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East Oregonian
Saturday, April 9, 2022
DEAR ABBY
Aging dog’s care becomes obstacle in relationship
Dear Abby: I’m in a seven-year relation-
ship with a beautiful woman I love and would
do anything in the world for. I feel she would
do the same for me. She has a dog, “Pres-
ton,” who she loves and who has been with
her since puppyhood. At 16, Preston is failing
badly and is on his last legs. There is no doubt
his time is coming.
We had planned on meeting my son and
grandchildren for a family celebration after a
seven-hour drive. Her plan was to accompany
me, but now, because of Preston’s condition,
she has changed her mind. I understand that.
However, she’s now angry that I am going
alone.
I spend every day with her and go out of
my way always to support her. She has no
grandchildren, having lost her only daugh-
ter two decades ago. I will be gone for only
a weekend and return in plenty of time to be
with her afterward.
grandkids but remain in contact with her from
I haven’t seen my three granddaughters in afar during the visit.
a year, and who knows when I will
Dear Abby: My fi rst husband
again. Should I feel guilty about
was abusive, and I divorced
leaving her and the dog? I am stuck
him after less than four years of
in the middle here, and am going
marriage. We had two daughters.
to upset her or my son’s family no
In 2016, I remarried, this time to
matter what I do. — Man In The
a loving, caring man. My oldest
Middle
daughter was my maid of honor. A
year after our wedding, she married
Dear Man: You stated that your
signifi cant other’s only child died 20
her soul mate. Her father and I,
JEANNE
years ago. It is possible that puppy
including our current spouses, paid
PHILLIPS
Preston became like a child to her,
for their reception.
ADVICE
and losing him is causing her to
Since 2017, this daughter has
revisit the loss of her daughter. If
continually asked us for fi nancial
there is any way to manage it, postpone the assistance. At fi rst we helped, but after a
visit with your son and his family until later in terrible argument, we drew the line, and she
the year, after Preston’s passing, or have them decided to sever our relationship completely.
come to you. If that’s not possible, because She sees us occasionally during holidays and
it’s only a weekend, go see your son and your is cordial, but she doesn’t call or text for my
birthday or Mother’s Day, which is very hurt-
ful.
I don’t know where to turn, except to pray.
I don’t want to be estranged anymore. I miss
her terribly, but do not want to be fi nancially
taken advantage of any longer. Any advice
would help. — Heartbroken In Delaware
Dear Heartbroken: Would you really like
to receive birthday and Mother’s Day greet-
ings knowing they didn’t come from the heart
and that you were paying for them? This is
what your daughter’s actions have revealed.
You have not caused this estrangement; she
has, because you turned off the spigot.
I’m sure you are hurting, because that is
what your daughter intends. Since prayer
hasn’t helped you cope with this, consult a
licensed mental health professional, and I
suspect you will have better results. You have
my sympathy.
DAYS GONE BY
Pendleton attorney, says he doubts Rocky has any recourse.
100 years ago — 1922
Fire this morning in Walla Walla caused hundreds of
dollars damage to St. Mary’s hospital. The blaze began in
the roof and burned for an hour and a half before it could be
checked. All patients were saved by removal from the build-
ing. A considerable amount of damage was caused by water,
it being necessary to play four streams on the building.
50 years ago — 1972
Rocky Hays, 23, was fi red this week from his job on the
Butter Creek farm of Jerry Myers after working there for 18
months. Myers admitted he didn’t fi re Rocky because of his
job performance but because of a letter Rocky’s wife, Kathy,
23, wrote to the East Oregonian which was published Monday.
“They have the new liberal — super ecology — outlook,”
Myers said. Basically, the letter defended long hair and stated
that “short hair sometimes means nothing more than the anti-
quated parental prejudices forced on young people.” Myers gave
Rocky $200 severance pay. He said Rocky’s job performance
was up to standard and that he worked without supervision. He
said Rocky came to him 18 months ago with little experience
but he has learned rapidly so shouldn’t have trouble fi nding
another job. But will a conservative farmer put up with a man
who has a wife with independent opinions? Dennis Hachler,
25 years ago — 1997
With state Corrections Department director Dave Cook’s
fi rst ceremonial scoop of dirt Saturday, the nondescript, sage-
brush-covered plot of land just east of the Port of Umatilla will
begin its 30-month transformation into a state prison. Correc-
tions Department offi cials will also announce the Umatilla
prison’s name at Saturday’s ceremony. But not everyone will
be dancing to the Jailhouse Rock. Chuck Dickinson, a Herm-
iston construction worker who is looking for work, said he is
planning on protesting the Correction Department’s policy
of using minimum-security inmates to help build prisons. A
group of local construction workers, Pendleton Building and
Construction Trades Council, ran advertisements this week
criticizing the department’s policy for taking jobs away from
citizens. “Everybody was snowed,” George Gritz, the coun-
cil’s president, said about Measure 17, which requires inmates
to work. “We were led to believe inmates would be working
along the roads and cleaning up the park system or making
license plates like they should be.” The $149 million construc-
tion project will employ between 300 and 600 laborers during
its diff erent building phases. The 1,600-bed men’s medium-se-
curity prison is scheduled to start housing inmates in August
2000. The facility will employ approximately 550 people.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
In 1413, the coronation of
England’s King Henry V took
place in Westminster Abbey.
