Thursday, December 23, 2021 PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK East Oregonian B3 DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M. SCHULZ Friend’s death cloaked in a lot of secrecy, silence FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE B.C. PICKLES BEETLE BAILEY BY LYNN JOHNSTON BY MASTROIANNI AND HART BY BRIAN CRANE to your mother and respect the Dear Abby: A dear friend of wishes of the deceased’s family, mine, “Dirk,” died by suicide a even though you do not agree. couple of years ago. We were Dear Abby: Our 26-year-old very close when we were young married son currently lives with but saw each other only occa- us. His wife of three years was sionally as adults. However, on raised in a different culture and the occasions we did get togeth- has recently started living with er, it always felt like we picked J EANNE her parents in a city four hours up where we left off. P HILLIPS away. My son has a stable, well- I found out about my friend’s ADVICE paying job and cannot relocate. death from a family member They talk on the phone many after I discovered his phone times a day and night, and both number was no longer working and his Facebook and Messenger ac- say their marriage is “fine.” She doesn’t work and doesn’t finish counts had been deleted. He had died a few months earlier. Dirk’s family asked anything she starts. She contributes to me not to tell anyone that the death was her family’s household by using the car a suicide. They didn’t want his memory and money our son provides. She says to be about that final decision. Because she became depressed when she lived in there was no obituary in the newspaper our town but is happy with her parents (they didn’t want one), it feels as though and really doesn’t see moving out. We my friend has been erased with no trace. feel she is immature, controlling and tak- I’m still having a hard time with his ing advantage of our son. We have told death. I feel like I should put an in- him as much. He understands he has a memoriam obituary in the paper. I also situation but seems too weak to change feel a need to talk about it with others. it. What more can we do? — Flustered My mother thinks I should abide by the Parents In Texas Dear Parents: Your son knows your wishes of the family. What do you think? opinion. You can — and should — do — Missing My Friend In Ohio Dear Missing: When someone takes nothing more than you already have. Be- their own life, there are usually a range of cause he and his wife say they are happy emotions experienced by the survivors. with the situation, keep your mouths Fortunately, there are mental health pro- shut and refrain from stirring the pot. grams that can help with these if the fam- At some point, one of them will want ily is aware they are available. A call to to make changes, which may mean your the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline son will have to relocate. But this is his (800-273-8255) could guide them if they problem, and one he must resolve on his reach out. I sincerely hope you will listen own. BY MORT WALKER DAYS GONE BY GARFIELD BLONDIE BY JIM DAVIS BY DEAN YOUNG AND JOHN MARSHALL 100 years ago — 1921 Wax Wings, either Bohemians or the cedar wax wings, were seen yesterday in Pendleton. A report on the presence of birds in the north part of the city which seemed to be spending their time eating snow aroused the curios- ity of citizens, Edgar F. Averill, Pendleton’s leading naturalist, says that the cedar wax wings are more common here than the Bohe- mians. The birds are native to the Northland but they migrate to warmer climates in the winter. They are called wax wings on account of a small growth which resembles wax which appears on the tertiary wing feathers. 50 years ago — 1971 Pendleton has a community Christmas tree. It was believed that the Round-Up City was to be without a community tree this year because the one volunteered was too large to haul to Dorion and Main, where it was to be erected. But Betty and Fred Gray, who live 25 miles east of Pendleton near the Umatilla River, donated a tree and it was erected Sunday by the Jaycees. Jaycettes decorated the tree later that day. At the same time, Pendleton firemen were busy adjust- ing the Christmas decorations provided by Pendleton merchants. Trouble has been expe- rienced with the lights because the wiring has not been heavy enough to withstand the strong wind encountered several times during the last few weeks. The only thing missing was snow, but few besides youngsters were complaining about that. 25 years ago — 1996 Short of going under cover, it’s difficult to substantiate a comment that underage youths can get into a local exotic dance club. A quote by a Hermiston High School student in the Nov. 27 issue of the school newspaper, stat- ing that he got into The Riverside because he “knows the bouncer,” raised eyebrows in the community. However, Umatilla Police Chief Travis Eynon said he’d heard nothing about underage people in The Riverside until he received calls from community members upset about the comment in “The Bulldog.” Because the club has been denied a liquor license, patrons need only be 18 years old. Ed Dufloth, the strip club’s owner, doesn’t believe the claim. “We are very strict about checking IDs. I’ve talked to the two bounc- ers and they are very perturbed about it,” he said. Umatilla Mayor George Hash, who makes no bones about The Riverside “being a bad thing for our city,” said he’d heard nothing about underage patrons in the club until the story appeared in the student paper. TODAY IN HISTORY DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY SCOTT ADAMS BY PARKER AND HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN On Dec. 23, 1783, George Washington re- signed as commander in chief of the Continental Army and retired to his home at Mount Vernon, Virginia. In 1788, Maryland passed an act to cede an area “not exceeding ten miles square” for the seat of the national govern- ment; about two-thirds of the area became the Dis- trict of Columbia. In 1928, the National Broadcasting Company set up a permanent, coast- to-coast network. In 1941, during World War II, American forces on Wake Island surren- dered to the Japanese. In 1954, the first successful human kidney transplant took place at the Peter Bent Brigham Hospital in Bos- ton as a surgical team removed a kidney from 23-year-old Ronald Her- rick and implanted it in Herrick’s twin brother, Richard. In 1962, Cuba began releasing prisoners from the failed Bay of Pigs inva- sion under an agreement in which Cuba received more than $50 million worth of food and medi- cal supplies. In 1968, 82 crew mem- bers of the U.S. intelli- gence ship Pueblo were released by North Korea, 11 months after they had been captured. In 1986, the experimen- tal airplane Voyager, pi- loted by Dick Rutan and Jeana Yeager, completed the first non-stop, non- refueled round-the-world flight as it returned safely to Edwards Air Force Base in California. In 1997, a federal jury in Denver convicted Terry Nichols of involuntary manslaughter and con- spiracy for his role in the Oklahoma City bomb- ing, declining to find him guilty of murder. (Nichols was sentenced to life in prison without the possi- bility of parole.) Time In 2001, magazine named New York City Mayor Rudy Giuliani its Person of the Year for his steadfast re- sponse to the 9/11 terror- ist attack. PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN BY DANA SIMPSON BIG NATE BY LINCOLN PEIRCE