COFFEE BREAK
Saturday, November 27, 2021
East Oregonian
A11
DEAR ABBY
Romance with prison inmate evolves into love triangle
Dear Abby: I am a 42-year-old mother of
three who has been in a relationship with a
man for almost six years. He is incarcerated.
We started out as friends. Things were great
until this year, when he reconnected with an
old girlfriend.
I had a conversation with her over Face-
book, and she wanted to invite me out for
coff ee one day. I ended up messaging her
later on that night, and she told my boyfriend
I had “made her uncomfortable.” She ended
up blocking me on Facebook.
Abby, he’s now saying he’s in love with
both of us. I’m not allowed to talk about her,
and anything they talk about is “none of my
business.” I do not get as many phone calls
from him as I used to, and I think it’s because
of her. I’m not sure what her plans are, but
I get the feeling she’s trying to get me out
of the picture. Please tell me what to do. — is a signifi cant age gap, and thought I would
like to share a success story. My
Crowded in Alaska
boyfriend and I have a 22-year
Dear Crowded: Forgive me for
seeming negative, but from what
age difference, and we couldn’t
you have written, I don’t think
be happier. We are both divorced
this man is in love with either one
with children (his is grown and
of you. What you should “do” is
lives independently; mine are 14
and 11). We found each other about
reassess your relationship with
this two-timing felon. His ex-girl-
a year before the pandemic. He was
friend may indeed be maneuvering
above the age range I’d specifi ed
JEANNE
to get you out of the picture, and
on online dating apps, but we met
PHILLIPS
my advice to you, which I sincerely
at a mutual friend’s art opening.
ADVICE
hope you will follow, is to let her
There were immediate sparks, and
do it. You may have started out as
we didn’t realize our age diff erence
“friends” with this man, but friends do NOT until about a week later. By then the seeds
treat friends the way he has been treating of a mature, noncodependent relationship
you.
were sprouting.
Dear Abby: I’ve read many letters over
He’s 60 now, and I am 38. We live sepa-
the years about relationships in which there rately, but go back and forth between the
houses most nights. He’s actively engaged
in my kids’ lives, and we’re talking about
marriage. Because of our age diff erence, this
includes discussing wills, estate planning
and the hurdles that come with retirement
and raising high schoolers, but we do it with
great respect for where the other is in their
own journey. This is the best relationship
either of us has ever been in. I’m so glad we
didn’t let our age diff erence prevent us from
enjoying this life together. — Luckiest Girl
in Texas
Dear Luckiest Girl: When both parties
are adults with experience in the world, age
is only a number. While there can be chal-
lenges in May-December unions, you and
your boyfriend appear to be looking at the
future with eyes wide open. Thank you for
your upper of a letter.
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago — 1921
America must take measures to meet a critical timber
situation which is yearly becoming more critical, the forest
service, United States department of agriculture, reports
in a review of conditions existing in the forests and the
wood-consuming industries. The ax has cut to the heart of
eastern American forests and immediate steps should be
taken to grow timber if this country is to avoid dependence
on foreign supplies with drastic limitations in amount and
the excessive prices which such a situation would impose.
“We have already cut or burned over fi ve-sixths of our orig-
inal timber area of 822,000,000 acres,” says the report. “We
can not indefi nitely use or destroy 26,000,000 cubic feet a
year and grow only 6,000,000. Forest experiment stations are
needed to fi nd out and demonstrate how to grow this enor-
mous volume of wood.” Ten stations are needed, according
to the report. Two would be located in the western states,
where over half of the present remaining timber supply is
located.
50 years ago — 1971
Dr. Charles Sappington of Hermiston was appointed
Umatilla County health offi cer the fi rst of October. He has no
experience in public health, so he wondered what he’d fi nd in
the way of the number one health problem in the county. It
didn’t take Dr. Sappington long to fi nd out. In the fi rst three
weeks in offi ce, there were 12 cases of venereal disease. “This
I consider to be of epidemic proportions,” he said. The great
problem, Dr. Sappington said, is persuading people to go
to a doctor or to the health clinic for examination and treat-
ment. A survey has revealed that only one out of seven cases
is reported. So this means there were over 4 million cases
in the county in 1970. VD is not confi ned to big cities and
hippie camps, the doctor said, and the problem needs public
exposure. “The public in general should be informed that
this a health problem, and it should not be confused with sex
education.”
25 years ago — 1996
Sixty years ago a group of women in Pilot Rock formed
a club. They called themselves Friendly Neighbors. Many of
their husbands expressed the opinion that the organization
wouldn’t last a year. Wrong. Friendly Neighbors members
gathered last week at the Kopper Kitchen in Pendleton to cele-
brate their 60th anniversary. They reminisced over lunch and
then enjoyed a lovely cake, ribboned with pink. However, what
these women clearly liked best was each other’s company.
