COFFEE BREAK
Saturday, December 4, 2021
East Oregonian
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DEAR ABBY
Woman not happy with her life at common milestone
DEAR ABBY: For years, I’ve heard about
what and where a woman “should” be in her
life once she turns the big 3-0. She should
have a thriving career, be married with kids
— or at least engaged — and have a full sense
of her worth and knowledge.
I recently turned the big 3-0, but my cards
aren’t all stacked that way. I have never had
a romantic relationship. Most of the men I
wanted to start one with only wanted sex with
me, and a relationship with someone else. As
I entered my late 20s, I began rejecting men
who showed signs of wanting only a sexual
relationship, and now I seem to have no takers
at all. The fact that I have gained weight hasn’t
helped, either. It’s not like once I meet a guy
the fi rst thing I say is, “Hey, I want a meaning-
ful relationship.” I’m beginning to worry that
something is wrong with me. What should I
do? — THIRTY BUT NOT FLIRTY
DEAR THIRTY: There is nothing wrong get some exercise, but also meet some eligi-
with you, just as there is nothing wrong with ble prospects.
getting to know someone before
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married
to my husband, “Asher,” for 20
embarking on a physical rela-
years, and during our marriage, I
tionship. (In fact, I recommend
have always been the person who
it.) However, to eliminate a man
because you think he “only” is inter-
plans and throws birthday parties,
ested in having sex with you was
including his. I gave him a large
jumping the gun.
surprise party for his 40th birthday.
Abby, this whole time, nobody
I wish you had mentioned where
you were meeting men. You may
has thrown me a party or planned
JEANNE
a celebration centered on me. I’m
have better luck if you fi gure out
PHILLIPS
what interests you have in common
lucky to get a last-minute, store-
ADVICE
with the men you meet, and develop
bought cake and a dinner out on my
relationships based on them. And,
birthday. Our 50th birthdays are
because you suspect the weight you have coming up in a few months, and friends and
gained may have something to do with your family are asking what I’m planning for him,
problem, resolve to become involved in physi- but nobody says anything about mine.
cal activities that will get you out of the house
I resent that these people, including Asher,
and into an environment where you’ll not only take me for granted, and I’m considering
digging in my heels on party planning this
time around. I have told Asher that maybe it’s
about time somebody planned ME a party,
but he doesn’t seem to get it. Have you any
advice for me? I like a nice celebration, but
I’m tired of being the one doing all the work
without reciprocation. — PARTY GIRL IN
THE SOUTH
DEAR PARTY GIRL: While you can’t
control how other people behave, there is
nothing wrong with enlisting some “help” in
your planning. Express your feelings (again)
to your self-involved husband and also to the
friends and relatives who have enjoyed your
hospitality for so long without reciprocating.
Plan the party for Asher, and if your birthday
is again ignored, plan something special you
might like with your closest friends — pref-
erably, out of town — and follow through. I
think you are entitled, don’t you?
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago — 1921
The road between Pendleton and The Dalles is now pass-
able. A message to this eff ect was brought here by J. G. E.
Shotwell of Portland and J. Hays of Harrington, Washington,
who arrived from The Dalles after a trip which was not lack-
ing in hard work. The young men left Portland and detoured
to The Dalles. The going was not easy from there to Pendle-
ton, they knew when they started, but they stuck to the trail
even through 10 feet of snow and little seas of mud which were
their lot in some places. They derived a lot of good exercise
in shoveling their way through the snow, and 29 cars left The
Dalles after them when they had broken the trail, they said.
The boys drove a 1915 Ford.
50 years ago — 1971
A Hermiston woman, Mrs. Al (Kay) McCall, was honored
Saturday evening by the Veterans of Foreign Wars for her
successful eff orts in saving the life of a 77-year-old man
who had fallen in the Umatilla River while fi shing late in the
summer. Mrs. McCall was fi shing in the river east of Nolin, a
short distance from Figurski and his wife, when she heard him
fall in. She said when she reached the 77-year-old fi sherman
he had already gone under once in the swift water. Figurski
was unhappy over the loss of his hat. He was in a weakened
condition at the time, having been released from the veterans
hospital a short time prior to the accident. This was not the
fi rst time Mrs. McCall has played the life-saving role in water
accidents. The Umatilla fi sherman, she said, is the fourth
person she has saved from drowning.The other three were
a 15-year-old boy who stepped into a deep hole in a river, a
2-year-old infant, and a middle-aged woman she pulled from
a mill pond. The fi rst three incidents occurred years ago in
Montana. Mrs. McCall opines that she happens to be at the
right place at the right time.
25 years ago — 1996
People all over the world can expect increased food costs
and a poorer quality of life in the 21st century, unless they
support research and development to reverse several alarming
agricultural trends. That was the message Gary Reed of the
OSU Experimental Station in Hermiston had for those who
attended the Hermiston Farm Fair this week. Agricultural
production rates are lagging behind the growth in popula-
tion, he said, and meanwhile, grain production, providing
the staple of most diets, has decreased for the past 20 years.
Tree production on farm land has also hindered crop levels,
said Reed. Between 120,000 and 200,000 acres in Oregon and
Washington will be used to grow trees, and that’s land that
could feed more than 4 million people if it was used for crops.
He said necessary to prevent food shortages in the future is
funding for research, support for increased irrigated crops and
containing urban sprawl to land that’s not suitable for farming.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Dec. 4, 1942, during
World War II, U.S. bombers
struck the Italian mainland
for the fi rst time with a raid on
Naples. President Franklin D.
Roosevelt ordered the disman-
tling of the Works Progress
Administration, which had
been created to provide jobs
during the Depression.
