COFFEE BREAK
Saturday, June 18, 2022
East Oregonian
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DEAR ABBY
Grown child wants mom to move past divorce
Dear Abby: When my sibling and I were
6 and 10, our parents sat us down and told us
they were getting a divorce because Dad had
an aff air. Mom was, to say the least, incred-
ibly hurt. Her hurt and resentment haven’t
subsided to this day. Dad has never apolo-
gized to her, but he has supported her fi nan-
cially ever since.
Mom has tried therapy, but the minute
a therapist upsets her, she stops going. My
parents both now live near my sister to help
care for her twins. Mom is constantly upset
with things Dad does or that he’s not friendly
enough with her. She says he is nicer to
strangers than he is with her.
I don’t want to seem insensitive, but they
have now been divorced longer than they
were married. It’s exhausting, and it is start-
ing to feel like we are enabling her. I hate
that what happened has defi ned the last two
decades of her life. Is there something I can
say to communicate that it’s way past time For your own sake, when she starts complain-
to be over this, but in a nicer way that may ing about your father, change the subject, end
be helpful, and maybe won’t leave her too the conversation or tune out. Enabling her
much room to tell me I’m victim blaming? isn’t helping either of you.
— What’s Past Has Passed
Dear Abby: My husband and I
Dear What’s Past: I, too, am
have a business and work together.
sorry about what happened to your
He takes care of sales, and I keep
parents’ marriage. That your mother
the books. I have raised his chil-
has been unable to move beyond
dren, scheduled all appointments
and taken care of everyone’s needs,
the divorce and quits therapy the
minute a therapist says something
including the pets. I also do all the
she doesn’t want to hear is very sad
cooking, cleaning, laundry, shop-
— for her. What you need to under-
ping, etc.
JEANNE
stand is that some people cling to
I tend to suff er from depression
PHILLIPS
their “victimhood” for comfort. It
and need at least eight hours of sleep
ADVICE
buff ers them from having to recog-
each night. Because of this, I work
nize their own contribution to their
at the offi ce only four to fi ve hours
a day. My husband cannot understand why
failure.
Because you have tried in the past with- I don’t work eight to 10 hours a day. I get
out success to help your mother let go of her done what needs to be done. Of the many
bitterness, I’m advising you to stop trying. other businesses we’ve known, the wives
are expected to do this. How do I make him
understand? — Working Enough In Cali-
fornia
Dear Working Enough: From your
description of your weekly activities, you
are not only living up to normal expectations,
but exceeding them. Explain to your husband
that people are individuals. Human bodies
don’t all function alike. If he can’t get that
through his head, have your doctor explain
it to him.
Has he considered what it would cost him
to hire someone else to do all the jobs you are
doing? Perhaps he should consider that before
criticizing and fl ogging you to do more. Tell
him you’ll spend an extra hour or so at the
offi ce if he agrees to take up some of the slack
at home.
P.S. I can understand why you “tend to
suff er from depression.” You are married to
a slave driver.
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago — 1922
No more will it be possible for the sportsman with plenty
of time and money to enjoy two or three deer seasons, or two
or three pheasant seasons in Oregon. The change comes as
a result of action by the state game commission yesterday
which makes the seasons in all parts of the state uniform. This
is the fi rst time Oregon has had such provisions. “Modern
transportation and good roads have eliminated sectional lines
and made it possible for sportsmen to travel quickly from
one part of the state to another and thus enjoy two or three
open seasons,” declared Captain A. E. Burghduff , state game
warden, in explaining the reasons for the commission’s action.
“This new rule of uniform seasons will prevent sportsmen
from going from one part of the state to another to hunt and
will help the game wardens in enforcing the law, as well as in
helping to protect more game birds.”
50 years ago — 1972
You have a dental appointment, but nobody to watch Susie
while you get those fi llings. Or you just want to get away from
the kids for a while, and no baby sitter is available on the spur
of the moment. Kiddie Korner Drop-in Center opening Tues-
day at Hawthorne Court, 413 SW 13th St., will provide a place
you can leave the youngsters, providing they’re 2 to 10 years
old. The center will be able to accommodate 24 to 30 chil-
dren at a time. But personnel at the center aren’t interested in
providing regular baby sitting services. “It’s more of a service
to parents who can’t get a sitter on the spur of the moment,”
explained Lois Wilson, director of the Coordinated Commu-
nity Child Care Council. Children can be left for a maximum
of four hours. The charge will be 50 cents per hour per child.
Snacks of milk, fruit, juice and cookies will be provided in
the morning and evening.
25 years ago — 1997
Water is a bargain for Pendleton residents, according to
a city survey. The city’s water rates rank in the lower third
statewide, and even if increases are approved, Pendleton will
retain its low ranking, according to a comparative water-rate
survey conducted by the city in April. Here’s how Pendle-
ton’s rates compare to other Oregon cities: In Pendleton, a
resident pays $14.91 for 10,098 gallons of water. For the same
amount of water, it costs $26.66 in Ashland, $14.33 in Bend,
$22.98 in The Dalles, $15.45 in Hermiston and $10.44 in La
Grande. During the past year a Pendleton family of four used
an average of 11,635 gallons of water each month. A reso-
lution to increase water rates by 15 percent each of the next
three years goes before the City Council Tuesday night. It’s
part of the city’s proposal for saving money to help pay for
construction of a water treatment plant and other renovations
to the water system.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
In 1778, American forces
entered Philadelphia as the
British withdrew during the
Revolutionary War.
