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East Oregonian
Saturday, February 12, 2022
DEAR ABBY
New mom doesn’t take kindly to MIL’s unwelcome opinions
DEAR ABBY: I’m married to a wonder-
ful husband and I am a new mom to an
11-week-old beautiful baby boy. I am
fortunate to have 12 weeks of maternity
leave, after which my baby will be start-
ing day care. This decision was very diffi -
cult, but necessary. I enjoy my career, and
my husband has a good career as well. My
parents still work full time, and his parents
are too old (in my opinion) to safely watch
their grandbaby while also keeping him
engaged.
My mother-in-law, “Ella,” is sometimes
very rude, and we have never seen eye to eye.
Four days ago, my in-laws and other family
came to visit the baby. When the topic of
day care came up, Ella said, “Babies in day
care cry and no one picks them up.” She also
said, “He’s going to be sick and miserable
all the time.”
Abby, I am furious about her comments. since Ella said what she did, I have been on
As if I don’t already have enough anxi- edge with him. I think he should stand up for
ety over sending my baby to day care. I me, but he doesn’t want to rock the boat. Am
ignored her because I didn’t want
I being too extreme by not allowing
to cause a scene in front of the other
Ella to see her grandson? — DAY
family members. I know she said it
CARE MOM IN PENNSYLVA-
because she’s mad she’s not going
NIA
DEAR DAY CARE MOM: You
to be watching him. She has made
nasty comments in the past about
have a wonderful husband, but part
other stuff , which I always let go.
of the package is his mother, who
I told my husband he needs to
has a big mouth and poor judgment
stick up for me and tell her she
about what comes out of it. While I
JEANNE
needs to cut it out, but he wants me
sympathize with your predicament,
PHILLIPS
to ignore her comments as he has
it occurs to me that your dislike of
ADVICE
his entire life. I told him either he or
her is coloring your thinking in this
we need to tell her we will no longer
instance. Rather than take it out on
tolerate her nasty remarks or she’s no longer your husband, develop a thicker skin where
seeing her grandson.
Ella is concerned. Of course she should be
My husband hates confrontation in allowed to visit her grandchild. Remember
general, but especially with his mother. Ever above all, YOU are the mother and YOU get
to make the decisions about your son’s care.
DEAR ABBY: I need help! I don’t know
how to tell my wife of 21 years that her breath
smells awful. I really miss our passionate
kissing. I just can’t get past the smell of her
breath. How can I tell her without hurting
her feelings? — AT ARM’S LENGTH IN
LOUISIANA
DEAR AT ARM’S LENGTH: For the
sake of your marriage, speak up. Telling
someone their breath is “strong” should not
cause embarrassment. (I would certainly
want to know!) There can be more than one
reason for halitosis. Could it be her diet? Is
she drinking enough water? Does she need
to make an appointment with her dentist for
a checkup? If none of those things helps, she
should consult her physician to make sure
her bad breath isn’t a symptom of something
serious.
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago — 1922
That the congestion which has prevailed in the motor
vehicle division of the department of state at Salem has been
cleared up is information divulged in a letter received by vari-
ous offi cers of the city of Pendleton and Umatilla county from
Sam A. Krozer, secretary of state. As a result of the ability of
the division to take care of applications for motor licenses as
rapidly as they are received, Pendleton’s Traffi c Offi cer Turner
announced today that all drivers whose cars are not provided
with 1922 licenses will be arrested and subject to a fi ne.
50 years ago — 1972
Umatilla County Assessor Rod Esselstyn expects a healthy
increase in the county’s assessed valuation as a result of a
change in classifi cation of many mobile homes. Mobile homes
more than eight feet in width as of Jan. 1 are now classed as
real property rather than designated as a trailer. It makes no
diff erence whether they are really mobile any more. “We have
found lots of them so far,” Esselstyn said, “but we aren’t sure
we will fi nd them all unless the owners tell us about them.” A
penalty would be levied if the homes are not listed on the tax
rolls. He said no totals have been taken on the mobile homes
his appraisers have counted so far, “but if we were to pick up
3,000 of them at an average valuation of $3,000, that would
add $9 million to the county’s tax rolls.”
25 years ago — 1997
We are living in the most dangerous spot in the world.
