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East Oregonian
Saturday, June 4, 2022
DEAR ABBY
Daughter feels powerless to help aging father
Dear Abby: My dad, who is nearing 80,
has been married to my stepmom, “Ruth,” for
nearly 35 years. She has always been tempera-
mental and controlling to a degree, but during
the last few years it has become abundantly
clear that she’s emotionally abusive to my
dad.
Twenty years ago, I moved to another
coast, and although Dad wanted to visit, the
decision was always up to Ruth, so they never
did. However, when it comes to her immedi-
ate family, Dad is required to attend every
event. During COVID I moved just a few
states away, and that’s when I got the full
picture. Ruth took away Dad’s cellphone and
sold his car, so he is virtually stuck. She will
not even let him mention purchasing a vehicle.
He’s an artist, and she never “allowed” him
to get a studio.
The list is long, sad and frustrating. He
forbids me to confront her, but it is giving broke up with my long-term high school
me daily stress because I love my dad and I boyfriend a few months ago. He was a cheat-
fear her control is something he has
ing dirtbag, so I moved on quickly.
grown accustomed to. Any advice?
I have been enjoying the single life,
— Distressed Daughter In The
but now fi nd myself in a bit of a love
South
triangle.
Dear Daughter: As repugnant
“Derek” is blond and short, and
as the situation may be to you, I do
loves to go to the gym. He’s kind
not think you should try to reduce
and attentive, and he seems to care
your stress by creating more for
very much for me. He invited me to
your father. He has forbidden you
his formal dance, but I turned him
JEANNE
from confronting his wife about her
down because I didn’t know him
PHILLIPS
hypercontrolling behavior, and you
very well. He didn’t take anyone
ADVICE
should respect his wishes. I don’t
else even though he had plenty of
have to like it; you don’t have to like
time to fi nd a date. My friend at the
it. But this is what your father has been will- dance said he didn’t even talk to another girl,
ing to accept for the last 35 years. He and only so I know he’s very loyal already.
he could have put a stop to it or left her if he
The other contender, “Shay,” is taller and
has dark hair. He has kind, blue eyes and a shy
had really wanted to.
Dear Abby: I’m a college student who personality, although with me he really opens
up and talks. He always checks in to see how
I’m doing when I’ve had a rough day. In the
simplest terms, he puts up with my nonsense.
He has seen me at some of my worst moments
and still showed compassion.
I’m genuinely torn between these two and
don’t know how to choose because I don’t
want to lose either of them. What do I do? —
Boy Crazy In Iowa
Dear Boy Crazy: I have good news.
Because nowhere in your letter did you
mention that either of these young men have
asked you for an exclusive relationship, you
do not “have” to make a diffi cult choice.
Some people like both chocolate AND
vanilla ice cream. I suggest you be honest
with them and enjoy seeing them both until
the answer to your question becomes obvi-
ous. (Feel free to write me again if you meet
a handsome redhead.)
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago — 1922
With the purchase of 15 head of pure-bred Ayrshire cattle,
F. H. Mytinger & Son have become not only the owners of
the largest herd of this kind in Eastern Oregon but have the
distinction of owning the only cattle of this breed in Umatilla
county. Recently the Mytingers purchased Wenatchee Prince,
a yearling bull, from E. W. Van Tassell of Wenatchee. The bull
carries the best blood lines of the breed. This week a three
months old heifer was bought from Eugene Atkinson, Ayrshire
breeder of Tillamook. The next addition to the herd will be 13
head of cows and heifers, bought from J. U. Smith of Newberg,
and to be shipped here June 10. Ayrshires as a breed have not
been as widely advertised as some other breeds owing to the
disposition on the part of the Scotch, who control the breed,
to do as little advertising as possible. The mature cattle are
of medium dairy size, are large milk producers and yet are
more beefy than some other dairy breeds. Ayrshire milk is
of good average quality. While the butter fat content is not
extremely high, the quality of the milk for whole milk purpose
is exceptionally good. The purchase of these dairy cattle places
Mytinger & Son in the class of progressive breeders.
50 years ago — 1972
Vandals with rifl es were blamed for a two-hour power
outage early Saturday morning in the Heppner, Ione and
Butter Creek area. Harold Cantrell, manager of the Walla
Walla area for the Bonneville Power Administration, said
54 insulators on the three structures on the Boardman-Ione
transmission line just south of the Boardman Bombing
Range were shot. Cantrell said the Morrow County sher-
iff ’s offi ce and the Federal Bureau of Investigation were
investigating.
25 years ago — 1997
The building that now houses the Arts Center of Pendleton,
formerly the city library, appears destined for the National
Register of Historic Places. The building has received a state
nomination to the register, according to Sally Donovan of
Hood River who helped with the application process. Donovan
said that if Pendleton’s Arts Center is placed on the register it
“opens up doors to apply for small grants.” Erected in 1916 for
use as a countywide public library, the building is recognized
as being a well-preserved example of Italian Renaissance
style. Designed by Portland architect Folger Johnson, the
building includes refl ections of Renaissance in its low-pitched
tile roof, round-arched windows, embellished cornice, Ionic
columns and turned balusters. The entrance was modeled
after the Pazzie Chapel of the church of Santa Croce in Flor-
ence, Italy. Johnson studied at the Ecoles des Beaux Arts in
Paris and was inspired by classical architecture.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
In 1812, the U.S. House
of Representatives approved,
79-49, a declaration of war
against Britain.