In 1939, Marian Anderson
performed a concert at the
Lincoln Memorial in Wash-
ington, D.C., after the Black
singer was denied the use
of Constitution Hall by the
Daughters of the American
Revolution.
In 1940, during World
War II, Germany invaded
Denmark and Norway.
In 1942, during World
War II, some 75,000 Philip-
pine and American defend-
ers on Bataan surrendered to
Japanese troops, who forced
the prisoners into what
became known as the Bataan
Death March; thousands died
or were killed en route.
In 1959, NASA presented
its fi rst seven astronauts: Scott
Carpenter, Gordon Cooper,
John Glenn, Gus Grissom,
Wally Schirra, Alan Shepard
and Donald Slayton. Archi-
tect Frank Lloyd Wright, 91,
died in Phoenix, Arizona.
In 1968, funeral services,
private and public, were held
for Martin Luther King Jr. at
the Ebenezer Baptist Church
and Morehouse College in
Atlanta, fi ve days after the
civil rights leader was assas-
sinated in Memphis, Tennes-
see.
In 1979, offi cials declared
an end to the crisis involving
the Three Mile Island Unit 2
nuclear reactor in Pennsyl-
vania, 12 days after a partial
core meltdown.
In 1996, in a dramatic
shift of purse-string power,
President Bill Clinton signed
a line-item veto bill into law.
(However, the U.S. Supreme
Court struck down the veto
in 1998.)
In 2003, jubilant Iraqis
celebrated the collapse of
Saddam Hussein’s regime,
beheading a toppled statue of
their longtime ruler in down-
town Baghdad and embrac-
ing American troops as
liberators.
In 2005, Britain’s Prince
Charles married longtime
love Camilla Parker Bowles,
who took the title Duchess of
Cornwall.
In 2010, Supreme Court
Justice John Paul Stevens
announced his retirement.
(His vacancy was fi lled by
Elena Kagan.)
In 2020, the government
reported that 6.6 million
people had sought unemploy-
ment benefi ts in the preced-
ing week, bringing the total
to 16.8 million in the three
weeks since the coronavi-
rus outbreak took hold. The
Food and Drug Administra-
tion sent a warning letter to
conspiracy theorist and radio
host Alex Jones, telling him
to stop pitching bogus reme-
dies for the coronavirus.
Ten years ago: A Flor-
ida special prosecutor said
a grand jury would not look
into the Trayvon Martin
case, leaving the decision of
whether to charge the teen’s
shooter in her hands alone.
(Prosecutor Angela Corey
ended up fi ling second-de-
gree murder charges against
George Zimmerman, who
pleaded not guilty, claiming
self-defense; Zimmerman
was acquitted at trial.)
Five years ago: Suicide
bombers struck hours apart at
two Coptic churches in north-
ern Egypt, killing 43 people
and turning Palm Sunday
services into scenes of horror
and outrage. Sergio Garcia
beat Justin Rose in a sudden-
death playoff at the Masters
for his fi rst major.
One year ago: Britain’s
Prince Philip, husband of
Queen Elizabeth II, died at
the age of 99; he was Brit-
ain’s longest-serving consort.
Hip-hop icon DMX died at a
hospital in White Plains, New
York, days after suffering
what offi cials called a cata-
strophic cardiac arrest; the
Grammy-nominated rapper
and actor was 50. Kentucky
Gov. Andy Beshear signed
a partial ban on no-knock
warrants a year after the fatal
shooting of Breonna Taylor.
Today’s birthdays: Satir-
ical songwriter and mathe-
matician Tom Lehrer is 94.
Actor Michael Learned is
83. Actor Dennis Quaid is
68. Country musician Dave
Innis (Restless Heart) is 63.
Talk show host Joe Scar-
borough is 59. Actor-model
Paulina Porizkova is 57.
Actor Cynthia Nixon is 56.
Rock singer Kevin Martin
(Candlebox) is 53. Actor
Keshia Knight Pulliam is
43. Rock musician Albert
Hammond Jr. (The Strokes) is
42. Actor Kristen Stewart is
32. Actor Elle Fanning is 24.
Rapper Lil Nas X is 23.
CHURCH DIRECTORY
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WITH US AT THE
COUNTRY
CHURCH
Sundays at 11:00am
32742 Diagonal Rd.
Hermiston, OR
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
JOIN OUR INCLUSIVE
CONGREGATION
ON OUR JOURNEY WITH JESUS
Services 9:00am Sundays
In-person or streaming on
Facebook or Zoom
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
ONLI NE and I N-PERSON SERVI CES
S U N D A Y S | 8 : 3 0 A M & 10:00 A M
541.276.1894
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PendletonPresbyterian.com
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
201 SW Dorion Ave.
712 SW 27TH
www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make
disciples who make disciples
Facebook.com/PendletonPresbyterian
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
www.facebook.com/
PendletonLighthouseChurch
Solid Rock
Community Church
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
10:30 - Worship Service
541-567-6937
Wednesday Bible Study
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
COME AS YOU ARE
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
All Are Welcome
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
First Christian
Church
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
(DISCIPLES OF CHRIST)
215 N. Main • Pendleton
In Person worship Sundays
at 11:00am
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
Hours: M-F 9:00am-1:00pm
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