A12 East Oregonian PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK Thursday, March 10, 2022 DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M. SCHULZ Man becomes abusive after a horrific event FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE B.C. PICKLES BEETLE BAILEY BY LYNN JOHNSTON BY MASTROIANNI AND HART BY BRIAN CRANE late one would be to contact the Dear Abby: Our house National Domestic Violence burned down a year ago, and we Hotline. The toll-free number is lost everything. My husband, 800-799-7233 and the website is “Jeff,” tried desperately to get to thehotline.org. Do it NOW. our 2-year-old daughter, but she Dear Abby: My high school perished in the fire. I managed to friend returns to our hometown get our 3-year-old son out while once or twice a year. Her last he was trying to save our daugh- J EANNE several visits were exhausting. ter. Jeff ended up in a burn unit P HILLIPS She talked about herself for on a ventilator for nine days. ADvIcE hours without asking one ques- When he was released from the tion about my life. She objecti- hospital, things got worse. fies men and calls people weak We lived with my mom and stepdad for a bit until we found a place, for expressing their emotions. Our friendship has been a long one. but as soon as Jeff got home, he started hitting me and calling me a cheating slut. But the more I understand myself, the We have been together 20 years, and I more I see how toxic she is for me. I have have been faithful. If I go to the store reached the hard realization that I no or to run errands, he gets mad at me for longer want to be around her. I don’t like being gone a little too long. If I try to who she is or how she makes me feel. I would like us to simply drift apart, explain what held me up, it’s automati- cally because I’m cheating, but Jeff feels but she can be a bully. When I have tried he can leave and be gone for hours, and to be unavailable, she has bullied me into seeing her anyway. My partner says it’s OK for him. I love him, but I can’t take it anymore. I need to break up with her, but I don’t When our son acts out and starts be- want to hurt her or have a confrontation. ing mean to me, Jeff tells him to respect How can I gracefully exit this relation- me, but I think to myself, “How can you ship? — Stressed In The West Dear Stressed: There may not be a tell him to respect me when you don’t?” Abby, please help me. — So Lost In The graceful way to exit from a relationship with a bully. Ask yourself which would be East Dear So Lost: Insist he seek help from worse: telling her exactly what you have a licensed mental health professional. If written to me, or allowing yourself to be he refuses, you cannot remain married to steamrollered into another exhausting him because his physical and emotional and frustrating encounter with her. Once you have the answer to that question, you abuse may continue to escalate. Have an escape plan in place before will know exactly what to do, which may you confront him. A safe way to formu- start with blocking her number. BY MORT WALKER DAYS GONE BY 100 years ago — 1922 GARFIELD BY JIM DAVIS Pendleton Mayor George Hartman is generally given credit for being a versatile man, and to his other accomplishments he has added the distinction of having opened the doors of the vault in the basement of city hall. By so doing he has put himself in a position to “kid” Judge Thomas Fitz Gerald, who has been trying to get that old vault lock unfas- tened off and on for years. It was in 1914 when the doors were last opened. The combination had been kept, even though manipulation of the lock invariably failed to secure entrance to the vault. This morning the mayor after work- ing carefully for a few minutes was amazed when the combination worked. Among the papers brought to light are the record of the old Eureka lodge. 50 years ago — 1972 BLONDIE BY DEAN YOUNG AND JOHN MARSHALL Six Umatilla County sheriff’s deputies encountered a crowd so belligerent at a teen- age beer party about midnight last Friday that they refrained from making any arrests. “It was the wildest crowd I’ve ever seen,” said Deputy Vance Baltrusch, who led the depu- ties. “We took the beer and told them to break up the party.” Baltrusch said he feared arrests would precipitate a riot. He and the other deputies estimated that 100 youths were at the party at a ranch home north of Pendleton. “The deputies broke it up before anyone got hurt and that’s the important thing,” said Chief Deputy William McPherson. He said an inves- tigation is under way into the source of the 15-gallon keg of beer the deputies confiscated. 25 years ago — 1997 The Umatilla Vikings came back from a halftime deficit and beat the Santiam Christian Eagles to win the state title of the OSAA-U.S. Bank Class 2A Boys Basketball Championship Saturday night. The 59-54 victory earned Umatilla its first ever Class 2A state boys basketball title. The Eagles led 16-10 after the first period, and increased the lead to nine points early in the second quarter before the Vikings rallied to within two points at the break. “We’re a second-half team,” said Lee Lafferty, who led all scorers with 21 points on 50 percent shooting from the field. He was 4-of-6 from 3-point land. “It’s hard to explain,” Troy Johnson said of yet another second-half comeback. “It’s like we use the first and second quarters to get warmed up and then we use the second half to kick butt.” TODAY IN HISTORY DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY SCOTT ADAMS BY PARKER AND HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN On March 10, 1969, James Earl Ray pleaded guilty in Memphis, Ten- nessee, to assassinating civil rights leader Mar- tin Luther King Jr. (Ray later repudiated that plea, maintaining his innocence until his death.) In 1785, Thomas Jef- ferson was appointed America’s minister to France, succeeding Benja- min Franklin. In 1864, President Abraham Lincoln as- signed Ulysses S. Grant, who had just received his commission as lieutenant- general, to the command of the Armies of the Unit- ed States. In 1876, Alexander Graham Bell’s assistant, Thomas Watson, heard Bell say over his experi- mental telephone: “Mr. Watson — come here — I want to see you” from the next room of Bell’s Bos- ton laboratory. In 1913, former slave, abolitionist and Under- ground Railroad “conduc- tor” Harriet Tubman died in Auburn, New York; she was in her 90s. In 1985, Konstantin U. Chernenko, who was the Soviet Union’s leader for 13 months, died at age 73; he was succeeded by Mikhail Gorbachev. In 2015, breaking her silence in the face of a growing controversy over her use of a private email address and server, Hil- lary Rodham Clinton con- ceded that she should have used government email as secretary of state but in- sisted she had not violated any federal laws or Obama administration rules. In 2019, a Boeing 737 Max 8 operated by Ethi- opian Airlines crashed shortly after taking off from the capital, Ad- dis Ababa, killing all 157 people on board; the crash was similar to one in October 2018 in which a 737 Max 8 flown by Indo- nesia’s Lion Air plunged into the Java Sea minutes after takeoff, killing all 189 people on the plane. (The aircraft would be grounded worldwide after the two disasters, bringing fierce criticism to Boeing over the design and roll- out of the jetliner.) PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN BY DANA SIMPSON BIG NATE BY LINCOLN PEIRCE