In 1783, Gen. George
Washington bade farewell to
his Continental Army offi cers
at Fraunces Tavern in New
York.
In 1918, President Wood-
row Wilson left Washington
on a trip to France to attend the
Versailles Peace Conference.
In 1954, the fi rst Burger
King stand was opened in
Miami by James McLamore
and David Edgerton.
In 1956, Elvis Presley,
Johnny Cash, Jerry Lee Lewis
and Carl Perkins gathered for
the fi rst and only time for a
jam session at Sun Records in
Memphis.
In 1965, the United States
launched Gemini 7 with Air
Force Lt. Col. Frank Borman
and Navy Cmdr. James A.
Lovell aboard on a two-week
mission. (While Gemini 7
was in orbit, its sister ship,
Gemini 6A, was launched on
Dec. 15 on a one-day mission;
the two spacecraft were able
to rendezvous within a foot of
each other.)
In 1967, actor-come-
dian Bert Lahr, who played
the Cowardly Lion in “The
Wizard of Oz,” died in New
York at age 72.
In 1978, San Francisco
got its fi rst female mayor as
City Supervisor Dianne Fein-
stein was named to replace the
assassinated George Moscone.
In 1980, the bodies of
four American churchwomen
slain in El Salvador two days
earlier were unearthed. (Five
Salvadoran national guards-
men were later convicted
of murdering nuns Ita Ford,
Maura Clarke and Dorothy
Kazel, and lay worker Jean
Donovan.)
In 1986, both houses of
Congress moved to establish
special committees to conduct
their own investigations of the
Iran-Contra aff air.
In 1992, President George
H.W. Bush ordered American
troops to lead a mercy mission
to Somalia, threatening mili-
tary action against warlords
and gangs who were blocking
food for starving millions.
In 2000, in a pair of legal
setbacks for Al Gore, a Florida
state judge refused to overturn
George W. Bush’s certifi ed
victory in Florida and the
U.S. Supreme Court set aside
a ruling that had allowed
manual recounts.
In 2018, long lines of
people wound through the
Capitol Rotunda to view the
casket of former President
George H.W. Bush; former
Sen. Bob Dole steadied
himself out of his wheelchair
to salute his old friend and
one-time rival.
Ten years ago: Prime
Minister Vladimir Putin’s
party hung onto its major-
ity in Russia’s parliamentary
election, but faced accusations
from opponents of rigging the
vote. Rafael Nadal recov-
ered from a terrible start and
beat Juan Martin del Potro
of Argentina 1-6, 6-4, 6-1,
7-6 (0) to give Spain its fi fth
Davis Cup title. After going
more than two years and 26
tournaments without a victory,
Tiger Woods won the Chevron
World Challenge.
Five years ago: A North
Carolina man armed with a
rifl e fi red several shots inside
Comet Ping Pong, a Wash-
ington, D.C., pizzeria, as he
attempted to investigate an
online conspiracy theory that
prominent Democrats were
harboring child sex slaves at
the restaurant; no one was hurt,
and the man surrendered to
police. (He was later sentenced
to four years in prison.)
One year ago: The govern-
ment reported that America’s
employers scaled back their
hiring in November as the
viral pandemic accelerated,
adding 245,000 jobs in the fi fth
straight monthly slowdown.
Actor David L. Lander, best
known for playing Squiggy
on the popular ABC comedy
“Laverne & Shirley,” died at
73 after a decades-long long
battle with multiple sclerosis.
Today’s Birthdays: Game
show host Wink Martindale
is 88. Pop singer Freddy
Cannon is 85. Actor-producer
Max Baer Jr. is 84. Actor
Gemma Jones is 79. Rock
musician Bob Mosley (Moby
Grape) is 79. Singer-musician
Chris Hillman is 77. Musician
Terry Woods (The Pogues) is
74. Rock singer Southside
Johnny Lyon is 73. Actor Jeff
Bridges is 72. Rock musician
Gary Rossington (Lynyrd
Skynyrd; the Rossington
Collins Band) is 70.
CHURCH DIRECTORY
First Christian
Church
(DISCIPLES OF CHRIST)
215 N. Main • Pendleton
In Person worship Sundays
at 11:00am
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
Hours: M-F 9:00am-1:00pm
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
10:30 - Worship Service
Wednesday Bible Study
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
COME AS YOU ARE
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
PendletonPresbyterian.com
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
All Are Welcome
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
201 SW Dorion Ave.
Facebook.com/PendletonPresbyterian
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
COME WORSHIP
WITH US AT THE
COUNTRY
CHURCH
ONLI NE and I N-PERSON SERVI CES
|
712 SW 27TH
www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make
disciples who make disciples
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Sundays at 11:00am
32742 Diagonal Rd.
Hermiston, OR
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
JOIN OUR INCLUSIVE
CONGREGATION
ON OUR JOURNEY WITH JESUS
Services 9:00am Sundays
In-person or streaming on
Facebook or Zoom
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
S U N D A Y S | 8 : 3 0 A M & 10:00 A M
541.276.1894
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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PendletonLighthouseChurch
Solid Rock
Community Church
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
541-567-6937
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
401 Northgate, Pendleton
401 Northgate, Pendleton
Celebration
of Worship
Celebration
of Worship
Sundays 10:00 am
Youth:
0-6th
grade
Midweek
Service
Midweek Service
Wednesdays 6:00 pm
Overcomer’s
Outreach
Youth: 0-6th
grade
’ High
Jr./Sr.
Pastor Sharon Miller
541-278-8082
www.livingwordcc.com
Pastor Sharon Miller
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