A10 COFFEE BREAK East Oregonian Saturday, March 12, 2022 DEAR ABBY Relative’s well-wishes have become burdensome DEAR ABBY: I am blessed to have a wonderfully supportive family, which includes my and my husband’s siblings. I was recently scheduled for major abdomi- nal surgery. For the weeks leading up to it, I quietly went about preparing the house and putting systems in place so I could be absent, but otherwise tried not to dwell on the upcom- ing unpleasantness. Most of my support people checked in occasionally to see how I was doing or if I needed anything. One sister-in-law, however, has been over-the-top. She sends cards, texts, fl owers and calls. I appreciate her support, but it’s too much. The cards always say the same thing — “heal gently” and “these are the good old days of medicine.” In the weeks leading up to surgery and afterward, I have received nearly a dozen cards, plus her texts, etc. Is there a nice way to let her know it is too much and I’m tired? My body reminds me other very much. We are both retired. He every day that I’m healing, but slowly. I don’t drinks at least a six-pack a day. Although he want the attention and the reminder doesn’t appear to be intoxicated, I that I’m not yet where I’d like to know this has to mean he is an alco- be. Please let me know if there’s a holic. Because he doesn’t drink and polite, graceful way to make it stop. drive, he thinks this is fi ne. Besides — PROGRESSING IN CALI- being unhealthy and giving him a FORNIA huge beer gut, it’s expensive. Your DEAR PROGRESSING: A thoughts, please. — CONCERNED WIFE IN GEORGIA “nice” way to phrase it might be DEAR WIFE: Schedule your to say, “Honey, I am grateful for JEANNE all the support you’ve been giving and your husband’s “annual medical PHILLIPS me, but the surgery is behind me checkups,” regardless of how long ADVICE now, and I am slowly regaining my they may have been delayed. Before strength. Please don’t send me any you go in, the doctor should be more get-well cards — the dozen you have informed that your beloved hubby imbibes a sent have already worked their magic.” six-pack per day — at the very least. Whether DEAR ABBY: I am writing because I’m this will motivate the doctor to encourage him concerned about my husband’s drinking. We to quit or cut back is anybody’s guess, but I have been married 35 years and we love each am hopeful. You could benefi t from attending some Al-Anon meetings. Al-Anon is an off shoot of Alcoholics Anonymous that helps the fami- lies and friends of individuals who have an alcohol problem. I am sure if you do, you will not only fi nd it enlightening, but also bene- fi cial for the practical advice and emotional support it off ers. Go to al-anon.org/info for more information. DEAR READERS: This is my annual reminder for all of you who live where daylight saving time is observed: Don’t forget to turn your clocks forward one hour tonight at bedtime. Daylight saving time begins at 2 a.m. tomorrow. I love this ritual because it signals the coming of spring and with it longer, brighter days and warmer weather. For me, it’s a mood elevator and an energizer. May spring bring good things your way! — LOVE, ABBY DAYS GONE BY 100 years ago — 1922 Murder in the fi rst degree for the death of Matt Jepson is the charge against Charles Vonderahe, Freewater man, who is now held in the county jail. The crime for which Vonder- ahe is held has been one of the darkest mysteries in the annuls of Umatilla county murders, and his arrest is the result of an investigation carried on for six months by Burns detectives. The body of Jepson, 63-year-old recluse, was found near his dugout on Government Mountain 16 miles from Milton, on August 13, 1921. The motive for the murder, according to the theory entertained by the authorities, was revenge. Jepson was said to be opposed to moonshining and information given by him is said to have been responsible for the arrest in May of Vonderahe, who paid a fi ne of $400 when he pleaded guilty to the charge of operating a still not far from Jepson’s ranch. Three brothers of the accused man expressed great surprise at the charge and declared they will stand by him, claiming the family knew Jepson for 30 years and were friends and neighbors. 50 years ago — 1972 Mother Nature off ers farmers an easy do-it-yourself proj- ect that takes no eff ort at all. By sitting back and continuing to farm in the same old ways, a man can turn rich farmland into wasteland. Depending on the soil depth, the project can be accomplished in just a few years, or, in parts of Eastern Oregon, in a few generations. Long-time soil measurements near Weston and in the Parawa area near Pendleton show that since farming began 90 years ago on virgin land, nearly a foot of soil has been lost in fi elds with slopes of fi ve to 10 per cent. This averages about 16 tons per acre per year. Sediment from an eroded fi eld contains a much greater percentage of organic matter than the soil from which it was eroded. Farmers are using more conservation practices but much remains to be done, say soil conservation technicians. 