A14 East Oregonian PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK Thursday, May 12, 2022 DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M. SCHULZ Mom wants to keep kids in the dark about death FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE B.C. PICKLES BEETLE BAILEY BY LYNN JOHNSTON BY MASTROIANNI AND HART BY BRIAN CRANE have offered an apology to her Dear Abby: My daughter-in- privately. Back off and lie low law, “Brooke,” lost her grand- until the funeral. Your DIL is father five weeks ago. She has not herself right now. She needs chosen not to tell her 4- and time to cool off and regain some 10-year-old kids about it. She perspective. has ordered my husband, me Dear Abby: When my hus- and our son not to mention it. band leaves town for a work trip The kids see her grandmother J EANNE or a vacation, or if I’m out of at least once a week, and SHE P HILLIPS town for any period of time, we is not supposed to tell them ei- ADVICE are suddenly in love again! We ther. miss each other like crazy and I didn’t know the kids hadn’t send loving texts and exchange been told and I started to say something at a family dinner. The mushy phone calls. When he’s home and we’re living life 10-year-old heard me, and I got shushed. I’m mad at the whole situation. Brooke with jobs, kids, bills and responsibilities, refuses to tell them “until she’s ready,” we are disconnected and distant. We in- and I couldn’t disagree more. I under- teract more as partners and friends than stand her grief. I have lost grandparents romantic lovers. We’ve been married for and parents. The services won’t be for 21 years, and it’s always been this way. several weeks. I understand she can’t deal Does absence truly make the heart grow with the loss yet, but denying her kids fonder, or can we stand each other only the truth only delays her grieving process when we’re not together? — Perplexed and also doesn’t allow them their time to In Texas Dear Perplexed: Absence doesn’t al- grieve and process. Now Brooke is mad and screaming ways make the heart grow fonder, nor and crying about it. I’m trying to back does it necessarily drive a wedge between off, but I’m angry that her needs are be- a couple whose marriage has a strong ing put first and at being told I made a foundation. That when you are apart you horrible mistake by offering the love and your husband feel the need for the and caring I thought they needed. How romantic connection that brought you can I repair the perceived mistake I have together tells me your marriage is strong in spite of the responsibilities of your made? — Vexed In Vermont Dear Vexed: If you were unaware that daily lives. Have you considered treating your DIL was trying to shield her kids yourselves to an occasional date night, from the reality of their great-grand- just the two of you, away from the dis- father’s death when you spoke out, you tractions of the children? If you haven’t, did nothing wrong. However, you should I’ll bet you would both enjoy it. BY MORT WALKER DAYS GONE BY 100 years ago — 1922 GARFIELD BY JIM DAVIS The raising of sugar beets to supply the Utah-Idaho Sugar Co. is an experiment which will be tried at Stanfield, in the hopes that the beets, which thrive best in rather heavy irrigated soil and which resist alkali, can be grown successfully. Manager Rosenfeld, manager of the Walla Walla district of the sugar company, and Fred Bennion left today for Stanfield with enough beet seed supplied by Mr. Rosenfeld to plant several small tracts. The first growths will be used for extending the crop. The beets are shipped to the compa- ny’s plant in Toppenish and Yakima, Wash- ington, there being no factory in Oregon. 50 years ago — 1972 BLONDIE BY DEAN YOUNG AND JOHN MARSHALL Girls 10-15 who like to play ball won’t feel left out this summer in Pendleton. For the first time, a girls’ softball league will be organized by the city recreation department. John Shef- fold, city recreation director, said Pendle- ton’s Little League organization removed the big stumbling block that faced the girls’ program — a place to play. The girls have been invited to play their games at the Little League park on SE Byers from 1-4 p.m. when Little League teams aren’t using it. The city recreation department will furnish equipment for the games but teams that form will have to furnish their own practice equipment. 25 years ago — 1997 At 10 a.m. Saturday, May 17, Dave Fair- ley will accept bids from those who want to own the rustic log cabin carefully crafted by students at Weston-McEwen High School in Athena. It measures 16-by-16 feet, and comes equipped with a half loft. It is hewn from fully-scribed lodge pole pine donated by The Masonite Corp. Andy Muncy and Bill Corley of Masonite organized the donation and delivered the logs to the school. Once the logs arrived, the designing began. Students relied on their previous drafting and wood- tech classes for help as they began from scratch. Led by teacher David Lange and parent-volunteer David Lynde, 14 young men created their own structure. In doing so, they utilized the most difficult method of log cabin construction: chinkless, or Swedish Cope. The students learned valuable lessons in team- work as the project progressed. The cabin is now on display for prospective bidders. Once purchased, the students will break the building down for the owner to transport. The structure is complete with walls, rafters, floor joist and a rustic, Adirondack-style porch. TODAY IN HISTORY DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY SCOTT ADAMS BY PARKER AND HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN On May 12, 1949, the Soviet Union lifted the Berlin Blockade, which the Western powers had succeeded in circumvent- ing with their Berlin Air- lift. In 1932, the body of Charles Lindbergh Jr., the 20-month-old kidnapped son of Charles and Anne Lindbergh, was found in a wooded area near Hopewell, New Jersey. In 1933, the Federal Emergency Relief Admin- istration and the Agricul- tural Adjustment Admin- istration were established to provide help for the needy and farmers. In 1943, during World War II, Axis forces in North Africa surren- dered. The two-week Tri- dent Conference, headed by President Franklin D. Roosevelt and Brit- ish Prime Minister Win- ston Churchill, opened in Washington. In 1958, the United States and Canada signed an agreement to create the North American Air De- fense Command (later the North American Aero- space Defense Command, or NORAD). In 1970, the Senate voted unanimously to confirm Harry A. Black- mun as a Supreme Court justice. In 1975, the White House announced the new Cambodian govern- ment had seized an Amer- ican merchant ship, the Mayaguez, in internation- al waters. (U.S. Marines gained control of the ship three days after its seizure, not knowing the 39 civil- ian members of the crew had already been released by Cambodia.) In 1982, in Fatima, Portugal, security guards overpowered a Span- ish priest armed with a bayonet who attacked Pope John Paul II. (In 2008, the pope’s longtime private secretary revealed that the pontiff was slightly wounded in the assault.) In 1986, the military action-drama film “Top Gun,” starring Tom Cruise and Kelly McGillis and released by Paramount Pictures, had its world premiere in New York. PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN BY DANA SIMPSON BIG NATE BY LINCOLN PEIRCE