Six of the women present — Violet Main, Ella Beilke, Verlie
French, Doris Hoeft, Louise Korvola and Gladys Jenkins —
were charter members of the organization, joining during the
group’s fi rst year. Some of those six were actually at the very
fi rst meeting held.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Nov. 27, 1978, San
Francisco Mayor George
Moscone and City Supervi-
sor Harvey Milk, a gay-rights
activist, were shot to death
inside City Hall by former
supervisor Dan White.
(White served fi ve years for
manslaughter; he took his
own life in October 1985.)
In 1901, the U.S. Army
War College was established
in Washington, D.C.
In 1924, Macy’s first
Thanksgiving Day parade
— billed as a “Christmas
Parade” — took place in New
York.
In 1942, during World
War II, the Vichy French
navy scuttled its ships and
submarines in Toulon to
keep them out of the hands
of German troops.
In 1953, playwright
Eugene O’Neill died in
Boston at age 65.
In 1962, the fi rst Boeing
727 was rolled out at the
company’s Renton Plant near
Seattle.
In 1967, the Beatles album
“Magical Mystery Tour” was
released in the United States
by Capitol Records.
In 1970, Pope Paul VI,
visiting the Philippines,
was slightly wounded at
the Manila airport by a
dagger-wielding Bolivian
painter disguised as a priest.
In 1973, the Senate voted
92-3 to confirm Gerald
R. Ford as vice president,
succeeding Spiro T. Agnew,
who’d resigned.
In 1998, answering 81
questions put to him three
weeks earlier, President Bill
Clinton wrote the House
Judiciary Committee that
his testimony in the Monica
Lewinsky affair was “not
false and misleading.”
In 2000, a day after
George W. Bush was certi-
fi ed the winner of Florida’s
presidential vote, Al Gore
laid out his case for letting
the courts settle the nation’s
long-count election.
In 2007, a Somali immi-
grant (Nuradin Abdi) was
sentenced to 10 years in
prison for plotting to blow up
an Ohio shopping mall.
In 2015, a gunman
attacked a Planned Parent-
hood clinic in Colorado
Springs, Colorado, killing
three people and injuring
nine. (Suspect Robert Dear
was sent to a psychiatric
hospital after being deemed
incompetent for trial; he was
charged in federal court after
his prosecution in state court
stalled.)
Ten years ago: In an
unprecedented move against
an Arab nation, the Arab
League approved economic
sanctions against Syria, to
pressure Damascus to end
its deadly suppression of an
8-month-old uprising against
President Bashar Assad.
Five years ago: Presi-
dent-elect Donald Trump
claimed that “millions” had
voted illegally in the national
election, scoffi ng at Hillary
Clinton’s nearly 2 million-
vote edge in the popular
vote and returning to his
campaign mantra of a rigged
race even as he prepared to
enter the White House in less
than two months.
One year ago: President
Donald Trump’s legal team
suff ered another defeat as a
federal appeals court in Phil-
adelphia roundly rejected
the campaign’s latest eff ort
to challenge Pennsylvania’s
election results; Judge Steph-
anos Bibas, a Trump appoin-
tee, wrote that “calling an
election unfair does not
make it so.” The coronavirus
pandemic kept crowds thin
at stores across the country
on Black Friday, but a surge
in online shopping off ered
a small beacon of hope for
struggling retailers. Mohsen
Fakhrizadeh, the Iranian
scientist who founded that
country’s military nuclear
program in the early 2000s,
was killed in an attack on the
outskirts of Tehran; Iran said
Israel was responsible. Cali-
fornia Gov. Gavin Newson
reversed parole for Charles
Manson follower Leslie Van
Houten, marking the fourth
time a governor had blocked
her release.
Today’s Bir thdays:
Footwear designer Manolo
Blahnik is 79. Academy
Award-winning director
Kathryn Bigelow is 70. TV
host Bill Nye (“Bill Nye,
the Science Guy”) is 66.
65. Caroline Kennedy is 64.
Academy Award-winning
screenwriter Callie Khouri
is 64. Rock musician Char-
lie Burchill (Simple Minds)
is 62. Jazz composer/big
band leader Maria Schneider
is 61. Rock musician Mike
Bordin (Faith No More) is
59. Actor Fisher Stevens is
58. Actor Elizabeth Marvel
is 52. Actor Jaleel White is
45. Actor Alison Pill is 36.
Actor Lashana Lynch (TV:
“Still Star-Crossed”) is 34.
CHURCH DIRECTORY
Solid Rock
Community Church
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
541-567-6937
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
First Christian
Church
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
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COUNTRY
CHURCH
215 N. Main • Pendleton
10:30 - Worship Service
Sundays at 11:00am
In Person worship Sundays
at 11:00am
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
32742 Diagonal Rd.
Hermiston, OR
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
Hours: M-F 9:00am-1:00pm
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
Wednesday Bible Study
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150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
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CONGREGATION
ON OUR JOURNEY WITH JESUS
Services 9:00am Sundays
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CHURCH
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
PendletonPresbyterian.com
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
Worship Services On Facebook
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All Are Welcome
201 SW Dorion Ave.
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