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COFFEE BREAK
East Oregonian
Saturday, February 26, 2022
DEAR ABBY
Mom-friends take diff erent paths in providing for kids
DEAR ABBY: I met my friend “Ashley”
and her daughter three years ago. Our daugh-
ters are 9 years old. Ashley makes good money
and is married. I’m a single mom. I do well as a
registered nurse, but I’m not on her level when
it comes to money.
We all get along great and have a lot in
common. However, Ashley buys her daughter,
“Mimi,” a lot. Every time we go out, she buys
Mimi something. If I buy a gift for my daughter
for her birthday, Christmas, etc., Ashley buys
the same thing for Mimi. I got my daughter
into ice skating three years ago. Ashley then
proceeded to buy her daughter professional ice
skates, accessories, skating costumes, private
lessons and entered her in skate club, shows and
competitions.
Needless to say, my daughter is sometimes
jealous of all the things Mimi gets. For me, it’s daughter feels as she does.
not about the money. It’s the principle that I’m
If it happened occasionally, I might respond
not going to spoil my daughter like
diff erently, but you wrote that this is
that. I remind my daughter she’s still
a frequent occurrence. A conversa-
more fortunate than a lot of other chil-
tion with Ashley is in order. If your
dren and she should appreciate what
relationship survives the conversa-
tion, consider socializing with her but
she has.
Should I cut ties with Ashley?
doing your gift-buying privately.
Should I mention my concerns to her?
DEAR ABBY: My mother and
Or are my daughter and I overreact-
I have never had the best relation-
ship. It has only gotten worse since
ing? — DOING WELL ENOUGH
JEANNE
my dad passed in 2020, followed by
DEAR DOING WELL: I don’t
PHILLIPS
think you or your daughter are over-
my brother, who passed in 2021. My
ADVICE
reacting. In life, you — and she —
uncle, Mom’s younger brother, also
will always encounter people who
passed in 2021. My problem is that
have more material things than you. (The Mom acts like I have no right to grieve. This
reverse may also be true.) Because this is is all her grief and HER pain — she has actu-
happening regularly, I can see why your ally told me as much. She has said, more than
once, that she doesn’t know why I bother to get
so upset.
I’m seeing a counselor, but I’m having a hard
time forgiving her behavior. I lost my father
and my brother. Worse, she tells her friends I
don’t care about these losses. Please advise. —
GRIEVING AND HEARTBROKEN
DEAR GRIEVING: Continue talking
with your counselor not only about your deep
sense of grief over the loss of your dad and
your brother, but also about your relationship
with your mother. Not knowing her, I cannot
decide whether she is deep into her own grief or
simply so deep into herself that she can’t relate
to you. I am sorry you didn’t mention your age
or whether you live with her, but it’s important
that you work on becoming, at the very least,
emotionally independent from her.
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago — 1922
George B. Carmichael of Weston has two wives. This fact
became established when Judge H. H. Belt, now occupying the
bench in circuit court, refused to grant a decree of divorce to
Carmichael from Mabel Carmichael, his fi rst wife. The case
is unique in Oregon courts, it is declared. Carmichael secured
a decree from Mabel Carmichael more than one year ago by
default. After the decree was granted he married a second
time, and since then Mrs. Carmichael No. 2 has given birth
to a baby. Mrs. Mabel Carmichael then brought suit asking
that the decree be vacated on grounds that the original decree
was secured by duress and that Carmichael did not prove his
contention that his wife was impotent, the chief contention
of the case. Judge Phelps sustained the plea of Mrs. Carmi-
chael when the case was re-opened, and vacated the decree.
Judge Belt’s decision reaffi rmed that of Judge Phelps and it is
understood that the case will be carried to the supreme court.
50 years ago — 1972
It’s one of Eastern Oregon’s biggest shows — it runs twice
a year — and it’s free unless you intend to buy a horse. That’s
the fall and spring two-day horse sales at Northwestern Live-
stock Commission, Inc., staged by Omer and Audrey Bonney.
Last weekend’s event drew several thousand people and more
than 625 horses were sold. Western hats and boots on young
and old were as common as mosquitoes at a Hat Rock State
Park picnic in the summer. Drawing some attention Sunday
was a six-foot, seven-inch cowboy with hair down below his
shoulders, plus a beard, mod glasses and a big hat with a bril-
liant silver band. Richard Coffi n, 23, Yakima, Wash., said
that his size might be the reason he didn’t pick up any “bad
mouthing” from cowboys about his long hair and beard. He
was selling fi ve quarter horses. The Coffi n name in Hermiston
country rings of land, wealth and livestock. That name has a
certain magic with livestock people.
25 years ago — 1997
What do Taco Bell and Nordstrom’s have in common? Not
much, at fi rst consideration. The hungry make a “border run” for
inexpensive nacho noshing at the former, while the latter counts
itself among the upper-crust of upscale department stores. With
varying degrees of seriousness, speculators have questioned
rumors that both corporations will add franchises in Hermis-
ton. Unquestionably, new businesses will follow the Wal-Mart
distribution center, state prison, Hinkle rail yard and chemical
weapons incinerator projects into Umatilla and Morrow coun-
ties. It’s diffi cult to predict, however, what will be the rippling
eff ect of spin-off development that could come in the wake of
these large-scale incoming projects, said Hermiston Develop-
ment Corporation president Tom Gilleese. “Most models of
growth impact are patterned after one (new) thing,” he said. “We
have four real large projects. This is unprecedented.”
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
In 1815, Napoleon Bona-
parte escaped from exile on
the Island of Elba and headed
back to France in a bid to
regain power.
In 1904, the United States
and Panama proclaimed a
treaty under which the U.S.
agreed to undertake eff orts to
build a ship canal across the
Panama isthmus.
In 1952, Prime Minis-
ter Winston Churchill
announced that Britain had
developed its own atomic
bomb.
In 1966, South Korean
troops sent to fight in the
Vietnam War massacred at
least 380 civilians in Go Dai
hamlet.
In 1987, the Tower
Commission, which had
probed the Iran-Contra
aff air, issued its report, which
rebuked President Ronald
Reagan for failing to control
his national security staff .
In 1998, a jur y in
Amarillo, Texas, rejected an
$11 million lawsuit brought
by Texas cattlemen who
blamed Oprah Winfrey’s talk
show for a price fall after a
segment on food safety that
included a discussion about
mad cow disease.
In 2005, Egyptian Presi-
dent Hosni Mubarak ordered
his country’s constitution
changed to allow presidential
challengers in an upcoming
fall election.
In 2014, Republican
Arizona Gov. Jan Brewer
vetoed a bill pushed by
social conservatives that
would have allowed people
with sincerely held religious
beliefs to refuse to serve
gays.
In 2016, New Jersey Gov.
Chris Christie stunned the
Republican establishment by
endorsing Donald Trump for
president.
In 2020, the World Health
Organization reported that
the number of new coronavi-
rus cases outside China had
exceeded the number of new
infections in China for the
fi rst time.
Today’s Bir thdays:
Actor Marta Kristen (TV:
“Lost in Space”) is 77. Actor
Jennifer Grant is 56. Singer
Erykah Badu is 51. Olympic
gold medal swimmer Jenny
Thompson is 49. R&B singer
Corinne Bailey Rae is 43.
Actor Teresa Palmer is 36.
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