COFFEE BREAK
Saturday, April 30, 2022
East Oregonian
A11
DEAR ABBY
Childhood sexual abuse puts woman on diffi cult path
Dear Abby: I’m a widow in a new rela-
tionship. I was molested for years by an older
sibling. When my behavior became trouble-
some — skipping school, becoming anti-
social — I was sent to a reform school for
several years. The sibling was sent into the
army.
When I was released from the school, I
drifted into worse relationships and into the
sex trade. I got out of that after six months.
I’ve always felt like a “good girl,” but the
past haunts me. I used to talk about the abuse
constantly. It was always in the back of my
mind. It still pops up on a regular basis, but
I have not told my new partner.
A friend once told me that people don’t
need to know everything about you, and I
believe that. Some folks blamed me for the
abuse, although it started before I was 8.
Sometimes I feel I should tell my partner, decide for you whether you should reveal
as it does aff ect my behavior — I have low your history to him. I can, however, strongly
self-esteem, etc. I’ve had counsel-
recommend that you contact the
ing, but it didn’t help me. When I
Rape, Abuse and Incest National
confronted my abuser years later,
Network (RAINN). When you do,
he told me it was my problem.
you will be talking with a trained
Do I need to share this to be
counselor who can guide you. Noth-
completely honest about who I am?
ing you confi de will be a shock to
I have never felt “normal.” It’s as if
that person, and you may be put in
I’m carrying a dreaded secret. Any
touch with help in your local area.
advice? — Good Girl In Wash-
The RAINN website is rainn.
JEANNE
ington
org and its toll-free phone number
PHILLIPS
Dear Good Girl: What you
is 800-656-4673. Please don’t wait
ADVICE
to reach out. Everything is confi -
suff ered as a child was not your
fault. You needed counseling then,
dential.
not blame. Because you didn’t receive it at
Dear Abby: My close friend, “Lizzy,”
that time, it isn’t surprising your problems broke up with her boyfriend six weeks ago.
followed you wherever you went.
At fi rst, she was very depressed about it, but
Not knowing your partner, I cannot she has gradually gotten over him. A few
days ago, Lizzy’s ex-boyfriend asked me out.
I really wanted to say yes, but I decided to
ask her fi rst if it was OK. When I did, she
fl ipped out and told me she wouldn’t be my
friend anymore if I did. I’ve known Lizzy
for four years, and I don’t want to lose her
friendship.
A day later, I found out from another
friend of mine that Lizzy was dating my twin
brother. She never asked me if I was OK with
that, let alone informed me that they had feel-
ings for each other. Does this give me the
right to date Lizzy’s ex? — Breaking Girl
Code In Alabama
Dear Breaking: I think so. But don’t
do it without fi rst clearing the air with her,
because if things work out with your twin
brother, you are likely to be seeing a lot of
Lizzy in the future.
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago — 1922
trial Park southwest of Boardman, but the Atomic Energy
Commission is not expected to approve of a nuclear plant in
the area with the 50,000-acre bombing range located nearby.
Two possible sites for relocation in the state of Washington
have been examined but neither site is capable of meeting
all the desirable criteria established for an acceptable bomb-
ing range. “It is estimated that an expenditure of at least $10
million would be required to develop a new bombing range
at either of these sites in Washington state. Additionally, it
would take three years to relocate from Boardman, if funds
are available,” Ill said.
50 years ago — 1972
The Oregon Trail Pro Rodeo is thinking big. The rodeo
is planning a major renovation project at the fairgrounds in
Heppner, including a new grandstand, rodeo offi ce, access
road and bridge. The goal is to spruce up the grounds for the
fair’s 75th anniversary taking place this summer. Beginning
May 3, the Rodeo Committee will begin selling VIP seating
for “Crows Nest.” These luxury seats will be sold in groups
of 10, and the proceeds will go toward the total cost of reno-
vation. The Oregon Trail Pro Rodeo is off ering to name the
stadium after a donor who contributes $100,000 or more. The
donor’s name would be permanently installed in large block
letters across the upper back side of the bleacher structure.
The Henrietta Flouring Mill, belonging to J. H. Koontz,
was burned to the ground last night, and with all its contents
is a total loss. The fi re is supposed to have originated from
sparks fl ying from the east-bound passenger train, as fl ames
were discovered soon after it passed. The loss is about
$25,000, partly insured, probably for about half the value.
The Henrietta mill was built by Mr. Koontz in 1886, and
was a great credit not only to him, but to Echo and all the
surrounding country. His fl our soon ranked with the very
best, and the mill was of immense benefi t to the people for
many miles around Echo.
