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East Oregonian
PEANUTS
COFFEE BREAK
Tuesday, October 26, 2021
DEAR ABBY
BY CHARLES M. SCHULZ
A recovering mother is
struggling to reconnect
FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE
B.C.
PICKLES
BEETLE BAILEY
GARFIELD
BLONDIE
BY LYNN JOHNSTON
BY MASTROIANNI AND HART
BY BRIAN CRANE
Dear Abby: I’m the mother
Dear Abby: How do I tell
of a 36-year-old daughter. She
my sister I no longer wish to be
claims I treat her younger broth-
included in family gatherings
ers better than I treat her. I am
(birthdays, holidays, etc.)? What
a recovering addict — clean for
happened on my brother’s birth-
20-plus years. I was in active
day was the last straw.
addiction for nine years when
I have since distanced myself
she was a teenager, and she has
for
several reasons. 1) I won’t
J EANNE
never let that go. She constantly
waste my breath trying to ex-
P HILLIPS
tells me how “unfair” I am, that
plain to my parents; they won’t
ADVICE
I never make time for her and
believe a word I say. Also, my
that I don’t validate her feelings.
parents are the most judgmen-
I have apologized many
tal people I know. 2) I have no
times and tried to show her I don’t treat tolerance for other people’s jealousy or
her siblings differently. I schedule “us” envy because I don’t envy or get jealous.
time, but this is an ongoing battle, and 3) I don’t want to be surrounded by neg-
I’m at a loss about how to fix it. How do ative energy and emotional pain.
I show her there’s no difference in the
My sister is trying to get the fam-
way I treat any of them? How do I reas- ily together again in spite of everything.
sure her that her feelings are validated? I need her to respect my boundaries
This has caused me many tearful nights. and my decision to stay away. I don’t
— Wanting Serenity Back
want to have to discuss this when I have
Dear Wanting: Your daughter’s sense a conversation with her. I no longer wish
of deprivation has probably caused her to attend gatherings because they always
many tearful nights as well. Your years end up in disruption of some kind, and
of active addiction kept her from hav- then I have to take that energy home
ing the mother she needed as a teen. I’m with me. Please help. — Seeking Peace
sorry to say that it may have created an In Illinois
emptiness in her you may not be able to
Dear Seeking Peace: Your sister is not
fill. You can’t “fix” her anger and feelings a mind reader. Because you don’t want
of deprivation, but that doesn’t mean her to “bring this up” when she has a
SHE can’t do it herself. It may involve conversation with you, take the bull by
her joining a 12-step program, or seeking the horns, explain that you won’t be at-
emotional counseling — if she’s willing tending family get-togethers and state
— but until she finds a way to stop trying your reasons. And when you do, tell her
to punish you, she will remain stuck in your mind is made up and you do not
her anger and jealousy.
want to discuss it further. Good luck.
BY MORT WALKER
BY JIM DAVIS
BY DEAN YOUNG AND JOHN MARSHALL
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
Oct. 26, 1921
Another chapter in a tragedy which has
stirred the whole northwest occurred in Pend-
leton Monday morning at 10:25 when John
L. Rathie and Elvie D. Kirby, convicted of
the murder of the late Sheriff Til Taylor July
25, 1920, were sentenced by Judge Gilbert
W. Phelps to be hanged in Salem on Friday,
December 2. It was in Rathie’s cell, on Rath-
ie’s bunk, that the plot to kill the sheriff was
hatched. Evidence showed it was Rathie who
felled Deputy Jake Marin and prevented Guy
Wyrick from going to the aid of the sheriff when
he lay dying from the bullet fired by Neil Hart.
Kerby, known also as Owens, in the jail break
told Hart to shoot and urged him to fire a second
time. The two are considered the arch conspir-
ators and the most dangerous of the quintet.
Of these, Hart was hanged at Salem and Stoop
and Henderson, the other accomplices, are now
serving life terms at the state penitentiary.
50 Years Ago
Oct. 26, 1971
John Swanson was sitting in a biology
class at Blue Mountain College when a sonic
boom rattled the building. This is a normal
thing in Pendleton, but Swanson hit the floor
and his books went flying. “People look at you
like you’re some kind of nut,” he said. Swan-
son has returned from Vietnam and has been
discharged from the Army. He is one of more
than 100 veterans attending BMCC under
the G.I. Bill. More than 30 veterans came to
a recent meeting to discuss the problems a
veteran encounters. The oldest of those inter-
viewed was 36. The average age was 25. The
men said they try not to tell people they are
veterans. Many times they receive a negative
reaction because they served in Vietnam. A
number said they had been called murderers.
Most say they don’t seek out other veterans
for friends. Mike Sleight says he would like
to forget he is a veteran. “We are here for an
education and not to talk about our past lives,”
he said.
25 Years Ago
Oct. 26, 1996
For the first time all year, Pendleton running
back Kyle Garrett was held in check. It didn’t
matter, though. Fullbacks Eric Arbogast and
quarterback Justin Brown more than made up
for it. Brown rushed for 135 yards and scored
the winning touchdown and Arbogast added
106 yards and another TD as the Pendleton
Bucks got themselves back into first place in the
Intermountain Conference with a 21-14 victory
over the Bend Lava Bears.
TODAY IN HISTORY
DILBERT
THE WIZARD OF ID
LUANN
ZITS
BY SCOTT ADAMS
BY PARKER AND HART
BY GREG EVANS
BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN
On October 26th, 2001,
President George W. Bush
signed the USA Patriot
Act, giving authorities
unprecedented ability to
search, seize, detain or
eavesdrop in their pursuit
of possible terrorists.
In 1774, the First Con-
tinental Congress ad-
journed in Philadelphia.
In 1825, the Erie Canal
opened in upstate New
York, connecting Lake
Erie and the Hudson Riv-
er.
In 1861, the legendary
Pony Express officially
ceased operations, giving
way to the transcontinen-
tal telegraph.
In 1881, the “Gunfight
at the O.K. Corral” took
place in Tombstone, Ari-
zona, as Wyatt Earp, his
two brothers and “Doc”
Holliday confronted Ike
Clanton’s gang. Three
members of Clanton’s
gang were killed; Earp’s
brothers and Holliday
were wounded.
In 1965, the Beatles
received MBE medals as
Members of the Most Ex-
cellent Order of the Brit-
ish Empire from Queen
Elizabeth II at Bucking-
ham Palace.
In
1975,
Anwar
Sadat became the first
Egyptian president to
pay an official visit to the
United States.
In 1984, “Baby Fae,”
a newborn with a severe
heart defect, was given
the heart of a baboon in
an experimental trans-
plant in Loma Linda, Cal-
ifornia. (Baby Fae lived
21 days with the animal
heart.)
In 2002, a hostage
siege by Chechen rebels at
a Moscow theater ended
with 129 of the 800-plus
captives dead, most from
a knockout gas used by
Russian special forces
who stormed the theater;
41 rebels also died.
In 2010, Iran began
loading fuel into the core
of its first nuclear power
plant.
In 2018, former Fox
News Channel personal-
ity Megyn Kelly was fired
from her NBC morning
show after triggering an
uproar by suggesting it
was OK for white people
to wear blackface at Hal-
loween.
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
BY DANA SIMPSON
BIG NATE
BY LINCOLN PEIRCE