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East Oregonian
Saturday, November 6, 2021
DEAR ABBY
Single woman struggles to connect in new community
Dear Abby: I have been living in a 55-plus
community in Florida for several years. I’m
a single woman, and I moved here for the
weather and to meet new friends. In this
community, there are “cliques.” One does
everything together and never includes
anyone else. The other is a combination of
full-time residents and seasonal residents.
I’m “friendly” with almost everyone in
each group. I work with them on commit-
tees, in clubs, etc. However, when it comes to
socializing in the evenings or at the beach or
parties, I’m seldom included by either group.
One person told me it was because I’m
single; another told me they didn’t want me
to feel out of place because it was couples. Is
this friendship, or should I look for friends
elsewhere? — Ready, Willing And Able
Dear Ready: No, this is not “friendship.”
You wrote that one of these cliques isn’t open
to new members. The women in the second
group may not welcome you because they them a special iPad to FaceTime with, but it
feel threatened by your single status, which hasn’t been used, nor do they ever call us.
is why you are welcomed to “work”
They actually didn’t speak to us
with them but not socialize. It’s sad
for nine months over a perceived
really, and more of a refl ection on
slight.
them than on you. By all means
Now they want us to come visit
look for friends elsewhere, possibly
them. We desperately want to see
in groups in which there are other
our grandchildren. They know
singles. If you do, I’m sure you will
us only as the “package people”
have better luck.
because we send gifts. Please help
us fi gure out what to do. Our son
Dear Abby: My son, daughter-
JEANNE
in-law and 1-year-old granddaugh-
hasn’t spoken to his dad in seven
PHILLIPS
ter moved across the country two
months because of this perceived
ADVICE
years ago and have not once come
wrong. We feel it will be really
to see us. They promised they
uncomfortable for all of us. — To
would come as often as they could
Go Or Not To Go
Dear To Go: The longer this estrangement
or, I should say, as often as she went to see
her parents, which is every four months or lasts, the more embedded it will become. You
so.
need to go, see your grandchildren and mend
They now have a brand-new baby we fences, if possible. Regardless of how the visit
haven’t seen due to COVID-19. We bought turns out, at the least you will have seen your
grandchildren. If you make the eff ort, it may
start your family on the path of healing.
Dear Abby: When dining out in restau-
rants I often see people stack their dirty dishes
at the table before or as the server removes
them. This has never seemed right to me. Do
I need to change my view of table manners?
— Binnie In Iowa
Dear Binnie: Try to be a bit less judgmen-
tal. Although what you describe is considered
a breach of etiquette, there are people who are
averse to having dirty dishes in front of them
once they have fi nished eating. In a formal
dining establishment, the server should be
asked to remove the empty plates.
Dear Readers: Daylight saving time ends
at 2 a.m. Sunday. Don’t forget to turn your
clocks back one hour at bedtime tonight. And
while you’re at it, put fresh batteries in your
fi re alarms and smoke detectors. — Love,
Abby
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago
Nov. 6, 1921
Playing straight football and showing the good
eff ects of many weeks hard coaching and training in
the smooth way in which plays were run off , Pendleton
high school’s team smacked the game Athena aggre-
gation to tune of 47 to 7 in a contest on Round-Up
fi eld. As far as football was concerned the game was
a one-sided aff air and so rather uninteresting, but the
Athena lads kept the respect of the fans by their will-
ingness to meet the Buckaroos all of the time with hard
fi ghting. Coach Hanley took no chances on spilling
any of the good stuff which is being worked up for
the hard game here next Friday when Baker high will
invade the local camp in an eff ort to grab off the cham-
pionship of Eastern Oregon. The Baker coach was here
on the sidelines, and all the information he secured
about the extras in the Buckaroo collection of plays
could be placed in his eye without impairing his sight.
50 years ago
Nov. 6, 1971
Plant scientists are keeping a close watch on a new
grain disease. It’s called “take all” and has shown up
in Western Oregon and some irrigated areas, says Dr.
Warren Kronstad of Oregon State University. He told
Umatilla County wheat growers about it during their
annual meeting Tuesday in Pendleton. “It scares us
because our grains have no resistance to it at all,”
he said, although one wheat in test plots seems to be
tolerant of the disease. Disease research is just one
of the many avenues followed by plant scientists in
their efforts to develop new and better varieties of
wheat and barley, Kronstad said. Stripe rust is one
of the grain enemies about which scientists want to
learn more. The disease threatened enormous losses
when it showed up in force here in 1960. But wheat
breeders were ready and replaced susceptible Moro
with Omar.
