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East Oregonian
Saturday, January 15, 2022
DEAR ABBY
Wife gets no support in dealing with MIL
DEAR ABBY: I need some advice
regarding my mother-in-law. She has hated
me since the fi rst time she met me because
I’m not from the country but from “the city.”
I have given her gifts for birthdays and holi-
days and invited her on day trips with us, but
she always refuses.
She also makes up lies about me. She
claims I have STDs, spend all her son’s
money, etc. She even spread a rumor that
I wouldn’t allow her at our wedding. She
lives 46 miles away and, in the fi ve years we
have been married, has never once visited
her son. I take him to visit her because he
can’t get a driver’s license because of medi-
cal issues.
Our child and I aren’t even allowed in her
home. We have to sit in the car. She acts like
our child doesn’t exist, but she has pictures
of her other two grandchildren on Face-
book and drives to see them almost weekly. mom, rather than sitting for hours in the car.
My husband sees nothing wrong with her Even better, arrange “other” transportation
behavior and says he “won’t take
for your husband.
sides.” I don’t know what to do. —
DEAR ABBY: I’m a 24-year-
old woman who has been in a
PEEVED IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEA R PEEV ED: Please
relationship with a man for seven
accept my sympathy for your situ-
years. “Ken” is 27 years older than
ation. While your husband refuses
I am. (I pursued him.) I love him,
to recognize there is anything
but I have always been slightly
wrong with his mother’s behavior,
confused about my relationship
it is off the charts. I hope you real-
with him, and he knows this.
JEANNE
ize that most men stand up for their
Lately, I have been feeling very
PHILLIPS
wives and children when they are
guilty. My heart knows that my
ADVICE
love for Ken isn’t enough for what
mistreated.
he truly deserves.
Because you can’t change your
husband or his witch of a mother, and you
He’s a good, honest man, and I enjoy
made no mention of leaving the marriage, our relationship. We get along great, have
you will simply have to adjust to it. Start a lot in common and make a great team. I
by planning an activity you and your child am comfortable with us and our life. But
can enjoy while your husband is visiting his recently I have realized that I want to be on
my own, alone, and not in a relationship. I
feel a strong desire to focus on me and only
me, so I can grow into the person I envi-
sion myself being. Any advice besides the
obvious — my leaving the relationship? —
WANTING MORE IN WISCONSIN
DEAR WANTING: You became
involved with Ken while you were still very
young. It appears you never gave yourself
time to fully develop as an individual. You
state that you are still “in a relationship”
rather than a marriage, which may be a
blessing considering your ambivalence.
Many women would be glad to live their
life in a relationship that has all the positive
qualities that yours has with Ken. I am sure
you both will discover this when you move
on. However, since you asked my advice,
talk this through with a licensed relationship
counselor before making any fi nal decision.
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago — 1922
In the days when Pendleton’s Round-Up was in its infancy,
a cowboy who called the world his home and who led the
life of a roving gambler rode in the arena at the big out-door
show. He was Three-Fingered Jack (W. A. Godwin), now
famous throughout the United States as an evangelist, and
who is in Pendleton for a series of meetings at the Methodist
church. For 22 years Three-Fingered Jack roamed the world
and lived under every law known to man. Sometimes these
restrictions became irksome and he made laws unto himself,
spending time in hospitals and jails in consequence. Eleven
times he was seriously injured in shooting scrapes, and lost
the tips of two fi ngers on his right hand at Bonner Springs,
Kansas, winning for himself his soubriquet. It was in Febru-
ary 1908 that Three-Fingered Jack accepted Christianity
and the signifi cance of his name, “Will Godwin” burst upon
him and he answered the question “Will God Win?” in the
affi rmative.
50 years ago — 1972
Women’s lib came to the Umatilla School District meeting
on two diff erent counts Thursday night. While trying to select
budget committee members, board member Helen Howard
pointed out that women are generally by-passed for the budget
committee. She cautiously mentioned women’s lib. No fi nal
appointments were made to fi ll the two positions, but the pros-
pects are that at least one of the appointees will be a woman.
Also at the meeting, ex-offi cio student board member Ron
Starker told the board that girls in high school are complain-
ing they have to take physical education in order to participate
in athletics, but boys don’t. Principal Lewis Welch said that
boys participating in the three or four sports was all the PE
they needed. Board member Charles Cook said he has always
liked preferential treatment for girls.
25 years ago — 1997
When Mr. Smith went to Washington, he didn’t go alone.