I n 1919, Cong ress
approved the 19th Amend-
ment to the U.S. Constitu-
tion, which said that the right
to vote could not be denied
or abridged based on gender.
The amendment was sent to
the states for ratifi cation.
In 1939, the German
ocean liner MS St. Louis,
carrying more than 900
Jewish ref ugees f rom
Germany, was turned away
from the Florida coast by
U.S. offi cials.
In 1940, during World
War II, the Allied military
evacuation of some 338,000
t roops f rom Dun kirk,
France, ended. British Prime
Minister Winston Churchill
declared: “We shall fi ght on
the beaches, we shall fi ght on
the landing grounds, we shall
fi ght in the fi elds and in the
streets, we shall fi ght in the
hills; we shall never surren-
der.”
In 1942, the World War
II Battle of Midway began,
resulting in a decisive Ameri-
can victory against Japan and
marking the turning point of
the war in the Pacifi c.
In 1944, U-505, a German
submarine, was captured by
a U.S. Navy task group in the
south Atlantic; it was the fi rst
such capture of an enemy
vessel at sea by the U.S. Navy
since the War of 1812. The
U.S. Fifth Army began liber-
ating Rome.
In 1967, “Mission:
Impossible” won outstand-
ing dramatic series, “The
Mon kees” outstanding
comedy series at the 19th
Primetime Emmy Awards.
In 1985, the Supreme
Court upheld a lower court
ruling striking down an
Alabama law providing for
a daily minute of silence in
public schools.
In 1986, Jonathan Jay
Pollard, a former U.S. Navy
intelligence analyst, pleaded
guilty in Washington to
conspiring to deliver infor-
mation related to the national
defense to Israel. (Pollard,
sentenced to life in prison,
was released on parole on
Nov. 20, 2015; he moved to
Israel after completing parole
in December 2020.)
In 1989, a gas explosion
in the Soviet Union engulfed
two passing trains, killing
575.
In 1990, Dr. Jack Kevork-
ian carried out his first
publicly assisted suicide,
helping Janet Adkins, a
54-year-old Alzheimer’s
patient from Por tland,
Oregon, end her life in
Oakland County, Michigan.
In 1998, a federal judge
sentenced Terry Nichols
to life in prison for his role
in the 1995 bombing of the
Alfred P. Murrah Federal
Building in Oklahoma City.
In 2020, in the fi rst of a
series of memorials set for
three cities over six days,
celebrities, musicians and
political leaders gathered
in front of George Floyd’s
golden casket in Minneapo-
lis.
Today’s Birthdays: Sex
therapist and media person-
ality Dr. Ruth Westheimer
is 94. Actor-singer Michelle
Phillips is 78. Jazz musician
Anthony Braxton is 77. Actor
Keith David is 66. Blues sing-
er-musician Tinsley Ellis is
65. Actor Julie White is 61.
Actor Lindsay Frost is 60.
Former tennis player Andrea
Jaeger is 57. Opera singer
Cecilia Bartoli is 56.Actor
Scott Wolf is 54. Comedian
Horatio Sanz is 53. Actor
Noah Wyle is 51. Actor
Angelina Jolie is 47. Actor
Theo Rossi is 47. Alt-coun-
try singer Kasey Chambers is
46. Actor Robin Lord Taylor
is 44. Model Bar Refaeli is 37.
Olympic gold medal fi gure
skater Evan Lysacek is 37.
CHURCH DIRECTORY
201 SW Dorion Ave.
PendletonPresbyterian.com
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
Facebook.com/PendletonPresbyterian
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
10:30 - Worship Service
Wednesday Bible Study
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
COME AS YOU ARE
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
COME WORSHIP
WITH US AT THE
COUNTRY
CHURCH
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
ONLI NE and I N-PERSON SERVI CES
S U N D A Y S | 8 : 3 0 A M & 10:00 A M
Sundays at 11:00am
541.276.1894
32742 Diagonal Rd.
Hermiston, OR
JOIN OUR INCLUSIVE
CONGREGATION
ON OUR JOURNEY WITH JESUS
Services 9:00am Sundays
In-person or streaming on
Facebook or Zoom
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
|
712 SW 27TH
www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make
disciples who make disciples
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
401 Northgate, Pendleton
401 Northgate, Pendleton
Celebration
of Worship
Celebration
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
of Worship
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
Sundays 10:00 am
Youth:
0-6th
grade
Midweek
Service
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
www.facebook.com/
PendletonLighthouseChurch
Midweek Service
Solid Rock
Community Church
Wednesdays 6:00 pm
Overcomer’s
Outreach
Youth: 0-6th
grade
’ High
Jr./Sr.
541-567-6937
541-278-8082
www.livingwordcc.com
www.livingwordcc.com
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
All Are Welcome
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
First Christian
Church
(DISCIPLES OF CHRIST)
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
Pastor Sharon Miller
Pastor Sharon Miller
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
215 N. Main • Pendleton
In Person worship Sundays
at 10:00 am
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
Hours: M-F 9:00am-1:00pm
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