25 years ago
Nov. 6, 1996
The City Hall siren that has heralded noon hour in
Pendleton for decades will continue wailing its lunch-
bell call. City council members gave the go ahead to
Jim Sewell, the new owner of the old city hall building,
to continue the traditional, building-shaking blast. It
was installed in the 1950s as a sounding device to alert
reserve and volunteer fi refi ghters that extra manpower
was needed at a fi re scene. Its original purpose long
gone, it has since become a fi xture in town, with resi-
dents even in outlying areas able to hear its piercing
shriek every day except Sunday. Sewell said he had
received hundreds of phone calls and letters asking
that he continue the old air raid siren, including a
packet of letters written to him by Hawthorne Elemen-
tary School fourth grade students. “One kid said it was
annoying, the rest wanted it,” Sewell said.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Nov. 6, 1860, former Illinois
congressman Abraham Lincoln of
the Republican Party was elected
President of the United States as he
defeated John Breckinridge, John
Bell and Stephen Douglas.
In 1632, King Gustavus Adol-
phus of Sweden was killed in
battle.
In 1893, composer Peter Ilyich
Tchaikovsky died in St. Petersburg,
Russia, at age 53.
In 1906, Republican Charles
Evans Hughes was elected gover-
nor of New York, defeating news-
paper publisher William Randolph
Hearst.
In 1928, in a fi rst, the results of
Republican Herbert Hoover’s presi-
dential election victory over Demo-
crat Alfred E. Smith were fl ashed
onto an electric wraparound sign
on the New York Times building.
In 1956, President Dwight
D. Eisenhower won reelection,
defeating Democrat Adlai E.
Stevenson.
In 1977, 39 people were killed
when the Kelly Barnes Dam in
Georgia burst, sending a wall
of water through Toccoa Falls
College.
In 1984, President Ronald
Reagan won re-election by a land-
slide over former Vice President
Walter Mondale, the Democratic
challenger.
In 1990, about one-fi fth of the
Universal Studios backlot in south-
ern California was destroyed in an
arson fi re.
In 2012, President Barack
Obama was elected to a second
term of offi ce, defeating Republi-
can challenger Mitt Romney.
In 2014, the march toward
same-sex marriage across the U.S.
hit a roadblock when a federal
appeals court upheld laws against
the practice in four states: Ohio,
Michigan, Kentucky and Tennes-
see. (A divided U.S. Supreme
Court overturned the laws in June
2015.)
In 2015, President Barack
Obama rejected the proposed
Keystone XL pipeline, declaring
it would undercut U.S. eff orts to
clinch a global climate change deal
at the center of his environmental
legacy. (President Donald Trump
would reverse the Obama decision,
but President Joe Biden canceled
the permit for the pipeline on the
day he took offi ce.)
In 2017, former Democratic
congressman Anthony Weiner
reported to prison in Massachu-
setts to begin a 21-month sentence
for sexting with a 15-year-old girl.
Today’s Birthdays: Actor
June Squibb is 92. Country singer
Stonewall Jackson is 89. Singer P.J.
Proby is 83. Actor Sally Field is 75.
Singer Rory Block is 72. Jazz musi-
cian Arturo Sandoval is 72. TV host
Catherine Crier is 67. News corre-
spondent and former California
fi rst lady Maria Shriver is 66. Actor
Lori Singer is 64. Actor Lance
Kerwin is 61. Former Education
Secretary Arne Duncan is 57. Rock
singer Corey Glover is 57. Actor
Brad Grunberg is 57. Actor Peter
DeLuise is 55. Actor Kelly Ruth-
erford is 53. Actor Ethan Hawke
is 51. Chef/TV judge Marcus
Samuelsson is 51. Actor Thandiwe
Newton (formerly Thandie) is 49.
Model-actor Rebecca Romijn is 49.
Actor Zoe McLellan is 47. Actor
Nicole Dubuc is 43. Actor Taryn
Manning is 43. Retired NBA star
Lamar Odom is 42. Actor Patina
Miller is 37. Actor Katie Leclerc is
35. Singer-songwriter Ben Rector
is 35. Singer-songwriter Robert
Ellis is 33. Actor Emma Stone is
33. Actor Mercedes Kastner is 32.
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541.276.1894
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www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make
disciples who make disciples
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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PendletonLighthouseChurch
Solid Rock
Community Church
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
First Christian
Church
(DISCIPLES OF CHRIST)
215 N. Main • Pendleton
In Person worship Sundays
at 11:00am
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
Hours: M-F 9:00am-1:00pm
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
10:30 - Worship Service
Wednesday Bible Study
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
COME AS YOU ARE
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
541-567-6937
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
PendletonPresbyterian.com
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
All Are Welcome
201 SW Dorion Ave.
Facebook.com/PendletonPresbyterian
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
401 Northgate, Pendleton
401 Northgate, Pendleton
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of Worship
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ON OUR JOURNEY WITH JESUS
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Services 9:00am Sundays
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Sundays 10:00 am
Youth:
0-6th
grade
Midweek
Service
Midweek Service
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CHURCH
Wednesdays 6:00 pm
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Outreach
Youth: 0-6th
grade
’ High
Jr./Sr.
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
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Pastor Sharon Miller
541-278-8082
www.livingwordcc.com
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
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CHURCH
Pastor Sharon Miller
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia
Católica Nuestra
www.livingwordcc.com
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Sundays at 11:00am
32742 Diagonal Rd.
Hermiston, OR
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