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East Oregonian
Saturday, June 25, 2022
DEAR ABBY
Live-in boyfriend shames woman for being a mother
Dear Abby: I am a divorced mother of two
teenagers. I’ve been seeing my boyfriend,
“Sean,” for almost fi ve years, and when the
pandemic started, he moved in with us. I am
supposed to share custody of my teens with
their father, alternating weeks. However, his
job requires travel, and the kids are with me
more often than not, with little to no notice.
They are also reaching an age where they don’t
really want to go to their dad’s all the time.
This has caused some tension with my
boyfriend. He feels we never get “alone
time” anymore. He then withholds aff ection
from me, as if I’ve done something wrong by
having my kids. Since he moved in, our sex
life has dwindled to almost nonexistent. He
refuses to be intimate when the kids are home,
yet he hasn’t made the most of the “alone
time” we do have when the kids aren’t here. over your letter. You are going to be an active
He usually goes to bed early, without so much mother until your children are at least 18.
as a goodnight kiss. Or he’ll go out
That this man would move into
on weekend days and not include me.
your home and give you heartburn
I have been cheated on in the past,
about your responsibilities is terri-
and my insecurities are starting to
ble. You state that your sex life
rear their ugly heads. I don’t know
is over, and when you raise other
important issues, he gaslights
how to talk to him because he gets
defensive and gaslights any issues
you. This does not bode well for a
I bring up. I don’t feel safe sharing
healthy future.
His defensiveness when you
my hurt with him, let alone sharing
JEANNE
attempt to have an adult discussion
my anger at him for trying to make
PHILLIPS
me feel bad for being a mom. I’m
with him isn’t your real problem.
ADVICE
losing hope and feel myself shutting
Getting him out of your home and
down. How can I approach him in a
your life before he wastes any more
way that he won’t get defensive? — Fighting of your time is what you should focus on.
A Losing Battle
Dear Abby: What is proper etiquette
Dear Fighting: There are red fl ags all when attending an event and sitting at a
table with more than six people? I think
it’s rude to talk to a person across the table.
Talking to a person next to you is accept-
able. Talking to someone across the table
is rude because the other diners must stop
talking to the person seated next to them
and be forced to listen to your conversa-
tion. Seeing this happen is becoming more
and more annoying. What do you think? —
Forced To Listen
Dear Forced: While that rule of etiquette
may have been true in Edwardian times, table
etiquette today is no longer so rigid. While,
of course, it is desirable to converse with the
guests seated next to you, unless communi-
cating with someone across the table requires
one to shout — which would be distracting
and disruptive — I see nothing rude about it.
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago — 1922
There is very serious strife in Pendleton. It has all come
about by reason of the visit this week of the United Spanish
War Veterans who are here for their annual encampment.
Snakes are the cause of the trouble, and the city government
has been badly cracked. The Military Order of Serpents, the
fun organization of the Spanish veterans, had trouble because
they lost their big snake. They found the reptile, but Mayor
Hartman refused to let the boys put on any snake dances in
Pendleton, even if they are ex-service men. The veterans
appealed to Chief of Police Taylor, and here is where the divi-
sion enters into the battle. Just because the mayor is afraid of
snakes is no reason why the parade can’t be held, the chief
says, so he has told the Serpents to go ahead and glide. And
glide and wriggle they plan to do, they state. Also, they are
looking after the mayor.
50 years ago — 1972
Wheeler County will again have a doctor practicing in
Fossil after July 1, according to County Judge Clarence Asher,
who said Thursday Dr. Walter Buhl will establish a practice in
the county to participate in a federal health service program.
The announcement that Wheeler County will have a doctor
for the fi rst time in fi ve or six years, follows on the heels of an
announcement from Gilliam County that Dr. Richard Schwan,
Condon, is leaving Condon, and that Gilliam County may be
without a doctor.
25 years ago — 1997
Local health care facilities and services will soon be
provided with chemical warfare agent antidote kits. The
Umatilla and Morrow counties Chemical Stockpile Emer-
gency Preparedness Program offi ces have received 480 Mark I
auto-injecting antidote kits from the Oregon Health Division,
said Health Division Spokesman Jan Glarum. “This is a signif-
icant amount of antidote that will be immediately available,”
Glarum said. “We’re one giant step closer to meeting the needs
of our potential patients. The kits are similar to those issued
to American troops during the Gulf War, and were issued to
medical personnel in Atlanta during last summer’s Olympics.