25 years ago — 1997 More than 300 Hispanic students from Umatilla and Morrow counties fi lled the Pendleton Convention Center Tuesday to learn about the importance of reaching for the stars, as well as some tools to help them get there. The students attended workshops to discuss issues such as community action, Hispanic heritage, and saying no to gangs and drugs. Between the workshops and other programs, including a colorful dance presentation by the Quetzalcoatl Folkloric Dance Group from Hermiston, the students visited booths prepared by area colleges. The keynote speaker, Dr. Dovie Trevino of Western Oregon State College, told the students she was one of 14 children born into a family of cotton pickers. She fl unked fi rst grade because she could not speak English. “Don’t just think about what you want,” she said. “Plan what you want to do.” THIS DAY IN HISTORY In 1864, Lt. Gen. Ulysses S. Grant assumed command as General-in-Chief of the Union armies in the Civil War. In 1912, the Girl Scouts of the USA had its beginnings as Juliette Gordon Low of Savannah, Georgia, founded the fi rst American troop of the Girl Guides. In 1925, Chinese revolu- tionary leader Sun Yat-sen died in Beijing. In 1947, President Harry S. Tr uman an nounced what became known as the “Truman Doctrine” to help Greece and Turkey resist Communism. In 1955, legendary jazz musician Charlie “Bird” Parker died in New York at age 34. In 1971, Hafez Assad was confi rmed as president of Syria in a referendum. In 1980, a Chicago jury found John Wayne Gacy Jr. guilty of the murders of 33 men and boys. (The next day, Gacy was sentenced to death; he was executed in May 1994.) In 1987, the musical play “Les Miserables” opened on Broadway. In 1994, the Church of England ordained its first women priests. In 2003, Elizabeth Smart, the 15-year-old girl who vanished from her bedroom nine months earlier, was found alive in a Salt Lake City suburb with two drift- ers, Brian David Mitchell and Wanda Barzee. (Mitch- ell is serving a life sentence; Barzee was released from prison in September 2018.) In 2011, fi fteen passen- gers were killed when a tour bus returning from a Connecticut casino scraped along a guard rail on the outskirts of New York City, tipped on its side and slammed into a pole that sheared it nearly end to end. (Driver Ophadell Williams was later acquitted of manslaughter and negligent homicide.) In 2020, the stock market had its biggest drop since the Black Monday crash of 1987 as fears of economic fallout from the coronavirus crisis deepened; the Dow indus- trials plunged more than 2,300 points, or 10%. The NCAA canceled its basket- ball tournaments because of the coronavirus, after earlier planning to play in empty arenas. The NHL joined the NBA in suspending play. Major League Baseball delayed the start of its season by at least two weeks. (An abbreviated 60-game season would begin in July.) Ten years ago: A day after the massacre of 16 Afghan civilians by a U.S. soldier, President Barack Obama called the episode “absolutely tragic and heart- breaking,” while Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clin- ton called it “inexplicable.” Greece implemented the biggest debt write-down in history, swapping the bulk of its privately held bonds with new ones worth less than half their original value. Five years ago: A bus plowed into people taking part in an early morning street festival in Haiti, killing at least 34 of them. Author- ities in Mexico recovered New England quarterback Tom Brady’s Super Bowl jersey more than a month after it had gone missing from the Patriots’ locker room following the game. One year ago: The city of Minneapolis agreed to pay $27 million to settle a civil lawsuit from George Floyd’s family over the Black man’s death in police custody, as jury selection continued in a former officer’s murder t r ial. Senate Major it y Leader Chuck Schumer and U.S. Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand called on New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo to resign, adding the most powerful Democratic voices yet to calls for the governor to leave offi ce in the wake of allega- tions of sexual harassment and groping. (Cuomo would resign fi ve months later.) Today’s Birthdays: Politi- cian, diplomat and civil rights activist Andrew Young is 90. Actor-singer Liza Minnelli is 76. Singer-songwriter James Taylor is 74. Rock musician Steve Harris (Iron Maiden) is 66. Actor Courtney B. Vance is 62. Actor Julia Campbell is 59. Sen. Tammy Duckworth, D-Ill., is 54. CNN reporter Jake Tapper is 53. Actor Rhys Coiro is 43. Country singer Holly Williams is 41. Actor Samm (cq) Levine is 40. Actor Jaimie Alexander is 38. Actor Tyler Patrick Jones is 28. CHURCH DIRECTORY PENDLETON LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more! Pastor Dan Satterwhite 541.377.4252 417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801 www.facebook.com/ PendletonLighthouseChurch Solid Rock Community Church 140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838 541-567-6937 Worship Service: 11:00AM Sunday School: 9:45 Pastor Wilbur Clark Our Lady of Angels Catholic Church Redeemer Episcopal Church 565 W. 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