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East Oregonian
PEANUTS
COFFEE BREAK
Thursday, May 26, 2022
DEAR ABBY
BY CHARLES M. SCHULZ
Mother pretends that
abuse never happened
FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE
B.C.
PICKLES
BEETLE BAILEY
BY LYNN JOHNSTON
BY MASTROIANNI AND HART
BY BRIAN CRANE
and which prevents you from
Dear Abby: One of my sib-
forming relationships. Those is-
lings was abused as a child. In
sues might be resolved if, as an
turn, he abused me when he was
adult, you consult another li-
a pre-teen and into his teens. It
censed psychotherapist. I hope
stopped when he got a girlfriend
you will consider it.
at the age of 14. This was news
Dear Abby: I am a woman
to my parents.
who is engaged to a wonder-
Now that the cat is out of the
J EANNE
ful woman who has a busy life.
bag, I have tried to explain to
P
HILLIPS
We met online 18 months ago
my mom that I don’t like being
ADVICE
and felt an instant connection.
around him. She has heard me,
She has two grown children, a
but she pretends like it didn’t
16-year-old son, two grandchil-
happen and still tries to get ev-
eryone together for holidays, etc. The dren and one on the way. We live five
hours apart and see each other every
idea of seeing him makes me sick.
I went to therapy as a young adult to three weeks.
My concern is that we talk only once
work out my issues with him and what
happened. The abuse has affected my or twice during the week and maybe text
ability to hold onto relationships, and I once a day. It is not enough for me. I have
fight depression often, which I am good expressed how I feel, but I think she’s just
at hiding. She keeps saying, “but you too busy. She plans on moving in with
were so close as kids.” I don’t think she me once we are married. I recently pur-
understands what “grooming” is. Can chased a brand-new home. Because she
you PLEASE explain it in a manner that is so involved in her family’s lives, I can’t
doesn’t make me feel like it was all my see her leaving them to live with me. What
should I do? — Nervous In New Jersey
fault? — Getting Beyond It
Dear Nervous: You and your fiancee
Dear Getting: Your fault? NONE of
what happened was your fault! Predators need to have a serious, in-depth conver-
groom victims by first establishing a close sation about how this will work. It is im-
relationship with them, telling them they portant you two clarify how she plans
are “special,” that their bond is special, to divide her time between you and her
that the usual rules of behavior do not family because, right now, you are get-
apply to them, bestowing time, attention ting the short end of the stick. Will the
and gifts, and pledging them to secrecy. 16-year-old live with you? Because you
aren’t getting what you need from this re-
Please show this to your mother.
I am concerned by your statement lationship despite the fact that you have
that the abuse has caused you to be de- explained what your needs are, it may be
pressed, which you are “good at hiding,” time to rethink this romance.
BY MORT WALKER
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago — 1922
GARFIELD
BY JIM DAVIS
A wholesale house of which the members
of the Charles Co., dealers in confectionary
and tobacco, will be the proprietors, will be
built on Garden street, next door to the L. S.
Bentley automobile supply house, accord-
ing to announcement made today by Blaine
Burton, who with B. B. Bybee, of Walla
Walla, comprises the company. Work prepa-
ratory to the construction of the Pendleton
building began today. The structure will cost
$6,000. It will be a one story building.
50 years ago — 1972
BLONDIE
BY DEAN YOUNG AND JOHN MARSHALL
A 100-year-old stagecoach stop became
Umatilla County’s 12th incorporated city
Tuesday as residents of Ukiah voted 64-35
for incorporation. Within 80 days, another
election will be called to elect five council-
men, and those five men will choose one of
their number as mayor. Lloyd Waid, Ukiah,
one of the leaders in the years-long effort to
get Ukiah its first-class water system and then
the move toward incorporation, said today
that one of the big benefits of the incorpora-
tion will be to reduce the number of meet-
ings in the community of 210. Ukiah now
has a parks board, a water association, a fire
control group, and others. “Now we can give
all those jobs to the council and handle all the
city’s business at one meeting a month,” Waid
said. Becoming a city “should help us work
together to solve our problems.” Beginning as
a stagecoach stop, Ukiah developed a dairy-
ing industry to furnish butter and cheese to
the gold mining district in the south.
25 years ago — 1997
Gordon’s Electric and Heating of Pendle-
ton closed a deal with a Melbourne, Australia,
electrical engineering and contracting firm to
help design and install equipment for a new
pelleting and cubing mill. The mill is being
built in Gunbower, Australia, by Teangi Stock
Feeds, a company that produces livestock
feed in southern Australia and exports live-
stock to Asia. Gordon’s Electric and Heating
built the control panel that provides operator
interface to the cubing portion of the mill.
In March, it was selected to design and aid
in the installation and control work for the
cubing part of the mill, whose equipment was
built by Cooper’s Equipment Inc. of Burley,
Idaho. Cubing takes alfalfa, or a combina-
tion of alfalfa and other feeds, and processes
it into cubes. Gordon’s Electric and Heating
has more than 10 years experience with the
cubing industry.
TODAY IN HISTORY
DILBERT
THE WIZARD OF ID
LUANN
ZITS
BY SCOTT ADAMS
BY PARKER AND HART
BY GREG EVANS
BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN
On May 26, 1972, Pres-
ident Richard M. Nixon
and Soviet leader Leonid
Brezhnev signed the Anti-
Ballistic Missile Treaty in
Moscow. (The U.S. with-
drew from the treaty in
2002.)
In 1864, President
Abraham Lincoln signed
a measure creating the
Montana Territory.
In 1865, Confederate
forces west of the Missis-
sippi surrendered in New
Orleans.
In 1938, the House Un-
American Activities Com-
mittee was established by
Congress.
In 1971, Don McLean
recorded his song “Ameri-
can Pie” at The Record
Plant in New York City (it
was released the following
November by United Art-
ists Records).
In 1994, Michael Jack-
son and Lisa Marie Pres-
ley were married in the
Dominican Republic.
In 2009, President Ba-
rack Obama nominated
federal appeals judge So-
nia Sotomayor to the U.S.
Supreme Court. Cali-
fornia’s Supreme Court
upheld the Proposition 8
gay marriage ban but said
the 18,000 same-sex wed-
dings that had taken place
before the prohibition
passed were still valid.
In 2011, Ratko Mladic,
the brutal Bosnian Serb
general suspected of lead-
ing the massacre of 8,000
Muslim men and boys,
was arrested after a 16-
year manhunt. (Mladic
was extradited to face tri-
al in The Hague, Nether-
lands; he was convicted in
2017 on genocide and war
crimes charges and is serv-
ing a life sentence.)
In 2020, Minneapolis
police issued a statement
saying George Floyd had
died after a “medical in-
cident,” and that he had
physically resisted offi-
cers and appeared to be
in medical distress; min-
utes after the statement
was released, bystander
video was posted online.
Protests over Floyd’s
death began, with tense
skirmishes
developing
between protesters and
Minneapolis police. Four
police officers who were
involved in Floyd’s arrest
were fired.
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
BY DANA SIMPSON
BIG NATE
BY LINCOLN PEIRCE