A16 East Oregonian PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK Tuesday, April 19, 2022 DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M. SCHULZ Woman’s patience with man’s addiction runs out FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE B.C. PICKLES BEETLE BAILEY BY LYNN JOHNSTON BY MASTROIANNI AND HART BY BRIAN CRANE Dear Abby: I am currently in Dear Abby: I have been with a relationship that is approach- my boyfriend for five years. We ing the seven-year mark. We do not live together, nor do dated in our 20s and rekindled we share any children. He has in our 40s. We live together, but been a smoker since he was very I’m afraid we are growing apart. young, and when we got togeth- Due to health issues, I don’t er, he said he would like to quit. work; he works second shift. I Well, it still hasn’t happened. J EANNE cry easily. As the child of an addict (al- P HILLIPS When there are disagree- cohol) I understand how diffi- ADVICE ments, we can usually work it cult quitting can be. Luckily, my out. I think about the discus- father quit cold turkey 20 years sion later and have more to say ago and never relapsed. Abby, I or ask. He then tells me we have already do not want a future with a smoker. Am I within my rights to put my talked about it and he’s not discussing foot down? I brought up quitting this it again. He says I “overanalyze every- week. He became very defensive and thing.” It’s not that. I just have another made me seem like a monster for ask- question or something I left out. His refusal to talk makes me feel as ing for a real timeline about quitting. He struggles with anxiety and thinks try- though things are unresolved. Please ing to quit will send him over the edge. help me to understand if I am too de- How do I navigate future conversations? manding and should just leave it alone. — Unanswered In Illinois — Choking In Pennsylvania Dear Unanswered: It isn’t “too de- Dear Choking: Tell your boyfriend you care about him and about his health, manding” to want to discuss something but you can no longer tolerate watching further. If revisiting the issue would re- him damage it because of his tobacco ad- kindle the disagreement, your partner is diction. If he doesn’t already know that far too controlling. If you have a ques- the smell on his breath, body and cloth- tion, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t ing is offensive, point it out, and also that be able to ask without it leading to con- secondhand smoke is unhealthy for you. flict. To deny you that opportunity seems Then tell him he has a choice to make: disrespectful. Give it more time after a disagree- It’s the smoking or you. The decision is his. There are many effective smok- ment and decide if it’s really necessary to ing cessation programs available, and he revisit the subject. When you do, avoid should discuss them with his physician, reapproaching it in a way that could be who may be delighted to know he is in- perceived as an invitation to another ar- gument. terested. BY MORT WALKER DAYS GONE BY 100 years ago — 1922 GARFIELD BLONDIE BY JIM DAVIS BY DEAN YOUNG AND JOHN MARSHALL A simple definite plan whereby taxpayers may cut school costs approximately $75,000 in Umatilla county was placed before the meeting at the court house yesterday afternoon by W. W. Green, county superintendent of schools, during the sessions held under the auspices of the state tax investigating commission. Mr. Green’s plan is to eliminate several high schools in the smaller towns of the county which he informed the taxpayers will cut expenses. “At Umatilla the high school has eight pupils, and the cost per pupil of operating that high school is $650,” Mr. Green said. “There is a good gravel road between Hermiston and Umatilla, and wouldn’t it be good business to take these eight pupils from the Umatilla high school and educate them in the Hermiston school?” He suggested that the same thing at Echo and Stan- field be practiced and also indicated that a great saving could be made in the north end of the county by the same practice. 50 years ago — 1972 A hearing has been set for May 2 by the Pendleton City Council on closing the railroad crossing at SW 5th near Frazer. A 25-day test closure that ended April 6 brought comments both for and against the closure. The hearing is intended to give everyone in the area a chance to state their views. Closure of the crossing was recommended some months ago after a study of all crossings in Pendleton. The purpose of the closure is to improve safety. 25 years ago — 1997 For the past five years, Pendleton High School’s Life Skills students have participated in a variety of odd jobs. This spring they are selling “No-Stink-Mink” fertilizer, thanks to job coach Pam Wachter. The fertilizer, a natu- ral by-product of minks, is “94 percent nitrogen and all organic,” Wachter pointed out. And it really doesn’t stink — unlike the minks. Local mink rancher Brad Wheeler used a tractor provided by the FFA at the high school to make a manageable pile of the fertilizer produced by more than 1,000 minks at his area farm. Students from Life Skills Class shovel the prod- uct into buckets provided by Burger King of Pendleton and Hermiston. The journalism class at PHS designed fluorescent orange labels. The fertilizer, available at PGG or through PHS, sells for $3 per bucket. The class will make a percentage of every bucket sold that will help fund a class field trip to Portland. TODAY IN HISTORY DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY SCOTT ADAMS BY PARKER AND HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN On April 19, 1775, the American Revolution- ary War began with the battles of Lexington and Concord. In 1865, a funeral was held at the White House for President Abraham Lincoln, assassinated five days earlier. In 1897, the first Bos- ton Marathon was held; winner John J. McDer- mott ran the course in two hours, 55 minutes and 10 seconds. In 1912, a special sub- committee of the Senate Commerce Committee opened hearings in New York into the Titanic di- saster. In 1977, the Supreme Court, in Ingraham v. Wright, ruled 5-4 that even severe spanking of schoolchildren by faculty members did not violate the Eighth Amendment ban against cruel and un- usual punishment. In 1993, the 51-day siege at the Branch Da- vidian compound near Waco, Texas, ended as fire destroyed the structure after federal agents began smashing their way in; about 80 people, including sect leader David Koresh, were killed. In 2013, a 19-year-old college student wanted in the Boston Marathon bombings, was taken into custody after a manhunt that had left the city vir- tually paralyzed; his older brother and alleged ac- complice, 26-year-old, was killed earlier in a furious attempt to escape police. In 2015, Freddie Gray, a 25-year-old Black man, died a week after suffer- ing a spinal cord injury in the back of a Baltimore police van while he was handcuffed and shack- led. (Six police officers were charged; three were acquitted and the city’s top prosecutor eventually dropped the three remain- ing cases.) In 2018, Raul Castro turned over Cuba’s presi- dency to Miguel Mario Diaz-Canel Bermudez, the first non-Castro to hold Cuba’s top govern- ment office since the 1959 revolution led by Fidel Castro and his younger brother Raul. PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN BY DANA SIMPSON BIG NATE BY LINCOLN PEIRCE