That’s the impression that 11-year-old Alicia Engelhard of
Hermiston got from a CBS News “Eye on America” broad-
cast. She couldn’t sleep, her mind fi lled with the thoughts of
deadly nerve gas fi ltering into her family’s Sunshine Lane
home. Spurred by growing concerns, she went with her
parents to the depot to get some answers. They met with the
depot’s commander and public aff airs offi cer and were taken to
the Emergency Operations Center, where the staff ran a model
worst-case scenario. According to Alicia’s father, the demon-
stration showed that even if there were a concentrated off -post
release, lethal doses of agent would not make it as far as the
residential areas of Hermiston. The “Eyes on America” broad-
cast showed a map outlining the area at risk from an accident
at the depot, refl ected by a circle extending a 195-mile radius
from the depot. The edge came within reach of Portland and
Spokane, and close to Seattle and Boise.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
In 1554, Lady Jane Grey,
who had claimed the throne
of England for nine days,
and her husband, Guildford
Dudley, were beheaded after
being condemned for high
treason.
In 1909, the National
Associat ion for t he
Advancement of Colored
People was founded.
In 1912, Pu Yi, the last
emperor of China, abdi-
cated, marking the end of
the Qing Dynasty.
In 1914, groundbreaking
took place for the Lincoln
Memorial in Washington,
D.C. (A year later on this
date, the cornerstone was
laid.)
In 1973, O peration
Homecoming began as the
first release of American
prisoners of war from the
Vietnam confl ict took place.
In 1983, composer-pia-
nist Eubie Blake, who wrote
such songs as “I’m Just Wild
About Harry” and “Memo-
ries of You,” died in Brook-
lyn, New York, five days
after turning 100.
In 1999, the Senate voted
to acquit President Bill Clin-
ton of perjury and obstruc-
tion of justice.
In 2000, Charles M.
Schulz, creator of the
“Peanuts” comic strip, died
in Santa Rosa, California, at
age 77.
In 2002, former Yugo-
slav president Slobodan
Milosevic went on trial
in The Hague, accused
of war crimes (he died in
2006 before the trial could
conclude).
In 2006, figure skater
Michelle Kwan eff ectively
retired from competition as
she withdrew from the Turin
Olympics due to injury (she
was replaced on the U.S.
team by Emily Hughes).
Snowboarder Shaun White
beat American teammate
Danny Kass to win the
Olympic gold medal.
In 2019, Mexico’s most
notorious drug lord, Joaquin
“El Chapo” Guzman, was
convicted in New York of
running an industrial-scale
smuggling operation; a jury
whose members’ identities
were kept secret as a secu-
rity measure had deliber-
ated for six days. (Guzman
is serving a life sentence at
the federal supermax prison
facility in Florence, Colo-
rado.)
In 2020, Holland Amer-
ica Line said a cruise ship,
the MS Westerdam, which
had been barred from dock-
ing by four governments
because of fears of the coro-
navirus, would arrive the
next day in Cambodia. In
Japan, offi cials confi rmed 39
new cases on a cruise ship
that had been quarantined
at Yokohama, bringing the
total number of cases on the
Diamond Princess to 174.
Today’s Bir thdays:
Movie director Costa-
Gavras is 89. Basketball
Hall of Famer Bill Russell
is 88. Actor Joe Don Baker
is 86. Author Judy Blume
is 84. Former Israeli Prime
Minister Ehud Barak is 80.
Country singer Moe Bandy
is 78. Actor Maud Adams
is 77. Actor Cliff DeYoung
is 76. Actor Michael Iron-
side is 72. Rock musician
Steve Hackett is 72. Rock
singer Michael McDonald
is 70. Actor Joanna Kerns
is 69. Actor Zach Grenier
is 68. Actor-talk show host
Arsenio Hall is 66. Actor
John Michael Higgins is
59. Actor Raphael Sbarge is
58. Supreme Court Justice
Brett Kavanaugh is 57.
Actor Christine Elise is
57. Actor Josh Brolin is 54.
Singer Chynna Phillips is
54. Rock musician Jim Cree-
ggan (Barenaked Ladies) is
52. Actor Jesse Spencer is
43. Rapper Gucci Mane is
42. Actor Sarah Lancaster
is 42. Actor Christina Ricci
is 42. Actor Jennifer Stone
is 29. Actors Baylie and
Rylie Cregut (TV: “Raising
Hope”) are 12.
CHURCH DIRECTORY
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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PendletonLighthouseChurch
Solid Rock
Community Church
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
541-567-6937
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
PendletonPresbyterian.com
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
All Are Welcome
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
First Christian
Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
201 SW Dorion Ave.
Facebook.com/PendletonPresbyterian
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
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CHURCH
215 N. Main • Pendleton
10:30 - Worship Service
Sundays at 11:00am
In Person worship Sundays
at 11:00am
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
32742 Diagonal Rd.
Hermiston, OR
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
Hours: M-F 9:00am-1:00pm
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Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
Wednesday Bible Study
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150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
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7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
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