They are becoming a standard part of anti-terrorism emer-
gency management strategies,” he said. The injector contains
two antidote compounds, atropine and 2-PAM chloride. Local
medical experts will train area doctors, nurses and emer-
gency medical technicians in how to use the kits. Eventually,
Glarum said, all medical facilities and ambulance services
in Umatilla and Morrow counties will have the kits. A recent
Health Division study indicated a large-scale release could
bring 900 people to medical facilities, about 30 cases of severe
contamination and the remainder moderately contaminated
or not contaminated at all.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
In 1876, Lt. Col. Colonel
George A. Custer and his 7th
Cavalry were wiped out by
Sioux and Cheyenne Indi-
ans in the Battle of the Little
Bighorn in Montana.
In 1938, the Fair Labor
Standards Act of 1938 was
enacted.
In 1942, Gen. Dwight D.
Eisenhower was designated
Commanding General of the
European Theater of Oper-
ations during World War II.
Some 1,000 British Royal
Air Force bombers raided
Bremen, Germany.
In 1947, “The Diary of
a Young Girl,” the personal
journal of Anne Frank, a
German-born Jewish girl
hiding with her family from
the Nazis in Amsterdam
during World War II, was
fi rst published.
In 1950, war broke out
in Korea as forces from the
communist North invaded
the South.
In 1962, the U.S. Supreme
Court ruled that recitation
of a state-sponsored prayer
in New York State public
schools was unconstitutional.
In 1973, former White
House Counsel John W. Dean
began testifying before the
Senate Watergate Commit-
tee, implicating top admin-
istration offi cials, including
President Richard Nixon as
well as himself, in the Water-
gate scandal and cover-up.
In 1990, the U.S. Supreme
Court, in its fi rst “right-to-
die” decision, ruled that
family members could be
barred from ending the lives
of persistently comatose rela-
tives who had not made their
wishes known conclusively.
In 1993, Kim Campbell
was sworn in as Canada’s
19th prime minister, the fi rst
woman to hold the post.
In 1996, a truck bomb
killed 19 Americans and
injured hundreds at a U.S.
military housing complex in
Saudi Arabia.
In 2009, death claimed
Michael Jackson, the “King
of Pop,” in Los Angeles at age
50 and actor Farrah Fawcett
in Santa Monica, California,
at age 62.
In 2015, the U.S. Supreme
Court upheld nationwide tax
subsidies under President
Barack Obama’s health care
overhaul in a 6-3 ruling that
preserved health insurance
for millions of Americans.
In 2016, Pope Francis
visited Armenia, where he
recognized the Ottoman-era
slaughter of Armenians as a
genocide, prompting a harsh
rebuttal from Turkey.
Ten years ago: A divided
U.S. Supreme Court threw
out major parts of Arizona’s
tough crackdown on people
living in the U.S. without
legal permission, while unan-
imously upholding the law’s
most-discussed provision:
requiring police to check the
immigration status of those
they stop for other reasons,
but limiting the legal conse-
quences.
Five years ago: In eastern
Pakistan, an overturned oil
tanker burst into fl ames, kill-
ing at least 150 people who
had rushed to the scene to
gather leaking fuel.
One year ago: Former
Minneapolis police offi-
cer Derek Chauvin was
sentenced to 221⁄2 years
in prison for the murder
of George Floyd, whose
dying gasps under Chau-
vin’s knee led to the biggest
outcry against racial injus-
tice in the U.S. in genera-
tions. Searchers used big
machines and their hands
to comb through a twisted,
shifting heap of concrete and
metal, a day after an oceans-
ide condominium building
near Miami collapsed into
a smoldering pile of rubble,
killing 98 people. The Justice
Department sued Georgia
over the state’s new election
law, saying it was intended
to deny Black voters equal
access to the ballot. (The
lawsuit is pending.)
Today’s Birthdays: Civil
rights activist James Meredith
is 89. Actor Barbara Montgom-
ery is 83. Actor Mary Beth Peil
is 82. Singer Carly Simon is 77.
Supreme Court Justice Sonia
Sotomayor is 68. Actor Erica
Gimpel is 58. Basketball Hall
of Famer Dikembe Mutombo
is 56. Actor Angela Kinsey is
51. Rock musician Actor Linda
Cardellini is 47. Actor Busy
Philipps is 43.
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