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East Oregonian
Saturday, April 23, 2022
DEAR ABBY
Woman contemplates staying in loveless marriage for kids’ sake
Dear Abby: I’ve been married for 14
years and have two kids. Our youngest is 11.
For the last nine years, it has been a loveless
marriage. Luckily, he works a lot, but when
he’s home, I stay in my bedroom. The only
thing we do together is eat dinner. Our kids
are thriving in school, and I worry that leav-
ing will hurt them terribly. Should I wait until
our youngest graduates?
I am 47 and have multiple sclerosis that
is slowly progressing. I do not have family
and friends for support. Could I be even more
lonely if I leave? The thought of divorce feels
overwhelming, but I feel like life is passing
me by. Hoping you can point me in the right
direction. — Living In Limbo In Missouri
Dear Living: I wish you had mentioned
what it was nine years ago that created a rift
between you and your husband. If it was
your diagnosis, it is truly regrettable. In the friends near and far. My husband’s family
interim, have you tried talking about this with lives in another state and would need to fl y to
a marriage and family therapist? If
visit us. His parents are separated,
and elderly.
the answer is no, you should.
I love his mother dearly, but I have
I am concerned about the degree
of isolation you are feeling. The
an issue with her best friend, “Myra.”
Myra has always been passive-ag-
National Multiple Sclerosis Soci-
gressive. She makes things diffi cult
ety (nationalmssociety.org) off ers
virtual and in-person support groups
and makes rude, snide comments.
that might benefi t you greatly.
My mother-in-law plans to travel to
Divorcing one’s spouse is not a
meet our new baby, but she wants
JEANNE
guarantee that one’s loneliness will
Myra to be her travel companion.
PHILLIPS
Abby, after the stress and
end, as many divorced women and
ADVICE
men can attest. The National MS
exhaustion of delivering a baby and
Society may be able to provide what
any postpartum aftermath, plus the
you need right now.
desire to keep our circle small due to COVID,
Dear Abby: My husband and I are expect- I do not want to see Myra in the fi rst few
ing our fi rst child. We are over the moon about months after delivery. I have no issues with
it, and have lots of support from family and my mother-in-law, and don’t want to prohibit
her from seeing her new grandbaby. But she
refuses to travel alone. Am I going too far in
saying I won’t be up for visiting with her snide
best friend? — Pregnant In Pennsylvania
Dear Pregnant: I don’t think you are
going too far. You have the right to control
who comes into your home. Tell your mother-
in-law you would welcome her coming to see
the new baby, but that Myra is not welcome in
your home and will have to make other plans
while Grandma is visiting your infant.
If she asks why, tell her the truth — that
Myra is negative and snide, and you don’t
want to be exposed to that while you are in
a vulnerable state. If she can’t agree to your
wishes, tell her you and her son will visit her
when the baby is older, but you will make
sure she has plenty of pictures and videos
in the meantime.
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago — 1922
Umatilla suff ered last night as the result of some work which
was quietly done in the west end of town when a visit was paid
there by Sheriff Zoeth Houser and Deputy Sheriff Jake Marin.
Four men were arrested, two on charges of having liquor ille-
gally, and two for gambling. Marin proved that the high cost
of living is all a myth when he purchased two quarts and one
pint of whisky for $13 from F. Carelle. The pool room was
raided by Marin who found the proprietor and one patron of the
house handling the little spotted cubes sometimes referred to as
“African dominoes.” The sum of $23 was grabbed along with
the dice. The house of Bob Merrick was raided by Marin who
secured two pints of moonshine. The deputy sheriff states that
the house was visited by a number of men during the course of
the evening before the raid was made.
50 years ago — 1972
Young Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints musi-
cians from Pendleton, Pilot Rock, La Grande, Union, Baker,
Halfway, Wallowa, and Enterprise are busy putting the
fi nishing touches on music which will be performed at their
fi rst annual spring concert. The young people are preparing
14 contemporary numbers which were specifi cally for the
1972 choral festival. Choral festivals have long been held in
conjunction with the Speech Competition Festival in the LDS
Union Stake. Thus, the concert to be presented Tuesday will
be the fi rst annual Young Artists Choral Festival and will
consist mainly of the choral performance with young artists’
selections fi lling out the program. Musicians from the 12
wards and branches have been rehearsing within their area
with ward choristers and organists since September. Stake
rehearsals, under the direction of William C. Baxter of Union
with Mrs. Gene (Beverly) Tuttle of La Grande accompanying,
have been held since last December. An orchestra under the
direction of Swanee Beck, instructor of music at La Grande
High School, will provide accompaniment for three selections.
Women of the choir will also perform.
25 years ago — 1997
The Port of Morrow will buy the three-acre Rod’s Grocery
property in Irrigon and lease it to Boardman grocer Dean
Kegler, who will reopen the store. Kegler said while the
planned grocery outlet is smaller than his Sentry Market in
Boardman, it will off er everything the larger store does. It
probably will not carry the Sentry name, he said. “We hope
to be open by the Watermelon Festival,” he said. “That’s our
goal.” Kegler, a 14-year Boardman resident and second gener-
ation grocer whose grandparents moved to Irrigon in 1952,
said Irrigon’s population has grown to the point where it can
support a full-service grocery outlet.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
In 1616 (Old Style
calendar), English poet
and dramatist William
Shakespeare died in Strat-
ford-upon-Avon on what has
traditionally been regarded
as the 52nd anniversary of
his birth in 1564.
