonian
Drugs by a dispenser machine? No, the laws against use of
narcotics aren’t getting any more lenient. In fact, the purpose
of the drug dispensing system now being introduced in some
hospitals is to reduce the chances of narcotic drugs falling into
the hands of unauthorized persons. Pendleton Community
Hospital recently purchased one of the innovative dispens-
ing machines for about $10,000. The machine insures that
drugs intended for treatment of patients will be safely locked
within its metal framework, instead of behind easily accessi-
ble cupboard doors.
25 years ago
in the East Oregonian
Ever since Sam Miller moved back to Eastern Oregon in
1992, he was bothered by Enterprise High School’s mascot.
The mascot, a cartoon Native American modeled after the old
Cleveland Indians mascot, was inappropriate and disrespect-
ful, said Miller, a Joseph resident who was born and raised in
Milton-Freewater. That discomfort spurred him into action
after he spent an emotional day at the Nez Perce’s dedication of
land in Wallowa County, when the tribe returned Chief Joseph’s
homeland after 120 years of exile. Sitting down to relax with
the back issues of the La Grande newspaper, he came across
the graduation issue featuring area high schools, where he saw
the Enterprise mascot: the Savage. Last week, he petitioned
the school board, which has just sworn in two new members,
to abandon the mascot immediately. The fi ve members – four
of whom are Enterprise alums – unanimously agreed.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
In 1790, a site along the
Potomac River was desig-
nated the permanent seat of
the United States govern-
ment; the area became Wash-
ington, D.C.
In 1862, Flag Officer
David G. Farragut became
the fi rst rear admiral in the
United States Navy.
In 1945, the United States
exploded its first experi-
mental atomic bomb in the
desert of Alamogordo, New
Mexico; the same day, the
heavy cruiser USS Indianap-
olis left Mare Island Naval
Shipyard in California on
a secret mission to deliver
atomic bomb components
to Tinian Island in the Mari-
anas.
In 1951, the novel “The
Catcher in the Rye” by J.D.
Salinger was fi rst published
by Little, Brown and Co.
In 1957, Marine Corps
Maj. John Glenn set a trans-
continental speed record
by f lying a Vought F8U
Crusader jet from California
to New York in 3 hours, 23
minutes and 8.4 seconds.
In 1964, as he accepted
the Republican presidential
nomination in San Fran-
cisco, Barry M. Goldwater
declared that “extremism
in the defense of liberty is
no vice” and that “modera-
tion in the pursuit of justice
is no virtue.”
In 1969, Apollo 11 blasted
off from Cape Kennedy on
the fi rst manned mission to
the surface of the moon.
In 1980, former Califor-
nia Gov. Ronald Reagan won
the Republican presidential
nomination at the party’s
convention in Detroit.
In 1999, John F. Kennedy
Jr., his wife, Carolyn, and her
sister, Lauren Bessette, died
when their single-engine
plane, piloted by Kennedy,
plunged into the Atlantic
Ocean near Martha’s Vine-
yard, Massachusetts.
In 2004, Martha Stewart
was sentenced to fi ve months
in prison and five months
of home confi nement by a
federal judge in New York
for lying about a stock sale.
In 2008, Florida resi-
dent Casey Anthony, whose
2-year-old daughter, Caylee,
had been missing a month,
was arrested on charges
of child neglect, making
false offi cial statements and
obstructing a criminal inves-
tigation. (Casey Anthony
was later acquitted at trial
of murdering Caylee, whose
skeletal remains were found
in December 2008; she was
convicted of lying to police.)
In 2015, a jury in Centen-
nial, Colorado, convicted
James Holmes of 165 counts
of murder, attempted murder
and other charges in the
2012 Aurora movie theater
rampage that left 12 people
dead. A gunman unleashed
a barrage of fi re at a recruit-
ing center and another U.S.
military site a few miles apart
in Chattanooga, Tennessee,
killing four Marines and
a sailor before he was shot
to death by police; author-
ities identifi ed the gunman
as Kuwaiti-born Muham-
mad Youssef Abdulazeez of
Tennessee.
In 2016, Republican
presidential nominee-appar-
ent Donald Trump formally
introduced his running
mate, Mike Pence, during an
event in New York, hailing
the Indiana governor as his
“fi rst choice” and his “part-
ner in the campaign” a day
after announcing the selec-
tion on Twitter.
Ten years ago: Singer
Kitty Wells, whose hits such
as “Making Believe” and
“It Wasn’t God Who Made
Honky Tonk Angels” made
her the fi rst female superstar
of country music, died at age
92.
Five years ago: Ten
people died at a popular
swimming hole in Arizona’s
Tonto National Forest after a
rainstorm unleashed a fl ash
fl ood. Roger Federer won a
record-breaking 8th Wimble-
don title, beating Marin
Cilic 6-3, 6-1, 6-4. British
Church
Solid Rock
Community Church
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actor Jodie Whittaker was
announced as the next star
of the long-running science
fi ction series “Doctor Who”
— the fi rst woman to take a
role that had been played by a
dozen men over six decades.
One year ago: A federal
judge in Texas ruled illegal
an Obama-era program that
prevented the deportation
of thousands of immigrants
who were brought into the
U.S. as children. Rapper
and DJ Biz Markie, known
for the 1989 song “Just a
Friend,” died at the age of 57.
The Eiff el Tower reopened to
tourists for the fi rst time in
nearly nine months, even as
France introduced new rules
aimed at warding off a fourth
surge; they included manda-
tory COVID-19 passes to
enter restaurants and tourist
venues.
Today’s Birthdays: Soul
singer William Bell is 83.
International Tennis Hall of
Famer Margaret Court is 80.
Violinist Pinchas Zukerman
is 74. Playwright Tony Kush-
ner is 66. Actor Faye Grant is
65. Dancer Michael Flatley
is 64. Actor Phoebe Cates
is 59. Actor-comedian Will
Ferrell is 55. Actor Jonathan
Adams is 55. Actor Rain
Pryor is 53. Actor Corey
Feldman is 51. Actor Jayma
Mays is 43. Retired soccer
star Carli Lloyd is 40.
DIRECTORY
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
541-567-6937
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
All Are Welcome
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
JOIN OUR INCLUSIVE
CONGREGATION
ON OUR JOURNEY WITH JESUS
Services 9:00am Sundays
In-person or streaming on
Facebook or Zoom
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
10:30 - Worship Service
Wednesday Bible Study
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
32742 Diagonal Rd.
Hermiston, OR
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
Center for Worship & Service
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
Sundays at 11:00am
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
The Salvation Army
COME AS YOU ARE
COME WORSHIP
WITH US AT THE
COUNTRY
CHURCH
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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PendletonLighthouseChurch
First Christian
Church
(DISCIPLES OF CHRIST)
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
215 N. Main • Pendleton
In Person worship Sundays
at 10:00 am
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
Hours: M-F 9:00am-1:00pm
201 SW Dorion Ave.
PendletonPresbyterian.com
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
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