It will not be possible to move the Navy’s practice bomb-
ing range at Boardman to another location, Charles L. Ill,
assistant secretary of the Navy, told the Greater Hermiston
Chamber of Commerce in a letter. The chamber has joined
other organizations in the area in a move to assist the Port
of Morrow in getting the bombing range relocated to bring a
nuclear power plant into the Boardman area. Rep. Al Ullman,
D-Ore., told the Boardman Lions Club that the Oregon
congressional delegation “will fi nd ways to get” the Navy
bombing range relocated. Portland General Electric has indi-
cated its plans to build a nuclear plant on the Boeing Indus-
25 years ago — 1997
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
In 1789, George Washing-
ton took the oath of offi ce in
New York as the fi rst presi-
dent of the United States.
In 1803, the United States
purchased the Louisiana
Territory from France for 60
million francs, the equivalent
of about $15 million.
In 1812 , Louisiana
became the 18th state of the
Union.
In 1900, engineer John
Luther “Casey” Jones of the
Illinois Central Railroad
died in a train wreck near
Vaughan, Mississippi, after
staying at the controls in a
successful eff ort to save the
passengers.
In 1945, as Soviet troops
approached his Berlin
bunker, Adolf Hitler took his
own life along with that of his
wife of one day, Eva Braun.
In 1947, President Harry
S. Truman signed a resolu-
tion offi cially confi rming the
name of Hoover Dam, which
had also come to be known as
“Boulder Dam.”
In 1958, Britain’s Life
Peerages Act 1958 allowed
women to become members
of the House of Lords.
In 1970, President Rich-
ard Nixon announced the
U.S. was sending troops into
Cambodia, an action that
sparked widespread protest.
In 1973, President Rich-
ard Nixon announced the
resignations of top aides H.R.
Haldeman and John Ehrli-
chman, Attorney General
Richard G. Kleindienst and
White House counsel John
Dean, who was actually fi red.
In 1975, the Vietnam War
ended as the South Vietnam-
ese capital of Saigon fell to
Communist forces.
In 1983, blues singer and
guitarist Muddy Waters died
in Westmont, Illinois, at age
68.
In 1993, top-ranked
women’s tennis player
Monica Seles was stabbed
in the back during a match
in Hamburg, Germany,
by a man who described
himself as a fan of second-
ranked German player Steffi
Graf. (The man, convicted
of causing grievous bodily
harm, was given a suspended
sentence.)
In 2004, Arabs expressed
outrage at graphic photo-
graphs of naked Iraqi prison-
ers being humiliated by U.S.
military police; President
George W. Bush condemned
the mistreatment of prison-
ers, saying “that’s not the
way we do things in Amer-
ica.”
Ten years ago: President
Barack Obama and Japanese
Prime Minister Yoshihiko
Noda, meeting at the White
House, decried aggres-
sive acts from North Korea,
including a recent failed
rocket launch, and vowed
to maintain a unifi ed front
against such provocations. A
ferry carrying more than 300
people capsized in a river in
northeast India, killing some
100 people and leaving about
as many missing.
Five years ago: President
Donald Trump said after
North Korea’s latest failed
rocket launch that communist
leader Kim Jong Un would
eventually develop better
missiles, and that “we can’t
allow it to happen”; in a taped
interview broadcast on CBS’
“Face the Nation,” the pres-
ident would not discuss the
possibility of military action.
One year ago: The Trans-
portation Security Adminis-
tration said it was keeping
in place a requirement that
people wear masks on planes
and all other forms of public
transit because of COVID-
19. Disneyland in Southern
California reopened its gates
after a 13-month closure
caused by the coronavirus;
capacity was limited for the
reopening, and only Califor-
nia residents were allowed
in. A stampede at a religious
festival in northern Israel left
45 ultra-Orthodox Jews dead
and about 150 others injured.
Today’s Bir thdays:
Singer Willie Nelson is 89.
Movie director Allan Arkush
is 74. Actor Perry King is
74. Singer-musician Wayne
Kramer is 74. Singer Merrill
Osmond is 69. Movie director
Jane Campion is 68. Movie
director Lars von Trier is
66. Actor Adrian Pasdar is
57. Rock musician Clark
Vogeler is 53.Country singer
Carolyn Dawn Johnson is
51. Actor Lisa Dean Ryan is
50. R&B singer Akon is 49.
R&B singer Jeff Timmons
(98 Degrees) is 49. Actor
Johnny Galecki is 47. Actor
Sam Heughan is 42. Actor
Kunal Nayyar is 41. Actor
Kirsten Dunst is 40. Actor
Dianna Agron is 36. Country
singer Brandon Lancaster is
33. Rapper/producer Travis
Scott is 31.
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32742 Diagonal Rd.
Hermiston, OR
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541-567-6672
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( Oregon Trail Room )
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Episcopal
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241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
Worship Services On Facebook
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Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
201 SW Dorion Ave.
712 SW 27TH
www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make
disciples who make disciples
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PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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PendletonLighthouseChurch
Solid Rock
Community Church
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
10:30 - Worship Service
541-567-6937
Wednesday Bible Study
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
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(541) 276-3369
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Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
First Christian
Church
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
(DISCIPLES OF CHRIST)
215 N. Main • Pendleton
In Person worship Sundays
at 11:00am
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
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