In 1812, the War of 1812
began as the United States
Congress approved, and
President James Madison
signed, a declaration of war
against Britain.
In 1815, Napoleon Bona-
parte met defeat at Water-
loo as British and Prussian
troops defeated the French in
Belgium.
In 1940, during World
War II, British Prime Minis-
ter Winston Churchill urged
his countrymen to conduct
themselves in a manner that
would prompt future gener-
ations to say, “This was
their fi nest hour.” Charles de
Gaulle delivered a speech on
the BBC in which he rallied
his countrymen after the fall
of France to Nazi Germany.
In 1971, Southwest
Airlines began operations,
with fl ights between Dallas
and San Antonio, and Dallas
and Houston.
In 1979, President Jimmy
Carter and Soviet President
Leonid I. Brezhnev signed
the SALT II strategic arms
limitation treaty in Vienna.
In 1983, astronaut Sally
K. Ride became America’s
fi rst woman in space as she
and four colleagues blasted
off aboard the space shut-
tle Challenger on a six-day
mission.
In 1986, 25 people were
killed when a twin-engine
plane and helicopter carry-
ing sightseers collided over
the Grand Canyon.
I n 1992 , t he U.S.
Supreme Court, in Georgia v.
McCollum, ruled that crimi-
nal defendants could not use
race as a basis for excluding
potential jurors from their
trials.
In 2010, death row inmate
Ronnie Lee Gardner died in
a barrage of bullets as Utah
carried out its first firing
squad execution in 14 years.
(Gardner had been sentenced
to death for fatally shooting
attorney Michael Burdell
during a failed escape
attempt from a Salt Lake
City courthouse.)
In 2011, Clarence Clem-
ons, the saxophone player for
the E Street Band who was
one of the key infl uences in
Bruce Springsteen’s life and
music, died in Florida at age
69.
In 2020, the Supreme
Court, in a 5-4 decision,
rejected President Donald
Trump’s eff ort to end legal
protections for 650,000
young immigrants.
Ten years ago: Former
baseball star Roger Clem-
ens was acquitted in Wash-
ington, D.C. on all charges
that he’d obstructed and lied
to Congress when he denied
using performance-enhanc-
ing drugs. R.A. Dickey
became the first major
league pitcher in 24 years to
throw consecutive one-hit-
ters in the New York Mets’
5-0 victory over the Balti-
more Orioles. (The previous
pitcher to throw consecutive
one-hitters was Dave Stieb
for Toronto in September
1988.) Actor Victor Spin-
etti, 82, died in Wales; he
had appeared in three 1960s
Beatles fi lms.
Five years ago: Char-
leena Lyles, a 30-year-old
Black mother of four, was
shot and killed by two white
Seattle police offi cers after
she called 911 to report a
burglary; authorities said
Church
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Lyles had pulled a knife on
the offi cers. Brooks Koepka
closed with a 5-under 67 to
win the U.S. Open for his
fi rst major championship.
One year ago: Iranians
voted in a presidential elec-
tion that would bring a land-
slide victory to the country’s
hard-line judiciary chief,
Ebrahim Raisi, the protege
of Supreme Leader Ayatol-
lah Ali Khamenei; Raisi
had already been sanctioned
by the U.S., partly over his
involvement in the mass
execution of thousands of
political prisoners in 1988.
Today’s bi r thdays:
Sir Paul McCartney is 80.
Actor Linda Thorson is 75.
Actor Isabella Rossellini
is 70. Actor Carol Kane is
70. Actor Brian Benben is
66. Actor Andrea Evans
is 65. Rock singer Alison
Moyet is 61. Figure skater
Kurt Browning is 56. R&B
singer Nathan Morris (Boyz
II Men) is 51. Actor Mara
Hobel is 51. Actor Alana de
la Garza is 46. Actor David
Giuntoli is 42. Actor Renee
Olstead is 33. Actor Jacob
Anderson is 32. Actor Willa
Holland is 31.
DIRECTORY
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
ONLI NE and I N-PERSON SERVI CES
541.276.1894
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PendletonPresbyterian.com
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
201 SW Dorion Ave.
S U N D A Y S | 8 : 3 0 A M & 10:00 A M
712 SW 27TH
www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make
disciples who make disciples
Facebook.com/PendletonPresbyterian
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
541-289-4535
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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PendletonLighthouseChurch
The Salvation Army
Solid Rock
Community Church
Sunday Worship Service
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
10:30 - Worship Service
541-567-6937
Center for Worship & Service
9:30 - Sunday School
Wednesday Bible Study
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
COME AS YOU ARE
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
All Are Welcome
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
First Christian
Church
(DISCIPLES OF CHRIST)
COME WORSHIP
WITH US AT THE
COUNTRY
CHURCH
Sundays at 11:00am
32742 Diagonal Rd.
Hermiston, OR
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
JOIN OUR INCLUSIVE
CONGREGATION
ON OUR JOURNEY WITH JESUS
Services 9:00am Sundays
In-person or streaming on
Facebook or Zoom
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
215 N. Main • Pendleton
In Person worship Sundays
at 10:00 am
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
Hours: M-F 9:00am-1:00pm
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
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