A host of Pendleton people enjoyed a whirlwind visit to the
nation’s capitol for the swearing-in ceremony of Gordon
Smith, the newest Oregon senator. Making the trip were Steve
and Susan Corey, Dr. Steve and Susan Neal, Jim Whitney,
Kelly Brown and 1996 Round-Up Queen Jodi Severe. Also on
hand was Liz Lorenzen, who was already busy with her new
job of running Smith’s Eastern Oregon offi ce. Although there
was the expected confusion when two couples named Steve
and Susan are traveling together, a grand time was had by
all. In addition to the ceremony and sightseeing, many of the
group were deeply moved by a visit to the Holocaust Museum.
Sylvia Kay, formerly of Pendleton, works at that facility and
gave the visitors a tour.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Jan. 15, 2009, US
Airways Capt. Chesley
“Sully” Sullenberger ditched
his Airbus 320 in the Hudson
River after a fl ock of birds
disabled both engines; all
155 people aboard survived.
In 1862, the U.S. Senate
confi rmed President Abra-
ham Lincoln’s choice of
Edwin M. Stanton to be
the new Secretary of War,
replacing Simon Cameron.
In 1892, the original
rules of basketball, devised
by James Naismith, were
published for the fi rst time in
Springfi eld, Massachusetts,
where the game originated.
In 1929, civil rights
leader Martin Luther King,
Jr. was born in Atlanta.
In 1943, work was
completed on the Pentagon,
the headquarters of the U.S.
Department of War (now
Defense).
In 1967, the Green Bay
Packers of the National Foot-
ball League defeated the
Kansas City Chiefs of the
American Football League
35-10 in the fi rst AFL-NFL
World Championship Game,
retroactively known as
Super Bowl I.
In 1973, President Rich-
ard M. Nixon announced
the suspension of all U.S.
offensive action in North
Vietnam, citing progress in
peace negotiations.
In 1976, Sara Jane Moore
was sentenced to life in
prison for her attempt on
the life of President Gerald
R. Ford in San Francisco.
(Moore was released on the
last day of 2007.)
In 1981, the police drama
series “Hill Street Blues”
premiered on NBC.
In 1993, a historic disar-
mament ceremony ended
in Paris with the last of 125
countries signing a treaty
banning chemical weapons.
In 2001, Wikipedia, a
web-based encyclopedia,
made its debut.
In 2014, a highly critical
and bipartisan Senate report
declared that the deadly
September 2012 assault on
the American diplomatic
compound in Benghazi,
Libya, could have been
prevented; the report spread
blame among the State
Department, the military
and U.S. intelligence.
In 2020, Chinese offi-
cials said they couldn’t rule
out the possibility that a
new coronavirus in central
China could spread between
humans, though they said
the risk of transmission
appeared to be low. House
Democratic leaders carried
articles of impeachment
against President Donald
Trump across the U.S. Capi-
tol in a formal procession to
the Senate.
Today’s Bi r thdays:
Actor Margaret O’Brien is
84. Actor Andrea Martin is
75. College and Pro Foot-
ball Hall of Famer Randy
White is 69. Actor-direc-
tor Mario Van Peebles is
65. Rock musician Adam
Jones (Tool) is 57. Actor
James Nesbitt is 57. Actor
Chad Lowe is 54. Alt-coun-
try singer Will Oldham (aka
Bonnie Prince Billy) is 52.
Actor Regina King is 51.
Actor Dorian Missick is 46.
Actor Eddie Cahill is 44.
Former NFL quarterback
Drew Brees is 43. Rapper/
reggaeton artist Pitbull is
41. Actor Victor Rasuk is
37. Actor Jessy Schram is 36.
Electronic dance musician
Skrillex is 34. Actor/singer
Dove Cameron is 26. Sing-
er-songwriter Grace Vander-
Waal (TV: “America’s Got
Talent”) is 18.
CHURCH DIRECTORY
First Christian
Church
The Salvation Army
COME WORSHIP
WITH US AT THE
COUNTRY
CHURCH
215 N. Main • Pendleton
10:30 - Worship Service
Sundays at 11:00am
In Person worship Sundays
at 11:00am
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
32742 Diagonal Rd.
Hermiston, OR
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
Hours: M-F 9:00am-1:00pm
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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PendletonLighthouseChurch
Solid Rock
Community Church
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
541-567-6937
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
(DISCIPLES OF CHRIST)
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
Wednesday Bible Study
COME AS YOU ARE
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
PendletonPresbyterian.com
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
All Are Welcome
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
201 SW Dorion Ave.
Facebook.com/PendletonPresbyterian
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
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CONGREGATION
ON OUR JOURNEY WITH JESUS
Services 9:00am Sundays
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