In 1898, Spain declared
war on the United States,
which responded in kind two
days later.
In 1940, about 200 people
died in the Rhythm Night
Club Fire in Natchez, Missis-
sippi.
In 1954, Hank Aaron of
the Milwaukee Braves hit the
fi rst of his 755 major-league
home runs in a game against
the St. Louis Cardinals. (The
Braves won, 7-5.)
In 1969, Sirhan Sirhan
was sentenced to death for
assassinating New York Sen.
Robert F. Kennedy. (The
sentence was later reduced
to life imprisonment.)
In 1971, hundreds of Viet-
nam War veterans opposed
to the confl ict protested by
tossing their medals and
ribbons over a wire fence in
front of the U.S. Capitol.
In 1988, a federal ban on
smoking during domestic
airline fl ights of two hours
or less went into eff ect.
In 1992, McDonald’s
opened its first fast-food
restaurant in the Chinese
capital of Beijing.
In 1993, labor leader
Cesar Chavez died in San
Luis, Arizona, at age 66.
In 1998, James Earl Ray,
who confessed to assassinat-
ing the Rev. Martin Luther
King Jr. and then insisted
he’d been framed, died at a
Nashville, Tennessee, hospi-
tal at age 70.
In 2005, the recently
created v ideo -sha r i ng
website YouTube uploaded
its fi rst clip, “Me at the Zoo,”
which showed YouTube
co-founder Jawed Karim
standing in front of an
elephant enclosure at the San
Diego Zoo.
In 2007, Boris Yeltsin,
Russia’s fi rst freely elected
president, died in Moscow at
age 76.
In 2020, at a White House
briefi ng, President Donald
Trump noted that research-
ers were looking at the
eff ects of disinfectants on the
coronavirus, and wondered
aloud whether they could be
injected into people.
Ten years ago: Actor-
singer Jennifer Hudson
broke down in tears while
testifying at the Chicago
trial of William Balfour, the
man accused of killing her
mother, brother and 7-year-
old nephew in a jealous
rage in 2008. (Balfour was
convicted of first-degree
murder and sentenced to
life in prison.) The govern-
ment reported that Social
Security was rushing even
faster toward insolvency,
with its trust funds expected
to run dry in 2033, three
years earlier than previously
projected.
Five years ago: Centrist
Emmanuel Macron and
far-right populist Marine
Le Pen advanced to a May
runoff in France’s presiden-
tial election (Macron ended
up defeating Le Pen).
One year ago: U.S. health
officials lifted an 11-day
pause on COVID-19 vaccina-
tions using Johnson & John-
son’s single-dose shot, after
scientifi c advisers decided its
benefi ts outweighed a rare
risk of blood clot. Reality
TV personality and Olympic
hero Caitlyn Jenner joined a
growing list of Republican
candidates seeking to oust
Democratic California Gov.
Gavin Newsom, who was
facing a likely recall elec-
tion. (Newsom would beat
back the recall effort in a
September vote.)
Today’s Bir thdays:
Actor Alan Oppenheimer
is 92. Actor David Birney is
83. Actor Lee Majors is 83.
Actor Joyce DeWitt is 73.
Actor James Russo is 69.
Filmmaker-author Michael
Moore is 68. Actor Judy
Davis is 67. Actor Valerie
Bertinelli is 62. U.S. Olym-
pic gold medal skier Donna
Weinbrecht is 57. Actor
Melina Kanakaredes is 55.
Rock musician Stan Frazier
(Sugar Ray) is 54. Actor Scott
Bairstow is 52. Actor-writer
John Lutz is 49. Actor Barry
Watson is 48. Professional
wrestler/actor John Cena is
45. Actor-writer-comedian
John Oliver is 45. Actor Kal
Penn is 45. Retired MLB
All-Star Andruw Jones is 45.
Actor Jaime King is 43. Actor
Aaron Hill is 39. Actor Jesse
Lee Soff er is 38. Actor Rachel
Skarsten is 37. Rock musician
Anthony LaMarca (The War
on Drugs) is 35. Actor Dev
Patel is 32. Actor Matthew
Underwood is 32. Model Gigi
Hadid is 27. Rock musicians
Jake and Josh Kiszka (Greta
Van Fleet) are 26. Actor Char-
lie Rowe (TV: “Salvation”)
is 26. Retired tennis player
Ashleigh Barty is 26. U.S.
Olympic gold medal snow-
boarder Chloe Kim is 22.
CHURCH DIRECTORY
COME WORSHIP
WITH US AT THE
COUNTRY
CHURCH
Sundays at 11:00am
32742 Diagonal Rd.
Hermiston, OR
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
JOIN OUR INCLUSIVE
CONGREGATION
ON OUR JOURNEY WITH JESUS
Services 9:00am Sundays
In-person or streaming on
Facebook or Zoom
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
ONLI NE and I N-PERSON SERVI CES
S U N D A Y S | 8 : 3 0 A M & 10:00 A M
541.276.1894
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PendletonPresbyterian.com
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
201 SW Dorion Ave.
712 SW 27TH
www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make
disciples who make disciples
Facebook.com/PendletonPresbyterian
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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PendletonLighthouseChurch
Solid Rock
Community Church
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
10:30 - Worship Service
541-567-6937
Wednesday Bible Study
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
COME AS YOU ARE
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
All Are Welcome
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
First Christian
Church
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
(DISCIPLES OF CHRIST)
215 N. Main • Pendleton
In Person worship Sundays
at 11:00am
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
Hours: M-F 9:00am-1:00pm
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